My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer
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Moomala - I am sorry that happened to you, I agree totally uncool to repeat things that are said in the sanctity of Mel's living room. You should feel free to share and most people's mouths don't always behave that's why we put our foot in them. Try not to feel too uncomfortable its the person who repeats a comment that should feel badly. A hug for you from me and I think you are awesome.
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dutchiris, I don't think you can really distinguish between fatigue, laziness and just tired. I know I can't tell when it happens to me. The only thing I can tell is if I am truly exhausted to where I cannot do anything. The other things you mention are interchangeable and all feel similar. Hopefully today is easier and may you get off this weekend on call and get some proper rest.
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Moomala, I feel for you regarding your comments being taken to another thread. It is one thing to quote someone on the same thread but it does not mean everything we say is welcome to be taken elsewhere. People should not be doing that.
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If having a respectful discussion is a tornado then wow. Everyone has a right to voice their opinions do they not? As long as it's respectful which I feel we both were unlike last time which I apologized for. It's ok for everyone before me to voice it but not me because my thoughts are with some others who isn't the same as some here. I'm a debater by nature especially for those who are afraid to voice their thoughts. It's not mean if it's done respectfully without foul words or darts thrown at the other person. I appreciate learning what may be my future over there. I've always had a morbid fascination of what near death, dying is like for those facing it now. Weird I know.
On that note, have a good holiday season. I really do wish everyone the best whether our styles and beliefs are different or not. Peace.
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my reference to a tornado in my living room was because the thread blew up and I had not even a clue there was a huge debate here for no reason that I could see.
Moomala~I'm sorry someone would take your words... it's happened to me. I know how that feels. I want this to be a place where we have a family who genuinely care for each other and it can honestly feel like a relief to read each other's words and feelings. Stage four sucks we know it's like a black hole maybe we peek our head up once in a while and have a string of good days. Mine are quite emotional lately. I cry at the drop of a hat. I wanted to give you a hug lovely woman.
Mara~ as always level headed and honest. Thank you for that!
Candy~ Hi darlin. So icy here today my little old gramps dog took a spill and now we have a limper. Glad dh was here to help don't know what i would have done.
Giddy upgirl~ Hi there sweetheart, hope Gracies tree can withstand old man winter. We are getting some snow first time this season... all I can say is yuck!
Saw a lot of new names here, I want to go backand welcome them on a different tone and note. I hope they know their words mean a lot.
Now.... Artista....where do I begin? I agree last time didn't go too well, lost some friends over it actually. Now I find you here again and I for the life of me canT seem to understand your tone towards me, or this thread. I haven't said word one to you or about you in anyway at all. I even went as far as leaving the steam room, because that was your new space from what I could see. I didn't want issues. I felt like you came here ready for a brawl of some sort and I just want nothing to do with that. I am struggling everyday to keep my sanity in check as I watch sisters around me dying. Some I still don't know about. What happened to them. So please, for the sake of everyone, every stage, every life . Let's just let it all go and be who we are with respect first, just simply because the same thing drew us all to BCO, stupid ass cancer.
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I apologize Mel. I thought since I know you don't like me that I was dorothy here. I agree cancer sucks ass. We all have our shit. I try to respect other views if I don't agree. I didn't come here to brawl. By the time I saw it here plenty had posted about it already with their thoughts. I wasn't planning on getting involved since it's not my biz but how can you not respond to how you feel? We all do. Runor and I seem to be similar in that we both like to explore stuff, ask questions, try to figure stuff out, what's the underlying thing going on. We may not agree but if it's done with respect I see no harm.
I hope this ongoing every few years about the stage 4 only stuff finally ends. It's obvious most stage 4 like it the way it is. I know there are people who would love to speak up that are scared to and not just in this instance. That's sad for a board like this. I feel anything can be discussed if it's done with respect and not with knives. Let's move on from this topic as it's obviously a toxic one. Peace.
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Hi Mel: just wanted to pop back in to say thank you just for being you. I am sorry you are having weepy days, they suck just like the cancer that causes them does. My nana always said having a good cry was a good way to wash out your eyes so you could see better. We're having some nasty asty weather here too and Yuck is right. I am taking care of the tree and wrapping it in burlap to keep it warm through the sucky winter weather. Take care stay warm and am sending you a warm cosy hug because some days we all could really use one.
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Who the hell is Dorothy?
Giddyup, if you come nose to nose with a moose you better have something bigger than a .22 in your hand! We recently had a moose get tangled in our fence. Busted off posts, ripped down great stretches of wire, fencing staples flying in every direction. What wasn't ripped down was stretched into a mass of tangled junk and the corner post was yanked clear out of the ground and deposited 6 feet away from its post hole. Scared the shit out of the horse who changed his usual position by the gate to the furthest corner of the pen, to avoid large, lumbering things that come crashing out of the bush in the dead of night. I'm just glad I wasn't out there when it happened because I usually go out to feed the horse between 10 and midnight. What a great way to go. "Runour survived breast cancer but was trampled by a horse as it ran away from a moose" Way to go, Runor.
