INSOMNIACS place to talk in the wee hours
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Okay all controversies explained.
Rosie, your explanation of tolerance, acceptance of others beliefs, and respect is as it should be. Wish it were so.
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Kris and Spookie, now we can go to dog park after dinner again!!!!
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Chevy sounds delish
Good cooks always improvise . One of the best dishes I ever made was a vegetarian lasagna. I combine items from three recipes and then threw in some extra things. The friend I made it for and I agreed it was the best ever. I didn't write it down. It's never been duplicated.0 -
Teka, your a friend, you've had my back for ever so long, I bless you for that................
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Saw this and thought of y'all....
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Teka the threads that I left b/c of the stalkers weren't important enough in my life to allow what they were trying to do. Not worth it. happy here.
Just broke up with DBF for the umpteenth time-
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Teka- you are just too adorable sometimes! I love that icon!
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Teka, Who knows about DBF? He wants to be with me, then get's into a thing where he wants to be with the guys. I say it's not working. He goes. Then within a short time he asks to come back, after he goes through the reality I'm not available. I can't predict the future. This may last a day, or be permanent. I don't stress about it. Oddly, we did decided long ago if we broke up permanently, Dini stays. I would never subject Dini to the living circumstance he had before.
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hummmm ok so I was trying to figure out my income tax lol nope I will just go pay someone to do it cuz I was not able to find a way to claim for all my expenses which I was told due to my new job I am entitle to sooo I waited my afternoon using a software I used in the past.ok so I am done I will just write down everything and I will bring it to a tax expert to file for me
off to watching a movie now. Hope you ladies have a great evening
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MammaRay- I am sorry your time away is not as helpful as you thought. Too much thinking time? Maybe a hot bath to help you sleep well?
Enerva- I did what I think is my final work on my taxes to send my accountant. He does both the biz and personal taxes for me. I will do another pass through tomorrow and then will copy and send and see what else we need to do before we file (probably one more retirement contribution).
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Mama--------do what you feel you need too.Teka, Yes DBF is an adult........kind of.....That's a long strange story. Dini is a dog. DBF rescued Dini from a bad situation, but did he take him to a much better life than he was in? Everything is relative. There he was an outside dog in an enclosed yard that didn't allow an outside view of the yard. To Dini everything was dangerous beyond the walls. Here he has the ability to have sight beyond the fencing. Big difference. Here he is inside when he wants, and outside when he wants. Food and water without worrying when some one doesn't come home. If I'm gone longer than x number of hours, I have a friend come. The friend and I have exchanged that same 'service' for 20 + years. Here Dini gets heart worm and flea/worm protection-----there he was covered with fleas. How he didn't have heartworm when he came? Heartworm is a big problem in Florida. Dini gets to sleep on a soft bed or couch--------or wherever he wants. Here hitting is not allowed. DBF and his roommate didn't understand animals don't need to be hit. Not allowed here. Dini will never be subjected to his previous life. DBF can choose for himself. Like I said DBF and I discussed it sometime ago, that Dini would stay here.
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Bummer guys.. DBF sounds like he has divided loyalties.. I don't know how you solve that. Last year we went to the cabin for a supposed vacation and left after 2 days... World Cup Soccer was on.. what point is there being in the woods when World Cup Soccer is on? We went home. He kept checking his phone..for game updates. He was happy- soccer 24/7..oh yay. I have heard that hunting families and sports nuts have the same issues. Every year is the annual bonding mancation around hunting and killing big game. Or duck and pheasant season in our Mother's family. DH watching soccer now.. haha.
Mamaray.. I am at the point in my life where I have a better time alone. Alone isn't scary or upsetting it's kind of nice. I like it. We moved around constantly as a kid. I went to 13 schools growing up. I learned to be alone. My brothers played with each other and I was by myself. Parents in their own little world. I am sorry you don't find some R&R alone refreshing.. got some bath salts and little glass of vino? Ipod and a good book?
Good for you keeping the dog-Dino. I do worry about our pets. Hey my bedside table came out pretty good. The paint is still drying. Gotta do the other bedside table tomorrow. Icky cold weather coming in Monday.. so sad. I guess we need the rain. We have to find somebody to do our taxes too. Love the Barn Owl! I am glad to see Teka and Sassy making up... feathers were flying over the ducky person a while back. If you want me to delete that last name I can.
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Hi MammaRay - I hope the moment is over, and you are getting the much deserved rest you were looking for. Sometimes just nothing can be good for the soul. No phones, no people, no noise, just nothing.
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You guys were up playing all night, and I missed it! I'm so happy to get up each morning and read what my "friends" had to say!
