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I am late commenting about the loss of Shannen Doherty. I did not get on here as much yesterday as some days. When I heard the news it was sobering. She was diagnosed in 2015, right? The report said 2015, with reoccurrence in 2017, and something about 2023. I do not keep up with her blogs. Anyway, if it was Stage 4 since 2015 that is 9 years MBC. I am at 7 years this Fall. I know mine is stable, and I am only on 2nd line therapy, and mine is not in the brain, but I do have bone and liver. It is just sobering to hear of someone else dying of this disease. Even though each case is individualized we all still have the same disease- Stage 4 MBC. We all have that in common. And when someone passes it make me think how serious my condition really is. Oh my gosh, I have terminal cancer. I cannot think too long on it or I start to get panicky. I am scared of going downhill. I am a Christian, but I am scared of death, the actual dying.

I feel like I've been kicked in the gut with the news of Shannen. Her last post was SO recent. RIP Shannen. And, as others have said, she didn't LOSE her fight. Way to shift the blame, right?

I’m pissed! I can’t believe Shannen is dead, her latest podcast was less than 3 weeks ago. Her disease mirrored mine in several ways, although I was ahead of her. From being stage 4 at a young age, to having brain mets to getting great results from a new chemo (Enhertu). What the hell just happened?! Did it stop working and cancer took over that quickly? Did it spread somewhere else and was not treatable? WTF?!

Wow, condolences going out to her family and friends in real life and fans who followed her cancer. She did put up a long fight as most of us try to do but I am sorry it eventually took her. Brave woman and may she rest in peace and no more pain.

Mel, I hate the cancer taking our people and family as well. You just never know when something stops working and really can never consider it gone, just invisible.

One thing I wish publications announcing deaths like this is stop saying she lost her battle. It implies she did not do enough to stay alive, at least it feels that way to me. I know in reality it is not meant that way, just wishing it could be worded slightly differently like, she fought hard for many years but unfortunately has died. Leave the words lost the battle out of it. Just my take, again, I know it is not meant to say they think she did not fight hard enough but hits me that way whenever I see lost their battle. Sad anyway.

I am so sad that shannen Dougherty has died from MBC. She’s been such a fighter. Ugh. This damn disease. I feel so sad. She did do well at first! I hate you cancer !

Good morning all. When the pallative care nurse came here the first time she said (paraphrase) I'm use to taking care of people that look/seem worse than you and then said but you look so good. Wellllll…that burned my biscuits Mel, because we all know sitting on a chair and trying to be hospitable and really not complaining, or not being in a wheelchair can get you those absurd comments. I've already gotten a note on the car about not looking disabled. Candy, you are so sweet but you are gonna have to go gorilla on those people. I don't want it to seem like I'm pushing you, but my concern is it's your money, your health and you deserve the benefit. Plus, if they can get away with denying stage 4 people, they'll continue trying to use that ruse on others.

Illimae, I'm sorry you guys are dealing with covid again. Docs pushing for more vaccines, but pharmacist said don't do it. I can tell you they won't do the jab anywhere but my arms and I have lymphaedema and it makes it much worse. So I had to accept the inital jab in arm and the 2nd. No more for either of us.

Goldensbest, happy birthday to your sweet Bella. Hope mommy gives you extra treats.. Mara, do you have any fish dishes receipes? It would have to be mild seasoning. I'm always hungry and admire your hard work on making meals.

Hi all, in your pockets for scans and life, in general.

I've been up all night. First I just couldn't fall asleep (even with sleep aides) and then I started scrolling the local humane society page of cats. My beloved Booty is still missing. I found a rather poor picture of a cat named Fiona but the picture looks like Booty, but since the cats in a carrier, it's hard to tell for sure. Now I'm waiting for them to open and get my booty over there. I worry about her being euthanized. I had filed a missing report and visited 3 times. Even spoke to the cat people. Fingers crossed it's her. Just gotta stay awake 4 more hours.

@chicagoan We picked it up from a neighbor who invited us for dinner, he had been out around the nearby small town for the 4th of July festivities. I noticed him coughing but DH mentioned that he had emphysema, so we thought nothing of it. Fortunately, I have a surprisingly robust immune system considering I’m on chemo.