new and future flat sister, with questions
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PRB: My heart is aching for you as I can relate to what you are going through even though our situations are different. First of all just let me tell you that my mx was very easy surgery compared to most things. I have had headaches that have caused me more difficulty. But I was not emotionally attached to my breast for some strange reason. I am so pleased with the result and I am only 8 weeks post mx. I took Ariom's suggestion and even have a foob in my nightie from Paris tonight. Do not panic initially at how things look as there is fluid and swelling, etc. that distorts things and then each week things get better. My DH is absolutely amazed at how neat and tidy everything looks and he now prefers me to lean in with the mx side when we hug as it feels closer.
I have made very public my conflict with deciding to have rads or not. It is not something recommended by my treatment team, but considered to be an option for persons with a mx and still have a positive margin. My odds of a recurrence sit at about 10 - 15%, but after the initial 1 - 2% it was supposed to be, I could not rest with that. But rads has other issues. So I stressed and stressed over this decision and in helping another woman in another forum last night, I researched cardiology toxicity from rads and scared myself to death. But the odds of issues are only 1% or even less now with better methods, so then I could sleep again. So I am still going ahead with rads to bring my odds back to around 5%. These decisions are impossible without a crystal ball. So I totally get how difficult it can be.
I have mentioned this elsewhere, but my son used to ask me when he was little and obsessed with sharks, dinosaurs, etc. "what would you rather be chased by, a shark or a bear?" I feel like I am having to make that decision now!
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Ariom: I want to pick figs, watch yachts go by and birds in the trees, and go to the spa. It sounds so very lovely to me right now. I could do the spa. Maybe need to get on the phone and book something before rads start on Thursday. But figs and yachts are right out of the question
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Hi TB, oh how I wish we were all closer, geographically, and I'd say, come on over! The spa is 39c, the sun is shining and there is a slight sea breeze! I am going in the Spa, not to the Spa, but there is a good one just nearby!
I am just making lunch, Turkish bread with chilli salmon, Black Russian Tomatoes, Mayo and Basil that I am about to pick!
So glad the "foob" worked for the nightgown!
Your advice to PRB was spot on, I forgot to mention that you have to disregard what it looks like with the swelling etc. Not that it's all that bad, but it sure gets better after a couple of weeks.
Isn't it funny, I wasn't emotionally attached to my breast either, and without sounding precious, I had a pretty good set! The truth was, as soon as I found out what was brewing in there, it was like it wasn't a part of me any more. I have mentioned this many times here, so for the others who are sick to death of hearing this, I am sorry!
I spent the night before my surgery in a Motel near the Hospital because getting Colin up in the morning takes a good hour, and then the Hospital is a bit over an hour away. Also, I prefer to be alone for Hospital stuff. So, I was feeling pretty nervous, funnily enough not about the Mx, but the SNB. I'd been scared out of mind, by people telling me it was horrific. So I actually spoke to my breast, I told it that it had let me down, so it had to go! I actually felt a calm come over me, and I managed to sleep.
Just as a side issue, I have to say, the SNB was the biggest surprise for me. I had a brilliant Tech, and I didn't feel a thing. I took great pleasure going back to the people who had scared me witless with their stories about it being the worst thing that had ever happened to them, and said I was so sorry for their dreadful experience, but mine was a total non event!
In saying that, this actually set the stage for me. I felt so unbelievably relieved after that, that I got this amazing rush of, probably adrenaline, and I was ready for anything. I chatted to anyone and everyone. I joked around with the surgical team while they got me ready, and before I knew it, I was looking into my Surgeon's eyes. He told me he had done what I asked, and I had a straight scar, he's even checked it with a spirit level! LOL I spent the whole night walking the halls, chatting with people and having Tea with the Nursing staff.
I can't tell you how great I felt, and not a single pain med after the surgery. I had a broken toe at the time, and it was far more annoying than the Mx. The next morning my Surgeon and the team were there telling me how well it had all gone, the dressing was removed and "Ta Da" there it was, or wasn't! The Surgeon said, "Go home, you look fantastic!" and I called Colin to come and get me.
Just to let you know PRB, if you're reading, I stuffed my drain into the cotton shoulder bag that we are given as part of our BC kit, here in Aus, and got Colin to take me to the mall so I could do some shopping.
I had a few hiccups along the recovery trail, as many do, but none of it was a drama.
