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  • 1946taco
    1946taco Posts: 381

    DH only plays bridge with me under great pressure. We played a lot when we traveled (usually cruised) with his brother and wife and we had one couple that we played with during Covid. However, he really isn't interested in playing anymore - part of a larger number of things he no longer wants to do. He is definitely failing, both physically and mentally.

    I play regularly with two different women at Briarwood. One is 93 so don't know how much longer she will be with me. She refuses to use her cane and one of these days, she is going to have a serious fall.

    Funny weather again this week. Be safe everyone.

  • canarycat
    canarycat Posts: 168

    well a bit late but happy Valentine’s Day!!!here’s a great recipe. I’m making it for my breakfast tomorrow

    Valentine’s Day Smoothie with Whipped Cream and Heart Sprinkles💖

    Ingredients:
    • 1 cup fresh or frozen strawberries
    • 1 ripe banana
    • 1 cup milk (regular, almond, or oat)
    • 1/2 cup plain or vanilla yogurt
    • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
    • 1 tablespoon honey or sugar (optional)
    • Whipped cream (for garnish)
    • Heart-shaped sprinkles (for garnish)

    Preparation:

    1. In a blender, combine the strawberries, banana, milk, yogurt, and vanilla extract. Add honey or sugar if you prefer a sweeter smoothie.
    2. Blend on high speed until smooth and creamy.
    3. Pour the smoothie into a fancy glass.
    4. Top with whipped cream.
    5. Add heart-shaped sprinkles for a special, romantic touch.
    6. Serve and enjoy this deliciously sweet drink, perfect for Valentine’s Day!
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  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506

    I will be generous with my love today.  I will sprinkle compliments and uplifting words everywhere I go.  I will do this knowing that my words are like seeds and when they fall on fertile soil, a reflection of those seeds will grow into something greater.

    Steve Maraboli

    Life, The truth and Being Free

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506

    Good morning. I am a huge fan of strawberries and bananas as well. I don't like any brown spots on the bananas though, but otherwise, canary, I think you picked a winner.

    I woke up last night after falling asleep (sometime after 11:30) to lightning and clapping thunder and lots or rain. It got a lot quieter after a few minutes, but it is still raining this a.m. Thank goodness, just a little and not like the late night pour down. Hmmm, another gray day.

    Got most things done here and our puzzle of the San Diego Boardwalk done. So, we are out of puzzles again. I have been getting most of them from Goodwill, but slim lately. Our table won't hold more than an 800-piece puzzle or less. Leaves half a table for your pieces and half for actually assembling it. It's always fun, even though we have had puzzles missing pieces and some with too many pieces.

    Nothing special for us today. I'm grateful for my day but have to admit not too well inspired for the gray of it.

    Pretty typical this time of year. Sounds like 42 degrees today so no ice or snow, but that could come later in the coming week.

    Hope you all have a good day.

  • carolehalston
    carolehalston Posts: 8,983

    Yum on that strawberry shake!

    Taco, I love your playing bridge with a 93-year-old partner. One of my friends I met through playing golf just turned 90 and you would never believe her age if you met her. She swims for exercise a certain number of days each week and goes to the gym on other days. She refuses to even talk about being "old." She's very fashionable and still colors her hair. She can still wear clothes she wore when she was much younger. I admire her discipline and her dedication to being healthy and looking good but I am not that dedicated.

    DH was up a few minutes before I got up. In the kitchen I looked for his coffee mug and finally found it in the living room in his hand. LOL. He had fixed his own coffee for the first time in three weeks and carried it to the living room as he normally does.

    Speaking of kitchen, I had a water leak yesterday and discovered that a pipe under the sink was leaking badly. A couple of towels later, dh instructed me to re-attach a joint that had come loose. Cindy, where are you when I need a handy friend? LOL. The joint is still holding but we went to the hardware store and bought a replacement P trap. Not sure if we'll go ahead and do a replacement or wait for the time being. My theory is that using the garbage disposal had gradually caused the joint to loosen over a period of many years. I am getting very handy out of necessity. DH and I agree that the entire assembly under the sink should probably be replaced.

