Starting Chemo in February 2016?
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Frances, big hugs to you!
My internet is down so won't be on much til Thurs. have number 5 on Monday and if it is anything like last one I will be down for a while anyways! MO said he reduced it by 15 % last time which I didn't know, I told him to keep it where it is, that I will get thru it!
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Thank you for your hugs and support. Piper, thinking of you today.
I do hope everyone has a restful weekend! Just breathe
We can do this !!
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Hello, I am learning just how small I am in this world. I am seeking help from anyone who has found relief using a self aid for the teeth sensitivity? Ten days after first round of chemo (Taxotere and Cytoxan), eating/drinking, became painful even food at room temperature.I have had no luck with sensitivity toothpastes. Any suggestions?
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Ropes-end, first, welcome to Breastcancer.org. Have you tried Biotine mouthwash? And perhaps a water pick in lieu of flossing?
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I have tried another non-alcohol mouthwash, Topcare, not Biotine. I will check to see if the store brand has the same ingredients. The water flosser use started the day before my chemo started in addition to a bright green teenage, mutant ninja turtle extra soft toothbrush. Yes, willing admitting to using children toothbrushes. I am wondering if my tooth enamel has been affected. I do not have cavities or gingivitis (at least I cannot tell due to the persistent thrush).
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frances- ugh. You're going through all of this and he's doing that??? Why?
I had a similar situation 3-4 years ago. I was miserable and felt so alone and isolated by my husbands distance. I kept asking him why we have zero intimacy and just live like roommates. He put it all back on me in defense and denied everything. Said he was tired and overloaded from work. But I felt something else was going on. He left his phone home one day... He was looking at porn every day. And adult dating sites showed up too that he swears... To this day that they were pop ups. I was devastated. But I couldn't pull the divorce trigger. Therapists, he moved out a few times... We have had quite a long and hard road coming off of that and it's honestly mostly his low self esteem issues. Things have gotten better but sometimes I wish I listened to my gut and got a divorce. And now that I'm going through this with weigh gain, exhaustion, funky looking boob after surgery and being bald... I still wonder if he's only with me because he feels bad for my situation. We have had sex maybe 3 times since December. He says he thinks that I don't want to, despite me telling him that I do.I'll always wonder and that just sucks. But you have tons of support here and I envy you for being so incredibly strong. Especially with everything that you're going through. ((BIG hugs))
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Ropes-end- I swear by Toms of Maine toothpaste. I read about it on a chemo "must have" product list and this has saved me from mouth sores, thrush... You name it. I also use an antibacterial extra soft toothbrush that I bought at whole foods that has natural bristles. It the anti/plaque and whitening toothpastein fennel or peppermint.
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MLP- thanks for sharing. I have been through therapy and this same situation a few years ago. Porn and setting seems to be a Trend and always or fault. If we just put out more! If he just gave them want they needed and did not nag they wouldn't need to drink or look elsewhere, they never do anything right. They just want there life back. In a year I look and is it really going to change? He won't but I can. I need to show my daughters what life should. Just breathe right. One day at a time, but my biggest fear is being alone. After this I realized that if we can do this, we can do anything! We are amazing strong women. I thank each of you and your support for that. We build each other up. I pray for all of you, only for the best of happiness and health.
Oh and I use biotin for mouthwash and toothpaste and swear by it.
Chemo #5 today!
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Beautiful picture Frances. I agree if we can do this we can do anything. Marriage during this time is really hard but I think about all the time as women that we weren't allowed to be selfish and we had to put ourselves last on the list. We deserve to be loved and cared for at this time and shame on anyone who cant show us back the unconditional love that we have shown them. Never kick a person when they are down that's just cruel.
Press on ladies the light at the end of the tunnel is near.
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Frances - you are a strong, beautiful, smart woman. You indeed CAN do this!
Maryann
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being alone is NOT the worst thing!!!
Low grade fever last 2 days since #3 taxol on Friday. Achy yucky
My son now has an appointment @ psych evaluation for potential depression/medicine. He will be 10 in 22 days.
feeling helpless. He also needs a sleep study. The therapist doesn't seem to be fixing anything after 2 months. He still alludes to us being better off without him around any time he gets in trouble. So add more Dr appts to my list. hubby is taking it quite hard 0 -
Hugs for you Frances and the kids, and for you HausFrau, and your boy. Hoping everyone gets the love and help they need. Hugs and waiting to hear from Piper, still in your pocket dear.
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sounds like my situation a few years ago Frances. We nag because they don't help out and that makes us unattractive. My husband actually admitted to me(after many a tear from me) last summer that he has once again drifted away and emotionally pulled back. I told him I was done and I looked at his phone and he asked his brother for the name of an atty. so I went to see mine. And then dh said he didn't want a divorce! We worked things out but not as fuzzy n warm as I had wanted. And then I'm diagnosed with breast cancer. I can't help but think that he's still not on board here. Just doing it out of guilt and purpose. How do you look in the community if you leave your wife during her BC?? He says he loves me, but I just don't feel it. And with sex 3 times since November..? Ugh. Again... I envy your strength.
Imani- well said! I'm always last and still feel last. I'm sick n tired of wearing this superwoman cape every day for everyone when in reality.., I'm scared shit inside.
