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  • b445
    b445 Member Posts: 980
    edited August 2006

    I'm here having a cooler, It's 8:45 PC time

  • RobinTN
    RobinTN Member Posts: 466
    edited August 2006
    to all my friends.i went to the onc today after having a repeat ct last week and the ca is back in my liver and this time more aggressive there are 12 tumors ranging from 1cm to 5cm.it is not looking good.he gave me 2 years if he can control it and a few months if he cants.i start chemo again wed with taxotere and xlonda or something like that along with herceptin.there is a new drug that he is going to work on getting approved thru cigna,but they will let you die before they will approve something they dont want to i know i used to work for them and hated every day of it.
    I am going to post prayer requests.please pray for me.
    I dont want to die before i can be happy.I found out last week my youngest daughter is pregnant.I found out that my oldest daughter was pregnant the same week i found out about the bc originally.and she was a miracle from God to help me fight.Maybe this is another miracle.I came home and drank 6 beers and went to sleep at 430 and just got back up,i just wanted to sleep and when i woke up i thought boy did i ever have a bad dream.
    Marks my onc wife jan is my best friend also and so is he but jan was so upset she came running in the room and fell on me crying,karen was with me and she came in crying it was awful,awful.
    i dont know what else to say.except i love you girls and always will.I know with prayers i can fight this to,i have the survivor gene in me.
  • b445
    b445 Member Posts: 980
    edited August 2006

    Where I work they are under a hostile take over so I'm not even sure I'll have a job by the end of the year

  • b445
    b445 Member Posts: 980
    edited August 2006
    Robin I'm saying special prayers for you right now. She will be your miracle baby!
    Special Hugs & prayers
  • Sige
    Sige Member Posts: 334
    edited August 2006
    ((((((Robin))))))

    Special hugs to you my friend...and sending you lots of positive energy!

    Hugs,
    Peggy
  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Member Posts: 2,728
    edited August 2006
    Well, once again, I slept through all the fun. I go to sleep around 8pm, thats right when you all start getting together. But it sure is fun to read your comments.

    I havent had any wine for 5 days. Still recovering from a cold.

    Robin: We love ya. So keep up that fighting spirit.

    I have been reading about the hostile take over with United Health Care. Seems like they are in the news all the time. And big concern, AARP stands behind them. Seems like feathers will be flying.

    Nicki
  • PoohRN1962
    PoohRN1962 Member Posts: 176
    edited August 2006
    Quote:

    Hey yeah! I got an email at work a week ago or so, and it said that I was in charge of drinks for our company picnic this year, and that we could serve alcohol, but only ONE drink per person. Luckily, I was in charge of the glasses.



    ROFLOL!
  • PoohRN1962
    PoohRN1962 Member Posts: 176
    edited August 2006

    Robin, I PM'ed you.

  • casinogirl
    casinogirl Member Posts: 476
    edited August 2006
    Robin - I don't know what to say. Except we love you too and will be thinking of you and praying for you.

    ((((BIGHUGS))))

    Donna
  • christineK
    christineK Member Posts: 735
    edited August 2006

    Calling all bc.org drinking girls. I am sure you have all read of Robin's news. She has been enjoying some time posting on this thread, so I thought you'd like to know that Carrie (csp) has posted on the moving beyond thread, if you send her a pm, she'll hook you up with Robin's addy, so we can all send her cards of cheer and encouragement.

  • 2up
    2up Member Posts: 944
    edited August 2006
    yup i just saw it!

    this just sucks..........robin's got a ton of personal/family stuff going on right now too........we have to send her strength in numbers to bolster her spirit!
  • Biker54
    Biker54 Member Posts: 1,042
    edited August 2006
    Robin,
    You are in my thoughts and prayers ((hugs)).
    I will send you all the strength I can spare!!
    Peace,
    Jan
  • RobinTN
    RobinTN Member Posts: 466
    edited August 2006
    Thank all of your girls.the outpouring of love and support is unreal.
    I am gonna beat this somehow,so now i do get to get 2 free bottles of muscadine wine again,that is the good side to this.
    Lini: you pictured me just right upstairs with a bud in my hand.
    Talk to you girls when I can without crying,just dont forget me ok?I need all of you now.Just wish we were all closer.
  • PoohRN1962
    PoohRN1962 Member Posts: 176
    edited August 2006
    Robin, crying is NOT a bad thing. When all the drinkers show up here tonight, we will toast YOU!