    No need to go anywhere today except to the Piggly Wiggly for a couple of items. It's a bit more expensive than a larger supermarket but in and out is quick and easy.

    Happy Saturday.

  • mcbaker
    mcbaker Posts: 2,097

    We had the first snowstorm of the winter yesterday. More expected today and tomorrow. Monday night temp predicted at -18 deg. Finished this revision.

  • wren44
    wren44 Posts: 8,070

    Looks like our snow will stay gone. I’m feeling a little down. DH seems more distant my last few visits. I think he is going downhill after being on a plateau for a long time. Next week I have labs, a dental appt and a hair appt on Tuesday and scans on Wednesday. My veins are hard to stick for the last month and every trip takes three tries and two people. I finally let them use the bad arm because they had most of the good arm bandaged

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506

    I sort of think the farther out you are if you have to use your bad arm the better. I have had to do it a couple of times, but try to make sure that the other arm is used if possible and it almost always is. Sorry to hear about your Dh. Hope all your tests are fine and the dental appt. not too strenuous. Sounds like a busy week.

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506

    Gratefulness brings joy to my life.  How could I feel joy in what I take for granted?  So I stop taking for granted, and there is not end to the surprises I find.  A grateful attitude is a creative one, because, in the final analysis, opportunity is the gift within the gift of every moment-- the opportunity to see and hear and smell and touch and taste with pleasure.

    David Steindl-Rast

  • carolehalston
    carolehalston Posts: 8,983

    Wren, I'm sorry you're feeling down for good reason. Your dental appointment reminds me that I need to make an appointment and bite the bullet for getting a crown. The "bullet" is mostly the expense as well as the discomfort.

    We had a classic thunderstorm last night with thunder and lightning that lit up the house.

    Happy Sunday to all.

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506

    A greater poverty than that caused by lack of money is the poverty of unawareness.  Men and women go about the world unaware of the beauty, the goodness, and the glories in it. Their souls are poor. It is better to have a poor pocketbook than to suffer from a poor soul.

    Jerry Fleishman

  • petite1
    petite1 Posts: 2,439

    We had a storm yesterday. It cooled things down. It was 48 when I went to the Dermatologist. No skin issues. Yay.

    The strawberry smoothie looks yummy.

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506

    Good afternoon. The sun is out, but at 19 degrees isn't doing a lot. The light layer of snow we have is pretty much staying in place or so it looks to me. Not sure how long it will be there but we could easily get more snow to go on top.

    I have an appt. Wednesday (Skin Care to check for spots) but nothing else till the next week when I certainly hope we have better conditions. If I don't like how things look maybe I will have my son-in-law drive me over to Skin Care. It's not real far — the trick is getting to the highway here which is approx. a mile. Doesn't sound like much but can be in really bad weather. Highway is usually pretty clear.

    My daughter is seeing a cardiologist and I'm anxious to hear her report. She has had some incidents of A-fib and needed to wear a heart monitor for a couple days to establish what's going on. That said, she was hooked on a large energy coffee drink daily and she smokes as well. Eats way too many sugary foods although I don't know that on its own that would give her the issues. She gave up the coffee drink (16 oz..) and tried to cut back on smoking. Not sure how many people successfully cut back. Both she and son-in-law smoke. Nowadays if you smoke, you have to work. I roughly remember the day when smoking cost less than .20 c a pack — now itis over $10.00 a pack. I'm sure the tobacco companies were thrilled when the price went up (partly to discourage smoking) and even helped the addicted along by putting in more addictive materials in the papers used around the tobacco. So, they made up for those who were perhaps able to quit.

    With what may happen to some of our costs (thinking food and necessities found at grocery store) a lot of people may find it expedient to quit. My kids alone spend I think close to $600.00 a month to both smoke. I think — wow — what you could do with $600.00 a month.

    Petite, good to hear you got through your Dermatology check-up with no problems. Always nice to know you can now cross something off for a while.

    Hope everyone on trips are enjoying them. Maybe we will get an update soon.

