The Hermit Club
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CCDW how cool is that!! What is your tartan?
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Hi hermits- ugh, what day. We are super busy getting ready for our system go live and then heard today the clinical folks want me to help them with their command center work that would have me working 7 days a week. I put hours limitations in this contract, and glad I did. Some on this team are just lazy and trying to get others to do their work. I have a dinner meeting with my client next week and think we have a few things to talk about.
Ducky- your words ring very true. I had some really good support during my treatment process, but many of my friends are distant these days. Some are just busy with their lives, and others say they want to get together but never follow through on anything. So I say to myself, I get it and don't pursue the ones who seem to be uncomfortable around me. I am grateful for the help they gave me when I need it, but don't see them as part of my support system now. I try to focus on the people who do show up, want to know how I am doing, seem less afraid of the whole thing. I have others who don't know about my bc and therefore, that is not in the way of our connection. It can all be very complicated sometimes, but don't want to put my energy into making other people feel okay about things they never will. We are a reminder anyone can get this.
Lori- photo came off a group on FB but cannot find it now! Will find out what group it is on. There is some funny stuff on FB sometimes!
CC-those Stillwaters sound like a group of angels! I hope you win the faux fur!
I bought a 15 pound turkey and going to roast it this weekend. Yum!0 -
Jazz......we are a reminder......your so right...
Teka.....LMAO........you talking turkey ......almost your time and your meal.....you go girl....get that bird in the oven.......lol.......
I hate turkey, but that could be because my first one got cooked with all the crap still in the hole at the neck.....or the next year I dropped it on the floor and it skidded across the room, and under the chair.....while my Boston Terrier was chasing it across the room...."..0 -
Is that Sean Connery? I always had a thing for him. Hey CCFW let us know if you win-Good Luck!0 -
this time change is killing me
Up at the crack of dawn now and ready to pass out this moment.
I'm lurking.
Hi everyone
Sending love to all of u.
Kisses...I am the FireKracker...0 -
Well he's still hot in my book!
Hi grannydukes-welcome0 -
Tek......hopefully outside.....lol........heard that is great......also done on a grill.....never tried it.......0 -
Nothing like a GOOD lookin man in a kilt! And if it's Sean Connery, even better!0 -
I've always loved Sean Connery!! And yes, he is still hot!!
All my family is in CA so I go to a friend's house for the Holidays. One year her DH made the deep fried turkey and it was luscious! And I am not a big turkey fan.
I am so with you grannydukes I hate this time change!!0 -
Ok... remember it's a judgment free nest. Dd2 and I do tofurky while dh and dd1 do turkey. :-)
Welcome to new voices, and hugs to each hermit. Thank you each for birthday wishes. Time just zips by. Even my kiddos at school comment on each class period--is it really time to go already? (And our classes are 100 minutes long.) Time is too precious to go so quickly...
Jazzy... still ouchy feet here. Tried your yoga ideas, but not sure I'm giving them justice. Also am trying KT tape, and it seems to help a bit. Glad your break is going so well. (Color me green.)
Camille... wish I could sit in flannels and share a cup of tea. Quietly hermiting together sounds good right now.
Lynn... so many, many introverts here. I am one of those who shared my bc info with very few. I did not want the attention, pity parties, sad oh-poor-you faces, pink outs, etc. turning the spotlight toward me. Any decision you make is what is comfortable for you. We each have to sacrifice the role of giver that we've taken on for years, and have to learn to accept and receive. It's humbling, but necessary for conserving energy. As others have said, welcome and so glad you're among safe and loving lovely women. Lots of info shared, shoulders offered, and humor to boost us all.
Wishing each gentle days for the weekend ahead.0 -
Thanks Skittle. I agree it is a humbling disease- from the diagnosis forward, in almost every way. I would like to keep some dignity with all of this going on in my body. When I go out, I try to keep my chin up and head held high, but it's hard on the psyche. Can't do it all the time and sometimes just want to curl up in a ball....Thank goodness I can let these feelings out sometimes on this board.
I appreciate each of you so much.0 -
I live in a very small town and there are just a few people that know of my dx. I am a private person and the fewer that know the better. The first few times I ventured out after my BMX I was nervous and cautious. It didn't take long to realize that no one really noticed I was now flat. It is cold here now so vests and scarves don't cause any notice. It only took a couple times out in public to realize this and it was amazingly freeing! I am actually more comfortable going flat than with the 'foobs". As far as I am concerned it is no ones business but mine whether I have "foobs/boobs/or am flat!!!!!!0 -
grammaB, I see you are from Montana, so you must be up late or up after sleeping some. I am up in the middle of the night too. My nighttime wandering has been going on for sometime, since before my dx. I was diagnosed less than 2 weeks ago. Knowing who to tell was causing me some concern, but this group is helping me with that. I hope you get some good rest tonight.0 -
Good Morning Joey (my GS) and I fell asleep at 7PM and I just woke up=he's still sleeping=I haven't done that in years- The time chang? my new job at homehahahaha? Whatever I'm still sleepy too.
