Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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ritajean, glad to hear you arrived safely ... you must have driven many hours each of the two days ... are you close to the beach?
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Well it is late once again, we came home today. DH got up this morning and decided we needed to get on home and get some work done around here on the yard and house, before they come and do a home study. We are both physically and mentally drained. DD has agreed to go to in hospital for alcohol treatment, it will be 60 days. If she does this and stays clean she cold get DG back in 4 to six months.
We will go ahead and have the home study, because if she does not stay clean then they will have the info they need to place Kimber.
Anyway thanks for all your kind words and support, it means alot. This to shall pass.
Blessings to all
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Hi – what a great group of ladies we have here.I’ve been smiling and laughing...enjoying thegood news and joining to support those who are undergoing challenges.
Rabbitvelvet, I hope you will hang on to the memory of being you at the gourmetshop by the fireplace.
Mommarch, it is heartbreaking that your family is going through this.How difficult it must be for all.
I hope DD can see it through but glad you are there for backup.These are heartaches, but as you say theywill pass.I am glad you saw first handthat your GD is OK.Sandra, are you the sister I never had?When I first studied geology I wanted to be agemologist – sounds like DD is having fun with her career.It would be a good retirement job forme.Wait – why would I have a job in“retirement”?
Now...I also had a baby in 1973 and I wanted to have DH in the room but Docsaid no...shot me full of demarol and I slept for hours.Next baby? You bet...I became earthmother.I, like you, Sandra, was a LaLeche League Leader for 25 years.Ispent at least 15 years pregnant and nursing babies. I had a Happy Baby food grinder and carried my babes in a Snugli. And DH and I were also “surprised” by a baby boy just as we were getting out of the military.Does anyone feel like I did, that my breasts that gave nourishment were now betraying me? Maybe I betrayed my body by not taking better care....I'll never know.
Sally, so funny about dressing up to go on a plane.My first trip I wore a 2 piece dress and ahat!People were allowed to smoke on theplane.Nowadays people get on planes inwhatever they woke up in, it seems.
Chevy, you are in rare form...thanks for the LOLs!Cammi too...not that you have a choice butto be Chevy’s sidekick.
Oh – a favorite movie?Love Letters(Joseph Cotton, Jennifer Jones) and The High and the Mighty with JohnWayne.My favorite movie of all time ismuch more modern...Out of Africa.Hi Rita in Florida...Hi Jackie...Hi Wren...oops I know I'll forget someone so Hi Everybody Here.
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Hello Ladies!
mommarch...things sound very promising for your family. The fact that DD is going to do the 60 day rehab is good news! I wish her well...she certainly has a wonderful family supporting her.
Had my babies in '78, '80 and '83 and with each one my husband was in the labor & delivery room and I was so happy he was! My brother-in-law had two children around the same time and he actually refused to be there...wanted to wait in the delivery room. And went around boasting that he didn't have to see and hear all the parts of labor and birth. I have never understood his attitude. I had natural childbirth with the first two but with the third I had some kind of a block because I had a very large fibroid. It was a challenging pregnancy and I ended up with a hysterectomy three months later.
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Joan, we MUST be sisters separated at birth. How funny we have the same history! Somewhere in my attic is my Happy Baby food grinder...I had forgotten the name of it. Thanks for the memory. I would make baby food and pour it into ice cube trays to freeze. Then pop out the cubes and put in a container. Don't think we had Ziploc bags back then. So easy to put a couple of different cubes in the heated baby feeding dish, cover with foil, and it was ready by mealtime. (Pre microwave days.) For meats I would usually just broil a tender piece of steak for a few minutes, scrape off the top cooked layer, and put it back in the broiler, scrape again, etc. until there was enough to fill up an ice cube tray. I still have my baby carrier too! We were pioneers. I went to one of the first conventions, in Atlanta I think in 78 or 79. In Germany I set up conferences in 10 areas as well as the annual conference. I continue that when we moved to Texas and was the state conference director. Retired after 25 years too! Just today a friend of my middle child needs help with a newborn, so I'm going over there tonight. Once a LLLLeadeer, always a LLLLeader.
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Sandra, you surely had enough to keep you busy. I wonder how I did all that with babies. But it was a great way to make friends. My BFF in NC worked with me before she moved. Now she is a lactation consultant and wow have things changed just in the way she approaches her craft so technically. I went to State conferences and ran local ones but I never made it to international. I also joined a group in Colorado for 2 years in the 70s.
Do you know that Marian Thompson has a Facebook page? She is so awesome.
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Mgster, Joan and Sandra, thank you for sharing your memories of childbirth and caring for young children. I am remembering some wonderful times.
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Rats, lost everything I had written, going back and checking some of the postings! Don't know if I will remember what I said!
