Reconnecting intimacy after breast surgery.
It has been over 30 years since my wife's surgery and I failed to give her the love and emotional support she needed then. Now I am desperate to correct my past behavior and regain the intimacy we enjoyed before breast cancer. We have been physically close through the years but it was hands off her reconstructed breast. That was my fault as I ignored her emotional pain and opted for self centered laziness and make believe comfort. We are high school sweethearts and she is the only woman I have truly loved. That may sound hypocritical but I am not delusional about my desire for her nor my admiration for a woman that is truly heaven sent. How can I earn her forgiveness and put us on a tract of intimacy and openness?
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30 years is a very, very long time. I imagine there may be some very deep seated hurt and resentment. May I suggest couples counseling as a first step? This is likely going to be a long haul project but if you are willing to do the work, and sincerely express remorse, there is always hope but no guarantees. Take care.
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I'm 77 and my wife is 76. I took a mental flight after her breast surgery. I would like to do my own research on reconnecting intimacy and focusing on the emotional needs of my wife. Can anyone direct me to reference material that can guide me through what I should have done many years ago. Thank you and thank you exbrnxgrl for your response.
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Hi @hank1965, we applaud you for openness, and willingness to reach out for resources. Below, is a link to a resource from our website that you may find helpful.
ARTICLETalking to Your Partner About Sex and Intimacy After Breast Cancer
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