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Loverly, pics of the new baby please
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Cubbie, I had a great dad as well. He always encouraged me in everything I tried and taught me so much. My mom, on the other hand, never gave me credit for anything. She was so into my brother doing nothing wrong (i.e. four marriages and it was always the ex's fault). My DH picked up how she was towards me very early in our marriage and jokingly said she liked him more than me and I had to agree with him. He felt so bad about saying it but I had to tell him it was true. I think my personality was too strong for her to deal with. For an introvert, I kept my nose to the grindstone and plugged away to achieve my goals. Oh well. During my journey, I missed my dad occasionally talked to him at night.
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My new baby
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Cubbie- sorry you have found yourself here and yes, shock, tears, sadness, anger are all part of the initial response.
I see you live alone and going to PM you over to a singles thread where many of us went through treatment living alone too. We can help you with some suggestions around that over there. A bit of a different world for those of us without anyone nearby to help, but we all got through it and you will too. More to follow.
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Speaking of rabbits, which I was the other day. I used to do this with my baby rabbits while the mama was nearby too heavy with milk to move around much. Babies crawled all over me and just loved it. These rabbits have a real motivator (something to eat!)
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And just sort of funny with Halloween coming up......
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Thanks, Jazzy, I will check that out. That Dalmation is so cute!
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Hi cubbie.....I hope you can get some peace in these horrible early days. There is good advice for you here from many wise women. Sending hugs from downunder.
Chevy, your YouTube video for the teacher was beautiful and made me cry.....I never cry. Also, I am So glad you found love in your relationship with your dad. My mum had a similar mixed relationship with her dad. She was the unwanted last child of a bigoted drunken father, and yet her dad's heart broke when she left Northern Ireland as a 26 year old to travel to Australia. They never saw each other again, but they exchanged weekly letters and monthly cassette tapes of conversation. She at last made peace with her first relationship with her dad and had a lovely next relationship. You are the only person I have ever seen to have had a Similar experience. Thank you for sharing that intimate experience.
latest with me is that I am back at work three days a week after difficult reconstruction surgery. I still have a small open wound and significant issues with my arm mobility, but I am getting there. Had to do a presentation this morning with two hours notice for the whole Corporation and really didn't know how I would go. it went well. I am struggling a bit though. Was asked yesterday to be a keynote speaker at a women in business conference in a couple of months and am trying to decide whether I can commit the energy. My rehab (mostly arm and wound healing) seems to leave me exhausted and my confidence since returning to work has taken a tumble. I need clear air to decide.
And so I am rambling now coz I should be asleep. Nitey nite lovely Owlettes and thanks for listening to the Auusie rambler xx0 -
Kath! Exactly! My Brother, a year younger was the "perfect" one.... Yet today we are sooooo close! He lives in Nashville, has always been a Musician, and has the BEST sense of humor in the world... He was with me when we had to deal with closing up our folks house, getting rid of their whole life, and putting their home up for sale....
He didn't care about any of the family stuff... Even Mom wouldn't let me drive her car, when we went to visit! Just my Brother.... I just think some Mother's are that way with their Son's.
But still.... I got to know my Dad.... even if it was when I was in my 50's..... I miss Mom, but I feel like I really didn't "know" her.... She tried as best as she could....
You learn from what happened when you were a child.... You learn to not do to your family what hurt you as a kid...... And you become the person you were meant to be..... Oh blah-blah- BLAH! Hah!
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How true Chevy. We are much stronger for it!
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I waved my wand at the sun and said "Let they're be geomagnetic storms that will mess up the internet and be a pest with electronics" and it was done. I'm very controlling that way.
Cubbie, Come see us after your visit
I worked the initial period different than most folks. Didn't cry for almost 7 months. Then it was the primal scream. I do that a couple times a year. Don't remember doing it this year. Loverly I almost bought one of those tea pots. They are so beautifully made. They all had names like prosperity, wealth, love, health etc. I will try and find some pics. They were very expensive. Over a hundred. But they were lovely. So, was the shop. Very Feng Shui. When I first learned about Feng Shui, I pronounced it f eh'ng shooey. Rather than faeng shuy. Anyways, I say it properly.
I lost part of my colon b/c I took Celebrex. I trusted the docs. When it was new in 1998(9), I went through an eval by multiple ologists. Kind of like I'm doing now. They all said it'd be a good drug for me. I researched the internet. No where did I see the black box warning. "Not to be used with a hx of ulcers, diverticulosis, diverticulitis, hx of GI bleeding. Has been known to cause spontaneous gastric rupture" Internist, rheumatologist, neurologist and another one(?) all okayed it's use. I had a hx of divertic. Oh well......
