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  • pontiacpeggy
    pontiacpeggy Member Posts: 6,338

    RMLulu, Thank you. I will NOT be having DH in our home. Hiring the help needed is not feasible and I am not able to care for him 24/7. Did that for 4 years and exhausted myself to the point I was ready to breakdown. He will be in the hospital for awhile. He is the one who is making the decision. His doctor talked with him this morning and the hospice nurse this afternoon. He wasn't quite ready to make the decision. His brother and I are gently encouraging him to accept hospice. I am going to have the boys fly in this coming week. I'd rather they come while their father is alive than later. They need to be able to say goodbye, too. Talking with them shortly although they knew what I was doing today. Awfully weepy right now. Thanks for the encouraging words. DH is ready to transition.

    HUGS!!

  • octogirl
    octogirl Member Posts: 2,434

    So sorry, Peggy. I know it will be a comfort to you, and to DH, to have the boys there, so glad they are able to come in...wish we could be there to give those HUGS back in person!

    Octogirl

  • plumster1
    plumster1 Member Posts: 100
    Thinking of you Peggy!
  • Molly50
    Molly50 Member Posts: 3,008

    Huge hugs to you, Peggy. I pray that your DH is at peace with the journey he's on and for you, too.

  • Sweetmamaj
    Sweetmamaj Member Posts: 174

    Peggy, (HUGS!!).

    Sending you strength and hugs. Glad DH was able to decide for himself what he wanted, and hope that brings you and your boys some small comfort.

  • ankledolphin
    ankledolphin Member Posts: 21

    (hugs) Peggy....

  • Jo6202
    Jo6202 Member Posts: 165

    Hugs back to you Peggy. You have supported so many here and now it is your turn to be supported. Thinking and praying for you and your whole family

  • Horsegirl
    Horsegirl Member Posts: 78

    Sending you hugs and comfort Peggy. Wish we could do more <3

    Last week was big. Got all marked up & prepped for rads. Start mid month. Had first monotherapy infusion on Friday. Side effects surprised me later that evening. Just chills (where's a hot flash when you need one?!)
    I've noticed my B/P has been slowly rising as I progress through the various treatments. Had always been so good in that department. Suppose there is more stress within me than I realize.

    Thoughts & prayers for all of you. Keep healing!
  • pontiacpeggy
    pontiacpeggy Member Posts: 6,338

    Dearest Friends, DH is all signed into hospice and all medications except for his Parkinson's and any comfort drugs are being stopped. I thought they would continue with the antibiotics since they are contributing to his QOL. Need for him to hold on for a couple more days until I can get the kids here from out West. Life sucks.

    HUGS!

  • MaggieCat
    MaggieCat Member Posts: 315

    Strength, Peggy...

  • pontiacpeggy
    pontiacpeggy Member Posts: 6,338

    I'm trying, Maggie, but it's awfully hard. I'm so weepy.

    HUGS!

  • queenmomcat
    queenmomcat Member Posts: 2,020

    With you, Peggy.

  • octogirl
    octogirl Member Posts: 2,434

    with you here also Peggy. We all are...

  • gypsyjo
    gypsyjo Member Posts: 112

    Hugs Peggy. May your family be surrounded with love through this.


  • pontiacpeggy
    pontiacpeggy Member Posts: 6,338

    Thank you...every single one of you!

    HUGS!

  • Sweetmamaj
    Sweetmamaj Member Posts: 174

    We're all here Peggy.

  • bluedog
    bluedog Member Posts: 147

    Peggy, with you in Maryland. 💕

  • Ringelle
    Ringelle Member Posts: 175

    Peggy. Reaching out across the miles to hold your hand. I know there are no words to easy your pain but hopefully knowing there are so many of us in your corner will give you some comfort and strength to fall back on. Praying all your kids can be assembled in a timely manner. I can honestly say I would go through the last 4 months of my life again than for you or anyone else to go through your current situation. Hugs to you

  • BT828
    BT828 Member Posts: 29

    So sorry Peggy! Constant prayers & many hugs! You're such a strong woman. Hang in there!

  • 123justme
    123justme Member Posts: 169
    Peggy I am so sorry. Praying for your family.
  • Tresjoli2
    Tresjoli2 Member Posts: 579

    I remember racing home to get to my brother before he passed. I didn't make it. The airlines will sometimes offer discounted fares if u call to book and tell them of the situation. Praying your children make it home in time Peggy..

  • pontiacpeggy
    pontiacpeggy Member Posts: 6,338

    thank you. Both boys are booked. Apparently compassionate fares don't exist anymore.

    hUGS!

  • reader425
    reader425 Member Posts: 958

    Prayers and support across the miles to you, your DH, and your whole family at this trying time dear Peggy.

  • Nash54
    Nash54 Member Posts: 699

    Peggy just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you and your family.  So sorry for DH.  I hope he is not in any pain.  So glad your sons will be with you soon. I know you are heavy hearted.  (((Hugs)))

  • Molly50
    Molly50 Member Posts: 3,008

    I'm still here with everyone else holding your hand and praying. You are not alone, Peggy.

  • ChicagoReader
    ChicagoReader Member Posts: 54

    Peggy, my heart goes out to you.

  • pontiacpeggy
    pontiacpeggy Member Posts: 6,338

    Thank you! Boys are coming in tomorrow and Tuesday. Just need for DH to hold on until Wednesday. The boys and DH need to be able to say goodbye.

    Your support means the world to me.

    HUGS!!

  • Keys-Plez
    Keys-Plez Member Posts: 190

    With a heavy heart, I don't know what to say. But I'm with you, Peggy. ((HUGS))

  • Outrunning
    Outrunning Member Posts: 157

    Compassion fares basically don't exist. But when I had to send DH to his mom even faster than our planned visit during her decline. (BC went to her liver). Then kids and I went on original tix but had to extend for the funeral. South West did give us tixs for the original price instead of fare we would have paid buy that day.

    I'll be thinking of you Peggy.

  • pontiacpeggy
    pontiacpeggy Member Posts: 6,338

    outrunning one son a able to book on Southwest but the other is on Delta with travel insurance. Can't wait for rejected to get here. Just hope DH waits for them.

    HUGS