Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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MySunshine - I drove myself to every one of 9 chemo treatments + a year of Herceptin except the very first one. Also drove myself to every radiation treatment. It depends on how you feel - and everyone is different.
I suggest that you look at "active threads" and find a group that is starting chemo in the spring and one that is going through surgery. I found it most helpful to communicate with a group that was experiencing everything along "with" me, and those just finishing were most enlightening. The advice about moving dishes down is good. With a mastectomy, most docs don't let you raise your arms above your shoulders for awhile, and don't let you even lift a gallon of milk at first. My son was only here a week after the BMX. You'll do OK.
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Spent some time this morning reading pages to catch up.
Drains are a pain but a necessity. I used wet wipes to run down the drain lines to clear them. Stool softener before and while on pain med was a must. Lots of fluids and protein. After BMX I was told to do the wall crawls three times a day and to do table crawls three times daily.
I rescued a feral cat who lived in the garage for two weeks while I went out daily after school to talk to it. After two weeks, Scout came out and was mine for the next 12 years. Our vet said he'd never had anyone do that. Scout was so sweet and never wanted to leave the house.
We did hire a company to get rid of the squirrels living in the attic. That was an expensive mess.
Our sweet grandgirls were here for Easter. I put new swim suits and an Elsa towel in their baskets. Karina said, " Oh my, oh my, oh my. I love it." So glad to know it will be a hit for her swimming lessons.
Off to buy dog food before my sweet Charli decides to drag another bra out from the laundry basket for a mid day snack
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Teacher, that was so sweet of you! My Daughter has this little black cat, and I helped her make an outdoor home for it. So far, her other 2 cats do not like this new one, but are leaving him alone. In fact the two she has, don't even like each other! They are both older... But so sweet and friendly when they are alone.... Tooter, was given to her, when her neighbors moved, because he was always at Janie's house anyway.
Now this new one.... she is taking him Thursday to have him checked, his ear examined, and neutered, and see if they will find a home for him, or else she will just take him back and see what she can do.... I am really allergic to SOME cats... haven't seen this little black one, but don't want to try it.
I have to ask you guys something......How long do you keep your cake mixes/cookie mixes, etc. Do you always throw them out by the "Best if used by" date? Even canned goods..... DD and her friend were here yesterday, and were showing me all the expired stuff.... I just don't pay attention. We buy things that are on sale, and I HAVE to stop doing that! I just threw away 2 grocery bags of "stuff"....
Pasta lasts forEVER, right? I just never look at the pull date.
Okay yes Teacher..... bra's usually don't have very many vitamins......
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Sunshine, The fearof the surgery is the worst part.....reaching will hurt and prevent healing so best to follow discharge /doctor instructions....you will be a "t-rex", using your hands and arms up to your elbows.....(I was in t-rex mode for the last week and a half for my reconstruction/exchange/revision fat grafting...still a few weeks until I am allowed to bend over, as PS wants my implants to adhere in the CORRECT place.....ummmm me too)
I know my PS nurse said to wear a blouse home, I wore a zip up light weight jacket....a zipper is so much easier than buttons when a bit groggy or tired.......when I had my BMX I wore a fleece zip up, when home from the hospital I have been wearing loose yoga pants and for a top, I step into a tank top.......when I had drains for my BMX I used a flat fanny pack on the front of me and just dropped the drain bulbs in there, as they need to be measured and empty several (or more) times a day.
This cancer cootie bug is a process, we all want it over N-O-W.......it has been more than 2 years since I started this process, I REMEMBER MY FEELING where YOU are NOW...sending hugs from WA,
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Naughty Charli, but so much fun and so very much companionship. Sounds like you were able to have a really quality visit with the grand girls.
Chevy -- most things can be held over and don't have to be tossed right on THE date. Most manufacturers and food companies use that date mainly as it is in general the last ( according to their calculations ) that they can guarantee a totally fresh product and one that will preform as you expect. Like the cake mixes. When there is a good sale on cakes -- I buy some to make dump cake dishes with ) I put them in a freezer bag, seal it good and the cakes don't take up shelf space in the pantry and I don't concern myself as much with the use by date. I also ( if I find a good buy like two for the price of one ) on Lays potato chips I sometimes buy the second one and put it in the freezer as well. It doesn't seem to hurt them. I don't know if they actually last longer or not, since I usually don't have more than one extra bag at a time, but I feel better.
