Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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Lots to do today, but that is okay. It will be warm. We are due for two days of it, but Wednesday comes the rain and that could develop and likely might into snow. Just like our up and down weather this time of yr. I expect it most of the time but don't like it much. Bills to pay and an appt. to change. It is with the cardiologist I'll be seeing for the first time. I didn't realize I had a Podiatry appt. the same day and it has had to be put off once -- so I don't think I can let it go again.
Having some difficulties with one of my ears and will have to see about an appt. for that as well. Just set up my mammogram. All these things I had to put off for having instead to drop them while I had the open-heart surgery I now have to re-schedule. I also have to call the Urologist and get the kidney scope back on track. Seems like so much, but after I get started hopefully it will all go fast with good outcomes -- and then I won't feel like the weight of everything is coming down at once. Still trying to get more stamina. That has been a real time taker with covid and feeling mainly housebound. I have not started going out save for once-a-month to the bank and appts for Dr.'s. I do need at some point to go and get my hair cut again. I had just had it done and the same day went into the hospital for the first time to find out that my mitral valve was in bad shape so it has been since some time in Oct. So something else to do. I've been a little hesitant overall as the gal who does me (with a marvelous reputation) I think, does not believe in masks and has considerations on vaccinations now too. We have seldom disagreed on anything, and it has been a long time since I found anyone who can consistently do my hair well and the cuts are always great. I will likely keep going but may go ahead this time and wear a mask. I think of it as highly risky on her part, but she seems to feel she will stay un-affected. I sure hope she is right.
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Just had a Cooper's Hawk sitting in my Japanese maple and then he flew to perch on top the birdfeeder. The sparrows were hiding out in the azalea and the Japanese maple. The hawk tried to catch one but they had the sense to dive deeper into the interior of both and he left empty clawed. What an amazing sight to see him extend his claws trying to capture one of the birds and how quickly he can fly. He just reappeared so I can post a photo for you to see how beautiful he is.
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Here's the photos of the Copper's Hawk. Amazing how the birds realize when they are present and just seem to disappear. They prefer the Mourning Doves and fortunately none were present at this time. You can see our snow and this is my window on the world while I read and post on BCO.0 -
Betrayal- very nice pictures
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Betrayal, that is just WOW!
Just got home from an appointment with one of those highly specialized NP's. Specialized in the pelvic issues of post-menopausal women. Here I go, back into physical therapy. Only just found out that there is PT for those issues. May end up having minor surgery for part of the problem.
Got the package sent back to my client. Happily messing around with a few remnants of fabric, and just gave myself a lesson on patching holes in silk.
Tippy and I were going through the ritual of leaving him at home alone when my driver rang the doorbell. Ah, well. Such is life. I told him he was a good boy when I got home, and that gave him permission to eat the treats I had put on the floor just before I left.
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Hey Cindy and all - I have so far survived my seed implantation. I acted badly and wept and trembled and in general acted like a five-year-old. But it's one step closer to tomorrow's surgery...
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Vndercat, good for you. Don't be too hard on yourself. I did things I never thought I could and learned that you are capable of much more than you know. Hang in there.
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Don't be afraid of showing your emotions. Something I often forget.
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My emotions are in full view. I just spent an hour on FaceTime with my therapist, and it was all emotion. I thought maturity was supposed to come with age, and wisdom, what about wisdom? I do not feel wise in the slightest. I just feel like a big sloppy mess.
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Sometimes when we are taken down to basics, the result of rebuilding can be awesome. Don't worry about it.
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Anytime we’re blindsided with unsettling news, emotions run high. Let them happen, don’t dwell, you will get through this. One day at a time. Best wishes with your surgery tomorrow
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Vandercat, I say congratulations on acting like a 5 year old! You gotta' get those feelings out.
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vandercat, give yourself grace. Nothing immature about emotions. Good for you for letting it all out. All the best with your surgery.
Betrayal, beautiful photo
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Vandercat, I remember just anything would turn me into a tear bucket.
Cindy, It is beautiful this morning and will warm up into a nice beautiful day.
Betrayal, great pictures.
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Healing is the journey. The destination is yourself. The full recognition of all the different aspects of yourself—your joy, your sorrow, your pain, your pleasure—all lead you to the source of who you are. Only by having intimate contact with this source can you experience the fullness of your life. Only by fearlessly looking within can you embrace the landscape of your life and open yourself completely to all the love and compassion that lives inside you. -Philip Berk
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Vandercat - Welcome to our topic group! Let those emotions out - better out than in, I say. I was in a bad way when they did wire insertion prior to lumpectomy and I sure let it fly! We are with you as you continue your journey.
Betrayal - Thanks for posting the lovely nature shots.
