Stop Smoking Support Thread
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Basia,
You will get hit with the habit cravings sometimes in situations where you expect them, and other times just out of the blue!!! As time goes by, eventually, it's just once in a very great while!
The important thing was that you felt the craving and waited it out and it went away and quickly!!!
I think you're gonna do just fine!!!!!!
Edited to add: OMG, I don't know how but, I missed the entire first part of your post!!! Being able to be around someone who smokes this early in your quit and not giving in is a HUGE milestone!!! You should be very proud of yourself!!
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Basia,
Great Job! I have been avoiding seeing my daughter because she was my "go to" when I wanted to cheat. I will have to see her eventually, but I am trying to get stronger first. She makes it too easy for me to give in and have "just one", and next thing I know, Im back to smoking again. I think she is catching feelings because I havent seen her in about 2 weeks, and Wednesday I have a TX, so it will be another week before I see her. She wants me and my boyfriend to come for dinner, so when I do finally see her, I will make sure my NON smoking boyfriend is with me.
Again, great job. Not sure I could have done that just yet.
Jan, Congrats on your anniversary!!
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{{{SWEET}}} and {{{BASIA}}}} I am so proud of you! It is the hardest thing I ever did and I mean cancer was nothing compared to quitting smoking...no lie.
We rock!! And we can do it!!
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Looks Like I will have the big test in a little bit.... My daughter is going to drop off a couple of movies from my brother in a little bit... But... I was trying to talk HER into quitting the other day, and bragging how I was having an easy time with the patch, so there is NO WAY I can ask her to bumm a smoke... not after I told her how good I was doing. It will only make her think it is impossible to quit. So I have to set a good example. I will NOT ask for even a drag of her cigarette!
Im doing too good to screw it up now.
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OK Ladies,
Here's the latest roll call!! We should all give ourselves a pat on the back!!!! As Barbara said... WE ROCK!!!
As always, if I have missed someone, please let me know! If you are on the list and don't want to be, let me know that as well!
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Laurie08 - Getting a plan in place
Dutchy - Set quit date for March 1, 2011
Ellie1959 - Set quit date for March 1, 2011
sunangel27 - Feb 19, 2011 quit date
Sweetaerobabe - Feb 16, 2011 quit date
Malleme - Feb 6, 2011 quit date
Basia - Feb 5, 2011 quit date
karen333 - Jan 16, 2011 quit date
chabba - Jan 11, 2011 quit date
dsgirl - Dec 3, 2010 quit date
Kitchenwitch - Nov 30, 2010 quit date
Linda603 - Nov 4, 2010 quit date
kal_1865 - Sept 28, 2010 quit date
jan508 - Sept 20, 2010 quit date
LadyinBama - Aug 10, 2010 quit date
BarbaraA - June 2, 2010 quit date
SeasideMemories - Jan 18, 2010 quit date
o2bhealthy - May 5, 2009 quit date
1Athena1 - April 27, 2009 quit date
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Sweet,
Sending you ALL of the strength I can to get you through!!!
Keep setting a good example for your daughter BUT, perhaps, even more important, keep doing it for YOU!!
Don't make me drive down to Jersey to talk some sense into you!!!
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lol. I'm still waiting to see if she shows up. Im being strong, dont worry. But I want my movies!!
Once she gets them home, I'll never see them.
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Sweet,
Still sending positive thoughts your way!!! Got my car warmed up in the driveway!!!
We just got done watching Cast Away with Tom Hanks (yes... I DO realize how LONG AGO that movie came out but we aren't big movie people)
I found it to be sort of... well... sad, really! Not sure I would say I hated it but not sure I loved it either!
Hope all is well with you!!!!!
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Hey, Im good. She never came over because the roads were bad (damn snow again).
I was having a rough start this morning, woke up miserable, but I put my patch on and am now on day 6 with no cigarettes. I have to admit, the urge was pretty strong this morning, but I made it past it.
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Way to go Sweet!!! You are doing this!!!!
Jan
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Just back from Conneutville Pa., my godmother passed away after 4 bouts of cancer. She was wise and witty and I dearly loved her. I must admit I did have 1 cigarette, do I have to start all over on quit date? It was a very hard week.
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Karen:
sorry to hear of your loss.
My take - NO you don't have to start all over!
Jan
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((((((((karen333)))))))))),
So sorry to hear about your Godmother!
I'm with Jan.... That slip never happened!
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Karen.... Im so sorry. It's completly understandable that you slipped. Just don't let it take control again. I also vote no, keep your quitdate. I didnt see anything.
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I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your grandmother.
There is a huge difference between a "slip" and a relapse. A slip is an "oops--I slipped"--a situation came up that overwhelmed your ability to cope at the moment and since you're only human and have used cigarettes to cope in situations like this in the past for x period of time(However many years you've smoked), it is normal to reach for a smoke.
A relapse is when you go back to full time smoking or start smoking in a pattern. You only start your days over when you relapse, not for slipping. Use the slip as a learning experience--you were under a great deal of stress.
When people first start smoking at whatever age--they usually don't start off smoking a pack a day but they start experimenting--one here and there. The next step is habituation---a pattern develops--"I only smoke when I'm with my friends" or "I only smoke one after school"--doesn't matter how often or infrequently but a pattern emerges and then it's just a short step towards physical addiction. So a relapse can be back to full time smoking or it can be the start of a pattern of smoking, it is not a one time "slip". Let a slip slide.
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Thank you Jan, Seaside, sweet and VJSLB for your condolences. you truly are my support team. She was so happy that i quit, she was going to quit this summer when I vacationed with her. Half the time her cigarette would lie in the ashtray and go out. She was so special, we would laugh tilll my stomach hurt. We goofed up the Satelite Dish so bad once a technician had to come out and it took him awhile.
