Stop Smoking Support Thread
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It is pretty difficult but I am going to try again tomorrow I want to but my brain is telling me different if that makes sense.
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Myers - I saw on another thread that you feeling OK after surgery. Smaller is better! Congrats and I hope the healing continues. I'm sure it's a stressful time to quit.
Johnetta - Thanks for sharing things that are working for you. Just for today...
We're all with you. It is the HARDEST thing I have ever done - bar none - and I've had some doozies. No disrespect, but I found BMX & treatment for recurrent BC (which is truly a bitch) is a snap compared to quitting smoking.
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Thanks minus it is pretty stressful but on the other hand it should be a no brainier..If I want this skin to heal properly I have to quit. I wanna go to my flw up Tuesday an tell my ps I quit = )
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www.greensmoke.com Seriously ladies, this is one of the reasons I was able to quit. I bought their e-cigs and I have no smoked since April 20th 2013 after smoking over a pack a day (sometimes less sometimes more) for 45+ years. I swear by vaping. I still use them with nicotine (smallest amount) but it beats lighting up AND I only take a few tokes a day (hahhahah tokes, you can tell what generation I am from) and I am good to go. Initially, I wore the patch and used the e-cigs and even chewed some of the gum when I needed to. I read VJ's e-book and I used positive reinforcement like putting the cash I would spend in a jar and watching it grow.
If I can quit, so can you. I loved smoking. Truly loved it. One day at a time and don't worry if you slip up. Just keep quitting over and over again if you have to. The more you try, the easier it will get.
Best of luck to all. This is one of the hardest roads to travel. I certainly know that better than many do.
But, it is a road we can all walk and stay on the path. I promise you.
Feel free to PM me for any more information. If you smoke Marlboro and want an e-cig that tastes similar, get the "red-label" from greensmoke. It tastes similar. Or try any e-cig you want but I swear by them! Now I need them so little, it costs me about 5 bucks a month for the amount I use them! Only when I am truly stressed do I vape.
Also, PM VJ and get her book! It is free to BCO members. She is a sweetie and will send it right out.
Beckers, where are you girlfriend????????????????
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Hi Happy Sunday everyone .. I am still smoke free still going strong .. glad to see everyone is doing good .. I miss you too beckers ... hope all is well... Hugs
Lisamarie
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Hi everyone. I am new here. Today is my 4th day of my chemo treatment and I have not been able to quit smoking yet. I used to smoke about a pack a day, more or less, and now I am down to about 5 a day. I don't know that I want to quit, but I know I have to. I admire all of you who are able to do it. Great job! I will stick around here to see if it rubs in....lol.
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I'm with you Andrea I had my 2nd exchange Friday because of skin not healing I said I was gonna try today but I definitely did not succeed. I am hoping that returning to work tomorrow with help me. I agree with you I admire all the women here who have quit so much!
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Welcome to all who are just coming in . I say it all the time the women here are so great, they are the best support I have ever had . If I did not keep coming back here I probably would not have quit . I would have kept smoking . But the ladies here stick with me and support me .. and never say anything bad .. only positive .. so happy thoughts to all.. "just for today I will not smoke " ... Andrea going from a pack a day to 5 a day is a big accomplishment .. be proud of yourself. Meyers .. you can do it tooo .... have a Great Monday all
Hugs
Lisamarie
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Hi to everyone and the newcomers. I was like LisaMarie .... there will be a trigger that will make you sit up and say "no more". For me, it was breast cancer .... if I didn't get it, I would probably be still smoking. We all get it how great "we thought smoking was" but as you age, it's not so great. You will find that trigger and it will set you free. Another thing that kept me from smoking was my sister-in-law who is a nurse. She kept telling me not to smoking as my body needed the oxygen to heal. Now if that isn't a kick in the butt ... I heard it and ran with it. Ladies, we are all here for you as we have all walked your path. April, I'm so proud of you; LisaMarie, glad you are smoke free and not counting the days .... I initially did that and when I got to one month, I was like you .... only count in months. I am of the same opinion as you that counting in days is harder but months is a "big thing". Anyways, I'm talking too much ... ladies it's probably one of the hardest things to do but it will become easier after some time. MinusTwo .... where are all the other ladies who used to be on this thread .... hope they are all doing great!
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Judi, I thought the breast cancer was the thing that would have me stopped forever too .. I made it over 3 months .. my BMX and my Implants .. then I guess I thought I was free to do it again.. and you know the rest . But I do think not smoking helped me heal a lot faster .. Now I guess seeing my aunt die from the emphysema and holding her hand .. that did me in ... and to know my Mom will die that way as well .. has made me think I don't want my kids and grandchildren to see me die like that .. anyway I keep rambling on and on ... lol ... glad you are all here once again.Hugs
Lisamarie
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LisaMarie - one more day. Good going.
