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Re: My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer
@irishlove , I am so sorry for you feeling lonely. It is a hard thing to deal with, of course you can talk to us about it, we all feel. I am also sorry about your sister calling you a drama addict. That makes me feel angry for you. You deal with constant pain from the MS and cancer effects, have cancer drugs and many other things. She should try to live a day in your body before dismissing you. I hope this group and any live action group or others in your life are able to listen with dismissing and just hear you.
I have my CT scan this afternoon which is fine, just have to finish a meal round 1030 am or 11am latest.
Got laundry on the go, flipped my couch cushion, feels so good after a good flip. Beyond that, not too sure what I want to eat. Easiest way to go would be some KD noodles, beans and an egg. I did not care for the egg I add to boiling water to heat up so thinking I will chop a microwaved egg and cheese and heat a pan with some precooked KD noodles, not the whole box, just part. Option two is to boil up the ramen, still add eggs and cheese and fry up everything. Need to decide soon though. Add some chipotle beans, I just realized which is dumb, I have chipotle may that could be combined with a bowl of beans. Need to add sour cream as it is not mild chipotle. The barbecue beans are not super appealing so may just take whatever I want and turn them into a chipotle bean.
Got some laundry and the dryer going, washer that had the stank smell was wiped down on the inside and lint filters emptied, realized they could be washed out in the smallest washers as it is gentle just to keep them cleaner. I would put them in a mesh bag to protect them. Dryer is going as well. Love the laundry.
Recycle put out is today, got a couple of boxes that need to go from stuff I ordered this week like the cat food etc. That is no problem to get rid of, got a couple of garbage bags to triple bag and add to my bin out back.
Meal has changed, a meat pie, regular size, heat up 6 mins. Will just add some beans to the mix, got my carb, protein and fat from any toppings added. Looking at some caesar, garlic mayo and have the chipotle from the beans. I only a tiny bit if blending different flavours that are liquid.
I hope all have a good day and in pockets for all as well.
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Re: My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer
Just wondering if some sessions with a therapist might help? I have a Zoom session every other week (could have it more frequently, but this seems to work for now). It is just "talk therapy", no medication prescribed, as she is a licensed social worker and therapist, not a doctor. Took a while to find the right "fit" , but it was worth the effort. I can vent to her and say things that I would not say to anyone else at this point and I find it helpful to get things out in the open. I am on traditional Medicare and the sessions are fully covered.
eleanora
Re: how about drinking?
Hi Mary9999! I hope you eventually get the silhouette you want; but if you decide to stay flat, it's not the worst option. I've been comfortably single-breasted for over 6 years now. I went straight to aesthetic flat closure, and my surgeon did a great job. If I ever decide to get any more work done, it will probably be to have the other side flat as well. But I've got no real reason to go that route yet.
Re: My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer
Hi and good morning to all, it’s been awhile and catching up on your posts. Hugs to everyone this morning as I get ready for work. All is well in its own way, Sun is shining and the breeze is cool. Family life and friendships are complicated and the living with constant change in MBC life adds to the load, but so lovely there is this forum for connection and affirmation. Squeezing into pocket duty for everyone as well. ❤️
Re: Are you currently (or have you been) in a Clinical Trial?
Hi cure-ious and Chicagoan,
What is this MSM you speak of and how is it (or how has it) helping you?
I just started Evenity for bone strengthening. I have pretty bad Osterporosis in my spine. I’m nervous to add anything since I’ve been stable for so long but my endo talked me into it. (I did have a little accident that resulted in fractures in seven vertebrae, so that’s probably why).
I’ve been eyeing Dose, which you’ve probably seen on social media. In the one hand, I know it’s probably just as effective as drinking juice. In the other hand, the ingredients turmeric, ginger, dandelion and milk thistle are pretty well accepted in the oncology community. And it promises energy, which I would give my right arm for!!!!
cure-ious, it’s so good to see you here. I’ve been looking for you but don’t come on here a ton and have found it hard to navigate the new site. Hope you’re doing well
Re: Stage IV MBC Fitness
@AJ - Wow, that pool's probably been redone umpteen times since I last saw it. It still doesn't really look all that different though than it did in the 50's😮. That park is so, so nice and I remember having wonderful times there as a kid. Also, there's a little row of small tudor style houses across Fauntleroy from the park and when I was a kid I used to really like them and I would look across that street and say to myself how I was going to live in one of those houses someday. Well it never happened, but I do still once in awhile enjoy that very old memory and the dream. If you've been walking around that area, it would be great! A real pleasant and scenic place to walk. You've got the ferry to watch there too. Thanks so much for the photo and the info that it's still going strong, as I do seem to remember there was talk that it might not be kept up. I haven't been by there in a many years now, but I used to drive by from time to time way into adulthood, and I've always enjoyed it; and those old childhood memories. A real treat.
