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Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
Tippy suffered during my BC. I understand completely.
lymph node removal
I am 79 years old and have lobullar ILC breast cancer, stage 1 in both breasts. They are doing a lympectomy in a couple of weeks and also removing lymph nodes that are not cancerous, just for safety sake. Also have to do radiation for 3-6 weeks.
How is the recovery for this type of surgeries? And the likely hood it will not come back
Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
Found this post by the Princess of Wales after she completed the 3 Peaks Challenge in England, Scotland and Wales. I thought it had a message important to all of us:
Every year, hundreds of thousands of people in this country hear the words no one wants to hear. What follows is a path that tests every part of who we are: physically, emotionally, psychologically and spiritually. The challenges ripple outwards, touching families, friendships, work and the quiet moments we spend alone with our thoughts.
Cancer doesn’t just affect the body. It changes how you think and feel and profoundly affects every aspect of life. I know this personally, and that the journey through and beyond treatment requires more than medicine alone.
I have taken on the National Three Peaks Challenge, not simply as a physical endeavour but as a chance to explore life beyond diagnosis and to give something back. The Royal Marsden is a place that holds great meaning for me and whose care and expertise are life changing for so many people.
Through this challenge, I want to raise awareness for the deeper impact of serious illness and the importance of holistic healthcare. Every individual is different, and ensuring there is a whole person approach to care enables those living through cancer to manage the deeply personal challenge of diagnosis. Holistic therapies complement clinical pathways and support patients’ ability to maintain their wellbeing, resilience and quality of life during an exceptionally difficult time.
We have an opportunity to reshape what the future of holistic cancer care looks like, enabling more people, nationwide, to access the kind of personalised support that can help make a meaningful difference during and after medical treatment.
This challenge will support the Royal Marsden Cancer Charity, helping to transform access to, and understanding of, holistic care that will enhance recovery and healing for patients across the UK.
Healing, whether personal or collective, is not just about fixing what is wrong. It is about finding balance in how we live. Between effort and acceptance, between control and trust, between thinking and simply being. Because in the end, bravery isn’t just about pushing forward. It is about knowing how to stay grounded, connected and present, no matter the terrain or landscape you are walking.
C
Re: Partners support, aloofness and anger
I am so sorry you are dealing with a husband that is not only unsupportive but also has severe anger management issues as well particularly at a time when you are trying to recover from a very major surgery. Has his behavior gotten worse since you were diagnosed and/or escalated after your surgery? Is there any chance he will agree to have anger management therapy and also go to marriage counseling with you? Perhaps he needs to be prescribed anti-depressants or a mood stabilizer to manage his condition? Do you have any supportive family members (including close friends as well as relatives) in the area that can lend support? I strongly encourage you not to make any changes to your financials/assets given the instability of your relationship with your husband, as I am sure you know, it is so important to protect yourself physically, mentally, financially at all times but especially now that you are more vulnerable. Sending gentle hugs to you. - Abigail
Re: recently diagnosed-looking for info on nerve-preserving (or sensation-preserving) mastectomy
I'd had a nipple-sparing, sensation-sparing SMX back in 2021, when the sensation-sparing mastectomies were really new and mostly being done just by the Drs. Peled (San Francisco), and only a handful of other surgeons. The goal is to either avoid severe damage to the nerves during the mastectomy process, or to use nerve-grafts if the nerves DO get cut. I'd had my SMX done at Stanford, and luckily my insurance provider at that time covered my mastectomy, but in my case I didn't need nerve-grafting done, as my surgeons were able to avoid severing my nerves.
For the first few months post-SMX, I was mostly numb, but over the next 2 years I did notice gradual, but inconsistent gains in sensation. Now, at almost 5 years out, my SMX breast has irregular feeling. There are spots that are numb, like how it feels when my foot falls asleep, interspersed with spots that are almost normal sensation. Most days my nipple area is numb, but there HAVE BEEN days it is surprisingly sensitive, so for that I'm grateful.
I do have a friend who had her bilateral mastectomy done with nerve-grafting done on her cancer-side, and she did eventually get nearly full sensation back.
The resensation website is helpful in finding surgeons who do these nerve-sparing or nerve-grafting mastectomies: www.resensation.com


