The dumbest things people have said to you/about you
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my friend that I have been ignoring since bmx texting me like crazy...Finally told her she says oh yea that package deal where u get your boobs removed and free fake ones... Well I called her an idiot and really? package deal. Yea Ive gone through hell for 5 weeks for free boobs duh..So dumb
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I would resume ignoring that friend, focus on the pals who get it and are a bit more aware of the world
course, it would be amazing if she ended up with BC
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too bad you cant reach thru the phone and give her a bitch slap! What an ignorant thing to say......oh brother......
Please dont waste any of your phone bill on this person
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Oh believe me I wanted to.As I go through the journey things keep popping up. Ok here is the kicker her mother died of breast cancer.... She does not get ck ups and then says this a package deal what are we at fed x ....I deleted her number bye bye
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Denial........not just a river in Egypt
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I know what you mean that stuff pops up when you least expect it
I have been able to not do a mastectomy and so far 3 lumpes, but may at some point need to do it.
anyhow a gym pal looked at me last week (while I was waiting on the results of a biopsy from my most recent mamo) and she said why don't you just get a mastectomy? and be done with it?
as if that is sooooo easy and sooooo simple a decision!
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I know exactly what you mean proutospin. My friend wanted to know the same thing... Now you need to know she's had several knee surgeries. I asked her why she didn't just have her leg amputated. The look on her face was priceless.
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LOVE IT!
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good one, why do folks think the choice of a mastectomy is so easy?
lordie but I live alone, my job is commision based and if I do not work, no money coming in
so weeks out? little tough not to mention I need to find good folks to help me during recovery
nuts
so tell her to chop of her leg
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Great comeback, Cindyl!0
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I'm catching up ladies--was back in the hospital for a whike.
I still can't believe how people say things--Ann and Julz and how they think/even when I never had BC a co-worker had it and being a supervisor I made things as easy as I could for her and admired her for working at all--so I find it hard to understand how people can judge or say anything negative.
Now I heard after the 2nd time in the hospital this month I let myself get sick cuz I didn't do things right???? I did whatever I was told to do but it didn't work so now I have more stuff I need to take, but i am not expkaining to anyone (well y guys yea) but it's of no use they really think I enjoy this going in on a critical list--I don't want symapthy I just want to be wished well and that's it. Not judging me cuz I should feel fine now GRRRRRRR LOL
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23 PFC and my neighbour asked how I was... great I said, best I felt since I started chemo.... "oh you are so lucky, feeling good and you still dont need to go to work tomorrow' 'No I dont, but i still have cancer'... grrr !
camillegal... hope you feel better soon... that sux.
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Camil I'm sending healing thoughts your way to get you back on track to where you can deal day to day with out too many issues! People don't have a clue! Excuse me while I get pissed off on your behalf! Are they for real! As if you enjoy getting poked prodded & cut off from all the comforts of home! Oh the gourmet homecooked meals you have enjoyed! Bobby Flay anyone! Sheesh! I'd like to stick their patooty in there for a while with limited visitation & no cell phone!
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After my diagnosis, my special angel-man and I decided that there is no room in our lives anymore for negativity or stress. While we were still in the hospital and had received the news, we were devastated and had to figure out a way to live with this. So we decided our lives would now run one day at a time, one thing at a time, everything else gets in line. Our lives are to only be filled with love, positive attitudes, and the honest belief that cancer is much, much smaller than we are, and that this is a journey we didn't choose, but we are taking it together. I am so fortunate to have this man by my side as my co-believer and co-conspirator. We are partners in crime, doing nasty things to cancer!
So imagine my horror, disbelief and desire to feel my stepmother-in-law's face wrapped around my fist when she said what I will now describe. By the way, I was the last person in the family to give her the benefit of the doubt as simply a person who said things without thinking, and defend her when she would make everyone else angry with crap she said.
The day I was released from the hospital, father-in-law and stepmother-in-law took us out to dinner. They live out of state but came to town to give us support. While we were eating, we were talking about wanting to go to Hawaii with my dad next year. Keep in mind I am fresh out of the hospital with a day-old diagnosis. Stepmother-in-law says to me: "You know what, Effcancer? You should do your bucket list! I'll help you write it!" WTF?!
I got up from the table an went outside for air and broke down. My man was at my heels and thank God he got it and came to comfort me. I'm a lot stronger than that as a person, but I was on some heavy drugs, I had just had a bombshell dropped on me already and it was just the last thing I needed. I believe that father-in-law, meanwhile, was chewing his wife a new one. We went back in after a while, didn't mention it, but didn't speak the rest of the meal. I was glad they were leaving the next day. I have forgiven her, but dayum!
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that is horrible effcancer...what is wrong with her. Like we need to be reminded that this stupid disease "could" kill us. Just rediculous. When I was first diagnosed there was a rumor going around that I was stave V. Which we all know is impossible. There were people calling my house to see how long I had to live. It got to the point that if we recognized the name on caller ID we just did not answer because we did not want to talk to them for a while.