    Hang in there...you are surrounded by love!
  • Sandra1957
    Sandra1957 Member Posts: 1,064
    edited August 2006
    A toast to Robin. Hang in there, babe. We are here for you.

    lini
  • PoohRN1962
    PoohRN1962 Member Posts: 176
    edited August 2006

    <clinking my glass against Lini's>

  • casinogirl
    casinogirl Member Posts: 476
    edited August 2006
    Hey girls, I'm clinking too. With the tiny bit of Syrah left over from last night.

    Donna
  • 2up
    2up Member Posts: 944
    edited August 2006

    a lttle late but......"cheers" and a toast for robin.

  • jaybird627
    jaybird627 Member Posts: 1,227
    edited August 2006
    Cheers Ladies! Here's to WOMEN! I'm sorry I was such a bitch and competitive young woman because as an older woman I've realized the importance of another woman's friendship! No matter what the men in our lives do or don't do we'll always have each other for support and comfort.

    Robin, we're here for you!

    Janis L
  • jaybird627
    jaybird627 Member Posts: 1,227
    edited August 2006

    p.s. Tonight it's wine (whine!). The young man is out of my life and now it's time for someone else.

  • Sandra1957
    Sandra1957 Member Posts: 1,064
    edited August 2006
    A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting with her mother. As they talked about life, about marriage and the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter.

    "Don't forget your sisters," she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. "They'll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the
    children you may have, you are still going to need sisters. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them. Remember that 'sisters' means ALL the women...your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other women relatives too. You'll need other women. Women always do."



    "What a funny piece of advice!" the young woman thought. "Haven't I just gotten married? Haven't I just joined the Couple-world? I'm now a married woman, for goodness sake...a grownup! Surely my husband and the family we may start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!" But she listened to her mother. She kept contact with her sisters and made
    more women friends each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her mom really knew what she was talking about.



    As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, sisters are the mainstays of life. After more than 50 years of living in this world, here is what I've learned:
    Time passes.
    Life happens.
    Distance separates.
    Children grow up.
    Jobs come and go.
    Love waxes and wanes.
    Men don't do what they're supposed to do. Hearts break.
    Parents die.
    Colleagues forget favors.
    Careers end.
    BUT.........
    Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between You. A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach.


    When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end.


    Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you or come in and carry you out. Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, mothers, grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family all bless our life!



    The world wouldn't be the same without women, and neither would I. When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead nor did we know how much we would need each other. Every day we need each other still.
  • 2up
    2up Member Posts: 944
    edited August 2006
    lini.......very nice!

    janis........do tell?
  • jaybird627
    jaybird627 Member Posts: 1,227
    edited August 2006
    Cheers to sisterhood! Nope, not tellin'! He was obviously (?) too immmature after all. Nothing more to say.
  • 2up
    2up Member Posts: 944
    edited August 2006
    they're all pretty immature if you ask me.........onward and upward i say!

    sorry.......wasn't trying to pry.
  • jaybird627
    jaybird627 Member Posts: 1,227
    edited August 2006

    Oh, She, not to worry! Just didn't want to go into the nitty gritty details of it all. Suffice it to say that the 15 year age difference was a factor. That, and the fact that he seemed bothered by our age difference and wouldn't let me meet his family. This, after two years! So, onward and upward. His loss and he knows it. I've survived breast cancer and I will certainly be able to survive some fat (yes, he's overweight) and balding (yes, he's balding) young man with low self esteem (yes, he has self-esteem issues, too)! I like him and don't want to be critical of him but, damn, I'm not going to tolerate his crap if I don't have to. Life goes on.....

  • jaybird627
    jaybird627 Member Posts: 1,227
    edited August 2006
    Hmmm.....

    The one night when I'm looking for company everyone seems to be busy. Oh well! Guess I'll take my sorry ass up to bed!
  • b445
    b445 Member Posts: 980
    edited August 2006

    Hi i'm trying to catch up on what's happening tonight, I have to go back a page or two

  • b445
    b445 Member Posts: 980
    edited August 2006

    Janis , sounds like you needed to move on good luck finding a better catch!

  • 2up
    2up Member Posts: 944
    edited August 2006

    i'm awake!.......janis it sure IS his loss!

  • Sandra1957
    Sandra1957 Member Posts: 1,064
    edited August 2006

    Janis - Get out there and find somebody worthy of you.

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