Metastatic or Terminal
Some posters have pondered what to call it.
Many posters to this forum have wondered about this. When I tell people that I have Stage 4 Metastatic Breast Cancer, I get a whole range of reactions. Many do not know what Stage 4 means - to them, either you have cancer or you don't.
Metastatic (it's all Greek to me) is usually not in most people's vocabulary. Many cannot make the connection that metastasis is cancer that has spread to other parts of our body.
I've had Stage 4 for many years and people who have not seen me for a while since diagnosis think that I'm better so all I need is extra Vitamin C, herb teas, plenty of kale (ugh!), and you can add to the rest of this list the list of cures that you have heard.
Terminal sounds more "in your face". It will be a shock to some and you will be asked how is it you are still around. (From eating kale?) lol. I know it's a drastic word but people still think I can go to a get-together, visit or go shopping. We will all die from this disease sooner or later. We can sugar-coat it for our families and friends, but it will happen.
I don't know about you but, if I have any energy in the morning, I will do my light chores such as cooking and baking before the fatigue sets in at around 1:00 pm. Then it's nap, reading and crosswords for me. Meeting with someone for breakfast is like planning a trip to Europe (almost). I would have to go home right after and lie down for the rest of the day.
So what do you think? Metastatic or Terminal, or do you have another term?
This was written by me in the spirit of some amusement so please don't be sarcastic. It's a real question for those of us who are tired of hearing "crickets" when you say you still have "IT"!
With lots of love,