After Radiation
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Juanita...everyone has given you such good advise and I can only reiterate what they have all said. It's time to finally cut the ties from this "friend" for good. You know how much stress it has caused you and even know I can tell it is doing the same thing to you. Stress can wreek havoc on us in so many ways, that is the LAST thing any of us need....I think you asking her to leave you alone is probably the best thing you can do. If she tries to let herself back in, just be a bit more stern with her and let her know that you can not let yourself be wrapped up in the drama and stress of this relationship you two have now. Friendship should not be work...it should just be.... (IMHO)
Starella-I have always had good luck with Garnier Nutrisse...but there are now so many out there to choose from!
Good to see you too! Hope you are doing well!Still miserably hot here ladies...whew! I'm afraid to see what our electric bill is gonna be! Stay cool everyone!
Prayers and blessings to everyone,
Tori
DE COLORES!
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Thanks Juliet62 and GirlFriday.. its nice to know its part of the process.. I went to see the grandkids for 4 days and I thought that would keep me going but when they weren't looking I cried my eyes out... It takes alot of effort not to cry at work.... that's probably why I'm so tired when I get home... I just want to be done and be able to move on... Maybe I'm scared of the discussion next week with my MO too... about the AI's... We just have to keep going...don't we.. I don't feel to courageous or strong at the moment.
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GmaFoley----you can do this and you will do it....one day at a time.If you need to cry just do it.We are here for you...let it all out sista.....This too shall pass.We will help you get stronger and stronger....thsi bc sure does suk!!!!!!...sending you gentle hugggggggs K0
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Penny good to hear from you. Sounds like you are starting a new life which is good. We all get there eventually
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gma , granny is right , we will do this one day at a time, the prayer footprints in the sand seems apt for us right now
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((((((((((((((((((((((HUGGGGGGS) to all my sistas.0
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ok here is a new one for me.....there was a study yesterday that tall women are more prone to bc....AND high heels cause cancer....WTH....are they kidding.....there is a new thread if anyone wants to read it.....why dont they spend the $$$$$$$ on a cure or a vacine instead of all this other bullshit????????can you tell im angry??????0
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the thread is called tall women more likely to get breast cancer.0
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That is a bunch of crap too. Just how tall do you have to be????
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are you ready for this???????????approx.5 ft.....hey im 5ft.where the hell did i get it anyway and my mom was 4/11 and she had ovarian cancer.....such bull.spend the $$$$$ on finding a cure or a vacine....give me a break!!!!!!!can you tell the heat is gettin to me?????0
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Pennythoughts, your post made me emotional, sounded like me, trying to get "normal" again. you put my feelings out there, as you touched most of us, i am sure. I don't think you told us what your ovarian surgery outcome was? Was it benign?
Gma,Hang in there, you will feel better when the crying is over. ((((hugs))))
Me, I am one week post rads, feeling good, just want to go shopping, shopping therapy. The Arimidex has no affect on me yet, 4 days into it. (a little sleepless last night, but that happens...)
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granny - I am 5' 7" - and still don't know what that has to do with the price of rice in China?????
stage1 - I truly hope you are one of the lucky ones that do not have any SEs with the hormonal therapies. There have been many discussions on several threads as to what "normal" is after going through BC. Do we ever really get back to our "pre-BC normal" or are we always in search of our "new normal"? I am post rads 7 months and been on Tamox since 1/5/2011 and somedays I feel like I am just coasting through life. One thing is for certain, I have vowed to not look back - focus on looking forward and what tomorrow has in store for me.
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jo1955 thank you. somehow, "normal" is my goal, but you are right we may never get that"normal" back. My daughter's comment was, Mom were you never "normal". I think Cancer just slapped us up along side the face, and changed us forever. Some of us would say cancer "won"in that case. Shall we try to get our pre-cancer normal back??? Cancer has made me emotional on a whole new level.
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my family told my i made a complete change since dx.of bc. I do think i was bad at the beg.but now im just a lot more craky,crabby and refuse to take anyones bull..did i change????change>is that my new normal.....If thats the case i really dont care....I try not to think about bc all the time like i used to but im likin the new normal.....Ill worry when the time comes.0
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stage1 - I agree that BC did slap us up side the head - did the BC beast win that round? I don't think so - what it did was make up more aware that it could happen to anyone and we are not excused from attending that party. Many have said it that BC is the gift that keeps on giving - I am still trying to find the return line.
The one good thing about all this is it has made us stronger and we know we can make it through. We just have to keep looking forward not to the rear. 0 -
Have been having full body lymphatic messages and it is helping my breast edema. It is too far to drive to go to a LE specialist so my local message therapist has been trained in lymphatic messages and is great. I had one today and she said she could tell the difference in my boob, so it is working. My PS should be pleased.
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Jo1955, I have to concentrate on getting stronger. I am needing my friends more than ever to make it happen. I have always been a strong person, never thought this could happen to me,as I am responsible one to make sure I was doing everything right! I am the middle child to tell my siblings what best to do, even what to eat, and how it will keep you healthy, take your vitamins, take your calcium....always the big sister, know it all. Now, I kinda feel like a fool, (slapped by cancer, made wrong by cancer)...it's hard to get up from there, hit bottom...