Okay now Sassy.... I just finished reading another book by Daniele Steele... It is called "Impossible".... and that is YOU! I mean that is a story of a relationship going exactly like yours is. I say "IS" because it will probably not ever be "over.".... And that's okay too.... As long as no-one is extremely hurt for too long of a time, then we accept the "reasons" things happen, and move on, if only temporarily.....even more thankful for our love of each other.
I just would like to know where he goes in-beTWEEN times, because if he was MINE, and he went to other open arms, I would beat the shit out of him. And I would not have the WELCOME mat back out.
The only thing that matters is Dini.... that's it. You got the community dog... now that part is done. Okay, now what else can I fix?
OR.... You could even just be "friends".... This is like DD here .... She LOVED this guy in high-school... her first love. But he broke her little heart. Fast forward 45 years... He walks into the store she works at.... blah blah... So THEN, ANYone can picture what happens next. Bells, whistles, little hearts floating in the clouds.... HEAVEN!
After 2 years.... SAME DAMN THING! Thank DOG they didn't get married... !!! I mean that. This guy is a wack-job... I mean he can be the sweetest thing, but then he goes off in his own world, leaving everyone OUT....
Okay.... Now, they see each other occasionally.... They go to dinner, he comes to her house, and fixes things, and that time spent together, is just enough. His Mom just passed away from stage 4 breast cancer, which completely divided the family..... long story.
Anyway, they are in each others lives for a reason... but not to live together... too much baggage. And it works... so far, at least for now....
So did I help any? xoxox
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I was thinking in bed last night.... You all probably have friends or family like this...... We should always spend time with friends that are nice, or fun to be around, that are happy, and don't bring us down....
And not spend too much time with other people we know, that are crabby, or always sad, because it really rubs off on us too... Yesterday, we went to visit our old friends in the Assisted Living place... And I have made friends with "Wilma" who is in the room, in-between Theresa and Eddy.
See, they don't live together, because they spent every living moment WITH each other all their lives, so it works for HIM to be in ONE room, and Theresa in another. They see each other when they want to... Ha...! And for meals, they always go together.
So anyway I always take treats to Wilma, and her litle dog Abby! Those two are so FUN to be around! This old gal gets up, puts on her make-up, and finds joy in life still! I gave her a scarf, afgan, little toys & blankets for her dog, and take Abby fresh chicken & treats. It's just fun to be around them!
Theresa is fun too..... We make each other laugh, and she just turned 92.
It is just nice, when we don't lose joy in life, when we can be with other people who appreciate us... this feeds our soul.
I sound like some self-appointed Philosopher or something.... but SOMEtimes, I can make sense....
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Yes Chevy, great sence. Dbf similar to dd's friend. Thanks0 -
Good morning,
Sass I really admire your strength.
As per moi I think there is no great men left out there lol for me is like the train came by and I didn't got on it so now is gone ha ha ha
I am happy alone now but wow Chevy your history is interesting, maybe that's also what my ex wanted lol to be in my lives just occasionally and I always wanted more lol oh well it's ok now i am over that and been single is just great
at least for now. I am behind again so here I go to previous pages to understand what is happening lol
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Chevy- thanks for posting the reason, season, or lifetime info. Comes at a time when I have just been talking about this very thing!
I learned recently my personal trainer who has helped me SO much to get my fitness back the past six months, is leaving the state in a few more months. I was really bummed to hear it, but we will have four more sessions together before she finishes at this gym. I am going to take her out to lunch too for a thank you before she goes. She has really gotten me where I need to be with her advice, and now just keeping tabs on how to keep things going. She is so happy to be moving to the west coast and near her son, who she is so close too. So I am happy for her, but felt a bit sad for me.......
I was telling my sister about it and said "well, I think Nancy was in my life for a reason and perhaps a season too". She asked me to explain that, and I told her the thing you posted about a reason, a season, and a lifetime. My sister said she really liked that and never heard it before. We all have people that step in to our lives for awhile and then step away. It is good to know when that happens and not to cling to those relationships when their time is over. I have been on the other end of that too (people to try to cling despite the relationship just clearly being over.....)
And about people who lift us up, I have done a fair job of doing some housecleaning of negative, one way, and otherwise unsupportive relationships the past few years. I used to make a lot of excuses about why I was always the one asking, showing up, etc. when others clearly were not. When I got sick a few years ago, I really stopped to pay attention to who showed up and cared. And who still does. Some connections around my work turn out to really be more professional than personal and I am going to keep those connections up in a more business like way now. Sometimes old friends cannot deal with us and our new world we live in post BC and we need to let go of them. Surrounding ourselves with good, caring and kind people is very important!
Thanks for your post!
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Good morning ladies and Happy Woman's Day!!!!