Cammi, I too was a Chicago girl. I grew up on the South Side, wudn't dare live there now! Lived in Chicago til I graduated nursing from Evanston Hospital in '63. I well remember Christmas at Fields, the tree and seeing Santa at Cozy Cloud Cottage with Aunt Holley and Uncle MIstletoe!
Had my first baby in 66, no hubby in the delivery room that time. Had LaMaze for the second in '70, and by 73 was teaching LaMaze. Hubby was there taking pictures for slides I used in my classes. I taught for 13 years . Nursed each of my babies longer. Was a lot easier to take them in bed and nurse , than get up and heat a bottle. Also yes, those cloth diapers were the best dust cloths.
Also remember dressing up to fly in prop planes, from Midway Airport, there was no O'haire then. Aah yes, those were the days.
Don't dare check back again to reread or I'll loose it again. Cold again here, maybe snow tomorrow. Have a good weekend. Jean
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Jean It's so funny so many are from Chicago--but we all share some of the great memories from this area. I remember before O'Hare and it was just Midway and how fantastic u shared u'r baby adventures with others. Now u sound like u enjoyed all those years too. Cuz I sure did.
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I had all four of my kids before I was 26...each in a different part of the country. My ex was not present for any of their births...it wasn't allowed at that time. By the time they were teens I wasn't even 40, divorced, and had a whole other life ahead of me so I started a career and spent 35 years in that before retiring. Now I am enjoying yet another life of relaxation and enjoyment of my grand children. Overall, life has been very good to me...the BC was just a small bump in the road. There have been other challenges, but I was able to overcome and move forward.
DGD was here last night and put us through the paces. She is so full of energy at four and smart as can be. Knows all her letters and numbers, even left from right! She was going to get a baby sister or brother, but DDIL miscarried, which was very sad for them.
Well, another beautiful, cool day here in Florida, so will definitely be out and about.
Have a nice weekend everyone!
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bonnets, I just hate to lose my posts. It used to happen a lot as I would hit preview. Not sure why, but others had the same incident of losing their posts when using that feature. On rate occasion ( I stop using preview a long time ago ) I still will lose one.....sometimes even when something in my pc decides it is time to update. I thought I had everything set to update during the wee morning hours when I'm asleep.......but now and then something just does it when it feels like it.
Kaara, you sound like you have reached a great spot to be in with your life. That is wonderful. Your challenges only helped you grow which is exactly so often why we have them. Can't say I actually welcome them, but I always feel so great about feeling that I have done well enough with a challenge that it doesn't leave me feeling too battered or bitter. When I feel like I overcame something and learned along the way......defined myself a little better, then it is ok.
I hope you are all going to have a good week-end.
Blessings,
Jackie
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Hi all, Our trip to DC (to have holidays with the only DD I did not see) was postponed due to DH being sick, and me also not feeling well. I really enjoyed doing not much today and wondering if this is what retirement would be like...Can't say I'd mind the staying home more than just once in awhile. but it is off to work Tuesday AM. I hope I can get rid of my sinus issues soon.
Bonnets, I also closely mothered my babies and brought them to bed when they awoke. It never mattered to me that they got up as long as they went back to sleep. When my DD had her first, I was with her when her pediatrician asked "does he sleep through the night?" to which my DD replied, "oh yes, he only wakes to nurse". Gotta love her for that one - no coaching from me.Kaara, I am amazed at how your life has evolved. I am glad you are reaping the rewards of your hard work and enjoying your DGD. I am sorry for your DDIL's miscarriage. Hugs and prayers for all of you.
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mommarch...so glad that you're home and things look a bit more promising. What a stressful time you have had!
I enjoyed hearing about your children and life journeys. I find it so fascinating to hear about others. We are indeed an awesome group of ladies.
I felt sorry for you Illinois gals....and any others, too.....who were bombarded today with more snow. It was cool in
Florida today but I'm not complaining. We got around nicely in light jackets. Tomorrow we are going to try to play a round of golf.0 -
I'm writing from Galveston, TX where we leave tomorrow on our cruise. We drove down from San Antonio (4 hrs), checked into the hotel, and left to go "play" in the beautiful Victorian downtown. The laptop stays in the car while we are gone, so I'll talk to you after we get back on the 26th. Everyone stay healthy.
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Rita, I hope you are having fun in the sun!
Sandra, what a wonderful "winter escape"! Have a great time and check in when you are back online. Happy sailing...(is that a new avatar? Nice photo!)0 -
hi everyone,
I've tried to keep up this week but my first chemo has warped my circuits; can't think or sleep well. I hope all is well with you lovely ladies. I'll write when I can think again.
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Rabbit write when u can, we all understand, that's for sure. just drink plenty of water and rest when u want or need to.
