The Hermit Club
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Thanks for your kind comments about going through treatment. I do think the sobbing that I go through with the steroid crashes relieve stress, but it is such a black place that it takes a few days to recover from it.
I'm going to my first breast cancer support group meeting in about an hour. It's a thirty minute drive from my house. I hope I like it. They meet once a month. We'll see....0 -
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Simple yes please share.
CC what are we sharing out TG years ago or what we do today??? Either way it's wacky for everyone--but always enough food for whoever came over even last minute--always liked that. So everyone was always welcome
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CC- I would love to share stories of Thanksgiving. Some of my favorite memories are potluck dinners with my grad school buddies in TX during the 1980's, a trip to Venezuela one year with friends and spent it at a vegetarian restaurant, and lots of nice times with family. Since moving to NM, I seem to spend my Thanksgiving with different sets of friends each year.
I think the most memorable of all was two years ago. My mother, who was in assisted living for about 7 years had been very ill with a septic infection that August, and we almost lost her. I was taking many trips out to the west coast to spend time with her through that fall. She did recover and by Thanksgiving, we were able to share a nice holiday together (mother, sister and myself). We provided her with her favorite meal-lobster! The rest of us has combos of turkey and/or seafood. That would be the last holiday I spent with my mother and that visit was the last time I saw her. She passed the following spring in March of 2012. We had such a lovely time together, and I cannot tell you how grateful I was we had that one last holiday together.
Those are my stories, next please!0 -
Jazzy, we get those kind of winter scenes here a lot. In the morning when the hoar frost covers the trees and everything it is almost magical. Now how the heck did they get that cat to stand up like that????? Let alone wear a costume??? I would be shredded to hamburger meat if I tried to do anything like that to my Baby Boo!!
Wow, saw my MO today and was totally surprised that I will be seeing him every 3 months for 3 years and every 6 months for 2 years after that. I had no clue! I was so hoping to be able to put this part behind me...... sigh. Totally exhausted as I also did some shopping and the round trip is 70 miles of driving..... Will stick close to home tomorrow.
I have two sets of favorite Thanksgiving memories:
When my kids were young, shortly after I married my 2nd DH (not their dad) we would go up to our vacation cabin in the Sierras in CA. We were snuggled in, I did the whole traditional meal. While the turkey cooked we would go on a walk. One year a dog followed us home and my DD totally fell in love with him. We called him Poopsie. Of course he went home after a while. As we ate we were crowded around the table laughing and teasing each other and just enjoying each other. If we were really lucky it would snow!
When I moved from CA to MT in 2004, I reconnected with a former neighbor from CA, already in MT. Her family "adopted" me and invited me to join them for Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, and Christmas Dinner. Since my family is so far away, and there are ex's and in-laws, second marriages, & etc., I don't go down for the Holidays. My friends have become a second family to me. I have been here 9 yrs and being the hermit I am, don't know a lot of people so having these friends really helps me get through the Holidays.0 -
GrammaB- yes, the follow up process can be a frequent one. I thought I would go every three months to start too, but my breast surgeon and MO said six months is fine for my particular situation. I went this fall for my first follow up with them, plus the rad onc who did my internal radiation treatments last winter. I will return for my next follow up in the Feb to March time frame. This is the part people really don't understand, the five years after treatment. So many of my people are like "so you are done now right?" Well, not really. The first one felt hard to me, I hope the next ones get easier. We will be here with you when you go through them.
And I am much like you with friends here being the ones I do my holidays with. What family I have is far away and they don't like to come in the winter (they prefer the warmer months, which I understand). I am not always able to get away for the holidays with end of year deadlines I am usually involved with for my clients. I am grateful for my friends here too!0 -
First Thanksgiving, married six months... Lived in a Canadian (Brockway) school bus... as in tiny. DH in the Navy had duty that afternoon, so on a tight schedule and miniscule oven, I was hopelessly proud of my 7 1/2 pound Butterball turkey w/stuffing, pecan pie, sweet potatoes, cranberry sauce from scratch, hot-crossed buns from scratch, broccoli, mashed potatoes, and gravy Waldorf salad, and all the traditional trimmings I had grown up with, with a gourmet-level cook for a mom. We felt quite grand and all grown up, at the ripe old ages of 21 and 23. Just the two of us.
