On the fence about reconstruction and getting a little desperate
I have my DMX scheduled for Feb 07. My breast surgeon, who is wonderful insisted I consult with a plastic surgeon to make sure I made an informed decision. She referred me to two PS's. I told her initially I was leaning towards an AFC, and she is fine with that too; she could do one herself; she's recommended on a flattie website dedicated to AFCs so I am sure she'd do a great job.
I saw her first PS, and instead of convincing me to opt for a reconstruction, she inadvertently did the opposite, I felt sure I was going flat. Then I saw her second PS, and it was a very different experience, I actually felt I was on the fence again. Both PS's agreed I am not a good candidate for any flaps as I am too thin; maybe the butt one though I have a sitting job so I am not even sure how that would work. Both recommended implants. Unlike the first PS, the second one said she could place expanders right during my DMS, and (a major bonus!) I could probably get away with only 3 to 4 weeks of having expanders and then swap for smooth implants size A (I am small-ish B now). She did say we can always do it later down the road but my understanding is the expander will have to stay in much much longer. I read so much about expanders and how awful they are that it scares me pretty much out of my mind. Plus the risks of BII with implants. Another bonus though is that if I opt for expanders during my DMX, it can be done on the 7th as the 2nd PS got tentatively booked for my surgery; she's super booked, and getting on her schedule so soon is close to a miracle.
So I am still on the fence, and it's getting to the point of unbearable. I am not normally the one who has difficulty making decisions. I identify the problem, research, make a plan, and go for it. But here... I just can't decide!! I am driving myself nuts, and now my husband too as I keep asking what I should do, but he can't decide for me!
What helped you, Dear Hive Mind, make a decision? And thanks so much for making it to the end of this long post.