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  • pessa
    pessa Member Posts: 137
    edited December 2012

    She should have a refuah shlema

  • antonia1
    antonia1 Member Posts: 73
    edited December 2012

    After a brave 16 month-long struggle, my husband of forty years lost his life to a rare and deadly cancer. I am simply lost for words.

  • Eema
    Eema Member Posts: 403
    edited December 2012

    Oh, Antonia. I'm so sorry. May his memory be for a blessing. Baruch dayan ha emet. I wish I could give you a hug.

  • Timbuktu
    Timbuktu Member Posts: 1,423
    edited December 2012

    So sorry!  Just awful!

  • antonia1
    antonia1 Member Posts: 73
    edited December 2012

    Thank you all. I do need a hug. I am staying with my older son and his family, and my sons and my daughters-in-law are a great help and support to me and my two grandchildren are a tremendous joy.



    Now I must grieve, but I know that I will have to let go, start taking care of myself so my children don't loose both their parents to cancer.



    When I was diagnosed two years ago with stage III cancer, I never imagined I my husband would predecease me. We have tried all we could to fight that beastly disease, even traveled to China, all to no avail. I had to watch my husband's excruciating pain every day. Now he is at peace, in G-d's hands.



    Now my husband's fight is over, but I will continue mine, just like we all continue our fight for life, here.





  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 5,290
    edited December 2012

    Antonia,

    I am so sorry to hear this. May he rest in peace and may you and your family find comfort in your faith and in each other.

    Caryn

  • karen1956
    karen1956 Member Posts: 4,622
    edited December 2012

    Baruch dayen emet.....may his memory be for a blessing....I hope your memories will bring you comfort....sending you cyber hugs (((((((((((antonia)))))))))))))))))))))

  • ptdreamers
    ptdreamers Member Posts: 639
    edited December 2012

    So sorry Antonia, words are not enough but they are all we have to convey our feelings.

  • pessa
    pessa Member Posts: 137
    edited December 2012

    Baruch Dayan Ha emet.

    Am so sorry to hear the sad news.

    May Hashem comfort you.

  • dassi52
    dassi52 Member Posts: 152
    edited December 2012

    Baruch Dayan Haemet. Hamakon yenachem etchem betoch she'ar evlei zion verushalayim (or for those who don't know the phrase- May G-d comfort you, in short).It must be a terrible blow. May you have the strength to cope and receive the support from family and friends.

  • hrf
    hrf Member Posts: 706
    edited December 2012

    Sending hugs, (((Antonia)))

  • JoanQuilts
    JoanQuilts Member Posts: 265
    edited December 2012

    I am so very sorry Antonia.  Baruch dayan haemet.  Your husband was lucky to have had you by his side.  Joan

  • Gayle56
    Gayle56 Member Posts: 111
    edited December 2012

    I am so sorry Antonia. 

    Hugs

    Gayle

  • antonia1
    antonia1 Member Posts: 73
    edited January 2013

    Thank you for your support. I know that we did everything in our power to fight my husband's cancer. It was a very rare type, non responsive to any treatment. He thought bravely and survived longer than his doctor thought.



    I am now home, trying to move on. I do hope this year will be better, because the last two and a half have been a sheer nightmare.



    I wish all my Sisters here a healthy and happy New Year.

  • Leah_S
    Leah_S Member Posts: 1,929
    edited January 2013

    Antonia, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. I know you did everything possible to help him. The pain now must be immense.

    I'm sorry I didn't respond sooner but I didn't see this. Please realize it was not from a lack of caring.

    Hamakom yinachem otach b'toch sha'ar avelei tzion v'Yerushalayim (May G-d comfort you amongst the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem). May you have no further pain.

    Leah

  • dassi52
    dassi52 Member Posts: 152
    edited January 2013

    I'm following in Leah's footsteps. Yesterday my DiL had twin girls (resp. 4 and 5). She was in Bnei Berak where she had wisely gone before we had a huge (for here) snowstorm, so we saw babies A and B (no names yet) only today. Thank G-d everything went well although the birth wasn't easy with the second one turning breech after the first one was born. We are very grateful. Wishing all of you the special "nachas" (= pleasure) of grandchildren!

  • Leah_S
    Leah_S Member Posts: 1,929
    edited January 2013

    MAZAL TOV!!!!!!!!!!!!! Babies are wonderful, twins are so much fun, and GRANDCHILDREN ARE THE BEST!!!!!!!!!