Fast forward to this year. DD1 likes to hostess Thanksgiving, so we assemble at her home, about 12 miles from here... She does the traditional turkey, but jazzes up side dishes with whatever whim hits her. (One year she mashed cauliflower instead of potatoes... I wouldn't recommend it.) DD2 and I feast upon the meat-product free stuffing and "turkey roast" I am making today, while DH, DD1 and whatever assorted friends come over feast upon the "real" bird and trimmings. We are surrounded by DD2's menagerie of rescue pets, and it's a quiet loud small but more than I'm used to gathering... if that makes sense. (DH and I hope deeply that our dd's will someday marry, but so far, it's really just the four of us.)
Wishing all hermits the best... health enough to enjoy the day and loved ones... patience enough to get beyond hermitude for a few hours... joy enough to laugh until eyes sparkle. Hugs to each.0 -
Hi all ...
CCFW, your black outfit with the blue fur jacket sounds stunning.
simplelife, I too plan on attending a cancer support group. The next meeting is the 2nd Wednesday in December. How did your meeting go?
Jazzygirl, the picture of the Pilgrim cat and Native American dog is wonderful ... and best of all, smile provoking.
Skittle, I love your phrase "laugh until eyes sparkle." I am finding that laughter is good medicine. I think for too much of my life I have been too serious.
My Thanksgiving Story Memory to Share ... Until I was 15 we lived within the driving distance of both my maternal and paternal extended families. On Thanksgiving we dressed up in our Sunday best in the late morning. Noon found us at my maternal grandparents house for the full turkey dinner followed by "cousin time." At about 4 o'clock, we left that party to go to a paternal great aunt's house where an even larger extended family served a full turkey dinner at 5:30 followed by "cousin time." Although the ride home was a short 15 minutes, I was never able to stay awake in the car. I would fall asleep thinking about a replay with presents on Christmas.
This year all of you have become extended family ... I am very grateful to have found you!
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Skittle I loved what u said, and yes I understood every word of it. Oh and seeing the Dr. is still ongoing every 3 months with tests in between. Anyway----
One of my favorite is when my kids were 6 and 2 we were planning TG with my parents coming over , eating at my house then going to be with everyone afterwards. So my DD1 when asked at school what we were doing for TG she said well we weren' t going to have a turkey so she wasn't sure--(I was newly divorced from their father) so the teacher took it as we couldn't afford a turkey, which was always cheap--so somehow she collected money and called me to school and asked me what we were having for dinner and I said well we're not having Turkey and smiled--so she gave me this envelope with money and said please buy what u need for a traditional meal for u and u'r kids--well here it comes--I apologized for the confusion and told her none of us like turkey and we were having standing rib roast with all the fixings--Those days that was a lot of money--Of course my parents were paying but I did not take the money. We still laugh about my DD1's mouth.
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Hi Hermits,, Made it back home from the hospital. Had my exchange operation and breast lift . Feeling real good to get past this step! Have a Happy Thanksgiving all!
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OK Dwill atta girl ---YYYAAAAYYYY Stay feeling good, and a very happy Thanksgiving to you.
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Dwill, Please remember to let people pamper you. Have a list ready to go when people ask how they can help... from take out the trash to rake the leaves... whatever helps. Be good to yourself! Gentle hugs on your special milestone.
Camille, Teachers today cannot interfere. We must relay concerns to the counseling center, and they turn it over to local church food banks.
Sally, I, too, have spent too long being serious. My parents should have divorced, but did not... leading to lots of dysfunction. I was never a rowdy teen frolicking and laughing, interrupting families in movies and restaurants with teen high spirits... I guess the two of us need to kick up our heels now that we know better. :-) Let those eyes sparkle!! :-)0 -
Happy Thanksgiving Eve, one and all!