My trigger was when my Dad died. I had been traveling to CA every month for years after my Mom had her stroke. Mom had her stroke just after my son graduated from college so I was finally going to have some time for myself, but... When she died, I gradually got the big house that they'd been in since 1949 cleaned out & sold and moved Dad into a smaller rental. He lived almost two years after she died - to age 96 - and we had some wonderful trips in those two years, but i was still out there every month. Neither of them ever smoked so I always had to find a few minutes to get away & somewhere that I could indulge. Needless to say I had a wonderful boss who let me work "long distance" one week a month. Don't get me wrong - I don't begrudge any of those times taking care of my folks, but I was worn out. Once everything was done, it was like - now time for me?? So I started exercising & working out, walking 3 miles a day, quit eating fast foods, started planning some vacations just for me, and quit smoking - 7/11/07 quit date. You'll be pleased to know that I didn't give in when the company decided to close the Houston office in the end of 2007 - don't ask me how!! I lucked out finding another job in 2008 - close to home with very little stress, so I kept up my routines up until I got BC February 2011. And I still didn't give in, although I have several friends who reminded me that I always said the first thing I'd do if I was ever diagnosed w/a 'dread' disease would be to buy a pack of smokes. But by then I was 3-1/2 years w/o cigarettes, so I dealt w/BMX & reconstruction and worked through the end of 2012 when the job ended. Hey - time for me to plan some travels again?? Oops... Here comes BC back again in March 2013 - I still haven't given in.
BUT - I am a smoker. I'm just a smoker who isn't smoking. I'm not that strong. I just know that I can not have one puff. As much as I loved it, as much as I still miss it - I just can't. EVER.
OK - TMI but maybe a saga isn't bad once in awhile. Or you can ignore my ramblings.
Go for it ladies!!!
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LisaMarie .... many, many hugs to you ... what a hard thing to go through but you have seen it the hard way and are determined not to go through it. Bravo! I'm sorry to hear that your mom will go through the same thing your aunt went through .... very heart sickening .... we are always with you!
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MinusTwo ... congrats on your ramblings .... well said. You know, you are right when you said "I am a smoker who is just not smoking" .... isn't that the truth. Yes, you have dealt with a lot in your life and I agree it is time for you .... go for it girl!
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Hi Ladies ... still doing well and thinking yes yes I too am always going to be a smoker that is not smoking.. sounds funny but it is true.. Judi, My mom has COPD and she says she is going to try to stop but she wont . I know more than anything that it is hard to do. I can hear her coughing and not breathing good while we are on the phone and she is so far away in Vegas and I am in NY so its sad not to see her ... Anyway I am just checking in and sending hugs to those who need it ... have a great day Ladies ..
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LisaMarie - wonderful news that you're holding strong. Keep going.
Sending strong thoughts out to Myers, Ziggy, Johnetta - and everyone else who is in the middle of the journey, or just starting, or starting again.
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Hello ladies .... another snow evening in wonderful Ontario .... hope it stops sooooon! LisaMarie, you have said the words that I have been thinking .... yes you are a smoker who has chosen not to smoke. See, you are finally there and you realized it on your own. I'm sorry to hear about your mother, you and all of us know what it is like .... sometimes there comes a point in some people's lives when they have just had enough and want to continue the way it has been ..... be there for your mom, she needs you. To all the others in the journey, hope all is well. Thinking of you all!
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I just want to thank you all for sharing your support and encouragement here, it really helped me today when I was talking with my SIL and giving her support to quit smoking. Even though I used to smoke I never know sometimes what to say to be encouraging. So once again thanks to all of you.
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Ok Ladies .. Another trigger for me is stress.... and heartache .. so I did not buy cigarettes. I did however buy goldfish, sweedish fish, and rolos ... lol I am so stressed due to my financial situation .. and as poor as I am smoking would not make that $ situation any easier , since smokes are $11. a pack here... On another note .. I maybe a crazy nut but my boyfriend shows me a text message from the lady down the block ... and in it she sends a picture of herself and a text that says she misses us and wants us to go watch football with them ... ok so she said she misses us ... but who the hell sends a photo of themselves ... to me she is looking for attention from my bf .... regardless that it is asking us both to come watch football... so I am so fucking stressed out .. and not to mention sick to my stomach ... maybe I am wrong .. my bf says she sent the picture because she is smiling and wants us to see that .. maybe im a jealous insecure bitch with fake boobs ... maybe I am an emotional fucking mess ... maybe I am so depressed I want to die sometimes .. OMG I am so sorry for this rant ... on a good note I did not smoke and will not smoke ... at least I am getting through the trigger ...... Hugs everyone
Lisa Marie
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((((Lisamarie)))) I hope you are feeling better and got thru it ok....just BC alone is enough to make us a mess...then not smoking on top of it is just overwhelming at times. No need to apologize. Deep breaths...hugs to you.
