Stop Smoking Support Thread
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Lol Judy your too funny ..
Minus another interview tomorrow for a place that works with children and adults with developmental disabilities ... I was hoping that UPS would call me back because it is a seasonal job but after the season you can get hired on .. then its unioin and driverg start at 75 thousand here .. anyway .. we shall see I am just sitting here quietly trying to pray about it and hope for the best ...
Hope everyone is having a great week
xoxoxo
Lisamarie
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Thanks LisaMarie. I hear you about UPS. You want a union job for "pension" when you retire. Call them up and see what they say about how your interview went!
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My sister just retired from UPS as a driver. That is how she started too, as a seasonal helper. Good luck!
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Thanks VJ , I just emailed them in regards to my application and interview, because i dont see an option or phone number to call .. anyway .. still praying .. xo
Lisamarie
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Fingers are crossed for you LisaMarie! Try Fedex as well. I just had a package delivered from a salon in New York and they used them. I was impressed .... got an email stating all the details, tracking number and when the package would arrive. Got here exactly as they said. Hope the shampoo/conditioner/scalp works as I'll be ordering more!
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Good idea about calling FedEx too. They do hire seasonal help & promote from within. Many of the things I've ordered lately are coming by "smart post" - a combination of FedEx and the US Post office.
SVG - How's it going?
CBWitt - please check in with us - smoking or not.
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Judi - sorry about my memory, but I can't remember when you leave for the sunshine state. I know you must be getting excited.
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MT, getting excited. We are leaving on Nov. 20/15 and heading to Orange Lake first and then onto Brayington. I need this trip as our life has been very hectic. We had our upper windows replaced, trying to have our mortgage renewed with another company, dh's mother's condo sold, and the list goes on. Oh final straw, dh had to go to court today for a big ticket he got on the Labour Day weekend - failing to move into another lane when there is a police car with the lights on at the side of the road. But things are coming together: the ticket was quashed, our windows look fantastic (oh yeah our blinds didn't fit afterwards so had them cut down thanks to a friend), our mortgage should be renewed by tomorrow (closing date is Nov. 1/15 & we've only been dealing with this since August) and I'm awaiting news on my mammo which I figure should be o.k. has I've no news. I don't know if you all have heard but our notorious former Mayor Rob Ford was just diagnosed again with his tumour returning. Didn't care for the guy but that just sucks.
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MinusTwo...still smoking. I'm having major anxiety about starting Tamoxifen. It's just sitting on my counter. Waiting. The Oncologist gave me Effexor also. It's sitting there waiting by the Tamoxifen. I just HATE to take either one. Am I being unreasonable?? Ugh. And if my PS finds out I'm smoking he will kill me. Or probably dismiss me as a patient. So frustrating. Why do cigs have to be so bad??!
C
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LisaMarie, I agree about Fed Ex being another good option. Many vendors are using them instead of UPS or USP so why not give them a try? Definitely well paying jobs if they keep you. Hugs!
Judi, you must be getting excited! I know I would be for sure. Vacation is the best part of the year. Last year, did not have one nor this year but next I will go to FL to our timeshare. I miss it. We were just too broke to go the last few years but this year, we are going! Lodging is there, I cook some of our meals to save so it is just plane fare and car rental. So, I told hubby, we are going no matter what.
CBWitt, you will know when you are ready. No other way to put it. It just "happens" and then you roll with it from there. Many of us took a long time to quit. It took me over 40 years of smoking to finally quit and make it stick after quitting at least 5 or 6 times.
suersis, I am so sorry to hear of your progression. Hugs and hopefully whatever the MO prescribes keeps you dancing with NED for a good long time.
MT, you are probably right. She will think Grandma is a meanie for sharing the photo but she is too stinkin cute not to! LOL
Bosum, VJ and everyone else, hope you are doing well.
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April, I sooooo looking forward to this vacation. It's going to be different as we are now retired so on no time frame. Biggest problem is our Canadian loonie keeps falling so to do the conversion to American money hurts. But what we would spend in Canada we will spend in Florida. It will all work out. LisaMarie, everyone is on the bandwagon for FedEx - they are a big company. I honestly don't see the UPS truck up here in Ontario anymore. CB, don't stress about the ciggies ... it will all come together in good time. I didn't want the tami so I went on Femara as my oncologist said it was for menopausal women and a few other things. It was my choice and I found it to be good for me. Seuris (or Judi) so sorry to hear about the little setback. I always worried that I would have lung cancer after because of all the smoking. I remember having to do a lung x-ray after my surgery and needless to say, I was scared shitless. Once cancer is enough for anyone. Bosum, VJ and all the others, where are you .... come back! MT, morning!