I do have a strange processing problem. Very rare. For example, one-two oxycodones gives me pain relief for 24 hours. I'll send you a link to 2D6 thread start reading my posts in Feb 2014.
Mu opiod receptors in the colon. Are they're any new pain drugs that don't cause constipation by blocking those receptors?. I can't take NSAIDS. Tramadol as a non opiod was great, but it affected the colon. Oh well......... I am going to revisit Baclofen next Monday.
No Mania here. I think Rosie was worried about that too. Nope it was simply drug affect/effect.
Spookie you are speaking in code. A few more words please , funny girl
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ok, that's what I thought. Do you mind sending the list of current meds you are on through PM? I will try and put on my Sherlock's glasses and see if i can find anything.
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Oh yeah, love the idea of feng shui.
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Chevy, you admit raising hell in bed, you frisky ole gal. Teasing me about Essex. There is hope for all of us
Queenie what's up with the skin?
Susan have fun at the wedding. Do you get to see the kids. Tell DD and SIL we're all very happy and excited for them. ould love to see prego pics(like Smarrty's DGD).
Jacfin, You did great on short notice, b/c you did have time to worry. Do you have to do research for the keynote address? In the EMS job long ago, we were encouraged to do that type of thing and allowed to use all the office resources, including staff. The prep time was all on company time. Is that similar in your office? . Having someone assigned to help with the research and slide development would ease your work. It would seem a reasonable request b/c it makes your boss look very good when one of his staff is asked to do such a prestigious presentation.
Off to housekeeping threads, Hugs to all that need them Waving at our lurkers
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Oh Loverly, 1. try putting the cage under a table. Far enough away from legs and top that she can't paw or chew through the bars. Some dogs feel more secure when in a cave like atmosphere. 2. Get her bedding and stuffed animals at the local thrift. Generally, stuffed animals are 25 cents to a dollar versus 8-10 dollars at the pet store. Use blankets or sheets from the thrift versus a standard cage cushion. Some dogs make nests and that can't be done with a cushion. 3. After washing the linens and stuffed animals, you sleep with them for several nights to get your scent on them. 4. During the time you are home, leave the door open to the cage. 5.Give her a treat with her in the cage with the door open. Sit or be on the floor next to her. If she tries to come out with the treat, coax her back in. Don't give her the next treat until she's back in the cage. 6. If she chews her stuffed animals, make it allowable in the cage but no where else. 7. You could have a second cage for time outs for bad behavior. Don't do any nice happy things around that cage. The ultimate goal is for her to think of this space as cozy, protected , and happy place
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Sas, me? You put a post on Pinktober, then asked me and a few others if that was the first time sexism had been mentioned there. I answered you here. I'm about done with that thread.
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Skin's pretty much back to normal, thank dog, save for a few residual nerve jabs now down to the hallucinatory levels. Even better, the antibiotics did not wreak absolute hell on my digestive system. A little faster than usual, but given I tend the other way (endometriosis), that's hardly a problem. I think.
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I'm back from my appointment. Found out I have to have more surgery at some point, so that was disappointing. Also found out I am IIA instead of 1b like I'd hoped. Doc says for a micromet like I have, you calculate risk based on IIA, even though it is technically 1b. I know I'm a lot better off than some others, but I am still sad about not being Stage 1 like I'd hoped. It seems so much scarier.
Jacfin, that is great you did well on your presentation with short notice. I have to return to work tomorrow myself, and I'm concerned about concentrating with so much else on my mind. Hope I do as well as you.
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Jazzy- that poor dalmation!!! Hahaha.. fabulous picture! What a funny idea to turn the spots into spiders.Love the bunny picture too.
Loverly- what's the new pup name? She's adorable. Like our little "Flower" we had to put down at age 18.. (Corgi -Chihuahua- West Highland terrier mix). She was so silly looking she passed clean over to adorable. People would ask what kind of dog she was. We would say seriously she was a rare "Westcorgi-huahua." Hey specialty pure breed dogs have their followers. We in mutt land can have designer named mutts right? Good luck with the training.
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I may have missed it, but what kind of dog is that, Loverly? She has such crazy fur, I can't figure out what breeds she is.