I like to snuggle into Colin with my right side to his left. It is really amazing how we fit together, and I can feel his heart through my chest. M x
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I need Granwe! Please come make my arm better. I'll even let you tie me up:) I'm sure you are buried in snow and getting ready for the watermelon to arrive. I hope you know something about birthin babies.
Does the sleeve really help or can it hinder? I'm sure eating out after the funeral didn't help. It's worse. Can't see or feel tendons in my wrist. The CLET said to give it another week. I didn't expect it to get worse. It was just my armpit/chest. Feels like I'm squeezing a hotdog under my armpit (like GrammaB) and that side is tight like I want to take off my bra. Like after sx. I still have range of motion. Any advice?
The funeral was nice. Almost fell asleep during the service. It was a 45 min ride to the cemetery with police escort. At least it didn't snow or rain. Ate out afterwards with one sister and her family. Not sure where other sister went. Third sister and family rode back to Lex in funeral cars and had lunch with my dad and uncle. We had to get the kids so couldn't drive back.
Have fun ND with your bday party.
Idesim. Have a pj day. You deserve it!
GrammaB. Take it easy.
M. Stay cool.
Wren. Any hits on Goldie?
TB. Glad you helped someone and helped yourself in the process.
PRB. Did you get a Rx for anxiety? Try to walk as much as possible. Even walk at the mall if you can't go outside. Watch the people. Make up stories. Report back to us!
Wonder where SGC is. Hello to everyone else. Happy Saturday! I can't put off cleaning any longer. Looking forward to a nap and it's only 7 am. Baby cutting three teeth.
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Zills if you know how to do MLD try that. Or check on FB. Hold your arm up in air, make pumping motions, and grabbing motions. I hate my sleeves, rarely wear them. I guess they help some people. Have you been to the LE threads?
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OT, glad you are less poofy! Please detail everything that is in your LGFB bag. Makeup porn.
Birdie, still in the bag for you. You made me laugh out loud with your puppy plan! And M, I am definitely going to give your advice a shot. ND, is it you who seems resigned to MD coming? Oh. It is not a sitcom for me, although I can see how it might sound funny on the outside. My mind is still working on how to get around this. It's using up a lot of mental energy. M, how are the fires?
Z, I will follow up with delirium pie. Good to hear from our Idesim. And I too need a granwe update! Skunk love season? Yikes.
House-cleaning, getting ready for circus day at the school, cooking Indian food -- I have two friends coming for dinner (at 4 o'clock! I am old). I want to thank them for subbing for me when I was in the hospital.
Wait. Who had the beautiful nightie? TB, was it you? You rock! Wear that nightie all the time! Put on a pair of tough jeans and a jacket and wear it to the shops!
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Bobo Whats on the menu? Give MD the wrong date.
I was told to stroke from arm to hip like petting a cat. I read about the fist thing and have been doing that. Have some JS holds. I felt them work immediately once. Sometimes it takes a day to kick in. I've got one tendon back so I guess that's progress. Took a nap without the sleeve.
My LGFB class was not as productive as I hoped. Cosmetologist didn't come and it was me with dry skin and a 16 year old with acne. We got the same stuff. Are you ready? More like condom machines on the wall. One size fits all and terrible fragrance.
Biore wipes
Eucerin Q10 anti wrinkle cream (stunk)
Mary Kay concealer
Estée Lauder double wear liquid foundation (felt yucky)
Avon contour powder in brown,peach,tan
NYC lip liner in naughty nude
Merle Norman petal pusher lipstick (too light)
Physicians formula mauve minerals eyeshadow
Elizabeth Arden pressed powder
NYC eyeliner in brown
Opi nail polish in bubble bath. Very pale pink.
Cover girl black mascara
IT brow pencil
All was donated. Not a makeup snob but was hoping for color and maybe more organic makeup.
Boy thinks geese flying in a V is because they are going on vacation. Baby got chocolate icing on her finger. Held it up and said poop. Welcome to logic at my house.
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Oh shit Zills, I can't tell you how bloody annoyed I am that you now have this F'ing arm to deal with, good to hear that you are seeing improvement though. I haven't had it myself, but my Mother had it and I remember her massaging her arm and doing the finger crawl up the wall exercise. It did settle down, and I really don't recall it being around for years. I never heard of a sleeve in those days that was '94.
