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Re: I say YES. YOU say NO....Numero Tre! Enjoy!
someone put up a sign here (the kind lit up with lights) sating
One CEO down
Many more to go

Re: Contemplative practices - Affirmations, white light visualizations, healing meditations
@rlschaller oh I love that garden idea! I will definitely use it. Thank u for sharing.

Re: When you're all done.........but still undone by cancer
@heikkipus, thanks for your kind comments about this thread! To tell you the truth, when I started it I didn't know whether anyone else found the "re-entry" after cancer treatment to be as confusing and disorienting as I did. It's been really helpful to learn that others go through this phase as well. I'm a university professor, so I entirely get your concerns about cognitive functioning and treatment. I returned to work within just weeks of finishing chemotherapy, just to teach 1 class at first, and it was daunting. The first thing I noticed was that I was having word-finding difficulty, which you really don't want to have while lecturing! I also realized that I couldn't follow a discussion in faculty meetings. When multiple people were speaking, I couldn't seem to separate their voices, so everything ran together. I reported that to my onc, who promptly started me on 15 mg of adderall, which has been a Godsend for me. I still have some clear difficulty focusing, but I'm at least effective in what I do. The onc said the symptoms of brain fog generally clear within 2 years, but can be longer-lasting, so I probably fall into that latter category.
However, with time, I've found ways to cope. I'm 68 now, and close to retirement, so I don't feel like I have to hide this consequence of treatment. I'm pretty open about it, and I've found that my colleagues and students are quick to help me out. For example, my students send me written summaries of our meetings, with a "To Do" list for them and for me after each meeting. It helps keep me on track. I've also purposefully moved from doing complex research to a more administrative role leading our doctoral program. That new position uses my current strengths better— my professional judgment, my ability to get people to work together effectively, my ability to be supportive of our students. In this position, I don't have to multitask as much, and I find this role to be truly rewarding as I get to the end of my career. By the way, I worried a TON when I first came back to work about whether I'd be able to be as productive after cancer. In retrospect, I wish I'd trusted more that I would find new and valuable ways to be productive.
I also really do wish I'd known that recovery goes on for quite a while after treatment is finished. My onc really didn't advise me about returning to work at all, so I assumed I should go back to work as soon as I finished chemotherapy. It was truly FAR too early! I only had 1 class to teach, 1/2 of my normal teaching load, but I was utterly exhausted after each class. I would fall asleep as soon as I got home. And my blood work clearly told the story: All of my electrolytes and blood values were completely out of whack for about a year and a half after I finished chemo. Then they gradually became more normal over time. I was, in fact, significantly anemic throughout the first year after chemo.
Later I heard that a good rule of thumb was that it takes twice as long to get over chemo as it takes to go through it. I was in chemo for 4 months, so by that guideline, I should have been off work for another 8 months. In truth, even longer would have been reasonable. But when you're a person with a high need to achieve and a strong sense of personal responsibility, it's very difficult to be the person who says "I'm not ready to return to work yet. Will you approve a period of recovery for the next XXX months?" I believe my onc would have been entirely supportive if I had asked for the time off, and I certainly had plenty of sick days I could have taken. But I just didn't know that was reasonable.
Anyway—- This is a long-winded way of saying I hope you can take better care of yourself than I did! I fumbled through it, but I do realize that I didn't need to put that much pressure on myself. If there's anything I can do to help, or you have questions, I'd be happy to chat further! Best of luck to you—
Re: Fearful of IV Bisphosphonates and ONJ - Q About Dental Implants
Hi @maiyen, I'm sorry that you have to deal with these dental issues. According to my oral surgeon IV bisphosphonates have a much higher chance of causing ONJ near old or new implants than oral bps. The oral bps clear your systen faster than the injected/infused ones when you need invasive dental work. I have silent GERD and Barrett's esophagus for which oral bps are contraindicated but I use them anyway when necessary. I have to increase my PPI dosage, drink lots of water and wait extra time before eating when I take a pill but I can deal with that once a week. The bone density of my jaws is too low for implants, even with grafting. Now I have dental bridges where teeth have been extracted.
Have you had an oral surgeon evaluate the bone density in your jaws? I cycle in and out of osteoporosis/osteopenia with breaks from the bps monitored by my endocrinologist. My jawbones are in worse shape than my hip or spine. My sister who has osteoporosis tried implants with bone grafting and now is in limbo since they didn't take. Somebody else might have a better experience to report. All this dental work is painful and expensive but I'm with you on keeping your teeth as long as possible.

Re: I say YES. YOU say NO....Numero Tre! Enjoy!
Imagine how our lives might be if everyone had even a bit more of the Wisdom that comes from seeing clearly. Suppose people everywhere, simultaneously, stopped what they were doing and paid attention for only as long as it took to recognize their shared humanity. Surely the heartbreak of the world's pain, visible to all, would convert everyone to kindness. What a gift that would be.
Sylvia Boorstein