Sandra we will miss u, but have a great time.
Rita how nice to get away with this weather, a little jealous, but have a warm time.
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Sandra and Rita.....I'm thinking green here.....as in green with envy. The second best thing to doing these things yourself is knowing one of your best friends IS doing it. So, a little envy, but a lot of happiness for your travels this time of year.
Velvet, sweets....you just hang in there. I think of the quote ( goes something like this ) " I didn't say it would be easy, I said it would be worth it. " You are with the been there, done that group. Well, at least a whole lot of us have. I think we all experienced the spacey not quite here and not real sure just where I am feelings from chemo. For some people, it seems to go down easy and their feelings/se's and paths are easy to traverse. Others get varying degrees of some difficult days. Sometimes hard to feel it, but all of this will make you well again......and at least as far as chemo.......there is a pattern. You feel ok for a couple two or three days after.....then a dip where you struggle just a bit, and then you find yourself moving back up and away from the effects. Just the way it works. All we get to do is hold on in the parts that tend to have some drawbacks to manage......because we are by doing this giving our self the gift of wellness again.
Sunny out today for which I am grateful. May get muddy somewhat as it warms......whatever. I only really bloom in the sun, so if their is a bit of mud below, so be it. I need that beautiful sun.
Hoping you all have a wonderful day. Thinking not only of Sandra and Rita, but Carole as well.......down under. Yay for you gals.
Blessings,
Jackie
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Happy Sunday everyone.
I made it to Walmart and back by 9:00. Now I can putter about. I am not an organized (start a task)(finish a task) before moving on person. I tend to have multiple tasks in progress at one time.
What a lot of different weathers this group is living in. It's so fun to hear about what our southern members are up to.
Jackie, was that you who mentioned mud? I remember reading a book about a northeastern state that had a season called mud season. The last few years during the winter, I had been taking a trip to Florida and a trip to Hawaii. I didn't take time to appreciate the season here at home. Due to my BC and DH's health issues, we are not traveling this winter. I am making a conscious point of appreciating winter right at home.
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Joan, forgot to tell you I am sorry about your DC trip and hope you are feeling perky real soon. Be sure and take the time you need to recover so that you don't get worse ... easy for me to say since I am retired ... I should say I hope you can take time. Good wishes to your DH too.
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Trying to get settled back in. Have managed to get most of the laundry done again. When we were in FL we needed to do laundry and could not find a free space at a laundry mat so DH said have them do it for 75 cents a pound. Cost us $10 but it was worth it. Never had done that before.
Do any of you get the cancer magazine Cure? There is an article in it about Chemo Brain, It is really good and puts alot of things in prespective. DGD is doing OK. DD goes to inpatient alcohol treatment on Jan. 28th, hope it works.
Velvet, hang in there, do drink lots of water, it really helps. Ginger Ale tasted good to me along with cranberry juice.
Everyone take care
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Mommarch I'm glad u are getting settles and there is a plan for U'r DD and u'r DGD is doing well, things seem like they will go together and I say prayers that they do.
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Yes, Mommarch.... so does cranberry juice and Vodka....Ha!
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mommarch, it's good to hear that DGD is doing well. If I recall your posts correctly, she had to switch schools. Hopefully, her mom will find the treatment center program to be just what she needs.
rabbitvelvet, hopefully sleep will rejuvenate you soon.
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mommarch, I was sent a couple of introductory issues of Cure magazine about 15 years ago when I was having chemo. I talked to my oncologist about what I was feeling, like being in a fog. He said there was no side effect like that. HA! I think I still have the magazine and article, as I saw it a couple of years ago. I will write tomorrow as I can't keep my eyes open. Too tired.
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Barb a lot of Dr. had a hard time with the concept of chemo brain, cz not was really written about it until actually not to long go as something real. And personally of course I thought I named it--cuz years ago I would say chemo brain and the Dr.s laughed at me and would say that was my brain, but I knew it wasn't right--I had a nd still do a different feeling, but about oh maybe 2 yrs ago I read an article from Mayo saying that it was absolutely true then about a yr ago another article came out say now they didn't know how long it could last and finally another one came out saying it could last 20 yrs--no one really got into that until the last few years----my time line might be way off??? But u get the idea. And some days are so worse than others and after 2 yrs of all different crap I know I have it, I laugh about it, but it's not funny when I'm really trying to think. I remember going out to lunch with my GF's and we were talking seriously about something and I said this whole opinion I had and everyone was listening and when I got done everyone just stared at me and I said I have no idea what I just said and they agreed of course we laughed but I was so glad it was them and not people I barely know. I know it's no longer believed but people thought I was intelligent before now I'm a mixed bag of whatever comes out. LOL
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