The Hermit Club
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Oh, Teka, hugs and prayers...
Jazzy, loved the train photo. Both daughters are Purdue grads, so trains make me think of boilermakers... and dh's grandfather worked on trains like that! Such a difference from today's techie transportation modes.
Bundle up, most hermits, it's cold this morning.0 -
DD sent me this. Don't know where she found it.
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Spookie- love it!0 -
Teka.....thinking and praying for you....,hugs0 -
Take care Teka0 -
Thinking of you, too Teka. Hope everything ends up alright. Boy, it seems like this part of november is being hard on lots of people in all these posts, hermits or otherwise. i look at "Breastbook" like other people look at "Facebook"!!!! And this is where i care. Did not get to paint woodwork at my neighbors house yesterday, cause when i was done with my home errands and chores, i looked at lymphedema arm/ hand, and the hand was exceptionally swollen and extremely puffy! Usually, the hand does not get swollen. at. all! so i did not go there. and now it is noon here, and i am not even dressed. Rug coat happy hour. i have been staying up late watching "Treme" 3rd season, about New Orleans, during and after Katrina. Nice hbo series with wonderful music, and not quite like other series HBO has done. This one is very full of real musicians and people of the hood, Quite interesting, and i feel like i know them. And more about what really happened there in the wake of that disaster. So sad, and also pi$$es me off, too, what happenes after any calamity: in the news briefly, but the real story is suppressed. I was looking at pictures of New Mexico, Jazzy. And it looks so beautiful. You are so smart to have made a decision to spend time there. Now i really want to come visit you! I do remember too, all the adults in my hood being sad about assassination. I remember,very clearly. It was as if a darkness had descended on all the land... Right now i am reading a book that women on a reading thread were talking about here called the GOLDFINCH. unputdownable, so i am so in trouble, case i should be doing things, but all i want to do is read. Lives are hanging in the balance, and the world does keep spinning, and i am caught up in an imaginary world. (Edited for proper capitalization, a few slipped through. i do not feel it is right, somehow, to capitalize "i". What were they trying to tell us when 'they' made up those rules about writing, Ladies? That each of our lives are important. but i cannot see capitalizing the "i" of me.0 -
LOVE, with LOVE to all of us on a BRAND NEW DAY.
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n Flowers, For ALL
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Spookiesmom, Be careful of posting such pictures. I might be among a hoard of hermits banging on your door for warm respite from the bitter chill! I love, love the beach and sand and all that goes with it. :-)
Kathec, I may be wrong, but the history of the capitalizing I... Long ago I was told it was capitalized to intensify ownership. When people would dare put their names to politically unpopular or religiously disruptive manuscripts, the I emboldened the who that was speaking, the who that was owning the opinion and standing up against the power of the era. (It may not be true, but is what I was told a zillion years ago, as I studied journalism.)
Happy Sunday, all. Snuggle down. Snow is supposed to fall tomorrow. Rare this early for Ar! brrr.0 -
a japanese hand painted three screen foldy-thing, that belonged to my boyfriend's father. From his travels. What do i do with all these things, in case i will die? Cause he is not nterested. Some days i confuse the word mausoleum with museum. Cause i started to feel like, the other day when i looked, that our house had lots of things we inherited from people we had lost. And, yesterday, my man went to a sort of tribute to a man from his childhood, who had passed. And i read the pamphlet for it, and found out more abut him than i had known his entire life, i had not known. and it started seeming to me, that people are dying faster than we can appreciate them somehow. fuck i hate this. people, we are so much. live all the way0 -
I find i incredibly sad that so often its true we only get to know people at their memorial service and think shoot wish I´d known that.....we just dont communicate enough or perhaps we dont believe others will be interested............0 -
.....or that some part of us, against all evidence, believes that there is still time, to get to know someone better, someday. So i am beginning to live my life, i almost said 'laugh', as tho time is really running out. or limited. hug now! not later! ask questions, NOW! not later. really listen, and look people in the eyes... beginning to live my laugh0 -
SKITTLE! Love your explanation of capitalization, especially of why "I" should be. I Stand up, for I!!!!!0 -
Lily55, always, when some i know has loved, dies, i always feel somehow, i must pay attention harder, must notice harder, and live better, somehow for their sake. but increasingly the people i have loved, are missing from the reach of my arms0 -
Hi hermits- nice snowfall this morning and then it cleared and I went out and about. My big accomplishment for today was to get a new smartphone. I have been a Blackberry girl for a long time, but decided to try a Windows phone. Recommended to me by Verizon for the type of work I do with a phone. Now I just have to get the hang of it, but think it will be good!
