INSOMNIACS place to talk in the wee hours
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and really chevy...no comment on no pole in my new bedroom? That was a perfect set up for you,,lol
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To all- I guess I should have shelved my opinions on "sorry." I feel in my life it is used as a shield for real empathy and deflects a truthful response - kind of like a canned acknowledgement of suffering but really empty and meaningless. The same way unengaged parents will acknowledge a whinning child wanting to show them something- "oh nice honey," while still talking on their cell phones not at all caring interested or engaged. My husband in particular throws the word around like most folks use salt on their food... oh "sorry.." "sorry.." I would rather hear silence then something that means zip. But the word is popular and will be used whether i like it or not. Glad some of you really mean it when you tell someone you are sorry.
I won't be talking much because my entire bottom lip is covered in ulcers.. WTH? Owie... little ones all over. Hate this. Afinitor caused mouth ulcers but I quit that a year ago. oh well. I haven't taken any NSAIDS either.. hmm.
Susan- I pretty much have given up on my family. I figured I shared way too much. So I edited!
See Blondie it's not just your twins. There is "fun" in every family.
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rose. About mouth ulcers...I had a bad time on that drug too. Couldn't talk...prob made some people happy. I was told by a friend to wet a septic stick and coat the sores with that. Read up on it, not to be used internally well, I was so uncomfy, I went for it anyway....got stage four, what am I worried about...lol. It really worked, and that was 3 years ago when it first got approved . And I have lived through the septic stick.....yeah
Good luck
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OMD Susan! I thought you said septic tank! Eeeeks! Are those the same thing as canker sores, or fever blisters? Or Herpe's? See, I know those names, but don't know the difference.... Someone told my Daughter to eat a CAN of black olives, to heal her fever blisters.... She DID it, but didn't notice any difference.... those will go away by themselves anyway....
So I am of no help on THAT problem....Yes.... I made that up.... But even In-laws are like weeds.... they show up everywhere, even when not invited.... and they are just not useful.... My MIL lived close to us, and never even asked our little girls if they would like to go for a walk, or to the park, or just ANYwhere! She was a selfish self-centered woman.... So they didn't really get to know her as "Grandma".... Only when we all got together.....
A little girl used to come here before and after school....Her Parents just couldn't be bothered with her.... I even did their ironing.... Both Parents worked... She hasn't talked to her Mother in 6 years.... She called her on Easter, just because she thought she should.... She then asked her Uncle if she mentioned talking to her on Easter..... Her Mother said..... "I can't recall".... Such a bitch....
That woman never even asked "Lesa" how HER kids were, her life, or her husband! Lesa used to talk to me about her child-hood.... about how she wasn't allowed to leave her room.... So when she came here, we were "like a real family" to her....
She is coming over next Monday.... driving from Ft. Collins, to spend some time with me for hugs and kisses, she says.... So see? She doesn't have to be in her Mother's life....
Rosie..... I talk to my closest Daughter 2 times a day....
But Orlando Daughter, about once a week.... along with the Grand-sons.... Going tomorrow with Janie..... she wants to pay for her cremation.... I'll just surprise her, and write out a check for that.... It's just nice to be able to help them out, because years ago, it wasn't that way at all.... We used to WALK to the park, because we only had one car.... And stop at the soda-fountain, and get a chocolate coke, to drink with the sandwiches I made for our picnic!
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We just slipped right by page 800 lickety split
Chevy I saw that septic and thought tank too.
Spookie Whaate? Reread about the 3 drug interaction and 4 potentials? ......or shush?..........guessing you meant shush.
Rosie & Susan. DH's family was bad too. Only two could be bothered to come to his funeral. None of the others even could make a phone call. Hateful people.
This doc visit today wasn't so expensive-------only one thrift store. Nap time
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Chevy- Thank goodness you were there for Lesa! Probably changed the entire way her life worked out. Someone cared and showed her she was special. Some people shouldn't be parents. It's hard to be a parent, really hard sometimes. I am glad you get along with your daughters. If I called my Mom twice a week she wouldn't remember the first time! Ha! She didn't use to be this way, sad really. We used to talk but once my brothers moved in 6 years ago that was over. She just never could be bothered with Grandkids. She was always kind of selfish. People are what they are.
My 2 cousins spend an enormous amount of their time bitching to my Aunt about work at the ER and Hospital. I didn't do that. When I left the hospital... I LEFT! I didn't want to talk anymore about it or relive it.. the shift was happily DONE. Oh.. my intestines are in an upheaval today... along with my sore mouth. I am going to go...no errands today. stuck near a bathroom. Chit... ugh.. life in Cancerland your body is a friend and foe!
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A big giraffe hug Rosie. 0 -
SAS
DROP IT
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I guess it's just "normal"..... I mean losing "touch" with your kids, for some reason.... A couple of my gal friends, hardly talk to their Daughter's. I mean one hasn't in over 30 years.... She says she "doesn't know why"..... but something happened.... between both of them....
Another one is very over-bearing, rigid and a PITA, so her Daughter's and not to mention her EX, don't spend much time with her....
She and her Husbanded divorced YEARS ago! I introduced them! I went to school with Bob... he was our neighbor, and we always played together.... We used to walk to grade-school together, and I would kick his ankles..... and I DON'T know why! Probably because I could.... I must have been a brat!
But I introduced them when we were in High School.... They got married, and I was the maid-of-honor.... she says...(she has pictures).... It's one of those things that I have no memory of.... But she would make 1 pound of Hamburger last a week! For their family of 4!
She would not ever budge from her opinions, her thoughts, or what she wanted.... So they divorced, and she HATES him! Will go no-where when he is supposed to be around.... That much hatred must be hard to deal with.....