I am so sorry that your LGFB experience wasn't better than that, what a shame. It should have been a fun time with someone giving you lots of tips, demoing the makeup and making sure you got exactly what suits you. I guess the gifts are dependent on who's doing the donating. Some of those brands are good, but a pretty average lot for you.
Gosh, I love those children of yours! Their logic always gives me a laugh, but poor baby, cutting 3 teeth. It has to be over soon!
I am so pleased the Funeral went off ok. I am assuming the Police escort was because of the weather, and not the guests, sorry, I couldn't resist that!
Hey Bobo! Fires are improving, but it is still a matter of which way the wind blows if we are shrouded in smoke or not.
I just love that puppy idea, and Zills is on the ball too, give her the wrong date, that will work! I have no idea which advice you're going to try, but I hope it works and you can kick those losers to the kerb (Aussie sp)
This morning is chilly and gray, I wish it would rain. We were expecting rain yesterday and I counted the 3 drops we had! LOL
Circus day at school, dress ups? I need a report on that.
Having friends over for dinner at 4pm? You make me smile! My parents ate at 5pm every day. I never got used to it, never in my whole life! LOL Enjoy your Indian food. Are you doing Veg Curry? What else?
Nothing planned for today. My massage therapist bought a kayak and is having a ball on the water every morning. I am thinking it may be good exercise, you can get kayaks with pedals for a propeller so if you have dodgy shoulders like mine, there's another option. I am thinking of renting one to try it out. It could be fun going out in the morning with a buddy. She tells me it is an amazing feeling to be out there. Of course, it would only be a Summer endeavor, so I have almost missed the season. Maybe next year!
I hope everyone is OK, gramwe, I need an update too! Take care....M x
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Zills, I have mild lymphedema and can tell you some of the things my PT has shown me. One of the most important things is to open up the area of your chest so that when you move the lymph down from your arm, it has a place to go. Stroke over your collarbone towards your sternum first. Do that 15 times or so. Also stroke the side of your neck ...from front to back. I then 'milk' underneath my armpit, then work my way down to the waist area. After that, I do my arm/hand. One thing my PT does besides 'petting' my arm - she will kind of lightly swat it over and over... so think of petting with a little kick and kind of fast. lol
I had a lot of scar tissue down my side and chest area from my lumpectomy. I also had cording, so she would massage all of those areas very hard (especially my side and drain scar). Maybe massage isn't the right word..it was more of a rolling/grabbing of my skin/fat. It was very painful .. apparently this makes the scar tissue try to behave more like normal tissue.
Of the two procedures...I think the breaking up of scar tissue had the most positive effect on me. I do the manual massage daily.. almost without thinking about it. Oh and stretches too, from side to side with your hands over your head.
Hope that helps.
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Finally life is back to normal!! The runoff has stopped and the remaining snow/ice will just quietly melt in its own time. Phew!!
I am in love with the Padermo Tri Blade Spiral Slicer from Amazon!!!! It is so easy to use and the zucchini noodles are just like real pasta!! It took about 2 minutes to slice up a medium sized zuke and the clean up is really easy. I like spaghetti squash, but this is so much better! I had "pasta" with shrimp covered with 1/2c Hunts SF Pasta Sauce (Netrition.com) with Asiago and Parm sprinkled on top. I was in heaven, it was just like eating a bowl of real pasta!!
PRB, like TB and Ariom, I was another one that was not that attached to my breasts. Once I learned there was cancer in one, I wanted them both gone as quickly as possible! I have had no second thoughts or regrets. I also felt no need to have recon and am just fine with being flat. Yes, I was terrified before sx, but amazingly it was not nearly as bad as I had imagined and in a day or two I was on my own and doing everything I needed to do. Off all pain meds by day 4 post. I am just past 6 months post and really have no desires to even wear my prostheses. It will be much easier than you think.
Zills, sorry you are having problems with your arm. Yep the ole hot dog under the arm, mine was from the tight binding wrapped around me. It wasn't comfortable that is for sure. Glad the funeral went well. Too bad about the cosmetologist not showing up, you might have gotten some really good tips. That boy is a clever one!! Who would have thought of that? And the baby, I laughed out loud at the 'Poop"!!
bobo, are you making anything in the VitaMix? What model do you have? Circus Day sounds fun!