Artista! Where's the fun in fihgts without knives and cuss words? Come on, girl, go with your inner badass!
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Okay Runor we gotta start a very sardonic comic strip. Here's one for you was moving a house today it blew out of the truck and into the ditch so we had to hold it up in the middle of the ice storm while they got a bigger truck. So my line would be Giddy survived bc only to have a house fall on her - which may make me a wicked witch. Maybe Dorothy was the one on her way from Kansas to see the Wizard. Enjoy the night and take a flashlight so you can see which way the horse is going to run and I'm definitely getting a bigger gun.
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Giddyup, NEVER haul houses in windstorms when someone nearby is wearing red, sparkly shoes. It does not bode well for those who are not packing enough heat. Hugs!
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you ladies are funny. I. Am addicted to letter Kenny. So I gotta say the humor is wonderful!! I just woke up. I am up Later with DH when he comes in for the wee. So here I am With nothing to do, I even begged my Daughter to bring me Laundry, so I had something to do. I go stir crazy!!!!!!😜 it's going to snow here tonight up to 8 inches. Yuck.
Lmao who is Dorothy? Lol
Artista~I never once said I didn't like you btw. Sometimes people Don't agree, but I don't even know you, so for me to not like you, would be kind of shallow and childish. I'm Sorry if you felt I didn't like you. I am just brutally honest sometimes and from the looks of it, so are you. So I can relate. I actually have not seen you post here other than in a circumstance that isn't all that great. Maybe that's why you assumed I didn't like you.
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Mel, I cannot imagine you being unkind to anyone. I agree, I have not seen Artista around unless there was something going on. I would imagine she would be welcomed on a routine basis though. Not sure though.
I am having a quiet day, just getting lunch ready, just a beef burger patty with nacho cheese melted on top. No bun. I may walk to the store later as I am quite bored. No appointments til Wednesday and I don't even have laundry to do. Then I will see about watching a movie on the treadmill. May watch Brittany runs a Marathon on the prime. Not shopping today as I do not need anything. Got birthdays to shop for. DB on 6th, SIL on 7th and nephew on 8th too. Have to check what they would like.
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I never liked December Bithdays. My DH is on Christmas Eve. Poor guy. Who wants birthday cake when every sweet possible is around during Christmas time. Now I’m officially hungry. Lol. I want a burger. It’s starting to snow here. Ugh!
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I've posted here before as Artista without drama and as Rosabella when my Artista account was messed up. I tend to post well wishes here when someone is in bad shape. Hope you all have a good week.
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Artista~I hope you have a good week also. I was just saying maybe posting in different circumstances wouldn’t hurt. Like you say.... peace is what we all want and need...
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Have a good week Artista.
Mel, the burger was good. The other thing I do that people would probably hate is that I cook it in the microwave. I don't have a grill and not enough room in my kitchen. Oven burners are too slow to heat. I find that they work well when I cook them for 7mins on medium-high. Then I take a paper towel and mop up any grease. They are already seasoned and make simple meals, whether I eat them like a burger or grind up cooked patty in my chopper and use as ground beef. Super yummy I must say since I most definitely do not consider myself a good cook. The only thing I would say I am good at is movie theater popcorn. Not with butter but buttery flavor coconut oil and flavacol sprinkled on after popping. I love this stuff too. Good thing I get regular echoes for the types of food I like.
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Mara~I honestly do not enjoy cooking at all. I never have. I did it because my X husband didn't And my children had to eat. My DH is amazing at cooking, baking, building, computers basically everything, he’s good at. I use the microwave whenever possible. He just recently bought an insta pot. Omg 😱 deliciousness has come out of that bad boy. It just everything has so much prep work. That’s what I can’t stand. He says he loves to cook for me. He leaves me cakes and soups, stews etc for the week. It helps tremendously, or honestly I wouldn’t eat. I would just snack like a bird. I’m officially going to heat up some turkey soup and it’s delicious. Warmth to the soul. Hugs my friend!
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Mel, your DH sounds like my brother. He is the cook of his family. SIL can make a mean perogi but I am not sure they eat those anymore. They go to the gym more and watch their diets plus their sons are both adults and working. They don't often have many people over nowadays which I miss but totally understand at the same time. They visit me about once a week and usually bring a donut and hot chocolate. My butt does not need them but I do enjoy it all the same.
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Hi all, snowing heavily here in Manhattan...it's a quiet and slow day here as well, as I psychologically and physically get ready for the outcome of tomorrow's Pet scan...it's been six months since my last one.
I've been mostly pain free, and Doxil has been relatively easy, but as we all know lack of pain doesn't mean anything....in a few days we'll find outwhat's new and exciting...
I used to love to cook...but these days I'm making last minutes choices which mean mostly sandwiches...I'm going through a wintery carb feast...can't even look at anything green and crispy...can't be anywhere near anything sweet since I lack self control...sugar is my addiction so I still concoct low-carb, sugar free desserts....I use stevia as a sweetner...
mo left town..like everyone else, she's attending the San Antonio Symposium....