So I lost him as a friend.... used to talk to "them".... but can't anymore... not even email..... Afraid she would find out, because he has their youngest Daughter living with him..... still.
ANYway.... she and I still email..... but that's about it....
Funny the things you think about when talking about something else......
Rosie, Lesa is so "normal".... when we talk, she is just HAPPY! I knew how her Mom was.... but little Lesa didn't talk about it until she grew up, and distanced herself from her Mother.... My Daughter Janie, remembers one time when Lesa stayed all night.... they had their room upstairs.... So we kept hollering at them to "shut up and go to SLEEP!"..... Ha, ha! That just made them laugh and giggle even more!
But Lesa told Janie to say "chit" one day.... so Janie did, and I told her I would wash her mouth out with soap.... if she said it again.... Lesa was just laughing her little head off.... So Janie said it again..... and I did..... Well not a LOT, but she got to taste soap....
She STILL blames Lesa for that.... Haaaaaaaaaaaaah! NOW you should hear us talk! But Janie is my little buddy.....I don't think I could ever get mad at her.... for anything.... We just can't do that.
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I knew a woman who had no contact with her family, but would fly to Germany at Christmas to spend it with her 'family of choice'. So Lesa had the right idea. If you have weeds at home, seek out flowers somewhere else.
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GOOD one Wren! xoxo
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Love that teka
Rosie yep i know
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Susan- I am really sorry your mother had to "judge" how you dealt with cancer. I had a few of those folks in my life too during treatment. I just remember thinking "who does that, who tells somebody what to do, think or feel during cancer treatment? How would they even begin to know what this is like?" That being said, it hurts the worst when it is family. You can always jettison so called friends. I did not tell that many people about it, and only a handful of family members (who were not that great about it anyways).
Always remember friends are God's way of saying "I am sorry" when it comes to family!
I don't live around my family too and have the "two state rule" which means none of them are to move within two states of me. But what if we move to AZ? Then I am going to TX!
I think Rose is right about the referential statement. What does this have to do with me? How does this impact me? Is this a problem for me or not? This is where you can really see people who clearly lack empathy. I read something not that long ago that you should avoid spending time with people who have no empathy. I really try to do that now and find I am the better for it.
Luv- I heard 8 tornados in TX yesterday, you okay? I lived in TX once, I know how scary it is this time of the year.
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Oh and Susan, my other favorite expression is "hell is other people." I think you know what I mean!
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This has been on the national news and also going around FB today. It is a beautiful story about a film maker who finds films from the 30s and 40s and shares them with a 102 year old woman who used to be a dancer, so she can see herself for the first time. What a beautiful gift to give this woman at this time in her life.
Please watch it, it is the best feel good story!
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Today's find. Found a pic not a name. $4 for two will be nice to have coffee in
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Anyone see or hear from Patty?0 -
for fever blisters, get Acyclovir, also know as Zovirax. Prescription if you can take it. Comes in pills or cream. My insurance covers pill form, not cream. Works very fast and if started soon enough, they don't form blisters.
Patty posted on another thread, she's taking a break.
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Scrolling found this. Bought it years ago. Repurposed it for ear cleaners
Now it has a name Madrid, Crystal Clear Industries
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Smarrty, Thanks about Patty
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Goodwill find years ago. Cambridge Regency Stradiveri. The stem looks like a lyre.
Terrible to try and drink out of-----relegated to desert
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Caprice by Cambridge. So, flowing --like a pond at sunset. 1936-1958
Collected many pieces, but not by thrifting
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oohh! Like the plate
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Heisey ----DS hasn't got these yet. Thrifted so many years ago--DUH oh my stars, just realized I never identified these before.
Smarrty, Oh good I'll bring the link so you can see all of Caprice. Fell in love with it years ago.
http://www.replacements.com/webquote/CAMCAP.htm
Cambridge, Heisey, Hazel atlas, Duncan Miller and many others produced what was called Elegant glass. Here's a maybe not so elegant description of the differences, but it's a working description.
http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-elegant-glass.htm
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Hi Owlettes! Lying here in bed with my iPad, listening to my new favorite music (with earbuds of course, DH is sleeping), reading through the day. I got my hair trimmed, first time since chemo. My hairdresser is a real pro, he's been cutting hair nearly 50 years and understands growth patterns. And he told how my growth pattern has changed and how to comb it so it doesn't stick out. Feels so much better.
Rose had her spa day today and has already shed one of the pretty red bows. But she is clean and sweet smelling for a day at least.
Speaking of family, I reconnected with a sister I haven't seen in 3 years or talked to in 2 years. The reasons are a long story. Don't know if we will stay connected or not. Family is strange.
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Jazzy great link
So, fun to see Alice light up and start moving to the musicMags , that first haircut... Nice. Bald wasn't bad, hair is better. Warmer and strange how the head sweats without hair. Kept rolling into my eyes.
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HI1 ---Morgantown--golf ball pattern. Ds last mother's day gift was 4 wines.
How's the shoulder? Found a place yet? Sale contract?
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can't wait to get rid of the Ace Bandage and the gauze they packed around the "girls" tommorrow and wear a bra!
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Okay, I was trying to figure out what I was doing, or where I WAS on here, and then I saw where Susan has a pole in her bedroom???? Am I mistaken here, or did I mis-interpret something else again?
Just mean to say there are PLENTY of poles out in the alley, that you can practice on, and don't have to go buying your own! Just sayin'.....
Sass... beautiful glass-ware! And what's this about Spookie telling you to knock WHAT off? How can I read so much, and not make any sense out of anything?
Going with DD today.... and then have lunch! I must start putting myself together... You know.... shower, drying, hair-stuff, paint & dressing....
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gjnLLw5BTmc