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((((KAREN333)))) So sorry to hear about your Godmother.
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Karen,
It's good to see you talking about the good times.... Thats what you need to do. Of course you will grieve and that is important, but remembering the good times will help get you through. I often think of my mom and how proud she would be of me quitting. I came across a video tape of my kids at Christmas the other day, even though the tape is basically ruined, if I fast forward the tape, I can see it better. Well, to my surprise, there was my mom back in 1992, when she was still a smoker. She quit shortly after that and never touched another cigarette EVER. She was a strong woman....she has raised me to be a good person... I want to be as strong as she was. I am learning to be as strong as she was.
If you need to talk, feel free.
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Karen: My condolences. It's great that you quit at one cig. Last time I quit (before this one, my final quit!), I started back after my husband died. It was stupid to smoke again, as if that solved anything; but I tried to give myself a little bit of a break; after all, a loved one's death is a hell of a thing to have to go through.
All: I wanted to let you all know I'm facing a new challenge now. After my ooph last week, they told me I have ovarian cancer. It was a complete shock. I saw a gyn onc today and they want to do some scans to check for spread, but so far it looks like it was caught early. I'm most likely looking at additional surgery and a round of chemo for the ov ca. I'm trying real hard to not project the worst, but as you all know, waiting for all the tests and for a plan to be put in place is the hardest part. I should know more at my f/u appt. on March 3. Those of you who believe in the power of prayer, will you please pray for me and for my DH (Mark)? I appreciate all my friends here! Regina
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(((Regina)))
Of course you are in my prayers. What a shock that must have been. After all you have already been through, now this. I pray there is no spread of the cancer.
Let us know when you find anything out.
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Just a quick note, I saw my daughter, I saw the cigarettes in the front seat, I got my movies, I did NOT bumm a smoke.
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good for you sweet, it would have been so easy to do. My daughter and I were to quit on the same day, she was using Chantix and couldn't take the loss of sleep and bizarre dreams. She lives dowstairs from me and I can smell it when she lights up, It doesn't smell as good as it used to.
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karen,
I was going to try chantex, but the cardiologist was against it. Said he wont write for it anymore because his patients were "flipping out" from it. So Im using the patch with good results.
My daughter isnt ready yet. She told me she wanted to quit, but when I told her to go buy the patch and pointed out that yes, it was an upfront expense, (she buys a pack a day and Im sure hasnt looked at the monthly cost till I pointed it out) but she would save so much more in the long run, she suddenly dropped the subject. So I assume it just isnt her time yet. Hopefully I will continue to do good and she will follow my lead.
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((((Regina)))) Praying for you and DH...
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Bama,
So glad that you posted an update on your situation here! As I have said in my PM's you SURE have my prayers!!
This is a song that I am listening to now that I simply love!! Hope you do too!... It is a song by the group Sugarland.
Shine The Light
"When you walk into the edge of those
Dark and lonely woods
And when I ask how was your day
And you answer, "Not so good"
And when nothing seems to be working out
Quite the way it should, I will shine the light
And when the skies up above you fill
With gray and stormy clouds
And there's not a single face you know
In the maddening crowd
When you know that you must make your way
But you just can't see how, I will shine the light
I will shine the light, I will shine the light
I will hold you in my arms
Until everything's alright, I will shine the light
And when your worries, they won't let you sleep
And rob you of your days
And you've looked in all directions
But you still you can't find your way
Oh, when you just need someone to remind you
That it's all gonna be okay, I will shine the light
I will shine the light, I will shine the light
When you're staring down your demons
Weighing in your darkest night, I will shine the light
Sometimes we jump into the great unknown
Sorrows, we all will have to walk alone
But waiting there in the end is a heart that calls you friend
That's me, clapping the loudest, welcoming you home
So when your heart is heavy like a stone
From carrying its load
And you look into the mirror
And see someone you don't know
Oh, when the shadows are closing in on you
Like a hand around your throat
I will shine the light, I will shine the light
When you've given into your fears
When you've lost your will to fight
Let me know what I can do
Let me try to make it right
And I will shine the light, I will shine the light"Sending you a HUGE hug and praying that all will be OK, my friend!
Diagnosis: 5/8/2009, ILC, 2cm, Stage IIa, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-0 -
Sweet
Good for you!!!
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sweet, my daughter quit once using the gum, quit for almost a year, then started slowly smoking again. She is as you said not ready now, but that time will come again, she is a strong lady. She was my rock when I was diagnosed, came to all appts. with me, asked questions, took notes, drove to all the out of town appts. She actually found this site for me, it was right after I had finished rads. And I so needed to find more support, this BCO org.has been a blessing for me with all my cyber friends. Funny Aunt Teresa story, she was trying to tell me she didn't like Two and a Half Men and called it Three Men and a Son. Real close but no cigar, she laughed so hard when I told her the real name.
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Regina
((((((HUGS)))) and of course prayers for you and DH
God Bless
Jan
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Sweet,
WaaaaaHoooo! Good for you in getting past that hurdle without smoking!!!
As for your daughter, as we all know, when it's your time, you will do it! She will get there on her own schedule! With you leading the way, how could she go wrong???
From your posts here I do think you are a good person and a strong woman... As for your Mom... I think she would be very proud of you!!!
Karen,
While it is sooooo hard to lose someone that you are very close to, focus on the good memories because that is what will get you through!! Those people in our lives that can just make us so happy that we laugh out loud are the BEST! Praying that you will find comfort in this difficult time!
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{{{KAREN}}} so sorry for your loss.
(((REGINA))) prayers going up for you and your DH. May God's blessings surround you both.
{{SWEET}} Good for you! So proud!
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