Picture This!!
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Aussie.. sorry ((hugs))
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Thanks, Lisa and magiclight. It was difficult to see my sister so tired and out of it. She made more sense than the day before though.
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Cathy, I am so sorry to hear about your sister. I pray that she doesn't suffer and prayers for you in this most difficult time.
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Lisa, what a special card for your Mom. I am sure she really enjoyed seeing all those old photos.
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Aussie, So sorry to hear about your twin sister. Wishing peace for her and your family. Hugs.
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Thanks so much, Nancy and Wren. It's so horrible waiting for her to die. At least she doesn't seem to be in pain.
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Thank you, Joanne. I've been crying.
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Aussie-Cat you are so very warmly in my thoughts. What a huge loss for you to go through. I'm glad that she has a palliative care team. Hospice nursing and palliative care is my husband's field, and I'm sure that your sister's comfort will be that team's goal. I send warm cyber hugs to you across the ocean.
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Thank you so much for your warm cyber hugs, HikingLady!! A palliative care nurse is visiting once a day but her husband is doing most of the work. She didn't want to die in hospital surrounded by strangers instead of her familiar surroundings.
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My son is the medical director of a hospice in the LA area. I am so proud of him. He is a family Practice MD.
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Aw, I'm so grateful for hospice. They've helped several people close to me have a peaceful end of life. My husband was a hospice nurse for 25 years, and now he has been a supervisor/manager of a large hospice team for about five years. He's so gratified by this important work. Yes, to be at home at the end is so wonderful. Here in the USA, too, the hospice or palliative care team is a resource for all comfort care, but usually a family member is the main caregiver--hospice here also doesn't do the caregiving, but ensures that the patient has appropriate care in all ways, and also that the family is supported in all ways. I can't imagine losing a twin sister. Know that we're all here to support you and that we care.
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Thanks, HikingLady. I've been on this forum for nearly a year but sometimes I don't know where I fit in because I don't have cancer myself. I joined because of having prophylactic mastectomies because of my family history. This seems like a good thread for getting to know each other.
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Aussie-Cat I think you fit in just fine, on whatever thread is helpful for you. I have a close friend who did the same, and there's some breathing easier after a prophylactic BMX because of family history, but it's still trauma!
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Cathy, do you have other family near you to help you through this time? We are all here for you and I think you fit in just fine here. There have been others who have joined BCO as family members. We are all in this together whether it is a family member with bc or ourselves. I think you are very brave to be proactive in your own situation. Crying is good and I do hope you have someone you can be with during this difficult time. I am glad your sister is not in pain and I am glad she can be at home and that her DH is there for her plus the palliative care nurse. I will check in as often as I can. My Mom does not have internet at her facility so I can't check while I am visiting her but her house where I am staying while here does.
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Thanks, HikingLady. I definitely am less fearful of getting breast cancer since the mastectomies but as you say, it's still trauma. I still have nerve pain and need revision surgery but I'm glad I did it.
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Nancy, my Mum lives about half an hour away from me, quite close to my twin sister. I am sharing a house with my good friend and he listens to me kindly, so that is really good for me. Thanks so much for your kind and welcoming response! We also had a good talk with my twin's DH, so we are all trying to help each other through it. My therapist is also being very supportive.
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Cathy, I am glad you have some family and people around you that can support you doing this difficult time. Cyber friends are great but we can't reach out and hug you and talk to you in person as we wish we could do. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I am going to send you some pics I took from my Mom's house where I am staying just for you. Wish I could do more for you.
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Nancy, thank you for your kind message and the pretty photos!
Lisa, those flowers are so pretty!
My sister seems to be doing better at the moment. I still feel pretty down about her though.
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I could see a caption below the cart that reads GOOD MORNING!
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bandwoman...spring flowers are such a delight to the senses.
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Nancy, lovely flowers, especially the white ones!
Lisa, good on you for getting the back yard ready for summer. Those green lacework chairs on the left are gorgeous!
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Cathy, I posted the white daffodils because you had mentioned you had not seen white ones before. How are you doing?
Lisa, you look like you have a great start. I can't buy any flowers until the end of May because I won't be back home until then. Things are usually pretty picked over after Memorial Day weekend in our area but hopefully there will still be some nice baskets left. I plant quite a lot of annuals too and in our area our growing season is not that long.
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Nancy, thank you for posting those beautiful white daffodils for me. Lovely!
I am struggling quite a lot about my twin sister not having long left. I keep thinking about all the things she'll miss out on and all the loss she's already been through. She can't think clearly or talk much at this stage, which is really hard for me to watch. I'm scared of the inevitable phone call saying she's gone or nearly gone. We have had a complicated relationship, so that makes it even harder. Thanks for asking how I'm doing.
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Cathy, I am sure this has to be so difficult waiting for this to happen. You mentioned a therapist and I imagine that will be a good place to help you sort all of your emotions through. I am seeing the social worker in oncology after having my downward spiral from the stress of my cancer possibly coming back. I was already dealing with a brain tumor and then my Mom had a mini stroke while I was waiting on my biopsy. The stress just added up and my brain couldn't process it all. I will continue to see this person when I get back to my home at the end of May. She has helped me alot and I hope yours will too even though we are dealing with different things. My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you during this difficult time.
Nancy
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Nancy, thank you for your sympathetic reply and for your prayers. Yes, my therapist helps me to sort through my feelings but it's still overwhelming. She is really kind and sympathetic and I like her a lot.
I'm glad the oncology social worker is helping you to cope with the stress you're going through. I pray she really helps you and that your and your Mom's health improve.
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Cathy, you are probably in the worst of this process right now. It will be a process which will be hard but you will get through this. I just got home from visiting my Mom and I had to make a trip to get some supplies. It is late. I am on antibiotics now and they are really doing a number on my GI tract. Four more days to go but they are helping to knock out this sinus infection. Take good care of yourself especially now.
Nancy
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I got a small window of opportunity today with my camera. This is below the dam in town and the herons hang out there to catch fish. Here is a few pics from this afternoon.
This heron finally swallowed this fish.
I hope this was not a fishing line with a hook in this heron's mouth. It is a popular fishing spot.
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