You guys know I'm originally from Europe and there we celebrate Woman's Day on March 8. It originates in garment factory workers strike in NYC and latter the suffragette movement for women's right to vote and equality for women. It is celebrated in many countries all over the world. If you want to know more google has a google doodle about it
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Spookiesmom, I am really going to miss my brother!
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glad you liked it!!!!!
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Hi everyone---oh so many subjects to attack.
IB I do know about woman's day--there's a program on TV that shows women as the owners of their own businesses and what other women have accomplished, it's kind of fun. But I forgot til u wrote it.
Sas u sound so understanding with u'r DB, but this has been going on for years and he always comes back, somehow u 2 have a connection that will be forever. And like it was said as long as no one reslly gets hurt then u can be OK with it, it kind of gives u a rest also.
OK my brain just froze--who is it that's alone in the hotel room---cuz I feel bad that u'r not enjoying u'rself--I love to be alone but I do know many people find it's not easy. To me it's relaxing
Jazzy I like u'r avatar, but I'm sorry u'r trainer is leaving u and yes she was there when u needed her and now u'r doing well by u'rself.
Chevy that was so true what u posted--if we look back on our own lives, there were people in it for the reason we needed at the time, then for whatever reason they were gone, I used to think of them as angels who were watching over us and came to our life just for us--cuz some I never found again.
And Teka u'r not only sweet but sharp as a tack, right Sas?
U all have such a view of religion and spirituality I admire. Being raised Catholic and going to school and Mass everyday it was fire and brimstone for any sin--It was like they allowed the boogeyman to live under u'r bed and if u did wrong his arm would come out after you. Those days it scared kids so bad--Our home was balanced tho cuz my dad was an atheist so he did take some of the scare out of it. But he did believe in always being honest and true to friendship, he just thought we should do that not from fear but from our hearts. I brought my kids up believing in God but it was their choice in how they wanted to believe--I pray everyday for all of us and more and anytime of day--but not to the point of nagging I hope--As u all know I tend to nag our government with all my letters, but they are just men or women they deserve it. And I do believe some people are just not so nice (and I ca't change them) therefore I keep my distance but more are super nice and I enjoy all of them. Just like here we're all in each others lives, maybe not in person, but we have an effect on one another and it feels so calming, warm and funny too. And that's all positive. I have so much admiration for all of u going thru so much and still think about others and confide in our fears too. Oh way to shmalzy here OK every so often I get serious, Thank God it doesn't last long.(shut up Chevy)
I hope u are all having a good day--It'll be light later tonite, my kids actually were putting away their winter coats and it started to snow LOL will they ever learn.? The coats came back out.
Hey Spookie, ur kind of quiet today. I'm used to teka saying a lot with few words--she does it so well.and Chevy saying loads of words not saying much, she does that so well.
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Oh Shut UP! Whatever you just said! I'm so glad to see you here again.... ! See? Sometimes I AM serious!
I think it is "the older I get, the less I let things bother me"..... I mean, sometimers you can see right through people, and how they are thinking, and why did they just DO that stupid thing, and make you feel bad.... Then it's time to step away, and think about what is holding you there on that spot with them.... And you think, do I REALLY need to listen to them, and hold onto that friendship? I mean even if it IS family or in-laws, you just learn to let things go in one ear, and out the other... and don't take on that turmoil, and try and reason with it. And that's right Jazzy....
We just have to learn how to take care of ourselves, and those closest to our hearts....Sometimes it's people we don't even know! Like someone smiling at you, for no reason... It kind of lifts your spirits...
Well, if they pick you up, and throw you into their car..... that's not good.... but usually everyone you see, is worth a smile...
It's okay Enerva! You don't NEED anyone else in your life right now! My DD doesn't either! It isn't going to make you happier, if you are with someone that can't support your feelings and your life.....
Our 2nd Daughter never had kids either... from the 4 years they were married.... but it doesn't matter....!
A Husband that is not right, nor children that you never had, doesn't make a difference in your life right now! You don't NEED things that you've never had, just to make you happy. And SOME people are not happy with what they have..... like children who are distant, and a Husband that doesn't care.
I have one friend that I grew up with, that finally got a divorce, and those 2 HATE each other! And their 2 girls don't really have anything to do with either one of them. They grew up with that blaming and hatred, and it's no wonder that they dont have much to do with their Mom OR Dad....! One is also divoced, and one never married, but had a Daughter.... So many lives damaged.....
I have to go fix a chocolate coke now.....
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Being alone can be a good thing. I'm an only kid, so I don't know what it's like to have sibs. I don't mind going places, doing things alone. But company to do things with is fun too. Sas and I had a blast
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Love you Spookie....!
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I just watched Neverland and then listened to that lovely little girl sing You raise me up.
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I know Harry Potter
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