As far as the canned goods -- there again, I think if you kept them too long -- the color might change and the flavor might not be what it should be, but I don't think can goods go as BAD as they once did. I also try and rotate my stuff --- if I keep my pantry from going wild on me by starting my sometimes bad habit of tossing things anywhere if I'm in a hurry. I also have consciously tried not to buy too far in advance with things we may be slow to eat --- I take spells with some food --- preference is peas over gr. beans, and gr. beans over corn. So -- I never stock up much on corn ( I make sure I eat plenty of fresh though ) in a can, nor gr. beans, but usually have beets and peas and a couple cans of mixed veggie's. My pasta usually goes pretty quick so I'm not real sure on that but I think it is solid enough not to undergone much change. You'd likely be more prone to weevils or something probably there. I never worry about the age of pasta.
Jackie
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Coming back to say hi to Di. You know I think we all get a kick out of your cancer cooties'. We all just wanted the alien monster out of us. At least I sure did. Like most of the people here my Dr. told me that I had likely had the cancer for a long time --- some of us heard I think anywhere from 6 to 10 yrs. It is funny to sit and think how you felt when you were un-aware that the time bomb was on its way to becoming active and enjoyed your existence without a care.
So hard to do after you "know". I think before the lumpectomy --- I walked around like I might explode any minute. I just wanted it gone asap but I did wait nearly a month for my surgery. That was great advice about a 'zipper' top.
Hope things are evening out for you too --- and wishing you well with everything in place.
Jackie
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Hi Jackie!
I am certain that I did not have have cancer cooties 366 day before they found it! My digital 3-D mamograms were 1 year+1 day apart.....just a habit my old insurance required before I got on medicare, & they required every two years...thank god I was a newby to Medicare when that damn cancer cootie was found! or it would have had almost 2 years to grow!
Di
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Chevy: This is one of my "hot" buttons. I get so frustrated with "kids" just throwing away things that are perfectly good. Remember cans in the old day? They were good unless dented or a bulge or rusted. They still are. The 'best use' date is only to tell you when the product is at the peak of freshness. And there are several other dates. I buy milk at Kroger because it lasts at least a week past the date on the jug. My adult son will not drink the milk if it's 1 hour past the date. Randall's milk turns the day after the date so you still have to 'sniff'. The saddest thing is that the food pantries for the homeless will no longer accept food that is past the "best use" date. What a shame that tons of food is thrown away that is perfectly fine.
This link has a really good explanation for all the different "expiration dates". Dear Abby has also written about this problem, but it doesn't seem to be helping. The industry is training us to just throw away.
http://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/features/do-foo...
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When Mike was in pilot training in Georgia back in 1971 I met Mary Ann, whose husband was in Mike's class. We became fast friends. We were assigned to different bases and different aircraft after graduation but Mary Ann and I stayed close. Her husband Bob died in an aircraft accident shortly after their arrival at Alamagordo AFB, New Mexico. Mary Ann was left with a 3 year old daughter and a newborn daughter. She was only 23. We saw each other frequently over the next years as she put the pieces of her life back together and moved onto grad school when her girls were a bit older. When we moved to Germany we changed addresses twice the first six months. Meanwhile Mary Ann moved to Nevada, then Ohio, got married, changed her name, and moved again. The post office could not keep up with all the changes so our 1980 Christmas cards to each other were returned with no clue to where the other was. Over the years I've tried to find Mary Ann - now a college professor, but failed until about six months ago when I tried Facebook and found her! Turns out she had been living right under my nose the whole time in St. Petersburg, Florida, my hometown. I had no reason to ever think she would be in Florida, much less in my town where I grew up. Today we had a sweet reunion, 35 years in the making. This impromptu Florida trip has been such a blessing.
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Omg how awesome is that.. u r so speecial
Hope everyone had a wonderful holiday
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The Universe has surely set in motion wonderful things for you Sandra and I say how fantastic is that --- what is meant will happen. No happenstance, coincidences, luck or anything else --- just the Universe intent on showing you that great events will take place. Not maybe when we think they should -- not at a time that is maybe even convenient -- but what we have needed, or wanted, or hoped for either yrs. ago or now --- will happen at the exact right time if it is meant -- a wonderful, wonderful conspiracy to make you happy Sandra --- from the Universe, with love.