Gramwe, where or where are you? Hope all is well with you!
Hugs for everyone!
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I knew you'd pop in after I left gB, so I have just done all my emails and checked back!
So glad to hear you are back to normal...yay
I am liking the sound of that spiral thingy and will look it up.
PRB, you're here too! I do the pinching rolling massage too. I still do it every day, just habit now, I think. I still do the "Rites", which is great for opening up the chest area too.
Take care everyone.. got to hit that shower! M x
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Police escort almost all funerals from funeral home to cemetery. We crossed two counties so had two different escorts. Most people are polite and pull over. The boy's school will come outside and do prayer hands. If it's military then motorcycle "gangs" come out for respect and sometimes to block the silly people from protesting.
Thanks for the tips PRB.
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Sorry Zills, shouldn't have been so flippant about the Police escort. I have never seen that done, unless a dignitary.
We get left to our own devices here, it is easy to get lost on the way to a Funeral because all the other idiots have to pass and squeeze in to the procession. M x
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Zills, not sure you should sleep in the compression sleeve. I tried it once, really made my arm hurt. I can't sleep in the night garment at all. That thing won't move, or bend. Ugh. It's blue. Want it? It's collecting dust, I'll mail it. Left arm
A. It is law here in I guess all states for a funeral procession to turn your headlights on and keep up. There will be a cop up front to stop traffic at lights, and you keep on going. Others are supposed to stop and not butt in or disrupt.
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Ariom, It's the custom here, also. It's more confusing now that newer cars have their headlights on all the time. A very popular minister died and I think there were 75 cars in his procession.
Zills, could you prop your arm up on pillows while you sleep?
My mammo was uneventful. If they haven't called by Thursday, I'm home free. I think they're closed on Monday for the holiday.
Our excitement has been finding a mammoth tusk in the construction site for a building. It's long and in one piece, so the museum is really excited. They estimated 7 feet long. The construction company allowed the museum to dig it out and helped them move the tusk to a truck. There will be a contest to name it.
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Hi Wren and Spookiesmom, That's a really nice "tradition" to have the Police head up the procession. As I said, it would never happen here.
Wrenn, so glad your Mammo is done, and fingers crossed you don't hear anything. We have to wait 3 weeks for the formal letter from BreastScreen.
How amazing, finding the tusk in the construction site. Is this something you are building? If there is a tusk, may there be more of the Mammoth? I can imagine how excited the Museum would be.
I'll be interested to see what it is named! M x
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Going to meet friends at Chuck E Cheese. It's a pizza/game place. The boy loves it. Haven't been for a year.
DH has a cold so staying home. Supposed to be 50-60 this week. Maybe too wet but he will try to get the concrete walls up so they can start rocking and rolling.
Thanks Spookie but it's my right arm.
Yes I try to keep it propped up at night but have unlearned sleeping on my back. Prefer my stomach. May have to ressurect the pillow palace but first have to get more pillows. They were lumpy, broken and flat.
Taking 50000 units vit d on Saturday. Dragging by Friday. Feel better today and I was up in the middle of the night. May need to ask PCP if dose needs adjusted or can split it.
I have no appts this week except Livestrong. Looking forward to doing nothing. Of course you all know that's impossible. Have kids to drop off and pick up, dishes, laundry, meals and a desk full of papers.
PRB. One more day. In the bag for tomorrow. Who's going with you? Don't forget a pillow for the ride home and if you're a tea drinker, your own tea bags.
M. I didn't think you were flippant. I am from the state known for feuding and drugs. We used flashers not headlights.
Wren. How exciting. Will have to look it up and show the boy. Keep us posted.
GrammaB. That sounds delicious. Don't think I could fool my family but maybe in lasagna.
Idesim. Hope you're ok. Haven't watched the news so see how much you got.
Hope everyone can relax today.
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Yup, one more day. My DD has a pretty bad cold and I'm fearful I'll catch it. That usually doesn't happen, but it hasn't been fun for us. I have tried to stay away from her, and it makes me sad that we weren't able to enjoy our last 'normal' day together.
I still have a lot to do.. grocery shopping, couple loads of laundry and finish cleaning the house. I've been slowly trying to get it back into shape these last couple of days...lymphedema is kicking in. Guess I should have done this before the final days before surgery. I stayed up til 2 a.m. last night and feel very tired today. No motivation to do anything. DD will be staying at friends, so I'll have to drive her there sometime today. I will cry like a baby when I drop her off. I am so sick of crying.
