Jul 10, 2016 03:56PM - edited Jul 11, 2016 05:19AM by Wildtulip
Firefly63, I just happened to stumble on your post and I can really relate to your thoughts and questions. We are in similar situations in that I am 47 (although divorced and with children) and I would love to have a man in my life. I was seeing someone when I was diagnosed, but he didn't even stick around through surgery and treatment. Granted, we hadn't been seeing each other long. I too wonder how to bring up the topic, if I even meet someone. Anyway, I don't have answers to your questions, but you are not alone. I am puzzled as to why your oncologist does not recommend reconstruction. Is there a medical reason? I was also stage 3, had a double mastectomy, chemo and radiation. I am currently going through reconstruction and my oncologist is all for it. Reconstruction is not easy, particularly when radiation is involved and I am realistic...I know the results are not going to be the same, but for me, to at least feel comfortable in clothes is going to help my outlook.
I wish you the best of luck, and hopefully others with more experience will be able to weigh in with their thoughts. Take care.