INSOMNIACS place to talk in the wee hours

Chevy - dh, dd, & I all love Netflix. they also have other "channels" you can watch - lots of free ones & others for extra $. we've tried all the other options (Dish, Comcast, etc.) but netflix has more than any other and you can't beat it for the price.

JunieB ~ So sorry about the Ibrance. Can you re-start it later on? As for your Mother, I would not tell her shite. Nada, nothing. You are in the beginning of a very special relationship with your Sister. Don't tell Mother anything! She takes such delight in hurting you - don't give her that power. Close that door, seal it shut and hide it behind a concrete wall.

Thanks Shep! I like the saying you posted. I'll be off the Ibrance until at least August 4th. See MO on the 3rd and they'll do blood work then to see if my count has gone back up. The count was down like this before surgery and I had to stop the Ibrance for 3 weeks before & 2 weeks after surgery. It may be that I'll have to start a regimen of 2 weeks on, then 2 weeks off. Will talk with MO next time.

Jazzygirl - Yeah! the patio party is just around the bend. Something exciting to look forward to. Hope all goes well with the delivery of your new furniture.

Off to bed now. Sleep well everyone.

JazzBug.... I don't know what SOB is... I always thought it was something else....Not even ANC!!! I am not good with technical terms...

See, we go all our lives trying to please our Mother's.... even when they don't really want our appreciation, or could not care less... But we don't see that until we are much older.... They are all we have, so we hold on, just hanging in there.... It never changes.... But we accept it because we don't know any different........ Even after they are gone... You think.... " wish I had good memories, had at least something to hold onto, that showed me she cared... " We look for love and caring from other people... and that's okay.

And Shep is right! Don't tell her NOTHIN'.... Nobody's business... People are in our lives for a Reason, or a Season, or a Lifetime.... Is that how it goes? So your Mom's "season" is over...Your Sister is your new guardian angel... She is in your life for a reason.... Just like we are.

Thanks for the tips on Net-flix Shep & MM! I copied the names of the shows you mentioned! Soooooooo hot here also... Gotta play outdoors in the early mornings, before it gets to be 100....... You know? Snow sounds good about now!!!

Feline ~ How true! Grown up folks have much more incentive to do well with their studies. My Step-Son totally wasted his 1st two years of college. He had gone straight after high school . He grew up and realized how important a degree is. He was promoted to a position at his workplace that usually requires a college degree. Once he saw the usual pay rate for that position, he was re-inspired to return to school! He works full time and takes classes on campus or online. He is a great student now!

More importantly.....Did Zils get to meet Sir Arthur? Did he treat her with royal disdain or did he allow her a brief chin rub?

Chevy ~ I think these girls make up half of their "abbreviations". Wenchie had me so confused about all her FU's. I thought she was fixin' for a throw down! "Moms season is over" Very well said. That's from the Good Book isn't it? "For everything there is a season" JunieB, you can't argue with scripture! Shows on Netflix....still thinking of 'em all, FFH looooves the old Andy Griffith Show. And not only because it's a "cop" show. Although he does have a few Barney Fife's he has to keep in line in real life...... Parks and Recreation might be my all time favorite TV comedy. I so wish it was still on! I never much cared for Amy Poelher but I now adore her! Chris Pratt got his start on the show and there are many "big" names who make appearances. AbFab is my fave comedy from England - those gals are crazy! The 100 is a wicked good show too. It's science fiction and an action packed drama too. Wonderful character development. Adam Sandler has a cute movie on there The Cobbler. What are some of the other shows you like?

ooops.............gotta scramble for heck ride with old Fart Face to see my docs for FU's 😛Ha!

sheps, cutting a room is doing the edges...especially with all the different colors. Prob won't get pics. Most like what she does cause it's her. Black walls, Green walls,white walls, eggshells, and flat finishes. Ceiling green and white....then there is the leopard print stuff everywhere.....looks cool, but I couldn't live with it.

And yes I have a very very mean streak.......what I don't have is boundaries. Started with a new counselor last week, mine retired. About every 5 months my bucket overflows and I need to purge. This new counselor wants to work on that not being a recurrence all the time. Boundaries and learn to say no. I don't know, can you teach an old dog new tricks?? We will see. But I did like her:)

Happy Friday to all:)

All the surgery gals....pray all is going well for you guys.

All you gals on new treatments, praythat they are gentle for you

Everyone else, go out and have fun today

Jazz, I agree with everyone else. Only let those who really care about you know what is going on. As you know I too have the same kind of relationship with my mom. Don't let drama queens and bullies drag you down.

Thanks for the well wishes for getting into the college and program I wanted. Everyone but my mom was ecstatic for me. My mom is the type of person who has to make everything about them. I have come to see her as a bitter person, who unlike her own parents and siblings, as well as my siblings worked for everything that we have. She would rather sit around and have it given to her or live off someone else's efforts. Had enough of that when I moved to be with my hubby and never have looked back. It's a shame that some people can't be supportive

Just checking in to wish all a pleasant night of happy dreaming 💜

Just woke up from my 4th nap and am nodding off again. Zometa infusions zonk me out the first 2 days. Can't hardly keep my eyes open.

Appointments went well. Still waiting on a surgery date.