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Jazzy---it pays to be bilingual!0 -
Cute Jazzy
Skittle no one is allowed to get involved with anything now--they might just want donations to help people, but who knows where it all goes.?
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Cute Jazzy!!
dwill, glad you are home and doing well. As Skittle said, let people do for you for a while. The more rest you can get the faster you will heal.
Happy Thanksgiving to all of my dear Hermit friends!!0 -
Happy Thanksgiving to all my hermits--I'm staying home today hahaha but I did take a shower and put my sweats on, no nitegown today, and I'm comfortable and already to take a nap.
Dwill--Please just take it easy and let u'r self heal.
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Happy Thanksgiving All You Special People ... I am savoring my second cup of coffee and enjoying my time with all of you.
Camillegal, you handled your daughter's/prime rib story/situation very gracefully.
Dwill, take care of yourself. Keep us posted on your recovery.
Skittle, are you a teacher? I am retired (after 36 years as a teacher) and now am watching from the sidelines as education changes. Some of the changes remind me of what we did when I first started teaching. One DS is an administrator which provides a whole new vantage point.
Skittle ... on another subject ... about us kicking up our heels ... breaking our seriousness will be hard but worth it ... I think! ... Anyone else out there need to kick up their heels a little?
Jazzy, thanks for the mooing chickens.
Hi GrammaB.
Yesterday, two weeks after surgery, I finally resumed my exercise routine which is walking. In the morning I went shopping with DH at Walmart ... it's a big store, so I counted that as exercise. In the afternoon DH and I took a neighborhood stroll. Health issues had been keeping him from exercising too, so we are reentering exercising together.
Thank you all for listening and sharing,
Sally
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Happy Thanksgiving my hermit peeps. Thinking of you today for those of you who are home recovering and resting, those enjoying a quiet day at home alone or with family, or going out and about with friends and/or family. However you are spending this day, may you find peace and love surrounding you.
I am watching the Macy's day parade and missing NYC. Spent a lot of time there when I lived back east. I am thinking of planning a trip there for my birthday in 2014. Getting caught up on all the current Broadway plays too. I think I have to see Motown the Musical for sure!
Heading out this afternoon to meet a friend (and fellow bc survivor) for dinner at one of the best resorts here. Going to dress up and enjoy the whole experience!0 -
Jazzy, New York sounds like a great vacation spot. Last night I was watching a Christmas movie set in New York City. I would love to wander around there ... I love citiies. New York has such a variety of architecture, microenvironments, and people that I could probably wander happily for months ... can't forget the museums and Broadway.0 -
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Priceless CCFW!!0 -
CCFW ... great picture!0 -
CC--way to funny--chillin the good way.
I hope everyone had a restful nice day today--I did and I'm going to answer this Skittle is a teacher and wonderful.
There's a couple of gals who haven't been around for a while I hope that means they are doing well.
Jazzy I think u should go to NY sounds mahhhvelous and I always think of the old movies where it's snowing and they show Rockefellow (sp) center (that is in NY right) and it looks so beautiful.
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ahhhh chilled turkey!!!!!!0 -
Spookie- I was watching the dog show yesterday. What kind of dog is Spookie?
I hope everyone had a good Thanksgiving yesterday. Getting a few things done at home, and then have to go to work (sigh).
Have a good day hermits!0 -
I'd never heard of that show till yesterday. A Walker Coonhound got BIS.
Spookie is a Maltese, her bro KrisKringle is a poodle.0 -
Spookie, hahaha KrisKringle--get all the holidays in there---that is so cute.
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Sally, yes, guilty as charged... Teacher. (Any chance you taught in DoD Heidelberg schools? I attended 5th and 6th grades there.) It has changed so much just in the past few years... and not for the good, I'm afraid. (Had to laugh at the chilling turkey! a little creepy at the same time.)
Hope all had satisfying Thanksgivings. It was so quick to leave us! Rest if you can. Enjoy the month ahead as the Christmas roller coaster scoops up so many in its path.0
