BREAST LUMP FOR YEARS! WORRIED SPOUSE!
This might be long, and I don't know if anyone will respond but I have to get this out. The anxiety is unbearable.
My fiancée (37, woman) has a large, hard lump in the upper quadrant of her right breast. It's so large, that you can see the difference between her two breasts with a naked eye. The lump has a mostly smooth texture, I can feel the edges and she's able to move it. She has thickening in her areola; the pores are enlarged around the nipple (IDK if it's "dimpling") but there are no other skin changes. No discharge. No inverted nipple. Lump is tender at times and aches periodically, but she messes with it CONSTANTLY so that may be why. The lump doesn't change size, but that one breast swells during her period (it goes back down afterwards) and that is the only hope I have, that there could be a hormonal cause.
Here's where her situation may be unique: She has had this lump for a minimum of 8 years!!!!! She had it felt by her OBGYN years ago and he said it felt normal. She never got it investigated further (foolish, I know) and now the lump has grown throughout the years.
Since meeting her two years ago, I have been pushing her to get it checked out and she's agreed to go in December when her health insurance is sorted out.
She has a pretty positive attitude about it, but I am so worried. I can't talk to her about it, because I don't want to disturb her mindset. I know that most breast lumps are benign, but the "what ifs" are driving me insane. I am especially worried that she's had the lump so long, so if she does have the big C, it may be advanced at this point.
I know that none of you can tell me what it is, I'm just looking for anyone who's had similar symptoms.
Have any of you had the same lump for several years?
Could a cancerous lump grow for years and not cause other symptoms?
Could a lump this large + areola changes be anything but cancer?
Do breast cancer lumps swell during your period?
How do I support her?
I feel so selfish for being anxious about HER body, but I love her so much and I keep thinking about losing her