    Hope you have a really good day.

  • canarycat
    canarycat Posts: 168

    Illinois lady I hear you about sugar, tobacco and caffeine addiction. Most need to go cold turkey to lick those addictions. Harm reduction would say anything in moderation is ok. I love coffee but decreased to 8-20 ounce a day. Mostly latte! So not much actual coffee in that. Each of us have our own journey though so I avoid being too preachy. Speaking of journeys Friday I meet my medical oncologist a female. Yay and on Mar 4 thr radiation oncologist will call me. Also female!!! Love women in business. I have a good friend coming with me Friday and then we are going out for brunch!!! 835 am appointment. Ugh.

    I’ll post more when I know my treatment plan. Reading lots though.
    Here is Miss Dusty

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  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506

    Compassion is the basis of all truthful relationships: it means being present with love-- for ourselves and all life, including animals, fish, birds, and trees. Compassion is bringing our deepest truth into our actions, no matter how much the world seems to resist, because that is the ultimate that we have to give this world and one another.

    Ram Dass

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506

    Good Morning. Well, we did not get overnight snow. It waited until this morning to start — right around 5 a.m. No idea how long it will go on. We had appts. to go get blood draws, but I think we will cancel out and not go. My daughter went to work and Ron takes her. Blood draws are 20 miles away in Mt. Vernon and we really don't want to risk vehicles on bad roads. While Dh and I easily drove through ALL kinds of weather while working we no longer feel any need to do what we REALLY don't have too.

    We need Ron to go after Kate, after work and have the right vehicle — so we will just wait.

    Nothing will be on our schedules today for sure with this weather. Winter has definitely found us this year after so many yrs. of predictions for bad winters. Long range forecast for the following week shows us in the 50's. This is Feb. in south central Illinois. Well, it will sure be welcome if it does reach into the 50's. No idea how much snow we will end up with. It is really small flakes coming down for now but pretty consistently coming down. Sounds like it will be going all day. Eek.

    Hope you all have a good day.

  • canarycat
    canarycat Posts: 168

    Sorry you are socked in with snow. Though kinda a nice solitary feeling too. it has warmed up here but enough that we have dampness in the air. So I have the fireplace and heat pump on. Lol. Today we finish up our set painting. I’ll post the completed photos later tonight. 545 pm I have a massage planned. Yay.

  • mcbaker
    mcbaker Posts: 2,097
    edited February 19

    Well, I turned down a stereo tomographic type of imaging in preparation for my surgery. The simple mammo showed mild density, yes, so what? And more imaging necessary. With major groans, I scheduled imaging in the city. I did the stereo image thingy, and they kept me to do some ultrasound. I was beginning to wonder if something really suspicious was showing up. Getting nervous. Nervous. All it was, was that he wanted to map the scar tissue calcifications from the lift, so that I would be safer with simple mammos in the future. 😕 Happy, though, that they decided on the compromise.

  • canarycat
    canarycat Posts: 168

    as promised here is our slightly used old Vermont-style rental house for the Murder mystery. One of the painters did the beautiful stained glass. One piece to finish which is a screen that goes above the bookcase and I need to fill the bookcase!

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  • mcbaker
    mcbaker Posts: 2,097

    Nice set. And that moose-head is better than the real thing!! 😂

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506

    Human beings are a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space.  We experience ourselves, our thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of our consciousness.  This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us.  Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.

    Albert Einstein

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506
    edited February 19

    Wow !! A gorgeous sun, all the way out today. Only due to get up to 16 degrees so not sure how much the solar boost will be able to do at those numbers, but by Sunday we are to be around 44 and higher yet through the week. That will be going in the right direction to suit me — even more so if a nice sun is hanging in the sky.

    You all have been a mite quiet. Likely due to the subject we don't have much to say about around here. We do at times make light references since politics and religion do impact us now and then, but it does tend to easily cause misunderstandings and more and we know well we are better off keeping it light and somewhat impersonal so we don't upset a carefully structured balance here.