    Leah

  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 5,290
    edited January 2013

    Mazel tov, Dassi ! I have only one grandchild, 9 months old, and I adore her. What fun to have a double blessing.

    Caryn

  • ptdreamers
    ptdreamers Member Posts: 639
    edited January 2013

    Mazel Tov, babies are such a blessing.

  • karen1956
    karen1956 Member Posts: 4,622
    edited January 2013

    Dassi....mazel tov and mazel tov again :)  enjoy the babies!!!

  • pessa
    pessa Member Posts: 137
    edited January 2013

    Mazel Tov!

    In 2 weeks my son is returning to Israel (he had been there for 4 months and returned home for a month) and is officially making Aliyah.  He's 18.  He will be joining the army by the end of the year.  I certainly have mixed feelings (particularly worried about his safety in the army), but this is what he wants to do and is happy.  I still have a 16 year old son at home.

  • karen1956
    karen1956 Member Posts: 4,622
    edited January 2013

    Pessa....my 23+ year old son is leaving for Israel on the 30th...he is doing a 5 month kibbutz/ulpan progam.....he comes back to Denver the beginning of July....aliyah is something he has thought about...when I asked him if he would make aliyah after this program, he said it wasn't the right time....but you know, if he did I would be okay with it....but by the summer he will be 24, and the army won't be so keen on having him serve.  I hear what you are saying...on the one hand we are proud,yet we are moms who worry!!!

  • pessa
    pessa Member Posts: 137
    edited January 2013

    At least I'll have a free place to stay when I visit Israel.  Have to find a silver lining somewhere...........

    Your last sentence hits the nail on the head..................

  • Leah_S
    Leah_S Member Posts: 1,929
    edited January 2013

    My son is in the army, and as proof that G-d has a sense of humor, he's in a safe place because I have BC. When he went in he knew he was going to be a mashgiach kashrut (Kosher supervisor in the kitchen). The first day in the army is fill-out-the-forms day, and he got to the one about "family situation". Just a few weeks before he went in I'd been classified by National Insurance as 100% disabled (automatic with cancer mets). So the questions on this form went like this:

    Is anyone in your immediate family disabled? Yes

    Who is disabled? My mother

    What percentage does National Insurance classify the disability? 100%

    So he got an automatic "easing of restrictions" classification, which means he must be stationed within 50 km of home, and he must be able to come home at night if he's needed. It turns out they had put him with the anti-terror squad, so if he didn't have this "easing" he'd be with them in there field kitchens. Yeah, field kitchens right near GAZA, right near the LEBANESE BORDER, right near the SYRIAN BORDER.... Instead he's at a base about a 20 minute drive away from home, which is the home base of the anti-terror squad.

    If anyone ever wonders why the Israeli Army is so successful, it's because of the concern for each and every soldier.

    Leah

  • dassi52
    dassi52 Member Posts: 152
    edited January 2013

    Thank you, all of you, for your best wishes. Their names are Chavah and Ester Ruth, respectively named after my late M.i.L and Ester Ruth after 2 great grandmothers from my DiL's side. Now I have to remember who is who! 

  • ablydec
    ablydec Member Posts: 36
    edited January 2013

    Mazel tov for the twins.  May they grow l'torah, l'chuppa ul'maasim tovim (to Torah, to marriage and to good deeds), in health and happiness.  

  • karen1956
    karen1956 Member Posts: 4,622
    edited January 2013

    Dassi....beautiful names.....may you have much nachas from your grandbabies!!!

  • pessa
    pessa Member Posts: 137
    edited January 2013

    Leah,

    I have mentioned "safe" jobs in the army and told him about your son.  He just laughed at me.  He wants combat  :-(

  • rachelvk
    rachelvk Member Posts: 564
    edited January 2013

    Antonia - I am so, so sorry to hear about your DH. Hamakom yinachem otach b'toch sha'ar avelei tzion v'Yerushalayim. I haven't checked in for a few weeks, so I wish I could have sent my thoughts earlier. I hope you're finding some solace in keeping his memories with you.

    Dassi - Mazel Tov! It's always such a joy to hear good news here.

  • Leah_S
    Leah_S Member Posts: 1,929
    edited January 2013

    I'm leaving for Los Angeles in a few hours. My dear sweet mother passed away last night, and I'll be there for the funeral and the shiva.

    ברוך דין האמת

    Blessed is the True Judge.

    Leah

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