Jackie
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Hi to you sweet Blondie. I know I haven't said a proper hi for a bit so news a great time. Still love that avatar with that great little smile.Hugs and Blessings to you,
Jackie
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Thank you all for your helpful comments. I am scared but will be glad when Friday's surgery is over.
Lynn
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Good luck ms sunshine
Sweet sweet jackie, np love u
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Who da thought I could fall in love with something John Wayne said --- I always thought he was such a neat guy -- loved him in True Grit.
"Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes into us at midnight very clean. It's perfect when it arrives and it puts itself in our hands. It hopes we've learned something from yesterday."
-- John Wayne
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Good morning to all. Unusually quiet on this forum. My big news is that I bought a new car on Mon. My 2003 Camry had a minor problem, plus needed an oil change, so I took it to the Toyota dealership for service Normally I just take it to Walmart for the oil change. While I was waiting, I wandered into the showroom. There sat a 2014 Prius, a pearly white color, with a big sign on the top, $4000 rebate. Chatted with a salesman who did a quick calculation and said I would get $4000 trade-in. The price sounded good for a new hybrid with very good gas mileage.
I called dh to come and take a look at it. He asked questions and looked it over. We learned there was 0 per cent financing available. So we bought the car! The Prius is the no. 1 rated "green" car in Consumer Reports. I feel some buyer's remorse because my Camry probably had another couple of years service in it. I drove the Prius to my mother's house yesterday to make sure she wouldn't have too much trouble transferring from her electric wheelchair to the passenger seat.
So now I'm in that pins and needles phase of a new car owner, parking way out in the parking lot so that other people's car doors don't bump into my car doors.
Hope everyone is doing well.
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Oh Carole.... I'm STILL like that! I bought a like "new" 2011 Chevy Cruz in November, and I STILL baby that thing. I finally got a Handicap Placard, so I can usually find a place to park up close, and the spots are larger.
Have you learned all the features and buttons yet? My car STILL feels "new"... even though it was a 2011.. Only had 32,000 miles on it... Had belonged to a car rental company... and the car-fax report was a good one...
So Congratulations! What color is it?
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mysunshine.... we will be thinking about you on Friday. Hugs! I do love your sunshine. I spent the winter in Cape Coral and your area is simply beautiful. That wonderful sunshine will help speed your recovery. I was glad to get home to the spring flowers but the past few days have been dreary and rainy. I miss that sun. It does wonders for my spirits. Please let us know how it goes as soon as you are able.
wren....So sorry to hear about your Mom. It is so hard to see them struggling with health issues. We feel so helpless and sad.
I finally had to go to the doctor for my lips and it's a good thing I did. I had contacted a fungus somewhere and I had been doing the worst thing possible by trying to keep the moist. He prescribed an anti-fungal ointment and it is slowly improving. At least it does not spread to other areas of the body and is not contagious.
Carole, congrats on the new car. I love that new car smell
Hello to everyone. My computer is doing the "delayed typing" trick and it's driving me crazy because I have to go back and make continual corrcetions so I'm going to get off of here for now.
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Silence must be comprehended as not solely the absence of sound. It is the natural environment for serenity and contemplation. Life without silence is life without privacy. The difference between sanity and madness is the quality of our thoughts. Silence is on the side of sanity.
Norman Cousins
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Wow, Carole -- sounds fantastic about the car. I do adore the new car smell. It's wonderful. I also ( not because I had any hope of buying anything ) had read up on buying trends for the yr. and knew the Prius got really high marks. Well, you know me ---- I always think everything happens for a reason, and so the reason you took your car to the dealership rather than elsewhere was so you WOULD replace it. Dh in general does not and never had liked the 'style' or look I guess you might say of the Prius -- After the first yr. or two, I adored it --- but have to admit the great gas mileage played a HUGE role in my being able to SEE a nice contemporary easy on the eye look.
Also, you are doing yourself a big favor. If you have to walk farther ( to save yourself from those first owie's ) that is just good for you. So even though your purse is not as healthy -- your body will be. I say enjoy, enjoy, enjoy.
You too Chevy. I think for you I was so thrilled that you could give up your clutch. Especially after the issue of having broken your hip. There again -- the Universe at work --- your old car fell apart ( while still looking splendid ) because you needed a new one that was far easier to drive and use. I think it also ( sometimes my memory is not that good ) sets up just a bit higher than your old one.