Re: My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer
@irishlove So disappointed to hear about your family. You have gone above and beyond for your children and now in your time of need, they let you down. I think other people have no clue about the pain that we endure, especially you with MS on top of the cancer. I hope that the epidural will really help. In the meantime, you can distract yourself your Phillies and Eagles!
Re: Calling all triple negative breast cancer patients in the UK
Hello to all past posters on the thread. It was so sad to see it come to an end.
A special hello to Mary in the US and also to Gill in the UK. I often think of the two of you and wonder how you are. Your email addresses have gone missing on my computer, so I cannot contact you.
On June 20th this year 2025, it will be 20 years since I was diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer. It does seem a whole lifetime ago and so many things have happened in my life since then and the UK is so very different now to during my lifetime.
If anyone happens to see this post, it would be so lovely to hear from you.
It was good to see that Calling all TNs is still going, but sad that it is not as active. It was such an inspiration to me.
Thinking of you all.
Love and best wishes
Sylvia
Re: For Arimidex (Anastrozole) users, new, past, and ongoing
thanks for the tips everyone. I’ll take it just before bed. My morning isn’t a routine time but I can manage a late night pill.
Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
Descriptions & pix of all your travels (Oregon coast, Laos, Alaska, upcoming Vietnam) are like wearing VR glasses and booting up the "travel" software. Next best thing….
Happy heavenly birthday to Jackie!
Betrayal, take all the time you need to recover from jet lag & unpack. It'll only make the next quote you post sweeter.
Gordy's FIL made it to VT and had his pre-death psych eval. He passed peacefully a few hours later, as soon as he was settled in at the residential hospice. Leslie & his mom flew his body back to Houston, and Gordy flew down for the weekend. They're coming back today. He specified he did not want a memorial service.
The landlord's agent took pity on us and is giving us the insurance company discount going forward. Rent is still exorbitant (calculated on the house's value as an AirBnB) but $2K/mo less.
The last 150 boxes were delivered (and the basement appliances rearranged properly) Friday. The crew chief got a promotion and therefore wasn't there to help us locate and pack out more stuff, but the crew was efficient at helping us unload and dispose of trash. They took away the broken-down boxes from the garage…replacing them with more full ones. I took the weekend off—had to practice for the church-coffeehouse open mic (a success) Saturday and then had a baby shower for one of my Bar Show castmates in Hinsdale yesterday. The hostess (whose husband was my knee replacement surgeon) did an amazing job and has a stunningly gorgeous home with everything—including china & glassware—coordinated. (Makes me want to chuck everything & start over, but we're spending enough already trying to get back to pre-fire "normal"). Our landscaper returned from London & Ibiza yesterday and is decompressing today. His helper is coming over at 2 today to haul out more trash & donation bags. He (the helper) bikes but doesn't drive—he has the keys for the truck but no driver's license nor desire to get one. Ah, Gen Z! Meanwhile, they were able to bring back & re-install my Breville Smart Oven Air and the shelves for my master BR entertainment center (though a bracket and cabinet knob are missing—they ordered replacements). Abt also confirmed that my LG fridge's problem is the freezer fan, which they ordered and will replace when those parts come in. Don't wanna jinx it, but otherwise the fridge & freezer are working fine for a 2018 LG 3-door (approaching the mean age for its lifespan—we replaced its predecessor after 7 years).
At the shower yesterday I consulted with the hostess (who is a real estate litigator) and the choreo-director (whose SO is a contractor who's done projects for some of my castmates). They were both incredulous that I wasn't given an opportunity to design the kitchen layout or shop for paint & wallcoverings; but confirmed I really don't have much of a case because my status as an attorney (even 13 years retired) "imputed" knowledge on my part that should have raised red flags early enough to mitigate damage. My only remedies—ahould I be successful at all—would be "specific performance" (which would be by the same gang of incompetents) or an allowance to hire my own remediation contractor. My director, whose SO has worked with State Farm, says that according to insurance company standards, if you have a bedroom, functioning kitchen and bathroom you are considered able to move back in—stuff like boxes and crappy work notwithstanding. So our goal is to remove enough boxes to make the place kitty-safe, after which time we can start packing out of the rental house and get it clean enough for the next tenants.
chisandy