Will catch up later............

Chevy - SOB = shortness of breath, and ANC = Absolute Neutrophil Count. Neutrophils are a type of white blood cell that fight against infection.

I took the first Lasix pill yesterday and only lost one pound of water weight, but today after the second pill, I lost 4 pounds of water weight (5 total). I was able to breath so much better today and swelling in limbs is better too, plus my fatigue was greatly reduced as well. Crazy how extra fluids in your body can create havoc.

I had the Echocardiogram today, and apparently they are checking for congestive heart failure. Oh great! As explained to me by the tech, there are 2 kinds of CHF. One is worse than the other. Supposed to get test results Monday or Tuesday next week. Hopefully this is just a fluke and will subside after the Lasix pills. Tech also explained that women taking Herceptin have to get Echo's pretty regularly.

Hi there! I was waiting to hear from you. Yes, hope it's a fluke. I am glad you are breathing better and have a little more energy. Quite a few drugs can cause heart damage that leads to CHF. How long were you on daptomycin post-op?

Hey Mom2.... You still up? I'm having coffee too, and it's just 65 outdoors right now! Gotta hurry with this so I can go out there before it gets light!

JazzBug... No, it's alright.... Let it go..... Saying everything that you are feeling wouldn't help a thing. It's just not worth your time to put down what you would like to say, and especially tell her. We would hope that telling people something would like make a light-bulb go off in their head, and they would SEE how others see them... but they are stubborn, and selfish, and it wouldn't help.

It's done with... and I guess you could thank God that you are above it now.... It happened, and now it's over. And now you can just go on, and every day some of those feelings will leave you.... You will have an emptiness always... but that's okay.... better than hanging around your Mother and having her put you down any more.

SOMEtimes, people who are absolutely stubbornly mean, will change... Usually after a life-threatening event.... And their whole personality will change! It isn't good for them, but it is for us! Their stubborn, mean personality will be "gone" and someone sweet, and vulnerable will come through. This happened with my fiesty, little German Step-Grandmother... That little woman was hell-bent on turning everybody against her! She would rule the WORLD, and smack anybody that disagreed.... She just chased all the love out of her life.

But after everyone gave up on her, and I was the only one left, (and I just DREADED her orders to take her there... do this... etc!) She had a heart-attack. Ambulance, Hospital, me trying to help her walk again......... But they finally said she couldn't go back to her house.... yet.

So they helped me find an Assisted Living place, right close to my house. I asked my Dad, (her step-son) to please come back in town to help me rent a truck, and move a little furniture to her new room. He finally came... helped us move... Damned near ruined the transmission in that TRUCK! Didn't know how to work those gears!

Got her moved, and in. I took her little dog Patty home with me... to stay. I would run down the street every day to go see her and help her out. She slowly forgot to be mean & cranky! She smiled at me, and I would make her laugh...I would take Patty to stay with her... But she started forgetting ....things....... everything. I made her an album with her family pictures.... and us! But she then forgot who anybody was.... No-one else came to see her... And I would give her a shower twice a week, to save her money.... And I would bundle her up in her robe, and sit her down and do her hair..... But she became like my "little girl".... The two years that followed were with just me in her life.. I would visit her with my little Grand-sons... but life just became too hard for her...

Then it was one nursing home after another... no more thinking of her going "home".... But I thank God that I had that time with her! She only knew me, and even that became hard for her.... So hard to watch someone you love slowly going away....

So don't give up hope.... Just keep her at arm's distance.... maybe something will change.....

Ms. Chevy, this can't be the same grandma whom you moved in with after your parents moved to California? Bless your heart for being there when most distanced themselves from her. Must have been a lonely world for her

Loverly - I wasn't on Daptomycin after the hip surgery, but had a 7 day course in 2015 when I was hospitalized for an infection in my right arm where I have lymphedema. No one at the time said anything about CHF being a possible SE. What ever happened to a patient's right to informed consent?

Chevy - You are not the first person to relate a personal story such as the one about your Mother becoming pleasant and easier to deal with once they have a major medical event. My Mother has had breast cancer, kidney cancer, and last year had a malignant spot in her lung that she had a short round of radiation for. She has had numerous other surgeries too. So you would think that those events would cause her to have at least some empathy for others. But NO!

After not hearing from her all last week, she called last night, but I was outside. Then today she called 3 times every hour because she has to be out of her house for a showing and she just needed someplace to go while that is taking place. In her voicemail you can hear her sighing because I 'm not available for her to park herself at my place. Another example of her complete self absorption.

Did you make it outside to watch the sunrise this morning?

Last night when I posted I said that I'd lost 5 lbs. of water weight, but this morning I get up and check my weight and I'm back up those 5 lbs. WTHeck!

This last week has been nothing but doctors appts., medical tests, etc. There's gotta be more to life. I even forgot to contact my Sister until today when I texted her.

I was feeling good yesterday and of course over did it and was severely paying for it all night and today.

Guess That's all for now. Will check back later.

Ok, after re-reading this post I made some corrections.

If we were making the money Tyler Perry is making maybe we could go to our "other place", as long as we can come back here! He's hilarious no matter where he gets his material. 😄

I see you've had breakfast, who's ready for a snack? Baad Lori!!!