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Ok Ladies this morning I will go on the Fed Ex web site and apply .. you gals are amazing
Judi , I want to get into your bags and come along .. Florida is my Happy state, my fav place to be .. enjoy the trip and the time ... the beauty .
Seuris.. I am sorry as well to hear your story . I am now wondering about myself . Ive been quit a year now and I feel winded a lot especially during activity .. but not as bad as you mentioned that all you could do was sit ..
. I had to stay in hospital this past summer for 3 days due to an errupted cyst from my ovary and I was told then that I had COPD in both my lower lobes .. so I am not sure what to think .. so sorry for your setback ..BOSOM .. where the heck are you .. xoxoxo
CBWITT .. I decided to not take tamoxifen , I just went ahead and did the mastectomy but for each of us it is different .. you know when you are able you will be back at not smoking in no time ..xoxo hugs to you .
Judi , I know about usp .. but I always tought that was jus the post office .. anyway I have the interview at the maryhaven place os working with folks wth disabilities ,,, at 1pm... and I will take time this am to do fed ex..
April and everyone else thanks so much for the help with the jobs .. you are all a blessing in my life ,,,
Have a great day ...
Lisamarie
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Bosum, you probably look "fantastic" but we are the worst skeptics of ourselves. I know how you feel though even though I didn't lose a breast. My problem was an "inverted" nipple. I'm 99% over it and I honestly have to laugh when dh says to stay where I am and he'll get the BBQ tongs out and just pull the nipple out. For me, I like to be in control and when I did my last mammo I thought the radiologist looked at my nipple and kinda shuddered. It bothered me for a bit but then I moved on. I do have control over the situation and I decided not to let her look get to me. Hope this is you as well but it is always hard with a "new love interest". Maybe just be upfront with them at the beginning and then it will be no biggie. I know it is easy for me to say but I truly hope this is "no biggie for the both of you". Plus, it must be hard to be "broke" in much the same situation as LisaMarie. Girls, it will all turn around for you. Just keep hanging tough! LisaMarie, I'm a little worried about Florida for a few reasons, that being, no friends, alligators and the money as well. But the trip part I'm looking forward to. Honestly, if dh and I make it out of Ontario together then the trip should be a breeze!
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When I was dating I had a rule, I didn't mention the BC until I knew my clothes were coming off. And then it was just a flip comment that I'm not a barbie doll and I have some scars. Not that there were very many, but no guy even had a problem. I just kept thinking of Billy Crystals joke that women need a reason to have sex, men don't need a reason, they just need a place
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Here, here VJ! Very well said. I never heard that one from Billy Crystal but doesn't it just ring true! Gotta laugh with it!
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VJ - right on. I don't guess many grown ups sit in cars and "pet" anymore. No need to discuss BC after-effects unless the relationship progresses to the naked stages.
Bosum - how fun that you have a romantic interest. Just enjoy yourself girl!!! And we'll keep our fingers crossed that you find a job also.
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Bosom, So sorry t know that you are struggling right along with me ... I am so frustrated most days ..What are you doing a 30 day training for ? that is the part that kills me I paid 3000 for my training class in Hemodialysis and been in health care all my life and cant get a friggen job... I go at 5:30 am thursday to FED EX .. I guess you have to watch the loading process then do application ...As far as my feelings on my scars and stuff , I don't think I can ever date another man .. maybe I could but I hate to mention BC and scars . I guess I am lucky right now in that way .. because the BF now says he would love me if I get them taken out .. anyway best of luck xoxoxoxo you can talk to me anytime ..
Judi.. awe don't worry about the Alligators , I lived in Florida 10 years and had no issues with them and I have seen them up close in peoples back yards and up on the shore of the lake i lived on at one time ..People In Florida are most kind .. I have some amazing friends in florida .. I really hope you have an amazing time .. xoxoxo
I am seriously thinking about taking my implants out as they are so uncomfortable and of course after replacing them 3 times .. i still ahve one smaller and dents nad ripples and they look horriable and stay cold ..
Happy Halloween Everyone ...
Br safe
Lisamarie
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Bosum, don't fret. You will get the hang of the computer. What did you buy. If you bought a MAC or any other computer, just go go the file on the top browser and "save" and or "print". Let me know if this works!
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Bosum - my son keeps telling me a MAC would be much easier, but I "grew up" with Windows and I don't like change. My solution is Avast free anti-virus program, ad blocker, and I don't click much any links if I'm not sure of the sender. That works for me until something goes wrong, then I yell loudly to my son in CA, who again tells me that I should switch to MAC but helps me fix the problem. Hope the tablet works better for you once you get used to it.