Sally, always feel comfy here we might kid about things, but we're serious too. This disease is crazy and no 2 people react or take it the same way even with the exact same DX we learn to go with it and share whatever u want to whoever u want--but u can always come here and share anything--we all get it--every emotion possible someone has or had here, so feel free.
I think I need to take a shower soon
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Sally- welcome to our group. You are newly diagnosed and probably feeling overwhelmed. We understand. Please come here and share with us or ask questions we can help you with, as you wish to. We are a diverse and understanding group of of hermits!0 -
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Jazz......I feel like that Frog.....love it........
Well welcome to Our Gal Sal.......great group of ladies.......been with this devil for 2 1/2 years, but just joined The Hermits about 1 month ago, on the advice of our "Firecracker"........,you will meet her soon......
I usually tell all Newbies that I am the oldest, funniest, smartest, prettiest, sexiest, on the thread,....(quiet Firecracker), but I will stiffel myself, and let the others sing my praises.......lol
So you come on in and sit a spell.......your gonna like it here..........this is a judge free zone....0 -
Welcome Sally! This is a great bunch of wise women.0 -
Good a Morning Lynn.........hope your having a good day so far......getting colder in the Philly area......brrrrrr.....Lord I hate cold weather........and it's only in the 40's.......lol.......guess I'm a wimp...
My son and his family are doing the Pancreatic cancer ."walk" today at 8am.....in memory of my husband echo list his 2 1/2 year battle with the disease.........hopefully they dressed warm.....0 -
The older I get, the more I don't like the cold weather. The only good part about it is hot chocolate!
I did not know about your husband, I am so sorry. How old was he? That is such a nice thing for your son to do for him-especially in the cold.0 -
Good morning all. Thanks for the warm welcome. My lumpectomy and SNB are next Wednesday. Since today is to be a sunny 60 degrees, I am planning some fall yard time.0 -
Lynn....he was 57.....shock of my life....healthy, handsome never sick, construction worker....woke up xmas day 1988 with yellow eyes.....the rest is history...7 hour surgery, chemo and Rads 3 months before he died......there was no hope, it is a killer cancer.........my son just called...they are done...said it was nice.....it was him, his wife, his 3 children, their husbands, and his 3 grandaughter's, ages 2 "twins", and 4 months.......and our new baby still inutero...".lol
Sally....I did lump...and SNB.....it was no big deal, and the easiest part of this whole deal......I had a great BS, and recovered well....was walking around the house the same day, right after I got home......other then the anesthesia I could have driven myself.....lol....so relax (if you can).........I know.....easy for me to say, but I smile being honest based on my experience.......hugs0 -
Spookie, Kris, DH and I are going to Dogtoberfest today. It is a fund raiser for a local rescue group. Will be in the low 80s. Try to get a pic of Spookie in her stroller. Yes, I'm one of Those Crazy Women.0 -
Tek, Tek, Tek, Good almost afternoon, where I live.......great advice......especially if you can't get the help.....get the crap done before surgery,.and it keeps you busy, and lessens your time to sit and think, because thinking is your enemy after diagnosis......the words "its cancer" sets the mind crazy, so thinking is not advised......just make a plan........also don't think too far ahead......a day at a time works best......
And do accept help if offered cause guess what.........if you say no thanks enough times.......people stop asking.......found that out the hard way....lol0 -
Ducky-How great that they all walked in honor of your husband-such a beautiful tribute...what a nice family you have!
Sally-Good Luck this week...take it easy. Let people wait on you. Many prayers and hugs are with you.
Just an idea-- I sometimes give myself a reward if there is something difficult for me to do. ie...When I had my mastectomy, I bought a beautiful, new bedspread because I thought I would be spending more time in bed. After I had my first chemo treatment, I bought a new lipstick. I don't decorate a lot or spend much on myself, so those were treats for me. A little reward helps me focus on something besides whats happening to me at the moment.0 -
Good idea Lynn......
While I was doing Rads I purchased the first day 38 $1.00 scratch off lottery tickets. Each day when I came home from my treatment I scratched one off.........as the tickets dwindled so did the treatments.......and to boot I won $95.00 total when finished......it started a trend on another thread....such fun.....0 -
Hey Tek, does that include the " last piece of pie too, when there are 6 people and 5 pieces of pie".......been there.....and how about when your down to the last scoop of ice cream, and still have 1 kid left.......they say...."Mom, why aren't you having any ice cream"......,..answer .....it's a little cold for ice cream".... Lol.......0 -
He is right, but it's not easy......Guess how many times my husband got the last piece of something if it was just the 2 of us.......but I don't think he ever realized it.....lol0 -
Welcome SallyS70. you got some very good advice here from the hermits. please take real good care of your arm on that side, keeping my fingers crossed , no lymphedema for you! i found this site after surgury, but before chemo. i was about ready to bolt & run. that scared. but women here are truly wonderful n knowledgeable, and carring n funny (CAMILLEGAL!). that was a great lil frog, jazzygirl. much better than the other version even! i want that leftover ice cream! and loved that scratcher ticket idea.0 -
anybody hear of turduken? combination chicken duck and turkey? I SOO want some deepfried turkey, had a little piece once. so good.0
