A place to talk death and dying issues
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@threetree and @maggie15 Thank you so much. I will check out both.
I’m sorry for the loss of your mother, @maggie15
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Kbl, are your two places very far apart (like in a different state)? The arrangements I've made with my local funeral home include picking me up out of county, if I happen to pass away when I'm not at home. They gave me a laminated card that I carry in my wallet, so if I'm alone, like at a hotel or in a car accident (hoping neither of those scenarios occurs!) then they will be called.
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As our days become shorter (in the northern hemisphere) at this time of year, the dark nights grow longer. That’s why Christmas has been my favorite season for decades. Recently, I’ve not done much indoor decorating but manage to put up a few lights outside as a sign of hope.
I’m bumping this thread because my expectation for survival can now be measured in months. So my husband won’t have as much stuff to go through, my sisters are accepting pieces of my extensive collections. I’m hoping they can give a few items to their kids & grandchildren.
What can I leave my brother, a staunch minimalist with 2 homes? Since I’m the oldest and he’s the youngest, I’ve been emailing short messages describing my memories of when he was born. He retired early, partly due to health issues, which means we have that in common…
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@vlnrph I’m glad you bumped this thread. I was just coming here to do just that. I signed up for hospice today. I’m of the opinion that I want to get to know my end-of-life caregivers, not wait until the last minute.
Can you tell me if you’re having symptoms that you’ve got months. I am still what I would say able to take care of my daily needs at the moment.I too will be paring down while I’m able to. I don’t have collections, though, except a ton of pictures.
Please let me know how you’re doing if you can as the time goes by.
Hugs
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@vlnrph Sharing memories with your brother sounds really lovely. I don't think all the stuff matters so much. It's ephemeral. The love is what's important in the end, i'd say, but I'm no guru. Thank you so much for sharing your experience since we all have to go down this road sooner or later.
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We often hear, even beyond this community, that memories are the most treasured gifts to leave behind. Memories provided in the form of photo albums, family videos, audio recordings, journals, personal recipe books, scrapbooks, printed family stories. These can even be digitized and stored on a thumb drive/ memory stick, or online, for those who require more minimalism.
Sending love to everyone in here.
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@vlnrph and @kbl, thank you for sharing - as @tougholdcrow says - we all have to go down this road. I appreciate you sharing your experiences so much. In your pockets with support.
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@moderators Wonderful suggestion. Thank you.
@malleemiss251 I have to say so far my hospice experience has been very good. I signed up yesterday and already had my nurse visit and social worker. They have so many great resources. I feel extremely supported.
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kbl,
You're in my prayers and think of you often - the support and advice you've offered have meant alot and the messages we've exchanged. I recently got an outreach email from the company that sets up patient interviews to give feedback on drug marketing messages. Trodelvy was the last drug I did an interview for and it may be the next treatment option for me, but I'm not at all sure I will continue treatments.
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@weninwi Thank you so much. I think of you often too and miss you at our meetings. Please don’t hesitate to reach out. It took me months to make the decision to stop treatment, and I weighed all of my options. It’s such an individual decision for each of us, and I hope you have the support around you like I do for whatever decision you make. I’m sending you a big hug.
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