    I will say we are in some difficult times at present and one can only hope that a positive solution comes about as we are mainly Seniors or close to that range here. Not to say we would not welcome all who wish to be here, but most of us here are retired and depending on Social Security etc.

    Hope you are all well - and I do know we have two lucky (I hope they are not experiencing any un-pleasantries) members on vacation and I think missing a lot of yucky weather. I likely have mentioned it more than once, but I have only taken a couple of vacations in my married life. We became rescuers and too difficult and expensive to train someone for a short but costly time, so I always stayed home, and Dh went on vacation by himself. I think I'm too old to get into the habit now, but fact is — we still have more animals than most would ever dream of. 7 cats and 1 dog. At the zenith though we had about 35 cats and 6 dogs. Really, almost a full-time job. I hate to say they never got all the love they could have used, but they were in off the street, all "fixed" and any health issues addressed. Always well fed and safe inside.

    Glad that we don't have so much 'animal' work now though when it has become sometimes a struggle to get some of the normal daily chores done. You have to retire from paying jobs and sometime or other you need to retire from some of the ideals that sustained you for a long time. There are others like me so the slack will have to pass to someone else for the majority.

    Have a beautiful day.

  • mcbaker
    mcbaker Posts: 2,097

    …decided on the compromise. And chose to scare me in the process. My lack of fear the first time through was due to A. Righty always having been problematic. B. I have had so many traumas in my life that BC was like a passing thunderstorm. Radiologist and I made some passing remarks about the Holocaust, both of us having German ancestry, but happy that they left in the 1800's.

    I never had good feelings about Trump.

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506

    Freedom does not mean the right to do whatever we please, but rather to do as we ought.  The right to do whatever we please reduces freedom to a physical power and forgets that freedom is a moral power.

    Fulton J. Sheen

  • carolehalston
    carolehalston Posts: 8,983

    Canarycat, I didn't realize you are Canadian. DH and I did a lot of rv travel in Canada and love the country and the people. He said during recent years that he would move to Canada except for the winters.

    He has a dermatologist appointment at 11:30 so I will be driving him. I also need to buy chicken and smoked sausage to make gumbo for dinner tonight. Good cold weather food.

    Happy Thursday to everyone.

  • mcbaker
    mcbaker Posts: 2,097

    Prayers for you, catlady.

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506

    I didn't seem to catch it either about Canary and Canada. My first husband's mother was French Canadian and though we all lived in Detroit, there was a Canadian family in Amherstburg to visit and we did it a fair amt. too. I too was always impressed (mainly with the summer weather) when there and it was always neat to get change back from a purchase as American money was worth more there. Also, unique to me was the fact that there were no bars like we have here but you had to go to a hotel to have a couple. I would not have minded in the least living there. It seemed so much more laid back then Detroit.

    Bright sunny day here again which is great. We did have some minor melting in yesterday's sun and I'm sure will have it again today. It doesn't seem to be making much of a dent, but with the warming temps. starting on Sunday and going through next week, I hope to be nearly snowless again. Hard to say it that will be it for snow this season since we are in fact having a snow — rather than rain winter at long last.

    We have had on the rare occasion as much as 14 ins. come down in the first week of Apr. It is generally warm enough then though that it melts rather quickly. I am definitely thing spring-time pinks, greens and yellow though — even as I look at all the white snow outside. I am ready.

    Waving hi to all and still hoping our vacationers are doing well.

  • carolehalston
    carolehalston Posts: 8,983

    It has warmed up to 43 outside. A pretty, cold day. I've been busy much of the afternoon cooking chicken and sausage gumbo and mashed potato salad. Those two foods go together. Some people put a scoop of potato salad in their bowl of gumbo and rice. Rice is a must for gumbo. I cook brown jasmine rice.

    I have to get on the ball and make some appointments for myself. I still need to do the driving for dh's PT sessions another week, maybe two weeks. But on the off days I can leave him for a few hours on his own. Tomorrow will be four weeks since his surgery. In retrospect, time seems to fly by. Sometimes in the moment it can seem to be slow.

  • carolehalston
    carolehalston Posts: 8,983