Halloween night & I caved in & bought candy this year. Last year I turned out all the lights & hid in my bed since I was still in active treatment. Anyway, I've only had 5 or 6 groups of kids and it's 8pm. I'll turn the lights out shortly, since I like the little ones & not the teens. Now someone will have to eat this candy!!!
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MT and Bosum, I ended up buying a MAC about 5 years ago and its the best thing I did. I gave up when dh went on "flash your rack" and we ended up with viruses. I said "no more" and bought a MAC and never looked back. Those "porn" sites are usually in Russia and you end up having problems. Dh went on a site this year to look at some "American newscaster in a bikini" and ended up having his iPad frozen. The link was for Russia and we ended up calling Apple itself. They unfroze the computer but the guy on the other end in Russia wanted over $100 to fix the problem ... said he was an authorized dealer for MAC which MAC doesn't have. You do have to be careful. For Halloween I cheaper out and we went out for dinner. Have been doing this for the last 6 years since the kids walked right by our door to go to the other side of the development (more homes). I was pissed as I was sitting right outside watching them. Dh had to take all the candy/chips to the fire station so we could get rid of them. But so happy that you weren't bombarded with kids, MT!
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BILATERAL MAMMOGRAM
CLINICAL HISTORY: 59-year-old female with a history of left lumpectomy and sentinel node biopsy in 2010 and radiation therapy in 2011. Routine screening.
COMPARISON: Multiple prior mammograms, most recent from October 10, 2014.
FINDINGS:
The breasts are heterogeneously dense. Stable post-therapeutic changes in the left breast. There is no suspicious mass nor microcalcification nor architectural distortion to suggest malignancy.
IMPRESSION:
No mammographic evidence of malignancy. Stable left breast post-therapeutic changes.
Routine followup is recommended.Ladies, this are the results from my mammo on October 15th. Had a bit of a heart attack when I read "stable post-therapeutic changes in the left breast". WTH, can they not say it in English so you understand.
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Hurray Judi , seems all is well .. xoxoxo .. I am also a windows girl and lately my computer has been acting slow to load pages and type sometimes .. I think I have a virus .. because I get pulled intot hose scams like work from home on computer things and omg 10 pages will pop up at a time ,,,I need to have someone to look at it .. this is strange too , I went from my IPHONE that I love to an android Galaxy .. that Google runs and I could not stand it or work it ,, Therefore had to go back to my IPHONE ...
Minus .. As for Halloween I think I had maybe 10 kids and it depressed me so much .. so needless to say I still have a big bowl of candy and extra bags put away .. i am going to just keep getting fatter .. The more I sit home without a car and a job .. the mpre depressed I am becoming and I just dont kow anymore .. Last night I took my sleeping medicine around 9 and was wide awake until 1 am ... my mind races and i worry and I feel this dark sadness all around me .. but I don't want to be on anti depressants ..
Bosom, I know .. I am sorry you would think I would have a better self esteem these days but I just don't . I am sorry if I made you mad or uspset you .. I also have been in a kind of tiff with my oldest so she is not really speaking to me because im back her at BF house .. but when I needed her help and stuff she said well you know I have a family of 4 and a dog .. I felt devistated and like some piece of crap .. I know she wants what she wants but life is't always the way you want it .. anyway , I am a natural born people pleaser and its what i do please everyone but me ... sad but true .. so I think the depression stems also from ot bieng able to see my grandchildren as wel.. but on a happy note I stole a photot off facebook to show the Halloween Costumes .. and my dear loving son in NC sent me the one of my youngest granddaughter the cat
made me smile ..xoxoxoxoWell I am rambling on and on Happy Sunday to all
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I hate that it only lets us put one pohoto in at a time ... love ya all ladies
Lisamarie
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LisaMarie .... I love the photos. Your grandkids are so beautiful and they look so happy to be going out on Halloween. Love it! Thanks for the "cheers" re mammo. I truly hope I'm done with this shit. Now for you girl ..... don't worry so much. A lot of us are "people pleasers" but in all honesty, we allow people to treat us they way they do. I not being hard on you because I'm very much the same way but sometimes you just gotta stand up and tell them all to "move on". Yes, you are caught between a rock and a hard stone but you will see the light at the end of the tunnel. Keep looking! Head held high ..... don't think so much .... life is short so enjoy. I love saying this to people but I also need to follow this advice!
