The dumbest things people have said to you/about you
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Reality - Thoughts are with you as you have to endure yet another assault on your body, not to mention your mind with these unfortunate new developments. Prayers for you.
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Reality - Thinking of you. Plz let us know how you're doing and keep us informed. We're here for you.
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Oh crap! I wasn't on the boards yesterday because we had a party for 2 of my grands who turn 2 in September. I come here today to see Reality apologizing for posting about one of the scariest moments in any of our lives!!!!!! Reality, sweetie, it IS all about YOU right now!!!! WE get it. WE are here as much as we can possibly be here for you. It rips our guts to know that you are going through this total fear. I get what you mean about no fluff. I'd be insulted if my doc down-played something on me. Just tell me it straight!!!
Please, please know that we are walking beside you, holding you up when you need strength, crying with you, and laughing at our silly antics to cheer you up. Keep us posted, sweetie!
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Update: No she did not turn red, she did not apologize, she does not appear to even realize what she said. Others did hear and the tale is being spread around the company. I have an appointment to speak with her on Tuesday, before a big staff meeting, to tell her a) what happened, b) how it made me feel, c) that it is creating a hostile work environment (I'm an attorney who practicies disability law and so is she) and to see if a sincere apology will come out of this meeting. If not, word WILL get to her supervisor and a complaint will likely be filed.
Fearless...WOW what a great "public face". You are a champion.
Reality...(((HUGS))) Sometimes I do not know what to say....just (((HUGS)))
My new T-shirt: front; Hug a survivor (with a pink ribbon) and back; Breast Cancer is more than pink ribbons and long walks.
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reality -
scary news...I hope and pray your biopsy goes smoothly and oh, maybe just maybe the onc will be wrong and it is really nothing...riley - your cartoons are hysterical! Love them!!!
I've decided that we will have a cure for cancer LONG BEFORE there is ever a cure for STUPID.
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Reality--there is no need to apologize for coming here to rant and get support, or for not giving a lot of support just now. We all know that it goes back and forth--at times I in position to provide support, at times I have needed support. Everyone here knows that, and is here to support you while youare going through a scary and rough time right now. Keep coming, keep ranting, and keep us up to date. We'll help you get through this. Later on you will be helping one of us get through something. What goes around comes around. {{{{{reality}}}}}
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Talk, talk, talk !!!! Please!!! All about urself!!!! Good luck. Keep us in the loop and never apologize!!0 -
I cannot even begin to tell you how much appreciate the love and support all of you are sending my way.
'Love and appreciate each of you so very much.
Barbe - hope you had a wonderful day with family. I can't wait for the school bus to arrive tomorrow so I can hug my three grandchildren.
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Reality, u know til all tests are in---Dr.s cn be mistaken---enjoy and hug u'r grandchildren.
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love it camile
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Thanks, camille - for the message and the photo!
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Reality: please do focus on YOU YOU YOU! You need to do all you can to take good care of yourself and your heart and soul right now! You didn't get to decide about the mets scare, but YOU ARE in charge of how you experience this new turn in events! You get to decide how you respond to the people around you, how you perceive the world and your life, and how you face this latest challenge. These are the things you can have absolute control over -- what goes on between your ears -- in other words, your mind! I'm so sorry that you are facing this uncertainty and more tests right now. How beautiful you spent the time with your son! You can get so much satisfaction in just a view of a sunset, a warm grasp of a beloved hand, and lovely melody wafting over the radio...relish EACH moment that you can! Practice that and it could help you get through this in an even better state! Sending you warm hugs and positive thoughts over the cyber space. Your sharing with this community has enriched us all! Thank you and keep it up and use us to excess if we can be of service!!! xxxooo
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Reality Thinking of you!
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My2boys --If this woman barely knows you, how did she know about your BC? I'm sorry she had to be so insensitive. You might ask her does she know how long she has to live ---
Day: Sorry -- i meant to say my insurance covered my single mast surgery "without question". It was doing the mast on the unaffected side that they did not want to cover.
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Federal regulations require insurance to cover reconstruction surgery after mastectomy, INCLUDING surgery to the other breast to acheive symmetry. Some insurances balk at that, hoping that this isn't yet well known, but it is almost always covered if any questions are asked/appeals filed. The test is if the insurance would cover the mastectomy for the breast cancer. The only way insurance cannot cover recon is if they would not cover the mastectomy in the first place, and that's pretty darned rare. This was set by the same regulations that require insurance companies to cover at least one night in the hospital after a mastectomy and put a stop to "drive through mastectomies."
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Day: I wonder if the law now has changed. In early 2009, my insurance fought against doing prophylactic. I will look into it -- so that others will know too. Tks
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Have not posted on this thread recently, but do appreciate the stories and the love you all have for each other.
Today at a craft group we have for seniors at our church one of the ladies, who doesn't come very often and somehow seemed to misss the news that I have BC, says to me upon finding out "Well if that happened to me, I wouldn't come here anymore". WTF - I hope that is just a reflection of some outdated values. She is in her late 70's. Does she really believe that we should be written off and not go out in public because we have BC? Trying to give her the benefit of the doubt due to her age, but!?
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bgirl----how could u not ask why she said that?? I would have, but that's me---What did she mean I wonder. That's so silly to say to anyone. U had to be dumbfounded cuz I probably would have just stood there with my mouth open. But I have to say she has an interesting outlook about BC, stupid, but interesting LOL That's ot to be one of the top 10.
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I was speechless. I was 46 when I was diagnosed last year. Hide out for the rest of my life.? Still trying to decide if my being there offended her.
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Why would it offend anyone, unless she thought like just older people do this for something to do and do some really fun stuff???? I don't know that's a stumper.
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I have actually helped with this group for 5 years now. Long before BC. Another younger woman who is a nurse and I both volunteer our time once a week to help the older ladies. Most have been very supportive or I would be quitting. Maybe if you have a "disease" you shouldn't be in public???
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Well, one of 2 things - either she's vaguely heard about lowered immunity with cancer treatments and is worried about you being out in a crowd, or she's an idiot.
Take your pick.
Leah
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LOL at Leah's explanations!0 -
Leah u really might be right--with both answers. She might figure to many germs and immune system --good call or
as u said she's an idiot--good call.
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I volunteer at a Senior Center - think I may have posted this before but one of our older members -late 80's- complained to the health department that I was sick and still cooking meals, handling food and could infect everyone. Wish you could have seen the inspectors face when I told him I had breast cancer.
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