Maggie
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I've had some really daft thinks said to me. Stage 4 with spinal comperssion, and my sister tells me my live expectancy is the same as hers - well she could have a heart attack or crash her car. Mmm
The one that sicks out is while in hospita, the woman in the next bed was crying because she had depression and her family though she should pull her self together.
I'v had depression - so tried to re- assure her that she would get better and yes she was ill
Anyway after acouple of days - i'm draging myself to the toilet - when this lady says "I wish I was as well as you."
I let her have both barrels - told her she could swap if she wanted to - I'd be very happy to do this.
After another bout of tears - because I was so ill - ther were no more tears - however she did tell everone how brave I was.
That might teach me to keep my mouth shut .
Harvey
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woah.......thats like saying lets go pick out your casket.........people astound me, and not just in a good way
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mine may not be as bad as some of the above comments but, betcha it is common.
I have had 3 lumpies and so far dodged the bullet on a mastectomy. Uptill this last mamo, I was 3 1/2 clean and they were calling me cured. Yahoo. So when the June mamo showed new junk, well it hit me hard but I got throught it. After a biopsy, all is fine for now and B9.
So why did several folks say to me "Why didn't you just get a mastectomy in the beginning?"
Do they think that is an easy decision or a simple surgery? Can I put my foot in their face now or later? I may eventually end up that way but it is surely not a "just do it" sort of thing.
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I'm sure my filter for saying things has been turned off a while ago--but I hope I never say all these stupid things to people that are strugling with this awful disease-I don't think I ever have cuz I've been familiar with it since I was 10--(my mom) so I have a difficult time with the things people say--it's like they are oblivious to how awful this is-In this day and age how can u be so thoughtless.? Beats me
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talking to a family member the other day, i said i cant believe i felt so tired today like i just had radiation. i finished 4 months ago, she said get over it its gone and they took everythink out. iam too sensitive or was that rude ?
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That was RUDE!
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Afterglow that wasn;t just rude---that was beyond RUDE.
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Afterglow NO you are not. Let's put that Family member in for a special fry session for 33 days & see what they say then 4 months out! My intermitten FMLA paper for work is for 6 months from the start of RADS! The RO expects that I could have side effects 4-5 months out. In fact sad as it may be there can be some not so common SE's years after RADS! Go online to a reputable hospital cancer center info on the net & print the side effects list out & send a copy to said family member. Better yet if you had skin breakdown make a copy of an Internet pic of someone elses RADS skin break down & send them a nice little card of the "pretty" pic of what RADS does with a caption of " This feels so wonderful & amazing that the healing process gives me so much energy I could run a Triathalon!!!! Maybe you should try it & see how wonderful it is! ". Sorry but I would gladly let them take my place & I haven't nearly been through what many have or are going through on here! I'm sorry you have insensitive Family Boobs!!!
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yeap, RUDE with capital letters, for the record, the radiation tireds do not disappear right away, I ended up with shingles 6 months after rads ended and also had chronic UTIs
I whined one day to a retired nurse pal about all my UTIs, and she said "Of course" you are still run down and your immune system is crud!
it did get better but at 4 months, you are entitled to be tired!
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I took pictures of my skin breakdown -- not sure why ... just because. I see my RO tomorrow and overall things are good but I do still have some discoloration and lots of numbness and tingling and intermittent pain ...
I have been so lucky as far as friends and family are concerned -- I really think that they get it.
Keep positive and remember it is not you .... like julz said ... insensitive Family Boobs!!!!!
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There are several people who persist in saying "you sailed through this" or "you were lucky treatment was so easy on you" or words to that effect. And to some extent, yes, they are right. I didn't have chemo, so didn't lose my hair and didn't have all those SE's to deal with. But really? You think this was a breeze? Surgery, Rads, Post Rads issues, possible LE, and treatment for same, and now 5 years of tamoxifen, all the while worrying that the cancer is gonna come roaring back? I hope all of your issues are so easy. The one that really fries me is the coworker who had very minor out patient surgery on her thumb and needed more time off than I've taken for this whole mess. "I guess I'm just more sensitive than you are."
I'm not asking for a medal, but damn don't compare your hangnail to my life threatening disease. Especailly not when your hangnail made you suffer more.
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Cindy, I so get it! we are on the same plank!
I will say that now I am not as much of a "work till I drop" sort of person, I try to take more time for myself or at least working on that
hmm, I had hand surgery years ago for a minor problem, do not remember taking any time off...
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Well, she's "sensitive" and "frail"
I admit that I work because work is more fun and easier than being home (got an invalid Mom to take care of)
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I am guilty of that though Cindyl -- I say "I just had ....." and then I stop myself. I still had breast cancer and if I diminish the surgery and the treatment then how can I expect anyone else to think differently. I think I say it because I am so grateful that I did not have to have chemo and sometimes still overwhelmed by everything that has happened this last 9 months. It is still a blurr sometimes.
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oooh, got a hang nail, should I go home?
if working is easier, then that is where you need to be for now, if it gets too much, then you will handle it
sensitive and frail.....I know some of those types
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