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Hi Owlettes. You know, I think I've told you about the online game I play, and the friends I've made in real life, like the ones who made an 8 hour each way drive for a 24 hour visit when I was in chemo. Well, one of the gals was just dxed with BC yesterday. Had a long FB chat with her last night, she's still in shock, but I pointed her to BCO, and she may check in here. I know you'll give her a warm welcome, as you have with our newest, Cubbie *waves*.0
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Jacfin- I think it is important to not take on too much as we return to work. The conference opportunity sounds wonderful, but wonder given some of the struggles you are sharing if it would be better to consider another time? I find things like that often come up in the future.
If you decide to do it, be sure you know all the expectations right up front to prepare, be there, receptions, etc. I know speaking at conferences requires a lot of energy. Been there.
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welcome cubbie, sorry you've had to join our merry gang of misfits! We talk about EVERYTHING! You should have been here a couple months back when a posted a pic of the new prosthetic nipples I got. Funny, I sent them back. They did look very realistic. So, if your willing to share, are you doing reconstruction or decided on flat?
Well, I finished sewing this up this morning. This is the quilt I started in a class in Detroit last month. Had to get it done before I forgot how to assemble it. The dang thing is 60" across. Don't know what I'm going to do with it when it's done. I probably won't get back to it until after Xmas.
Lover, you're pulling our leg on the pup! You said it was a skinny little thing.
Anybody hear from Patty? Sassy??
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I pm'd pattyp, got nothing back. Hope she is not in hospital again.. Hugs and prayers her way, and all who are hurting
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Smarty! You should post your art-work, sewing ideas on this thread.... Calling All Artists!
https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/135/topic...
I just had one of my lower teeth pulled.... Going back Monday for him to take an impression and make a partial for my lower plate.... It didn't hurt, but it WAS hurting, because it had broken off....! It just made me shake..( I mean the deadening stuff...).... I wanted him to put some of that Novocaine in my knee.... He just laughed.....
I'm so happy that I'll have a full set on the bottom now! And I can chew on both sides! It's like a present to ME!
Been raining here for 2 days! We really needed it.... And supposed to be down in the 30's tonight! Spookie would have to put her socks on...Ha!
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Well, that's a fine welcome back I get from you guys - all that Go Cubs talk. I'm a broken hearted Rangers girl. But, I quickly got over it in NYC which is where I have been. Stayed at the Quin on 5th Avenue. I love NYC as long as I get to come home Bought my first 100% cashmere shawl and some beautiful gloves. Weather was cold on one day and we got out before the cold hits here and there. We flew first class and I loved laughing all the way. Does a soul good to throw a little caution out the window once in a while!
Now Cubbie, you couldn't have picked a better place to land than here. There are true people in this place. I know because I lurked for almost two years, just posting every now and then. Just recently have busted loose cause I went back to writing so I'm always scribbling something everywhere. You can ask anything at anytime. Just know one thing - Essex is not a place, it's a thing. Chevy likes to talk about it!
Mags, the older I got the less I could sleep. I learned to use it by writing again. Just grab a pencil and paper and put random thoughts down. Might help if the pills don't. But then, I take the pills!
Peace and blessings to all....
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Smaarty, you are smart although I can't look at your quilt artwork - makes my eyes feel like they got Chevy's novacaine. Sorry your knees are hurting Chevy...
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Mema-Nema...I STILL don't know what ESSEX is! And all these tramps around here want me to think it is something to do about sex! Ha!
My knee feels better... probably because it is finished raining? I think it is Bursitis... It hurts at NIGHT .... like when I want to turn over.... and when I try and move that log of a leg, my knee has fits! Tonight I will wear a wrap...
It's supposed to be 39 degrees tonight! Floridians don't have a clue..... right?
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Well Mema I did wonder what looking at Smarrty's quilt would be like stoned. .....I think Essex is more of an action than a thing? But I suppose if you are using the word as a noun, verb, or adjective makes a difference.
She has teeth! I'll be hornswoggled! Getting upitty Tain't you now?
Try this Chevy after you get fixed. I did it last week and it was great. Corn on the cob in a pot on the stove for a 2-3 hours on low. Add salt, milk, and sugar to the water.
Mema what a great trip. Going first class everything what a treat. YAY
Smarrty, I'll check my PM's to see when she last sent something. I sent her brownies and I'm pretty sure I heard from her.
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I had a pm from patty on Oct2nd. She was in the hospital.
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