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frisky~ am in your pocket for the results . ! Waiting for the snow to start here as well. I honestly only want one storm A winter. I can do without that and having to Cook. My mom Never really taught me and I always saw it as more work. But trust me I can eat.
Mara~ when my DH makes his shortbread cookies. I couldn’t stop eating them. I had to tell him No more, they are too damn good. Lol ugh! Christmas cookie time also. Help me!!
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Mel, I love shortbread as well. I like the plain buttery shortbread best. Especially when they are a few days old.
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with coffee! Love my coffee!!
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Lynnwood~Didn't see you snuck in there.. I wanted to say that I hope your doing better.. I wanted to let you know you were on my mind.
Sondra~Saying hello to you as well...
Rosie~Hello darling, hope this finds you well...
Simone~Havent seen you here lately hope You’re ok!
Minnie~Sweet Minnie.... How is the hip? Hoping your weather is better than ours. Yuck..
Mae ~ awesome pics! Love your cabin for sure, can I have some of that drink? Looks delicious !
Moomala~ Hope you’re warm and comfortable if you’re having bad weather like us soon!
Philly~ where ya been girl?
Jensgothis~ hope you’re good as well..
Tanya~Hello sweet woman. Hoping you’re going to see our sweet BooBoo again... I am so happy you have found a friend. Awesome!!!
Waving to BooBoo!!!
hello Runor!
Rosie~Hello.... waving to you, hope your thanksgiving was good!
Malinda~ welcome to the thread.
BevJen~Hi ya... good to see you again.... welcome Back!Dutchiris~as well, welcome Back.... hope you had a good holiday as well. I’m sleepy still. The days go so fast I can’t believe Christmas is like 23 days away..... yikes!
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1redgirl~Hello and welcome to my second home.. I hope you will enjoy our living room as we do! Didn't want to forget anyone!
Santa~Welcome back and always good to see you!
stillivin~ hope to see you soon!Dodgersgirl special hello!!
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Karen~ hello to You as well and good to see you! Always!
Mominator~ hello sweet woman I adore seeing you here. Precious woman. I too adored Patty.... we've always had that in common.....I love seeing you here..
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Grannax~Havent seen you much either. Hope You're well!!!
Maggie~hello. Saw you pop in as well.!Mab60~saw you briefly as well. Hello.
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Micmel, thanks for the roll call! LOVE shortbread cookies!! And with coffee is even better!!! Yummy!! I’m still suffering with this damn siatic pain, having another injection on the 13th. Living on Percocet which barely takes the edge off. So frustrated and unable to do much. My husband and grown kids are awesome, cooking, laundry and even put up my Xmas decorations. Hubby wrapping everything cause it hurts to even do that. A friend is going to lend me a transport wheelchair so I can get out a little bit. I can walk but not far without pain, this way I can get to the mall. If I want to look at something I can get up and look at it but can ride from one store to another. I think of you all and pray for all of us dailt
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Hi Lynnwood~ I am sorry that your sciatica is giving you problems. I know that cannot be easy with so much that your mind thinks should be done. I honestly have like stocking stuffers and maybe three small presents . I'm Giving my grown kids money and a few gifts for each of them. Will kick my Budget badly for the month but what can I. Say. Every year I promise I'm going to start early but. Never do. This year I'm Cutting back. My DD's car has taken a last ride, so we are looking for a new one, which when used or not can be stressful. Nothing like a lil ole thing like money to mess everything up. It's crap.
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hello friends! I got roll called whoooohooo 😃 🤗 ❤️ !!! love it!!
I have had a somewhat lazy day. Stomach slightly off and mild headache for past couple of days and so I made a big pot of chicken soup which is sitting well so far. I’m just a little off. I am laying low - made it to my check-in appt at the oncology psychiatrist - they are the ones who prescribed me the lexapro I am on. The psychiatrist was 40 minutes late!! I was just about to leave when she showed up - she’d been at her own doctors appointment. I don’t know why she neglected to call the front desk and let them know? I was annoyed!! I know these things can happen but it wasn’t handled so well. Then I cried through the whole appointment. I am not sure why 🤷🏽♀️?? Maybe it was the annoyance and not feeling so hot today? Maybe I needed to cry?? I was surprised by my own tears that surfaced. Unexpected! Funny darn emotions!
Anyway - my heart goes out to everyone who is suffering and in pain today. Lynnewood I am sending you lots of love. Is the sciatica a complication from bone Mets or a separate issue?
Love to all,
Philly
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Healing thoughts going out to all those in pain or otherwise under the weather. Hope you feel better soon.
Sitting here crying and sniffling because of the show The Good Doctor. The actor who plays Shawn is so good. This show never fails to make me cry. Such a good show. I don't mind crying because of a TV show because it usually means a very good episode.
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