I look for other flat chested women. A rant.
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Yes, the clothing is very pricey. And I don't see the point of a short sleeve sun shirt. I was lucky to find a shirt at REI's big spring sale that was on sale down to the the price of a regular nice shirt. And it's cute besides. I wait for Sunday Afternoons sales to get hats.
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River rat, same here, and I also feel lucky. Obviously I would rather still have all my bits, but I don't, so shrug!
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I am rarely on this site any longer, it is just easier to be on Flat and Fabulous, on Facebook. BUT, had to share the good news - -
6 month post-chemo completion and CT test result appt was this morning - - CT is completely CLEAN, blood work including "cancer marker" are "WONDERFUL" - - happy happy dancing here today . . . "God isn't finished with me, yet." ! ! !0 -
Definitely happy dancing with you! Congrats.
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Yay Fern! Doin' a little happy dance here too.
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Happy dance! Happy dance!
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del
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Fern, great news, and doing the happy dance with you!!!!!
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Thanks all, still happy dancing. I am not sure what the cancer marker blood test is, or what it tells the oncologist. I do know that it the marker goes high is doesn't necessarily say CANCER, but indicates that further tests should be done.
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A couple months ago, I was having trouble with depression. I asked for medication. I rec'd effexor, and could not tolerate the side effect of double vision. I went to a counselor twice. I didn't believe that would be helpful. I decided to begin taking non-prescribed supplements and see what happened (what could it hurt, right?). I can confirm that 2 months later, I am BETTER. Between a fierce dose of prayer and these medications, I believe I am BETTER than I've been in years, even with the last 14-month-BC-journey. Here's the list: B-12 1000 mcg D-3 1000 IU Green Tea 1000 mg Melatonin 300 mcg St. John’s Wort 300 mg S-adenosylmethionine (SAMe) 200 mg0
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River Rat, I am with you. Give me the most integrity of form as possible, I cant imagine silicone encased in my body, unable to remove easily or of my own voalition. And I would not want it to mess with the function of my body.
I think flat is a very simple and beautiful option.
I get sad and I mourn the loss of my breasts. But I also really like being flat. I like this version of myself, even if I would not have chosen this path without cause or need. Breast cancer anneals me.
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MT1
what a wonderful way to express it: "Breast cancer anneals me." Really appreciate your putting it that way. Resonates for me. THANK YOU.
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Hello,
I have enjoyed reading this board - both before BMX, when I was deciding on reconstruction and now that I have had my BMX with no reconstruction. So, thank you to all who have been on this board before today.
It has only been a week and a half but I am very happy with my decision to go flat. I do not have it all figured out yet but when I look down, I see how strong I am and that strength is sexy! As a single woman, I have worried about dating and what a prospectve mate might think. I don't know and I don't have any control over what any man may think but as of right now, I don't care. I think I look good!0 -
You are welcome Sunflower.
Welcome to your new flat self, knitlady. The right man will love all of you.
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Knitlady - suggest you listen to Carly Simon's song "The Scar" on her Bedroom Tapes
Your post reminds me of her song.Love your tag line - she also said "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
And then there's Helen Keller "Life is a daring adventure, or nothing at all."
And my favorite, favorite: Emily Dickinson: "Never knowing when the dawn will come, I open every door."
You are the MOST MOST inspiring women, so glad I found your thread.
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Sunflowers, I really like the Emily Dickinson one. Thanks!
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I'm really enjoying the conversation, "anneal" and the Eleanor, Helen and Emily quotes. All of that makes me smile. Thanks.
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Beings I am a glass artist, "annealing" really is a very good word for what we are going through.
And I feel better just for reading all the quotes shared.
Welcome Knitlady, we are all finding our path here...welcome.
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Ok, I finally just left this site to look up anneal. Can't remember to do it after I stop reading.
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OOooohhhhh...a glass artist....may we see what you create? My little "dabble" in making flame work glass beads taught me a HUGE HUGE respect for anyone who works with glass. Almost everything I made, well, didn't look like I wanted it to. Now buy others creations to use in my bead work. LOVE glass. Also did some stained glass work several lifetimes ago, LOVE what glass & light do with each other.
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Aw, you all are getting annealed and I'm just getting itchy from accidental sun exposure to my previously irradiated areas.
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Laughing Outfield!
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I just got a new scar to add to my roadmap.Sorry ladies that's what I call my flat chest.The surgeon took quite abit from my chest wall below the BMX scar.Now I am playing the waiting game again with pathology😖
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So sorry you're going through this, mumito. I hope all is benign.
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Mumito, I hope that it's just scar tissue or something benign and that you don't have to wait too long for results.
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mumito - the waiting game is NOT FUN. I've had several instances of playing it - and the best advice I ever got was from a very loving friend, who said:" What you know is that you don't know. Anything else is what you're making up in your own mind." And we spend HOURS on the phone over the time until I did get the results. Not easy to do, but try, try, try to distract yourself - I know sme call it denial, I call it temporary sanity.
Hoping for B9. If there is "something" under the scar, I hink it would be considered a local reoccurence, a ne primary, and wouldn't change your staging. BUT, still hoping with all for B9.
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I wrote this post to acknowledge my two year surgery date: http://melanietesta.com/2013/06/breasts-and-then-no-breasts-year-2-two-years/
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MT, I read your post, beautifully said. I am so glad that I found you and this thread you started. Thank you! It was nice to know that I wasn't the only one to choose the route of non-reconstruction after having a BMX. I am very thankful that my BS understood my choice and did not make me feel any less a woman for not wanting recon and not interested in prosthesis, although he did give me an undated script for them in case I change my mind. It has been a little over a year ago that I had my surgery and have not bothered to fill the script. I guess it helped that I never let my breasts define me as a woman but I will not deny that there are times that I miss them.
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MT - great blog post. Thanks for the link.
Mumito - best wishes for B9 and speedy results.
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Mumito -- cheering for you! Go B9 go! And sending you gentle hugs.
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