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Re: I say YES. YOU say NO....Numero Tre! Enjoy!
Well, you know he is always on and has to have his reality props, choke-choke.
Re: Financial planning after diagnosis at 40
Hi @girlnamedmaria, While metastatic recurrence from stage 1A is unusual but not impossible considering your future as you age is a wise thing to do. I'm thirty years older than you so this is coming from the direction of hindsight. Being near family and friends is important when you need support. Parents and older relatives likely won't be around so consider those your age and younger (nieces, nephews, cousins, friends' children, common interest friends.)
Having a plan to move closer to those in your support system when necessary might be enough at this point. However, don't wait for retirement to enjoy your life. If you would be happier now living closer to friends figure out if you can make that happen. Don't spend recklessly but travel while you are younger so you can hike, climb and rough it a bit. My husband always wondered why we bothered to travel internationally for my single week school vacations but now is glad that we have those memories since our wings have been clipped. Don't stop saving for retirement as you will need that money to live on later but contribute regularly to a separate account for bucket list items (maybe don't pay off the mortgage early.)
My retirement is very different from what I had envisioned because of a lung injury from rads which makes me live like it is covid lockdown. I take advantage of anything that I can do outside but I'm grateful I didn't put off all my plans until I had the time and plenty of money. Don't focus on possibly having a short life; live so that you enjoy the present while ensuring you'll have enough money to get by on later.
This is a great topic that everyone who's forty should consider. I hope you get to visit Brazil!
maggie15
Re: I say YES. YOU say NO....Numero Tre! Enjoy!
And just a note. Ditzo Donnie had it on still last night. Is he going to have it on election day as well. Doesn't he know it would be much more realistic now if he switched that out for a flesh-colored band aid. We won't even mention the picture the next day of him golfing happily in the sun with nothing on his ear at all.
Re: ER-, PR-, Her2+ Roll call
@djschmidt1 Oh, no. I am so sorry. You’ve already got so much do deal with already, and now this? I am so sorry. Is there a real possibility you could pivot to a new role there if you would want to, or do you now have to begin a job search? Thinking of you and hoping this ends with a silver lining for you somehow.
aborayis
Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
The more authentic you become, the more genuine in your expression, particularly regarding personal experiences and even self-doubts, the more people can relate to your expression and the safer it makes them feel to express themselves. That expression in turn feeds back on the other person's spirit, and genuine creative empathy takes place, producing new insights and learnings. -Stephen Covey
Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
Betrayal, a personal attack could be handled in any of the ways you mentioned. A lot depends on if you want to confront the individual or see if the monitors can intervene. Best of luck.
We had another great weather day! Last night I was planning out my day - tape the bathroom window to be painted, rest, paint, rest and second coat. Then I remembered I had my cardiologist appointment today at one.
So I broke it into tape, go through my email and do all my NYT games; then dr, then paint. I got the job done. The trim is about 5” wide, old home size. The curtain got washed and rehung, after I cleaned the mini blinds. Done done done.
If we were to have this kind of weather for a long stretch I might be enticed to tear up our bedroom. But we leave next weekend for Cape Cod and temps are going back up. Excuses!
Puffin, take Betrayal's suggestion and elevate the leg. Your poor foot looks so swollen, it has to hurt.
Petite, enjoy your visit.
Jackie, I’m glad your weather is cooler too.
Oh, second tree guys estimate was almost $400 more than the first. I thanked them and let them know I was going with another company. Called the other company and they’re getting back to me with a date. We’re not in a hurry.
Have a great night!
cindyny