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LisaMarie - RANT ON. That's why we're here. Can you have a glass of wine w/o wanting to smoke? Or do you have some mild anti-anxiety drugs to make it over the hump?
Warning, don't smoke the goldfish. It wouldn't make enough of an appetizer to take to the neighbor bitch anyway. On the other hand - it is almost superbowl sunday. Sounds like she has a DH or BF since she said 'we'. Maybe she's just into 'selfies' and wants to be a rock star? And your fake boobs probably look better than her real ones anyway!! So if you like football, maybe go?? But maybe YOU answer the invite and not your BF so you're in control?
On the other hand - do they smoke? Oops - maybe not go. Or does your BF smoke? That would be hard. WOW $11.00 a pack. My first husband quit when they went to $0.25 per pack. Sorry about the job situation. Did you decide to do some training? Would it be worth volunteering just to get out of the house & back into the work scene?
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LisaMarie .... pull up your big girl panties after you stop ranting. Never, never, ever think that someone has more then you or is better then you .... MinusTwo is right, your boobs probably look a million times better then her's. God only made you and he knew how to make it right! Really, by posting a "selfie" of oneself, what does that tell you .... they need to be validated. I don't understand why she text your bf but for me, that wouldn't work. You need to work on that and decide who is going to control the "relationship". In all honesty, it has to be an honest, sharing relationship. I'm a little like you so I probably would tell the "neighbour" that I wouldn't be coming to watch football. Maybe suggest to move it to a bar or another home where you are in the driver's seat. You have a lot to think about but you need to be honest about the situation "what is the neighbour's intent". Is she so into herself that she thinks your bf is interested in her or wants her, or maybe she is just being nice. Decide and then move on! Never look back because you are one hell of a person!
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Thank you everyone .. yes she does have a bf .. but the text I guess ment for both of us to come over ... but still If I were texting a man friend of mine that was also friends with my bf , I certainly would not send my photo with it .. that to me is her ssking for something without saying it .. like did she want a response like oh you look great or what the fuck .. excuse my language ... but we are not going ! ... my bf said she was just doing that t be nice and show us she was smiling .. Oh really how fucking dumb can you be ... anyway .. if i see her out when I pass her home , I will stop and say that I do not find it appropriate for her to send my bf pictures of herself.. or is that being like in HS .. lol who knows I am 45 , I am beautiful and I should not worry .. lol at least that is what I keep telling myself .. My Bf smokes and so does she ... It's really a challange here at home ... like this morning my bf took the unlit smoke and put it up to my mouth .. i said nice .. why would u do that .. he said oh if you are quit a smoke in your mouth is not going to make you want to smoke .. if you quit then you dont want to smoke and nothing can make you smoke ... well i said why dont you quit , you sound horrible ,.. he wheezes and coughs.. he says because he can't stop ... oh I say gotcha ... anyway I am not smoking i will not .. and sorry to jump here and there .. but I am studying for my CDL to drive an ambulette and I am also taking my asssociate degree in applied science vet tech .. I am also starting the gym today with my girlfriend from work ... I am now up to 113.6lbs .. not too bad .. but Id like to tome up .. so this morning it's off to planet fitness .. you girls are the best and I thank you so much ... you all keep my head screwed on straight .. Hugs and have a great weekend ...xoxoxoxo
Lisamarie
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Hi Ladies!
Been awhile since I've been here! Just popping in to say how glad I am that you all are doing well!
On this date, 4 YEARS ago I smoked my last cigarette! Never thought I could quit and it wasn't easy but I don't regret it!
I started a quit meter using QuitNet and here's a snippet of the e-mail I received this morning...
Your Quit Date is: Monday, January 18, 2010 at 11:01:00 AM
Time Smoke-Free: 1460 days, 18 hours, 3 minutes and 45 seconds
Cigarettes NOT smoked: 29215
Lifetime Saved: 7 months, 13 days, 4 hours
Money Saved: $14,025.60
LisaMarie,Cigarettes are about the same price where I am! So these could be your numbers down the road!
Hope you all have a great day! Stay warm and remember.... Just for today!
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LisaMarie, you sure do have a lot going on with your life and to put up with that crap! Think twice about telling her what you think when you see her .... she'll know that she has one up on you and will know what turns your crank. Also, I'd tell bf to stop with the tricks with her and the smokes .... you have so much going for you, that you don't need this crap in your life. Good for you with all of your studying .... you will come out on top very soon! Seaside, congrats on the quit date. My quit date is Dec. 20/10 so I'm not far behind you but I question the number of smokes that they say you haven't smoked .... what do they base that number on .... one pack a day .... interesting though when you see the numbers .... yikes!