I've been thinking a lot about after the surgery. More depression? More fear? Will I even survive the surgery? (that doesn't sound so bad right about now). Maybe this has been so hard because after this life-altering surgery I will be defined as someone with cancer. I had endometrial cancer 3 years ago, but it never changed me.. Breast cancer is different. It messes with your head and your body in a very real way. I will be different after tomorrow. Forever. That is pretty hard to accept.
My sister is coming down for the surgery and will stay for the week.
Me..being me... I might just cancel. She will be so ticked at me if she
gets here and I chicken out. Such is life. Do I really care if people
hate me anymore? Not really. It's my life and my decision...isn't
that what everyone has told me for months when I asked them "what would
you do?".So, after all my doom and gloom, I will say this. Maybe after tomorrow, I will feel relieved that it's behind me. Maybe I can go forward. . I plan on working part-time, and that thought alone brings me much joy. I've never been a person who believes that things happen for a reason...but who knows, maybe this was the slap in the face I needed to get my life off auto-pilot. I think I've said it before, my life before breast cancer was not very good. Extreme stress, working full-time, trying to be super mom...most days were a struggle. After I was diagnosed, I felt like I had been squashed into a pancake. So, maybe after tomorrow some of that pressure will ease up. Maybe I can plump up into a waffle instead of a pancake. Trying to go forward, one bump at a time.
DD just got up...she is really sick
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PRB, in the bag for you! You can do it! We will all be there. One of the very worst parts is coming to an end.
M, yes, I made all different veg curries. All came out well. I am just too tired to entertain at night right now. And there was karaoke, and the baby was crazy with the chocolate cake. Whew. DLLP and I were asleep before 9:30.
Hmm. All this scar massaging talk. I'm supposed to do mine 3x a day. But I sometimes only get to one time, or twice. At least I am doing it. I couldn't even touch it for a long time.
M, you and Z must be crazy! I cannot tell MD the wrong date, and then say, whoops, sorry, wrong date. It is such an obvious lie. The fallout from that would not be pleasurable. I have got to keep asking for what I want. DLLP said she will get involved if I want. But really, I don't see why there must be all this drama. It isn't as if she really cares about me. I was in the hospital for a week, almost dying twice, and she was in town with the kids, staying at my brother's, and she never came to see me, not once. She could have had my brother (or DLLP) sit with the kids for a visit. That's just one example.
Whew. I should probably call her right now.
Z, I win! I win!
Your two are hilarious. The baby is a girl after my own heart. I talk about poop quite frequently myself.Idesim, are you getting yet another storm? Are you okay? Don't shovel too much.
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Zills: Chuck e Cheeses!! That was my son's favorite spot ever when he was young. Brings back great memories. And if I recall correctly, they served wine too. Bonus.
Gramma: Is that a Paderno product. I am very interested into looking that up as I would love to make zucchini noodles as well. Tried to use a mandolin, but it did not work out so well. I love pasta and like you, have been substituting spaghetti squash. Still have to make the real deal for DH and DS.
Ariom: You have no idea how much I too wish that I lived close to you. We have always wanted to visit Australia and the only thing that has prevented us thus far is that god awful long flight from Canada. Once I retire and have more time, we will visit and fly half way and stay wherever that takes us for a week or so and then on to Australia. We will have time to break up the flight. Wonder if we could bring Blanche with us
PRB: I so wish that we could help bring some relief to your anxiety, but simply reassuring you is not enough. If only one of us could be there with you. We could tie you up, drug you up and when you awoke and it was all over, celebrate with you!
Wren, what an incredible find! In Manitoba, they do not let you even get dressed before they check the mammogram and send you right back in for more pictures. The radiologist is right there. But they will not tell you anything, so you wait in terror until the report is sent to the dr. anyhow. I called my dr in tears from the parking lot, but she did not know what to say as I had just had the mammogram and she did not have a clue what was going on. I do not know what I thought she was going to be able to do? I just panicked. I will now forever be terrified of mammos. But am getting good vibes about yours.
Otceb: What are you up to with that hair Lol Maybe I have missed a post. Will check back.