Poured and stormed a bit here yesterday while I was at work. Looked dark and a couple of times threatening after but we go through the rest of the day. I think it rained a bit last night, but not "stormy" like earlier. It will rain again today -- not sure just when, but sounds like it could get a little stormy later on around supper time. It is just what we get this time of year. It is due to be about 80 today -- I think that is warmer than usual for this time of yr. but I have to admit -- I'll truly enjoy that part.
Rita -- sure glad you got a fix for your 'fever' blisters. Who would have thought, huh !!!! I'm afraid were it me I'd have likely stalled seeing the Dr. for longer. I'm glad you went and got busy on taking care of it. That way you can enjoy Spring and Summer here which hopefully will soon give way to sunnier times.
See you all later. Hi and big hugs to all.
Blessings
Jackie
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Rita, so glad to hear that you have found an answer. I know you were so concerned, especially when everything you tried didn't work.
Congrats on the new car Carole. Wish they would make a car spray called "New Car Smell." I'd buy it.
Blissfully quiet here in St. Petersburg. My daughter Stephanie is either at school or work, so it's just me and the two kitties. I didn't realize how keyed up I'd been until I had a chance to unwind. When I look back, it makes sense. I had no time to recover from my last surgery a few days before Christmas. Mike had just collapsed and was hospitalized (we were inpatients at the same time) for the first time and then we spent two sleepless weeks awaiting the results of his bone marrow biopsy before plunging into this nightmare. Since Jan. 7th I've been working on the house from sun up to past sun down every day, then researching everything ever written on bone marrow stem cell transplants in hopes that I can WILL him into surviving it. The pressure has been huge and Mike hasn't helped! In order to qualify for the transplant, he had to quit smoking. He did it...after 55 years...with the help of Chantix. One of the side effects is irritability. It's been six weeks since he quit but the docs want him to stay on it another month or two...easy for them to say! They don't have to deal with Mr. Grouchy. Of course he has been on chemo since the first of February too, so he has every reason to be bad tempered. Just wish he wouldn't take it out on me. We usually get along great and never argue but I have to admit, he is trying my fragile patience. I've read that men often deal with serious illness by pushing away the ones closest to them so that makes me feel a little better but I've cried absolute buckets of tears. He needs me more than ever so why is he so hostile? I went through a stroke, the discovery of my aortic aneurysm, and the diagnosis of breast cancer - all within 7 months and never took out my fears on him. During the next 15 months of 6 surgeries and boat-loads of pain I didn't take out my frustration on him. (Just realized I sound like a self centered four year old, stomping my feet and crying, "It's not fair!")
I guess it's childish of me to expect him to be different than he is. He is dealing with so much and I have no right to demand that he process it in a way that suits me. This impromptu trip to St. Petersburg, Florida has given me a little breather and time to think. He's in good hands with my daughter Allison with him at home. I don't need to worry. He's doing wonderfully on chemo and each month that he gets through it without needing a blood transfusion is a blessing. He is gaining some weight back. No panic about finding a donor. His sister's stem cells are "on ice" so that when the chemo stops working, he can go right to transplant. Things are going fine with the house. The "clean room" is finished. There's still plenty to do in the house, trying to make sure there is no dust or dirt or mold or spores anywhere - but Allison and I are making progress. I need to take a step back, take a deep breath, and enjoy this quiet time. (And the beach!)
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Sandra,
How wonderful and it is just what you needed. As well, you have sat back and I think been very perceptive about where you were and where you are going. Having said that I do think your note/update speaks for itself. Women and men are soooo different in their emotions, abilities to handle certain things and just overall --- actually having a GOOD understanding of how women operate.
In other words, I think we come by some things naturally that have become long ago a part of our genes. We just are better at not only nurturing, but understanding the emotional side of it as well. I also note the se's of some of Mike's medication is perceptual grouchiness. He likely doesn't actually understand what that is and the hold it is presenting --- so control with it might just not be very possible for him.
Of course you feel like a petulant child -- our role in life in general is to be the nurturer and home and family builder. The men are the breadwinners for all of that. When there is a huge change, it is easy to lose some of your perspectives, but you have done what was needed. Something nudged you into doing something way off "the plan" and it has resulted in your being able to take the time for needed assessment. To see how events came about -- and to even recognize how unfair it has been to you.
The good thing ( no matter how the coming months may play out ) is that you have this gift of reflection time and though there still may be hurt feelings, tears, or whatever you have at least been able to sort out up to this time and it sounds like get that accurate picture. You are much farther in your understanding and hopefully it will help you tolerate the time that is coming. Hopefully, in a while, Mike can get off that medication and maybe be able to get back that part of himself that went into hiding.