Kathyec-love those photos! That kitty stretching is so cute. What is his/her name? And the beautiful japanese screen is so pretty.
Funny you should mention "what should I do with this if I die?" Well as my sister says "we are all going to die, but hopefully not today." Both she and I are actually in the processing of evaluating family heirlooms we want to pass along to our family now vs. later. I still have those questions about what if and who do I want to have things? I have a will, power of atty, medical directive, etc. but still need to put together my list of things that are beyond the basic documents. Feels sort of morbid to me to do sometimes. I get so far with these things and then stop.
Skittle- the big storm that has been out west here is heading your way. We got a pretty big storm here the past few days, which earlier than we usually get here too. Seems like the west, that has been very dry for awhile now, is changing back to very wet again. I hope your storm is not too bad. At least it is a short week for all of us that are working.
Lily- I hope things are better for you this weekend.
Wishing you all a good Thanksgiving week. I look forward to going out to eat this year (easy).0 -
wow. So many losses, changes, readjustments. I love the floral screen!! (Was born in Japan, so that art is part of me... I love the antiquity, texture, style, gentle mood.) Stretching kitty is wonderful, too. :-)
Jazzy, thanks for the warning. Everyone here panics at the sound of ice--no one knows how to drive on it, and we're told to expect an inch or more of ice/sleet/snow. Laughable for some states, but things shut down here quickly since there's no clearing equipment or expertise... again, brrr.
Lily, I think you are so right. Communication and thinking others might not be interested or care really handicaps us all. Most people put forth the "expected" face, and few lift the mask to peer more deeply. That's one thing I love about here. So many have skipped the veneer, and gone straight to the deeper levels. We know the value of time. We know it's not guaranteed.
Cuddle up, sweet hermits. Enjoy the Thanksgiving week ahead.0 -
Watching the Amerian Music Awards. I think Rianna forgot part of her outfit at home! LOL!
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jazzygirl--thanks for you thoughtfulness and prayers--and I pass forward prayers to teka an family.
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Kathec, I'm always looking for good reads....I put a hold on The Goldfinch at my local library based on your post. I'm looking forward to it. I find reading to be a wonderful form of escape while I'm going through treatment.
I feel like it took me a good 48 hours to recover from my last steroid crash from my last taxol infusion. I was really hard on my husband the last couple days. I need to apologize and somehow make it up to him. I feel badly now that I feel like I'm back in my "right mind" again. I think being a caregiver is sometime much harder than being the "patient".....particularly when the patient is being difficult to live with like I have been the last few days.
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I so love trains!! DH & I took the Via Train across Canada after flying from CA to MA on our honeymoon in October. Later a couple of times we went to Europe to visit his family and got Eurail passes and traveled all around Europe on the trains. It is an amazing way to travel always my favorite.
Teka, sending love and prayers that all will be well with your family.0 -
Hi Hermets I'm so far behind, I was just catching up---I was noticing how much u all like to read, how wonderful. Unfortunately I've lost interest over the years, but I used to read all the time but only true stories--how true???) but I really didn't enjoy just romantic novels--Now they have so much on TV history, science, etc I've gotten interested in that but crime is my fav. And I love scary movies hahaha
Dwill it's tomorrow right? (HUGS))) and get in touch ASAP cuz we think about u.
I miss Teka already. Geeze I hope things turn out good for her.
My trek out was of course fun, all we do is giggle like when we were teenagers but don't look like it, good thing the place wasn't crowded cuz we moved tables 4 times so we had complete comfort, then when we left my GF made a left hand turn, we realized after u couldn't and faced onward traccic--they were stiff at the light, well of course we took complete control and started laughing--WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO THE LITE WILL CHANGE??? I yelled we're not in Europe, This is a very busy street TG the middle part wasn't that high so she went over it and we at least were on the right side jamming up traffic, well finally all got straightened out without any accidents. See and yet another reason to be a hermit.