In addition to fitting back into my skinnier clothes, just received my cholesterol test results and I am back into normal range after fighting the numbers and refusing meds. This breast cancer thing may be the best thing yet for my overall health Lol
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Bobo: We were posting at the same time. I loved your suggestion of wearing my nightie with jeans. Tried it out and it looks great. I hate how some of my favorite things are lingerie and I have to save those for in the house. Or so I thought . . . . . hm.
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Bobo: One other thing. If you ever have time and wish to share a recipe for one of your veggie curries, I would LOOOVE that. We now have meatless Mondays and fish on Fridays to slowly break DH into eating better.
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Hi, i hope everyone is having a great weekend! It's a long weekend here in Ontario with Monday being "Family Day", a day off invented a few years ago. We'll take it!
PRB, I hope you take time to go for a relaxing walk today, trying to clear your mind, and using the power of positive thinking. Have you looked into seeing a counsellor? It might help, sometimes we don't know what to do to feel happier and a professional could help. It helped me a few times in my life, the last one being during my post-partum depression. Btw, main issue for me there was control-freak me having trouble adapting to the fact that a baby was now in control!
bobo, seems like you had a good party! Here's your make-up porn - what I got from LGFB:
2 Cover Girl lipsticks
Estee Lauder lip liner
Rimmel blush
Rimmel lipgloss
Elizabeth Arden powder
Mac eye shadow kit
Clarins eye shadow
Clinique moisturizer
Eye liner
Avon Eye brow pencil (not good)
Cover Girl mascara
Cover Girl concealer
Cover Girl foundation
Mary Kay Toner
Vaseline lotion
Curel hand lotion
Hawaiian Tropic sunscreen
Neutrogena wipes
Elizabeth Grant eye serum
Rexall make-up remover
Yves Rocher wrinkle cream
I'm giving some away, but will be able to use most (although my daily routine is simpler than this).
gB, I'm glad you like your slicer! You must be so happy to have a yummy pasta subsitute, my body would go through withdrawal if I had to cut (not even eliminate) carbs! And it's great that you have already recuperated from your tough week. I hope the weather treats you well this week and you get no more flooding.
Zills, yeah, like Spookie, I don't think you should be sleeping with the sleeve. You must be looking forward to seeing the PT, is that tomorrow? Take care.
TB, wow, that must be fun to find those European purchases and have them fit well! Congrats on the weight loss, you must feel so good. Re. wig, I posted a few days ago that my hairdresser improved it. It's still too poofy but I'll have to live with it. Have you started rads yet? If so, how is that going?
wrenn, that tusk find is interesting! I'm glad the mammo went well, fingers crossed for your results.
M, I'm glad the fires are improving. I hope you get mainly clear days ahead so that you can enjoy your beautiful surroundings. And I hope you get the rain you want too!
Hi everyone else! SGC, I hope you are ok?
Good weekend here, bunch of meetings with friends and DH's family. Take care, everyone! We will all be thinking about you tomorrow, PRB!
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oteb: I had a post-partum depression also, 27 years ago. As a social worker and with no other history of depression, I was taken by surprise, but quickly realized it was a control or actually, lack of control issue. Perhaps this has served us well for the bc dx as we certainly have no control now either!
Start rads on Thursday. Will be back later this evening.
Ariom: What is the time difference between you and Canadian Central time? Approximately.
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TB, Morning from Downunder! It is 8.10am Monday 17th of Feb and you posted 44 minutes ago. Does that help? I can't remember the actual time difference.
I understand you not wanting to do the long trip from Canada to here. We are just so remote. I used to do the flight to the US frequently when I worked for United and we used to ground handle Air Canada too, so I met Canadians every day. Unfortunately, there isn't really a stop after you leave the mainland of USA it's just all ocean. Maybe New Zealand could be a stopover, but it depends who you fly with. I remember doing trips to the US, just for a meeting for work that may last a few hours, and with all the stops and waiting for connections it could take me up to 26 hours to get there! I would spend the night and come back the next day. It was brutal, but they would send me in First Class which was a bonus that I loved! I have become one very spoiled flyer, I just hate turning right when I get on a plane!
I didn't have Dx Post Partum Depression, but I sure felt the shift of control going from me to the baby. It took some getting used to, but I had the best parents in the world who were desperate to be involved and saved me many times!