Hausfrau- feel better soon! And sorry about your son. ((Hugs))
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MLP, and Frances, isn't there someone who can help improve things? Like a spouse support group to help your guys cope in a healthy way? Or a counselor who knows cancer? It's just tragic to see relationships crack just when we need each other other most. So sad. My husband is working very hard to to keep things going with our daughter and the house, and doing a good job, but sometimes he gets overwhelmed and mad. Sex...let's just say we have a more sibling like relationship at this point, but that started before bc. I just hope to keep love and support alive, and to stay around as long as I can for us. It's overwhelming sometimes.
Well, I did do the last AC last Thursday and hooray for that. Still feeling moderately crappy but better than #2 and #3. Gathering energy and info for Taxol next. One step at a time.
Hugs to all. This is a hard road.
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reflect- I've done therapy and if it's only one person working at it, it doesn't work. My sibling relationship with my dh started before my dx too. We r 48 and 52 but look n act and feel much younger. I just feel that I've been stripped of all dignity and womanhood with this. I've been so strong for everyone. I tell my dh that I'm still human and need to feel loved and wanted. I don't think that I should have to keep reminding him of that. This dx makes us feel kind of isolated as it is. My dh is doing laundry and emptying the dishwasher... But it would be nice to have more every once in a while! I'll take cuddling on the couch at this point.That's enough out of me on this!!!
Congrats on your last AC reflect! It's a huge accomplishment. Im still a bit fuzzy two weeks out of my last AC and the nausea lingers and can get triggered by the slightest and strangest things. But better than the first one for sure!!
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5 down, one more to go!
Frances and Haus Frau, we got this! Sending love and strength your way!
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ALL DONE WITH CHEMO !!!!!!
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Go Myra! And super congratulations Praline! So happy for you!
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Looking good Myra! Only one left!!
Congrats Praline!!
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hi all!!
Found out yesterday I'm clear! Very fatigued with taxol and lots of bone pain but up and about
Love to all reading you all
Xx
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Yay Piper!!!! Congrats Praline, and to all that have one more to go. Looking good Myra.
Reflect, told ya it gets better with AC (if there is such a thing)
Piper I took B6 100mg glutamine and claritan for the bone pain. Without it, don't know how I would have functioned. My MO recommended all.
MLP and Frances, so sorry you are going through this and BC. We as women are so strong, and the men wonder why? It's because no matter what comes our way, we handle it. They don't.
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Congrats to Praline and yay to Piper!!!
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Praline! Our first Feb graduate! Congrats!
And Piper, such good news.
I'm on day 2 and felling great... Just sitting in the eye of the hurricane for now....
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Praline - YOU DID IT!!! You're an inspiration!
Maryann
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you Rock Praline!!!
Glad all is good Piper!
I have to agree--so hard to go back for another tx when you start feeling better! Grrrrrrrr
Sex.....what's that!?!? Think hubby thinks I feel too bad and at this point I'm not complaining. The menopause stuff has my libido under a rock. He's not touchy-feely. I know in the past when he has to be my "caregiver" that he doesn't have those "feelings" if that makes sense? We seem to go thru feast or famine periods
. But it has been like this since we met going on 17 years now. So I don't worry too much.0 -
MLP......been there done that. More than once. As we speak.....my husband does not know that I know that he's back at it again with his 2 girlfriends. Not one. We've been together 25 years and I now believe he's cheated on me at one time or another throughout. These 2 he's been on and off for like 8 years. I've caught and forgiven 3 times but now I'm done. This time I was able to read, listen to and see EVERYTHING and I'm done. The things he's said.....I'm done. As of right now, I am using him as much as he's used me over the years and when I'm ready....I'm asking for a divorce. The fact that he continued AFTER finding out about my cancer.....unforgivable. To the outside world he is the MOST supportive husband EVER. A man of integrity, morals and loyalty. He's a retired highly decorated special forces soldier. All love him. Admire him. NO ONE knows who he REALLY is. That WILL be known to all when I blow it all up in his face. For now...I am an Oscar worthy actress and I am biding my time. I am terrified right now because I have no job and I am definitely NOT staying in this house any longer than I have to. Let HIM be surrounded by memories, not me. We have a 13 year old son who completely idolizes his dad. This will devastate him but I just can't do it anymore. Anyway.....sorry for the long sob story....but it is my life right now. Trying to stay positive otherwise!
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Praline you are GREAT !! Can't wait to join you as an ex-chemo patient!
Haus sorry about your little boy, we are all discovering how difficult it is to juggle everyone's different needs in the family at a time like this when everyone is tired and worried and stressed out, and we're trying to put ourselves first as everyone tells us to, but then everything else starts to fall apart. Really really hard for the children too. I keep looking at my family and imagining how they'd be if I wasn't here any more, it makes me really sad.
Piper great news that you are clear. Hang in there everyone. Suzted, MLP sending you love. XX
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Yeah Praline - welcome to the "ex" chemo club!
Piper - I am so relieved for you!!!!
In other news, I got my Power Port removed today - good bye, Lester, the chest molester! The alien is out and I am one more step toward "me" again. Radiology up next on the 20th. I feel like I have more energy this round just because I know I don't have another one coming!
Happy Tuesday!
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great news Chambro!
Praline- what can I say...YOU DID IT!! Sooo happy for you💕
Piper- GREAT news on the all clear.
Frances, MLP, Suzted- we are all here for you. I wish there was something I could say that would make it all better. Other than, sometimes, men suck. And other times...they don't. I do know that us women are braver and stronger than we think. Positive thoughts and love to you all💗
Love the pics Frances, Myra, and Praline
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