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What Judi Said... And I'm another one that shouldn't talk too loud because I do the same. I think we were all raised to be "pleasers", because i hope to hell it's not genetic. urgh... One thing I laugh about that I did do right - when my son was growing up & we were all at the dinner table, if DH or DS wanted more iced tea or milk, I'd say, 'you know where the fridge is'. They learned to serve themselves but didn't often think to ask if I wanted anything while they were up. It's hard to learn to put ourselves first, and sometimes we MUST do that.
LisaMarie - I absolutely HATE taking any kind of pills. But it's no good for your mind to cycle round & round. Is there a very mild anti-depressant you might take just occasionally that doesn't give you any side effects? Wish I knew more about the subject. Grandkids are adorable. Good luck at FedEx.
I plan to take all my left over candy to my neighbors. I'll ring their bells and say 'trick or treat in reverse'.
Judi - fantastic news about the mammo. You're right about the convoluted language. If you get worried in the future, just make them do an ultrasound of the 'post therapeutic changes'. Do you have 'clips' leftover from previous surgeries or biopsies? We've been talking about that on another thread.
BTW - I didn't see any of the parents who were walking the kiddies around last night smoking out in the street. The worm has turned. We always walked with smokes and drinks.
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MT, love the reverse "trick or treat". Good idea! Yes, I think we were all trained to be "pleasers", ugggggh! MT, I also shared these results with my SIL who is a nurse and a friend's daughter who is a resident doctor. Both say "yay" on the results. I agree that the wording is convoluted. I was able to print the report and the mammo and when I see the oncologist in Feb. I'm going to ask. Or better yet, I'm going to call the Cancer Clinic tomorrow. Will let you know what they say!
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LisaMarie, your grandchildren are ADORABLE...so cute!
MT, it is NOT genetic. The last thing my son or my daughter are is "people pleasers" unlike their Mom who most definitely is. My ex husband, their Dad, must have handed that gene down to them cause he was certainly not a people pleaser..LOL
Judi, YAY on a clean Mammo!
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Happy belated Halloween to everyone!
It's day 33 and still no smoking for me. My DH quit on Friday night and so far so good with him (fingers crossed).
I can't describe how freeing this feels. It's funny, because in order to "think back" to a time I was a non-smoker I'd have to travel back to age 13. I always perceived this as a problem - that I never made any adult memories as a non-smoker. But now I think it's a benefit - I'm feeling like a child again - a pre-teen who hadn't yet started making stupid, life-changing decisions yet. It's a nice place to start the new non-smoking me from. Each day that passes I feel more distance from addicted smoker me...
For those that are still trying to quit, or trying to figure out why or when to quit - if I could give my strength to you I would! I have no idea where this strength came from, but I'm pulling it fresh out of my *ss and it seems to be working.
P.S. Yay JudiH, clean mammo ftw!
P.P.S. lisamarie68, I take a daily small dose of sertraline for depression/anxiety and it takes just enough edge off. It took me a long time to be comfortable w/ the concept of meds.....needing them, taking them, etc. But I'm over it and better off for it. I fought depression not just w/ pills but mental exercises/willpower and a couple years of counseling. Whatever you decide, I hope you've pulled out of the darkness and that only light surrounds you!
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Yay SVGsurvive! You and your husband are on the road to being nonsmokers. Day 33 .... I know when I quit and got to this date, I thought I'm done with smokes. The fact that you haven't cave is so memorable that you don't even think of going back. On Saturday night I was out to dinner with my neighbour and her smoker's cough was so bad that I wanted to say something. Today when I went to her house, she said to me that she has to quit because she was "coughing so bad". I then spoke up. But I wondered what I would have been like if I didn't have cancer (because that's why I quit) .... would I still have been smoking and discouraging her from quitting! Probably because I needed another friend!
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SVG - HOORAY. 33 days is a real accomplishment. Great thoughts for LisaMarie on depression. In fact your entire post was very relevant. Good luck to your DH.
Judi - We all have a trigger. I did not quit after diagnosed w/BC. In fact I'm really pissed that I quit and then got BC 4 years later. Anyway, I quit after my last parent died and I realized I could no longer travel where I wanted to go (now that I no longer had to take care of them) if I was tied to the smokes. Probably that was enhanced by the fact that my BFF died of pancreatic cancer 2 years before that - and she was my long time smoking buddy. None of my other friends smoked. I like to think that you would have quit since you had the love of your life to travel with.
April - I think most of the younger generation missed the "pleaser/helper" gene. I guess we listened to Gloria Steinem & somehow taught our children things that we couldn't manage to do ourselves.
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