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Re: I say YES. YOU say NO....Numero Tre! Enjoy!
I will be so thrilled when these people are gone and I mean gone to jail and other unhappy horrid places for what they are doing to innocents.
Re: Were you diagnosed young (under 45) with breast cancer? We'd love to hear from you!
I was diagnosed at 46 and I am now 60. It can be incredibly lonely journey but I must say that having this website to be the best thing I found! I joined groups that were at the same place in my journey - chemo, double mastectomy, radiation, and my reconstruction surgery. There is so much information on this website for everyone!
goodie
Re: how about drinking?
Good Morning, Loungettes! Happy Thirsty Thursday! I am relieved that the temps have dropped back to the usual 70s and 80s, and the humidity back under 70%. This is much more comfortable than that last couple of days were! When I talked with Mom last night she complained about the AC freezing her out all day, and since the temps were coming down I tried to help her turn off the AC. I had her get the AC remote control, and after almost half an hour of trying to explain where the on/off button was I finally figured out the remote she was looking at was not for the AC! So we started over again looking for the AC remote, and I think we got the right one and got the AC turned off, but I'm not sure. Tomorrow we look at a senior place apartment, have lunch, then she wants to go shopping, so that's the plan.
Carole--yeah, Mom's condition has deteriorated since I retired and even more so while I was away on vacation. Or maybe I'm seeing the decline more clearly since being away for a few weeks. I hope we can get into the place we are visiting tomorrow rather quickly. I also keep reminding myself that it's ok to take a couple days a week to work on my own place and my own things. Stay safe in the stormy weather!
Maggie--thanks for the support. I've become much more aware that time with Mom is getting limited and I want to know I did what I could to make her happy and safe. Good advice about the wine, I'm going to bring up some bottles to put in the fridge to treat myself with.
Dark ‘n Stormy
Ingredients
• Ice cubes
• 2 ounces dark rum
• 3/4 ounce fresh lime juice
• 3 ounces ginger beer
• Lime slices
Directions
Fill a shaker three-fourths full with ice. Add the rum and lime juice; cover and shake for 10-15 seconds or until condensation forms on outside of shaker. Strain into an ice-filled highball glass. Top with ginger beer. Stir until combined; garnish with lime.
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Wife is starting Xeloda soon
Hi all,
My wife was diagnosed with mBC in 2023. She has been through 4-ish lines of treatment, the latest Enhertu. She has felt great with no side effects but it has stopped working after a year. This is next and I’m terrified of the side effects and what living with them will be like for us and our relationship. Can anyone help? We’ve been together for 45 years, since college, and I can’t imagine life without her. Thanks
Ann
anninov
Re: All about Xeloda
@soldanella Great to hear from you! I had to look up celsius, since we do fahrenheit. And we are the same…in the 90's and very humid. We will have 4 days with storms now and then, and then 4 days of very hot and humid with no rain.
My veggies are doing okay, though. I am always trying to stay ahead of the rabbits, deer, chipmunks and squirrels, though. Darned things love to munch on my veggies.
I'm glad that you are doing well on Xeloda. I had not eaten bananas for several years since they are high in folic. But I decided to try one small one a day and they aren't bothering me. And I went up to 2 eggs a day, instead of my usual one per day. So it takes some experimenting.
My new chest port is great and I no longer have any problems when I get my Herceptin every 3 weeks. My last CT scan was still NED, so I've been NED now for 7 1/2 years on Herceptin and Xeloda.
My onc retired but everyone loves his replacement, who I will see in August.
Denise
denny123
Re: All about Xeloda
@denny123 Hi, I'm here and I regularly read the forum threads.
I hope you're well and not suffering too much from the heat. The thermometer climbed to 36° Celsius yesterday, and it's becoming a pain. Fortunately, a few thunderstorms refreshed the atmosphere and brought joy to the vegetable garden.
I'm tolerating Xeloda better and better (soon 7 months) and my next scan will be on July 2nd, ...fingers crossed. My markers are still down, although out of the norm, but it's going in the right direction. I wish you a wonderful start to summer.
Re: Birads 5 with calcification
Thank you all so much for the empathy. It’s so warm and welcoming here. Since my original post, I’ve had two more doctor’s appointments. I followed up with my primary care physician, who reviewed the mammogram and ultrasound results with me. There are two masses in my left breast, one measuring 3.5 cm in the upper outer quadrant, and another 2.5 cm located behind the nipple. The larger mass has active blood flow, which makes it their primary concern.
My doctor referred me to a breast surgeon, whom I saw yesterday. He performed a physical breast exam and told me a biopsy was necessary. He mentioned that, while the mammogram and ultrasound look suspicious, there’s still a chance the masses could be benign. But at this point, I don’t want any more false hope.