Sherryc, I kinda think the full body messages can be a healing in itself. It should be offered. Does your insurance cover it?
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girlfriday/aimess- exactly!!! MyGP last week said the exact thing to me. I was in her office weeping saying "I don't knwo what th hell is wrong with me? I amcrying or no reason!!!" (of course, I felt breathless and had burst into tears on the stationary bike the day before so there was a reason)...she put it down to depression..everything catching up with me and suggested medication or to call the counsellor I saw last year....good advice..but what I reallly needed was reassurance..that this lowfatigue was because she had just changed one of my meds and my body was adjusting...that I still have too many appointments and am tired of running around....and hat I am fearful of stopping in August to take a few weeks vacation as I am afraid I will spend it crying...so yes ladies...I get it!
GMAFoley- I would imagine having an appointment this week to discuss meds is wreaking havoc on your nerves...do some nice things this weekend...go out in the air, go to a movie (Bridesmaids is hilarious...I screamed with laughter for 2 hours and plan on buying it on dvd when it comes out just to watch and scream when needed!)...nothing you can do about th eupcoming appointment or the results or anything...it is already out there is the cosmos, sort of speak....so....no point in worrying about it, right? it will be whatever it is and you will cope with whatever the result is...you really will. hugs o you
As for the comment re. tall women are more likely to get cancer? seriously? not just large yellow breasted, green -haired, one-eyed, sloth-like layabouts who dye their hair, use face products and do not drink enough green tea or drink too many margheritas? Give me a break!!!! Think they are trying to scare us or someone needed a thesis topic and they were all taken! good gravy!!! (should I add somewhere here that for the first time in a long time i am grateful to be 4'10"??) lol!...but big breasted......not yellow breasted though!!!and I am drinking more green tea just in case it matters!
hugs to all. Off to go camping fo rthe weekend with 36 15-17 year old Arabic-speaking I miss my mother moaning boys!
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Just a comment on the "being taller causes breast cancer???" Is that for real? Maybe their theory is that the taller you are, the closer you are to the sun? I mean that is as bizarre as THAT thought! And High Heels? See? It IS the sun....
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chevy - I still think it doesn't matter how tall you are - if you are gonna get cancer you are gonna get cancer. How tall you are does not have anything to do with it.
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On Thursday, I finished the WBR part of my rads (hypofractionated; 17 rads). Given the current raw and swollen condition of my axilla, my RO decided not to begin on Friday the first of 5 scheduled boosts to my axilla (where my tumor was). On Friday I began having seepage of a mucuous-like substance from my incision, and my whole armpit is very angry- looking (well, it was already angry-looking; now it looks furious). Should I call my RO, or is this "normal"? (I have an appointment with her on Tues. to reevaluate whether I'll have the boosts.)
ETA:I don't have any blisters--just this grossness.
Thanks for your collective wisdom.
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Maybe - if there is any green seepage - I would go see her - but it does look worse before it gets better..Mine was open blisters though...
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I know Jo.... I was just commenting on how ridiculous that sounded.... I can't think of WHO would believe something like that....
Sandee! that was pretty funny what you wrote, Ha, ha! I hope you are feeling better now.... WHAT? You say you are having having a Margherita? Okay, I will too.... By the way, I am much taller than you....5'1..... I mean I used to be....But for my weight, I should be about 6 foot!
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Maybe484 - Nothing about what you describe is "normal". I would get the RO ASAP. Hope you get bettter soon. Let us know what your RO says.
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Maybe484 I would call the RO right away, that does not sound normal to me
stage 1-no my insurance does not cover it. My insurance would cover the LE specialist and I would pay a $30 copay but I would have to drive over an hour to get there and with the cost of gas it would come out the same or more as what I pay the massage therapist $60 and it is two doors down from my job. I just decided my time was worth it and she is very good.
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I sure wish I had insurance
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No insurance, GMA? <hug>
I've been so thankful for mine. I've crabbed a lot in the past about how expensive it is and how much hassling I have to do to get things paid correctly. But I'm sure singing a new song now...
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GMA - No insurance? Really? That has got to add all kinds of stress. (((HUGS)))
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Everything has been making me cry the last few days and I've been forgetting things....wth? My onc mentioned counselling and meds last week when I saw her but I thought it was something she does with everyone because I didn't really mention any problems. Maybe she saw something I didn't realize myself at the time. Yikes, whats going on? Need to reel it back in!
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Yes ladies - I have emergency/illness insurance that I pay for $180/month through work and I used it up my max before my first surgery... now that I am back working the health insurance is garnishing my whole paycheck to pay the back premiums until I am caught up... sooooooo.. no insurance as such...I only work part time.. How do I get through??? miles and miles of paperwork to try to get them to abolish my bills... it has paid off .... my hospital bills (30k) and my radiation bill(@40K) was completely covered.. now all I have is the 10K in surgeon,onc, and anesthesia bill to pay...
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