I have become the Paynesville bird chaser! Last night I had to run out to get bread for the Vitamix soup, which was only going to take 7 minutes, so I was on the clock, but I saw a flock of white cockies overhead, so I chased them, but they kept going and didn't land. I promise I will get that photo for you. It is almost like they know and they are playing with me! LOL
I will be in the bag on Thursday, wouldn't it be nice to do lunch afterwards! I hope you do as ldesim did, and pick yourself up a little gift each week to celebrate. She did Alex and Ani bracelets, but it can be anything.
I gave myself a fab handbag for my 1 week of giving up smoking, and a diamond ring for 3 months, I have never had another cigarette, and stopped the gifts with the diamond ring, but I can't believe how much money I have saved. Cigarettes in Australia are now $20.00 a packet! I gave up in 2007 when they were about $15.00.
Congratulations on the cholesterol results! M x
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Hi otceb!Have a fun long weekend!
The fires are pretty well over in this area now, so we have clear skies and can smell the sea again. I love that smell, but it had been replaced by smoke, even at night, I had to keep the windows shut.
I woke to a beautiful sunny morning, the water is like glass with a few swans and cygnets over near the Island. My new watering system went on a 6am so everything is green and perky with shiny drops. I must try to get a pic of the amazing Fig tree, it is drooping so low from all the fruit, and we have been picking madly as soon as they become ripe to try to beat the birds. I have given so many away, but you'd never know it. I love that the supermarket is selling them for $3.00 each!!!! Colin says I should set up a stall out on the street! LOL
I hope you have a wonderful time with your friends! M x
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Hiya Bobo! I am so pleased the party went well, but sorry you are feeling so tired. You are incredible how you get it all done. I would have hit the wall and slept through it.
I am thinking that MD is seeing the error of her ways, and is genuine in her wanting to help you now. Isn't that possible? I know, I know I hear you, but just maybe? I say, take the help, even if it is just having the kids taken out so you can relax. Gosh, I wish I was closer, I'd be over in a flash!
Scar massaging can be done when you get time, just so long as you keep the "Area" moving. I was told to do my exercises 4x a day, and I rarely ever did more than 3 x a day. Don't give yourself a hard time, you're doing so well. M x
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PRB, we are all in the bag with you, even if we have to wrestle you into the Hospital!
You will be fine! I just wish there was something that could flick that switch for you to be able to feel positive about what you're going to gain from this, not what your going to lose.
In the grand scheme of things, isn't it better to lose whatever it takes, to be with your daughter. For me, I'd have anything removed that would give me more time with my Bec, without reservation or hesitation.
As tough as this is for you, you have to understand, you can only be defined by this Dx if you let it define you. Hugs to you...M x
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Thank you, Thank you Zills, for saying that. I was feeling terrible for my faux pas, opening my mouth to change feet, clanger! about the Police escort. I was afraid I had offended you, with my flippant remark.
I am sorry about there being a cold in the house. I hope your man can keep it to himself and not give it to the rest of you. Try the Olive Leaf to try to stave it off and dose him up to try to cut it short!
I am sorry you're having to deal with the LE. I hope you can get it sorted soon. Take care! M x
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Wow lots to catch up on, just got back from the gd's 3rd birthday party, had a blast! lots of energy in those little girls, I need some of it, but not all of it!
PRB, with you tomorrow for sure, hope you can get some calm moments... just think you are trading a breast for life! to me that is a very good trade. But everyone of us here knows what you are feeling tonight... if it helps any knowing we are all here.. take that with you to the hospital.
Zills, hope you dont catch the cold, I was also afraid of that with the little girls party, one little gal always managed to sneeze when she was close to me. Loved the baby and the poop story!! LOL
Wren, I think I saw the great find you speak of on the news! great, what is the Goldie status or did I miss something?
Otceb, have a nice long weekend, I have always envied the Canadian tradition that seems to have more long weekends than we do. I remember many years ago everything was closed on Mondays, dont think they do that much anymore or at least around here and sure they dont in the larger cities.
TB, in the bag for you on Thursday!
Glad things are settling down for GB.
Anyone, about the massaging? how do you all do it? I use my openpalm and use oil of course but is there more I should be doing in different ways? no one medically ever told me to massage just rub on oil.. any advice would be appreciated. I know Zills and Ariom are the experts on most things here.
Hi to everyone else. check in later for more updates.
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