It’s been over a month since I discovered the lump. I took action immediately, yet everything has been moving painfully slow. The surgeon initially wanted me to wait another two weeks for a biopsy but I refused! This waiting game is pure torture. I’ve been overwhelmed with anxiety, and during that appointment, my blood pressure was 174/120.
I’ve tried to be patient, but I feel like the seriousness of my situation is being dismissed because of my age. If I hear “you’re young” one more time, I might break down. I’ve already come to terms with the possibility that this could be cancer. I’ve known deep down from the beginning. Even when my doctor thought it was just fibrocystic breast changes, I didn’t feel right. It’s one of those moments where you just know.
My main concern now is starting treatment before anything spreads, if it hasn’t already. Two days ago, I started experiencing pain near my collarbone. There are pea size lumps there as well, which could indicate the cancer has reached nearby lymph nodes. Thankfully, after pushing hard and advocating for myself, they moved my biopsy up to this Friday.
It shouldn’t be this difficult to get care.
Re: Were you diagnosed young (under 45) with breast cancer? We'd love to hear from you!
Thank you for sharing. It makes me hopeful. I am 36 and just got diagnosed. I dont know what stage yet. I have appointment with my breast surgeon on Tuesday and he will let me know. I am so scared.
Re: Were you diagnosed young (under 45) with breast cancer? We'd love to hear from you!
I was a young mom, wife, no high risk,no family history, demanded a masectomy after an excitional biopsy, found a second invasive cancer different type, wanted the most aggressive treatment, had chemo twice a month ,slow dense by vein at home for a year.
30 years survivor.
dreaming
HHS Prioritization for MBC
Below are two emails sent by myself and my awesome wife to the HHS team. If you arent aware, HHS has introduced a new program called the Commissioner’s National Priority Voucher (CNPV) which includes a number of terminal illnesses but not MBC at this time. Please send them a message and urge everyone to make MBC a national priority.
FDAOncology@fda.hhs.gov
OPT@fda.hhs.gov
seckennedy@hhs.gov
Dear FDA Team,
Nadia is my wonderful wife, the father of my children, and a cancer fighting beast. Our beautiful son was born in August of 2024. In December 2024 we learned that Nadia had breast cancer and in January 2025 we found out it was Stage 4. We have learned a lot in our six month fight. We have learned that the bulk of money raised through donations and gifts is allocated for Stage 3 and below research. As a matter of fact, only about 6% of total donations and gifts is devoted to stage 4 cancer patients. Additionally, we have learned that this is being treated as a chronic illness, meaning we will be dependent upon pharmaceutical companies for the rest of her life. The current state of research is being driven almost exclusively by big pharma and gaps are being ignored. Go to any metastatic cancer forum and the future seems to be to treat it as a chronic illness with no known cure. Furthermore, women are being diagnosed at younger and younger ages with breast cancer with no known cause for this shift. This is and should be unacceptable to everyone especially the oncologists who routinely treat cancer patients. Additionally, the number of people who are making a profit from Nadia’s cancer fight is absolutely the most disgusting part of the whole system of healthcare that we live under.
I strongly urge the FDA to:
- Include MBC in CNPV program as a top priority.
- Implement MBC research initiatives that prioritize effective treatment over profit motives.
- Revise the current guidance and standards of care at pregnancy for earlier detection of breast cancer. Conduct a breast exam at the beginning of a pregnancy!
The current state of research shows that the gains that are being made are in months and weeks. The average survivability is 5-10 years for MBC patients. These women deserve better. Please don’t ignore MBC, its impact, and its current state.
Nathan
Dear FDA Team,
I’m writing to you not just as a patient with metastatic breast cancer, but as a mother of two sons, one still a baby. I was diagnosed in late 2024, right before my 40th birthday, and like so many others with MBC, I live with the knowledge that my disease is incurable and will likely result in my death.
The newly announced Commissioner’s National Priority Voucher (CNPV) program could dramatically change outcomes for patients like me. Reducing FDA review times from a year to just one or two months gives real hope to those of us waiting for the next breakthrough to arrive in time.
Metastatic breast cancer kills 117 Americans every day. That’s over 44,000 lives a year in this country alone—many of them young women and mothers. We have waited decades for curative treatments. We can’t afford more delays.
Several therapies in development today show extraordinary promise, including targeted RNA drugs, cancer vaccines, oncolytic viruses, and precision immunotherapies. They deserve a faster path to patients. We deserve the chance to live and these medications might just give us that.
I urge the FDA to:
- Include metastatic breast cancer in the CNPV program
- Treat MBC as a national health priority, worthy of the same urgency as other terminal conditions
- Support companies working on MBC therapies to access this expedited review
Please don’t let metastatic breast cancer patients be left behind again. We are fighting with everything we have—please help give us a fighting chance.
Dying for a cure,
Nadia