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Thanks for the congrats Judi!
The Time Smoke-Free, Cigarettes Not Smoked and Money Saved are based on information that I entered when I started the quit meter back when I quit...such as date/time I quit, number of cigarettes I smoked per day (in my case 1 pack per day) and cost per pack ( I think at the time they were less expensive... maybe $9.50?). So for cigarettes not smoked it's pretty close.. 4 years x 365 days/year x 20 cigarettes in a pack comes to 29,200 and, accounting for a partial day having gone by today, add a few more and 29,215 is pretty close to reality! As for lifetime saved, well who knows how they arrived at that but I'll take it..lol!
Kind of mind boggling how it adds up!
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Judi , you always make things better and know how to make me smile . The gym was great today .. I really enjoyed the company of my girlfriend .. but now It will be a long weekend stuck home ... well at least Monday she said she will go to gym again .. and yes I decided not to say a word she is a drug addict and a tramp anyway .. I do know I am way better than her any day ... I just Love ya Judi thanks so much ... xoxoxo Seaside I am so sorry congrats on the 4 years and I miss you ... Hugs
Lisa marie
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LisaMarie, now haven't you answered your own questions ... good for you for being a better and classier person because that is who you are. See, when you break things down then you see the real picture. Great for going to the gym .... I'm jealous of you on two fronts .... you went and your such a tiny little thing. But I'm starting back tomorrow and am trying to watch what I eat. Way, way back in July I was toned and in great shape. Then tons of crap hit at work and I was buried. I'm starting to see the sunlight but said enough ... it is time for me. So, my goal is to fit back into that silly bikini I bought last year. Truth will be known when I get on the scale how much I have to lose or tone. LisaMarie, it's great that you have a friend to go to the gym but don't let that stop you. You don't have to be stuck at home all weekend other then your snowed in or studying. Please, please take time for yourself. I told you before and I'll tell you again, you are Number 1 and make sure you remember that. Seaside, interesting numbers you presented .... I guess I was wondering what the real number was when we were out having a good time and smoked more, or when we were stressed and smoked more. But, I see how they came to the conclusion. It's amazing isn't it ... God, we would have been rich, old ladies and on a cruise all the lounge wolfs would have been after us .... LOL!
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Seaside - good to see you & congrats. I have to agree w/Judi about a "real" number. I know there were many days I smoked 2 packs - like when I was out dancing &/or drinking w/friends. And since I'm of the generation that everyone smoked at home, I used to smoke two packs on the days we played bridge. And we used to smoke in our offices - so that was all day long, but to tell the truth most of those burned out in the ashtray while I was working. But if we'd be that rich w/just one pack....wow.
Judi - you've written wonderful advice to LisaMarie. And every bit of it is true. I've had the opposite problem - too much weight loss due to chemos. So now I have no fat, hanging skin & no toning. Wish I could make myself go back to the gym.
LisaMarie - I'm glad you're listening. WTH is it w/smokers that seem to want to keep us all chained to the cigarettes. I have a friend who's husband is the same way & insists she come outside & sit with him while he's smoking. Tell that BF to flip off. It's hard enough w/o people 'teasing' (or worse). Hope he's not smoking in your house. That really makes it hard. Glad you decided to just ignore the bitch neighbor. Fantastic that you're going to the gym. But Judi is right - don't sit at home on the weekends. Maybe check out the museums? Isn't the gym open weekends? Maybe take one of the classes & you might meet some new friends. It was hard for me to go by myself, but once I got in the habit it was actually easier since I could set my own schedule. Good work on your studying for two new things.
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MinusTwo, can you hear me "clapping". Never have truer words been spoken .... now LisaMarie, go get the world by the tail. MinusTwo, don't worry about how you look .... your alive. There is all the time in the world to get back to where you were! I'm sure once this whole treatment crap is finished (it is isn't it???) then you will know where MinusTwo wants to go. Lets all be true to ourselves and work on that .... it is who we are that counts. Anyways MinusTwo, I hope you are healthy and "c" free. That is what we all wish for you. LisaMarie, now you have two of us telling you what you already know but heed this advice as we are not in the picture so we can see from the outside in. With that all said ladies, I'm off to the gym after I've had many excuses ... snowing, is it going to snow all day, I've already had toast with butter .... who cares, it is for me! Chow ladies .... have a great day!
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Just checking in ladies .... snow and wine are a great mixture .... thank God it is Sunday and I'm home after exercising today. Isn't life great!
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