Lots of prayers --- and good for you. You are making great progress now that you have been able to breathe that big sigh that you were not able to let go of for so many months.
Jackie
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Sandra.... it will get better. I remember right after I brought DH home from the Pacemaker surgery, he would just BLOW-UP over nothing! I wanted to ask his Doc if they took his heart OUT, instead of putting in a pace-maker! It was miserable on both of us for awhile.
I was GLAD to just go out, and slam the door, and go for a walk..... What IS this with these men? When they need us the most, they push us away.
So don't feel bad.... just smack him over the head with a cast-iron skillet. At least YOU would feel better...
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Sandra, it sounds as though you have a very wise perspective on the situation with Mike. I'm so glad you decided to take a little rest in St. Petersburg. You really needed and deserved this respite.
Chevy, the color is a pearl white. Not dh's favorite car color but so practical for our climate. Dark colors absorb the heat.
Rita, good thing you went to the dr. and had the "fever blisters" examined!
Hello to everyone else not mentioned.
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Carole congrats on the car..
Hi chevy
Hi jackie
Rita glad u went 2 the drs. My dteo daughter likes in cape coral, went 2 years ago, love it, but it is fla of course i would
Sandra, so glad u FINALLY did something 4 yourself, been wondering how u were
It also gives u time to spend alone we ith stef since was feeling out of the loop. Mike will b fine n u needed a vaca. U have been running urself ragged over a period of time n somthing keeps coming up.
U rejuvenate urself stay in that world until u have 2 come back 2 the real one..hugs
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Sandra, You have been through so much in the past few months and you did indeed need some time to yourself. I am so glad that you've been able to "chill out" a bit. Enjoy the rest of your time.
It looks like we are going to have some storms this afternoon and then things will improve weather-wise around here. The rain has really turned the grass green and my neighbor's tulip tree has blossomed. Mine is always about a week behind because it is planted in a shadier place. It has budded but they haven't exploded into blossoms yet.
I am recycling the rest of our Easter ham into ham and beans today. I was also raised where you didn't throw out food and my Mom was very creative in finding ways to use leftovers. I still love mashed-potato patties made from the left-over mashed potatoes. She would have made ham salad also but I don't have a really good recipe for that so I tackle less strenous avenues.
I have lots of work to do around the house today so I'd better get moving. I had my taxes done on Tuesday and I'm still in mourning about how much I still owe after making hefty quarterly payments all last year. UGH!
Catch you all later. Take care if you are in the path of the approaching storm today. It looks like the Chicago area might possiby get some hail later this afternoon.
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"Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand."
-- Karl A. Menniger
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Hi all,
Blondie, I just get such a kick every time I SEE your avatar and know you are here. Guess we went to long without seeing you. I just eat up every word.
Rita -- hmmm, about the income taxes. Can they take a bit more out -- though heaven knows why the first ton's removal is not enough. I would hate having more to pay and in this day and age it would seem to me that some adjustments ought to get you way lots closer than it sounds like you are. Doesn't seem quite fair.
I do ham salad lots of times with my left-overs. Simple recipe -- just grind it up, add some very small diced onion, and I also do not use pickle relish but instead while I have my food processor out, grind sweet pickles up to put into it. It has always made a difference. Don't know what is in pickle relish which I normally like -- but it wrecks the flavor for me if used in ham salad. If I feel like it I boil a couple of eggs and then sort od mince them with an egg slicer. Then the mayo to combine it all. You'll already have made your ham and beans with your ham -- but maybe sometime later. I keep most of my recipes simple -- they just actually seem tastier to me if they are un-complicated.
I also do an un-complicated egg salad. I put in a little onion, sliced green olives, some extra pimento, and enough mayo to keep it together. No salt in anything.
Weather -- yikes. It stormed most of the night -- quit raining just after we were up --- some lt. rain right now. We may or may not have that keep up but I think it will stop. Then long about supper time -- we get maybe lots more weather events -- to include hail and possible tornado's -- but it should move out and back to the normalcy we hope.
Have an exercise class tonight, but it sounds like we won't go. I really prefer to be home during bad storms. Sometimes we get limbs down on the road and I don't like having to get out in driving rain and clear the road etc. It is much easier to just stay here and let the storm pass.
Thinking of all of you.