When I got home had a few messages for work got those sent out and filed and was so tired and in pain so I took my pain meds and it helped,by now it was like 8--Joey got home we talked about an hr and I fell asleep.
And it's cold outside--but no snow for a while--either way it's winter--Oh I love the cat pic. Of course I'm a cat lover, and doggy too.
OK it's Monday work day for me--hahaha
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Happy Monday hermits. Hope you all slept well and have a good short week before the holiday!
P.S. this is not my cat but off FB, but how cute is this?
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Morning all,
dwill, I am sending you thoughts of hugs for tomorrow.
Teka, hugs and hoping you are back here soon with good news that the family is recovering.
Spookiesmom, love the snow/sandmen. The sandman takes me back to Oahu which is always a warm, relaxing memory.
kathec, I wish I had HBO. That New Orleans program sounds wonderful. Thanks for the book recommendation; I have added it to my "to be read" list.
Kay, I too think being the caretaker may be harder than being the "patient." Although he is being wonderful to me, I think my DH is struggling with his emotions. We generally communicate very well, but I think he might be afraid to share is concerns with me. Since he is a hermit, a serious hermit, he is unlikely to share his feelings and fears with anyone else. He has health issues of his own and does not share his fears about those easily. I need to remember that he mulls concerns over for days/weeks and then seems to share. Maybe he is just in a mulling phase about my diagnosis.
grammaB, your train memories reminded me of going by train from Kaiserslautern, Germany, to Salzburg, Austria, through a snowy December night in 1968. Beautiful. I was teaching for the Department of Defense Overseas Schools ... many great memories. It's funny, great how "train talk" moved me to travel across the Atlantic Ocean via memories.
camillegal, it sounds like your car ride home was a true adventure.
Jazzygirl, I want to hug that kitty.
To all, thanks for posting. You are all shining stars in my day.
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Hi hermits- waking up to more snow here overnight, but now it's sunny and I will be on my way to my client site soon.
On the subject of our bad days, I think it is so hard for us to have to explain our bad days to others. There is no way to make other people understand the struggles we go through with the diagnosis, all the tests, surgery and other treatments. Then the anti-hormone meds many of us take and the whole follow up process that goes on for years. We are just going to have bad days, physically, emotionally, and otherwise. I have always personally struggled with trying to deal with other people's feelings around the diagnosis or their questions about treatment.
I found just being really honest with folks about my needs really does help. I have let folks know I still have bad days and sometimes am not all that social. I have people around me who understand it, others who just want the whole thing to be over with and want to talk about other things (like themselves, LOL!)
I will tell the folks going through treatment still, you do sort of figure this out with time and find that you don't need to explain yourself or apologize for your bad days. You just need to let them know you are getting through it, and how they can help. Most people are just very fearful of the whole thing, and/or just don't know what to say or how to support you. The ones closest to us have the worst time sometimes as they see us at our worst going through things. I have become much clearer about stating my needs to others, which is not a skill I have always been good at. Perhaps something good I am taking away from all this?
Wishing a special healing day for those here recovering from treatment, going through it still, and all those fighting the good fight. Blessings to all hermits near and far!0 -
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CCFW, what I do when I have several pages to catch up with is copy/paste my message from the first page onto the next one. But your way is good too. If I have 4 or more I do two pages at a time because it can get to be too long a post.
Jazzy, I love that cat!!
Mine right now is sprawled in front of the fireplace!!
No snow here yet! It is still dang cold though.
I see my MO tomorrow. I assume it will be my last visit? Or do they do yearly follow ups? Don't really know.
Thinking about Teka and hope things improve quickly.0 -
CC- yes, I think the northern part of the state got a lot of snow. That is typical, and the mountains get snowfall in feet vs. inches. The storm has moved on through (and now likely with Skittle in AK), but it is very cold here!
Watching The Voice tonight. These singers this season are really good!0 -
Nogal, New Mexico.
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