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I look for other flat chested women. A rant.

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  • glennie19
    glennie19 Member Posts: 4,833
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    I think the insurance should pay,, and I hope you find a surgeon who is willing to work with the insurance company. Can you emphasize how much they annoy you? You can't find bras and prostethics to fit properly because of it, etc. etc. Some have painful nerve endings left in the dog ears. So I would be sure to mention ANY problem that you have with them, in addition to the cosmetic aspect. Don't get me wrong, cosmetic is important too,, but sometimes these surgeons need a little extra push to work with the insurance company. Best of luck, and do keep us posted.

  • Icietla
    Icietla Member Posts: 321
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    sh2015 -- It is probably a communication problem. I had that problem with one too. The Plastic Surgeon may be thinking (in the term of) *Reconstruction* (for which Insurance would pay), and finding that what you want is not among the general descriptions/ definitions of the enumerated, recognized, billable *Reconstruction* options/procedures. See how this notion might be the problem? I believe *Revision* (or *Mastectomy Revision*) is the characterization you want for your procedure.

    Good luck!

  • ravzari
    ravzari Member Posts: 32
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    tsoebbin

    It's like recovering from a really bad cut that needed stitches. You'll want to be careful about stretching, twisting, reaching, etc...for a couple of weeks same as you would if you just had a bad, deep cut that required stitches.

    They didn't even stitch mine, I just got surgical glue.

  • Imapeep
    Imapeep Member Posts: 1
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    My mom had a BMX in 1974 for stage 2b bc. She was 34 years old. She went flat for 43 years. It didn't bother her, as long as you feel comfortable with yourself that's what matters. This is my 1st post but I just wanted to say you are all incredible. This site has helped me through some tough times.

  • Icietla
    Icietla Member Posts: 321
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    Welcome, Imapeep. So sorry about your being diagnosed too.

    This site has done the same for me. I count it among my blessings.

  • glennie19
    glennie19 Member Posts: 4,833
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    welcome imapeep,

    I have to say,, I love that your mom went flat for 43 YEARS!! That certainly gives all of us hope in being long term survivors.

    This site has been so helpful to me too. I am sure I learned everything I know about lymphedema right here.

    glennie

  • sh2015
    sh2015 Member Posts: 6
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    Icietla--thank you. I never thought of that. I should hear from the insurance company soon and, if they refuse, I will certainly make sure they understand that this is a modification. Greatly appreciate all the help!

  • heidi s
    heidi s Member Posts: 398
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    SH, I forgot to mention that I had my modification surgery (on my prophylactic side) in Cleveland. Whos your insurance provider? I doubt you will have any issues with respect to your surgery

  • Breastlessbeth
    Breastlessbeth Member Posts: 1
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    The law now is insurance has to pay for reconstruction but try finding a Plastic surgeon sho TAKES insurance. I planned on reconstruction but am in no way able to pay out of network fees and deductibles. I'm not enjoying this daily fight.

  • sh2015
    sh2015 Member Posts: 6
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    hsant...I found a surgeon who will work with my insurance company and take care of this for me. Cleveland was actually my next stop if this did not work out. I'm only a couple of hours from there.

    Surgery is scheduled for June 12th! Yay!!

  • denvmom
    denvmom Member Posts: 23
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    I love going flat I think I posted that earlier on this posting.  I was huge 44 H.  I do not miss my breasts but that being said I am a widow 67 yr old and not looking for a husband.  I use scarfs to "hide" being "flat",  I had  some "fat" left and had to have the fat removed from under my arms.  Under my arms are now done and feels and looks great.  

    Going flat is a personal decision that no one can help you with.  I am older and confident really never notice if men notice I am flat.  Do not care.  If you do not feel comfortable in your skin being flat then I would use breast inserts or get rebuilt.  It is all about what makes you feel best.


  • JJ62
    JJ62 Member Posts: 36
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    Bump for all those who are flat or considering being so. No regrets!


  • bareclaws
    bareclaws Member Posts: 246
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    No regrets.

  • ravzari
    ravzari Member Posts: 32
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    0% regrets here.

    I love how I look and I love how easy it is to find shirts that actually fit without buttons nearly popping off at the chest. :D

  • wren44
    wren44 Member Posts: 7,907
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    Wish I'd done both. Still hoping to say goodbye to the other one.

  • kathindc
    kathindc Member Posts: 1,667
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    Absolutely no regrets.

  • spookiesmom
    spookiesmom Member Posts: 8,178
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    5 years, no regrets.

  • Icietla
    Icietla Member Posts: 321
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  • glennie19
    glennie19 Member Posts: 4,833
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    Having prophy MX on Righty on Thurs! then will be completely flat. Looking forward to it.

  • kathindc
    kathindc Member Posts: 1,667
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    In your pocket Glennie. Let us know how it goes for you.

  • castigame
    castigame Member Posts: 336
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    Glennie, 

    Wish you a speedy recovery.

  • amygil81
    amygil81 Member Posts: 42
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    Glennie, wishing you all the best, and a speedy recovery.

  • feelingfeline
    feelingfeline Member Posts: 5,145
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    Best wishes Glennie.

  • glennie19
    glennie19 Member Posts: 4,833
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    Thanks, everyone!!

  • murfy
    murfy Member Posts: 254
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    Best of luck @glennie19! I, too, am a uniboob and wear a regular bra, no prosthesis. Would have no problem being completely flat; I was an A cup before surgery any way!


  • Memekatrn
    Memekatrn Member Posts: 3
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    I had reconstruction 18 years ago, now having them out because of pain. I don’t want to look like a boy. I had a total and hysterectomy, the awful kind because they thought I had ovarian cancer. I feel like filleted fish, now I will look like boy too. I need help getting prosthesis, any ideas for low cost? Thank you all

  • wren44
    wren44 Member Posts: 7,907
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    First, check your insurance. It might pay. The least expensive are the microbead, which you can make yourself, or the foam. The foam tends to ride up if not weighted. I've thought to put them in a cami, which would help keep them down. There's also a group that makes knitted knockers. They will send you a pair free. It's pretty easy to add a cup to a bra you already have. You can also wear Coobie or Genii bras which have modesty pads. The opening can be made a little larger to fit in the prosthesis (also known as foob here). Good luck.

  • Jeremiah29-11
    Jeremiah29-11 Member Posts: 5
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    New flat girl here enjoying wearing XS now!! Thank goodness it's sweater season to help tradition to the new silhouette. I went to a Christmas party last weekend and found a cool metallic jacket that made me feel pretty. So, what stores or labels work for you all? Calvin Klein at Macy's has been pretty good. Any other suggestions? BCBG? WHBM?

    I love not being in pain. I love that I don't have endless MRI's in my future. I love that I don't have to replace boobs every 10 years. I love hugging my little dog and feeling his warm little body. This was the right decision for me.

    Thank you all, ladies, for your words of inspiration!

  • Momine
    Momine Member Posts: 2,845
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    Gloria, for me it is still a work in progress with the clothing. I do wear miniature foobs a lot of the time, in large part because I refuse to give up tailored jackets. I have a collection and I love them.

    I really want to get a tit-less dressmaker's dummy and experiment with some fabric. I have this idea that the flatness could be exploited, rather than disguised.

    But the other thing is, as many have observed, that people really don't notice most of the time, and if they do? One night I was out walking the dog, and almost bumped into a guy missing an arm, as I turned a corner. I couldn't help laughing and to explain my laugh I gestured to the missing tits. He immediately got it, laughed and shrugged, I shrugged and we each went our merry way.

    The point is to have joy and beauty in your life:



  • feelingfeline
    feelingfeline Member Posts: 5,145
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