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When I went for wire insertion pre-lumpectomy I was a wreck and the nurse navigator was trying to calm me. It wasn't working but I asked to use the restroom and she took me to the closest one in the department not realizing it was undergoing repairs. So when she opened the door there was no toilet or sink and I told her I didn't think I could go in the hole in the floor. She looked in and we both ended up laughing. That took the edge off as did the radiology tech who held my hand and distrcted me with words of kindness. Not an experience I would like to repeat but I survived as you will, Vandercat.
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IllinoisLady, Love the quote for today.
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Snow day❄️ It was called by 7:30 last night. About 12” by my house. This is my backyard. DIA is the official yardstick and they barely got 3” so that is what is being recorded as total. It’s still snowing at my house, though lightly. 0 -
Blood work this morning. Now I'm back home and have finished my first cup of coffee. I feel so-o-o much better. It's a yucky, drippy day outside, with light rain.
Time to refill the coffee cup.
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If you can accept the flow of life and give in to it, you will be accepting what is real. Only when you accept what is real can you live with it in peace and happiness. The alternative is a struggle that will never end because it is a struggle with the unreal, with a mirage of life instead of life itself.
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Karen -- just wow!!! It rained all night here and is still raining. Weather says it is likely at some point to turn into sleet making ice below while it then starts snowing. Some sleet still possible. This may go on for a couple of days. People were buying out the store -- even the convenience store where my daughter works. Well, this will be the first real winter blow-out. All we have had this winter season so far is rain and a couple of light snow dustings. Dh and I are ready, if need be, to go where daughter works and pick up the car. She would get a ride home with her boss then. She hasn't driven in snow -- let alone ice on the roads. One yr. not so long ago, even I set out for work and got about two blocks from home and turned around and came back. Sometimes it is just not worth it. I slipped off and on all two blocks, enough to convince me there was really no need for me to take such chances. Sandy, you will probably inherit some of this as well.
Odds and ends for today. Remake a couple of appts. and do some bills. Watch the weather outside.
Hope you all stay safe and warm.
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I’m watching that storm heading towards NY. Sounds the same, rain to ice then snow. Predicting 5 to 6” but that’s for Thursday into Friday and a lot can change. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best.
High headed to 82 here today. Maybe my AC will actually have to go on. I’ve been using my oven, I baked cookies and potatoes (different nights. After I’m done with baking I leave the door open to take advantage of that heat. The low inside my house was 64, cool but not cold (with fleece bottoms on in early AM).
Hoping you all avoid the worst of that storm, and stay safe.
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We used to live 1/2 block from a steep hill which was closed in snow or ice. The neighborhood entertainment was to watch the people at the bottom drive around the road closed sign and start up the hill. About half way up they would start sliding backward down to the bottom. Some people just can't believe roads are closed for a reason.
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SMH You can’t fix stupid!
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Had some ice and snow already. Dh said to his surprise, it wasn't really slippery out right now, but pretty crunchy to walk on. The forecast does say in the next two days we will get more snow interspersed a time or two with more sleet. So, it does sound like we will definitely still have an ice problem. Could be up to nine inches, but hopefully our little pocket won't take on so much. The tree limbs are all iced up and I noted that while eating a late breakfast. Right after, we got into coats and Dh's truck and went to the convenience store to pick up our car. It was parked where employees park so would have been safe there, but I knew I'd feel better if it were in our driveway. Since Kate is not at this time even interested in trying driving yet in some of our inclement, but lately rare weather, her boss will come pick her up.
I worry about the tree limbs when they ice up, but I have to say it really gives the woods out here a truly wintry look. I'll be glad when this is all over and we can come and go as needed. Wren, I'm not surprised at your hill story. The first thing I think about is these adults recalling their parents giving them meds or making them taste food they feel they don't want because in the end it's for their own good. These people don't seem to get signs are displayed for their own good and that of anyone who might end up in their way when it goes sideways. One good thing, that is a mistake you'd be likely not to make more than once.
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Chevy, I hope you and hubby are safe and warm inside.
Sweet 16💕 02/03/06 I heard those dreaded words. Thank goodness for BCO.
Sub zero temps this morning but the snow has stopped.
Stay safe and stay warm.
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Good morning, ladies. Try to stay safe and warm in all that snow. I am getting a haircut and an oil change today. It is warm and a pleasant day.
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It's rainy and dreary and warm here in south Louisiana but the forecast is for colder temperatures during the afternoon. I have a 10 am dentist appointment. Not my favorite thing to do.
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It is 30 degrees F with freezing rain here in south central Texas. Have no plans to go out! Until this week the powers that be were saying the power system would not fail as it did last year; now they are talking the possibility of rolling blackouts!! Where we live, power lines are underground. The trees are creaking with the weight of the ice so the above ground lines elsewhere may be also. We survived the week long storm of 2021, plan to do the same in 2022!!!
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