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Re: What’s one thing your body is teaching you this summer?
Hi, i'm Nicole from Maryland. A 53 year old woman that felt her world was coming to an end when I learned that I had cancer. At stage 3 and receiving chemo and immunotherapy the sun is not my friend. The chemo has taken the hot flashes to another level. If I don't park in the garage I feel like I'm having issues breathing. And I have to sit in a cool area until my body cools off. I carry a handheld fan and ice water EVERYWHERE I go. Finding the right clothes to wear has been an issue for me. But, lately cotton has been my best friend in this heat. As well as I try to schedule appointments and outings early in the mornings or when the sun goes down.
Make it a great day!
Re: Starting Chemo July 2025? Gather here for support!
Hi everyone, the spring threads aren't very active and I have five rounds to go. Hope it's ok to join you here.
I did dose dense A/C in March and April, then started weekly taxol x12 in May. This is my second time doing chemo so I thought I knew what to expect - NOPE! It's been a strange course, with all kinds of random and unexpected side effects: shingles (too young for shingles vaccine, nobody thought to suggest it), pneumonia requiring IV antibiotics (4 days in the hospital, 2 weeks' chemo deferred), a weird yeast infection in the creases of my underarms, and an atypical kind of mucositis. I'm a tough cookie, but this has been the most difficult thing I've ever done. I don't say that to scare any of you, it's more of a reminder for all of us to extend ourselves a lot of grace because this shit is hard.
That said, I've got tons of experience and would be happy to answer any questions if that's helpful. I've been doing the ice mittens and booties since the beginning and so far no neuropathy…
Re: I say YES. YOU say NO....Numero Tre! Enjoy!
BREAKING: The innocent gay makeup artist who was infamously deported to an El Salvador prison by Donald Trump’s fascist regime breaks his silence to reveal horrific torture, sexual abuse, and food deprivation.
It’s so much worse than we feared but he also shared a ray of hope…
Andry Hernández Romero was imprisoned for 125 days at CECOT, the dystopian mega-prison in El Salvador where Trump has been disappearing people, but he is now home safe in his native Venezuela.
“It was an encounter with torture and death,” Hernández Romero told journalists at his family home.
He and other prisoners were regularly beaten and shot with rubber projectiles. They were locked in nightmarishly dark confines.
“Many of our fellows have wounds from the nightsticks; they have fractured ribs, fractured fingers and toes, marks from the handcuffs,” he said. “Others have marks on their chests, on their face ... from the projectiles.
Hernández Romero entered the United States legally, appeared at an appointment that the American government mandated, and passed an initial interview. Federal agents then falsely accused him of membership in the violent Tren de Aragua gang, absurdly citing his “mom” and “dad” tattoos as evidence for their smear. He has no criminal record but was unjustly expelled by Trump along with over 250 other Venezuelan men. The incredibly cruel federal action proves that MAGA never actually cared about deporting criminals and are in fact pursuing a soft ethnic cleansing agenda.
Hernández Romero originally fled Venezuela in 2024 to seek asylum in the United States because he was afraid he would be persecuted for his homosexuality and because he opposed his native country’s authoritarian government. He saw America as a beacon of hope in the world and was rewarded by Trump with racism, terror, and violence.
The Venezuelan attorney general has announced that his office will be launching an investigation into the reports that El Salvador tortured Venezuelan nationals.
“While we’re happy that he’s no longer in the torture prison, we are worried for his future,” said Melissa Shepherd, an attorney with the Immigrant Defenders Law Center, who is representing Hernández Romero and other deportation victims. “They were physically, verbally, and psychologically tortured.”
Lindsay Toczylowski, cofounder and CEO of the Immigrant Defenders Law Center, told The Advocate that what happened to Hernández Romero is “a really dark foreshadowing of where we’re going as a country if this is allowed to stand.”
“These are people who were sent with no due process to be tortured, only to then be used as political pawns in a prisoner release that none of us were privy to before it happened, that none of them consented to being a part of,” she added.
But Hernández Romero has not fallen totally into despair—
“It fills me with so much peace, so much comfort, so much tranquility that I was never alone, from day one,” he said. “There were many people who worried for me.”
Re: Decisions
Hi @yogi1967, and welcome to Breastcancer.org! We're so very sorry for the reasons that bring you here, but we're really glad you've found us. As you can already see, our amazing community is full of incredible members always willing to offer advice, information, encouragement, and support — we're all here for you!
Surgery decisions can be so difficult, but ultimately the decision is yours. We're sure others will be by soon to weigh in with their experiences, but in the meantime, we wanted to share this page on Mastectomy Vs. Lumpectomy with you. As well, we have a helpful thread here that discusses the pros and cons of these decisions that you might find insightful:
Here is also some information on oncoplastic lumpectomy that @maggie15 mentioned.
We hope this helps. Please let us know what other questions you might have and what decision you've made. We're here to support you through your surgery and beyond!
—The Mods
Re: Decisions
Hi @yogi1967, I was lucky to have my lumpectomy done by a breast surgeon with training in oncoplastic techniques. She used tissue flaps inside my breast to rearrange things to preserve the shape and size of my breast. I had only one site of IDC but it was 3.2 cm. She said she would do a nip/tuck on the other breast to make them perfectly symmetrical but I didn't bother with that since there was hardly any difference. The recovery was easy, the same as any lumpectomy. I don't know if there is a breast surgeon with that training near you but it is worth investigating or traveling a bit. I hope your surgery goes well.