Blessings,
Jackie
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Hey Jackie, thanks for the ham salad recipe. You know, I've always put pickle relish in mine and maybe that is what I am not liking about it. I just quit making it a couple of year ago because it never turned out good. I will try your recipe the next time I have left-over ham. We don't always just eat ham on holidays. I watch the sales and if someplace has a good deal on them, I buy one up because we can get so many different meals out of it.
Teka, your picture is lovely to look at but I sure don't like getting around in the snow and ice anymore. You just keep any remaining snow this season in New York! :-)
Blondie...always good to see a post from you. :-)
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Hi everyone
I have missed you all in the past 2 weeks. Feels like I am finally home, and back to life as I know it.
Sandra- I am so glad you are getting this break, and especially glad you have met up with an old friend. Like you, I tried for many years to find my best friend from Jr High and HS. Not only did I scour Facebook on a regular basis, I even joined Classmates.com for several years in hopes she would sign on. No luck at all. Then one day, with nothing to do I started looking up some friends who had graduated with my sister a year earlier. Lo and behold, there was Marsha- she had been there all along, just under the wrong year. We found out we had spent many years within less than a half hour apart in Fl. Then, when she divorced, she moved to Orlando with her 3 kids to get a new start. The reconnect happened just weeks before my DD#1 was planning an all girls trip to SeaWorld with 2 friends fron her work. I trailed along, but instead of going to SeaWorld, spent the day with Marsha. We caught up on all the years we had missed. We are in contact sporadically, at her choice, but it's still great to know "the rest of the story".
Carole- I have bought 2 new cars since my husband passed-one for Ga and one for Fl. Hindsight is always 20/20, and right now I am kicking myself for not buying 2 of the same make and model. I have a VW Tiguan here in Ga and a Hyundia Tucson in Fl. Both are very nice, comfortable cars, but I feel lost for a week or so when I relocate. The radios, lights, wipers, GPS systems each operate differently and it drives me crazy.
As you may remember, I went to Disneyworld with my youngest granddaughter for a week. She was incredible, afraid of nothing and what a joy to watch. Any rides we went on were a total loss for me as I spent the whole time just watching her little face. That said, the trip was exhausting on several layers. First of course was physically. Although we went back to the hotel every day for Lucia's nap, we were walking for 4-5 hours at a stretch. I resorted to half an oxycodone (left over from chemo) in the afternoon a couple of days just to make it thru. It was a whirlwind of waking up, racing to the park, fighting to keep Lu awake till we got back to the hotel, putting her down for her nap, me showering and resting for a short while- I didn't have time to shower in the morning and was too exhausted at night, then racing back to the park for another 4-5 hours, then repeating the ride home and going to bed. Besides being too busy and too tired to keep in touch with all of you, our room had no wi-fi.
Then there was the stress level. My DIL is wound tight in general- take her out of her normal routine and her stress level rises to near impossible. Add to that the fact that she was not happy that I was there for it all and her mother didn't join us at all, although she could have, and Anna wasn't a happy camper. Then, to top it off, I decided to travel back to South Carolina with them, since I had to be up this way sometime this week anyway. Oh my, let's just say "if Anna ain't happy, ain't nobody happy." Just one example- Anna knows I love ice cream. In fact whenever I am at their house, we go for a special ice cream treat at least once. Well, she disappeared at Disny late one afternoon and when I asked Rob,he said she had gone to get Lu an ice cream. I went and got one as well. She apologized, saying she thought I wanted the "soft-served" although when we passed several of those she never offered to stop so I could get one. Anyway, I let it go with little thought until the very next day,when she did the exact same thing! Once can be forgotten as an oversight, but even after I said ice cream is ice cream as far as I am concerned,to do it again was on purpose.
We got back to their home late Sat afternoon, and by Mon, DD#1 picked up on how stressed I was, and bless her heart, she took a half day Tues and all day yesterday and drove over and got me. She pampered me like a baby last night, and I slept 11hrs and feel like a new person. We were supposed to meet halfway over the weekend. We used the excuse that her boys are on Spring break this week. Usually my DIL and I do very well together, but the stress level this time was more than I could tolerate, as easy going as I am. Luckily,my son has no illusions about his wife and knew exactly why I was leaving early and had no problem with it.
Lynn- good luck tomorrow and know that we will all be with you in spirit, keeping a eye on everyone, making sure they are in top form and getting the job done.
Anne
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