Zoom Meet-Up Bonded by Breast Cancer: Place to Keep Chatting
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In another chat i have participated in only online, it was said by a mentor that what happens on these boards is what her mom used to do in person. Cozy together her mom and friends would gather together with coffee to solve the problems of the day. Also, to support each other in their lives. Those without breast cancer will learn about how their loved ones, friends or coworkers may feel, but to us peer to peer, we know how it feels.
Before the internet we had phones, drs offices and neighbors. Friends and families who tried to support and encourage. Here you have those who have lived it.
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A few years out of radiation and I am finally seeing changes to the size of the affected breast. Maybe the lymphedema was masking the shrinkage. Normally I wear loose tops anyway. I was always self conscious about having larger breasts than I would have liked. It feels rather odd to look down and wish they both were shrinking at the same rate. How weird is that? LOL !
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I remember before the website revamped having so many ongoing posts with people. Now when i check in, silence? Covid took people online. For me, it is a check in on people. How treatment or life is going post treatment. I see some categories i have followed with daily activity. It looks to be a handful of people that regularly post and keep it going.
I posted on a new tab about genetics, but i will post here my update. I had stopped wearing my compression stocking as i got tired of it. My blood clot was in 2022 and checked again in 2023. I had noticed recently as i was wearing capris again because it has gotten hot. I was again looking at my ankle's side by side. A bit swollen on the clot side. So, at my yearly MO visit with my ultrasound i asked the NP to look at my ankle. She said it is swollen, so i will order you an ultrasound. This was Friday, so the next Monday i had an ultrasound and by 4pm Friday while at my retreat, I got a call from the NP that i needed to get to a pharmacy now. Find one close or you will need to dive down the mountain. Your first clot is not all gone and now you have a new one. If this breaks off, it could lead to a pulmonary embolism. My internet up there was shaky, but she had seen me in the short tele-visit we had that I looked good. I asked her to see if there was a pharmacy near Pinecrest. There was. My meds were there when i got there un 20 minutes, and i was back to my retreat in 45 minutes. Eliquis again and in 2 weeks a call with the coagulation team and a tele-visit with my MO.
As we say, most side effects we never got, but others we do. The original clots hematology dr said i could be chronic for clots. I thought no way! Today, that is what i am listed as. All good on the outside, but things happening inside i needed to see by changes in what i saw and felt.
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@katg Holy cow Batman! What next? You have been through the wringer dang-it. You deserve a break from all this dookie. That blood clot needs to go away and leave you alone. I hope you were still able to enjoy your retreat. Being on a mountain sounds really good to me right now. What was the subject of the retreat? I had one for quilting with an amazing group of friends in February.
I miss all the internet connections too. Especially in these disgustingly early morning sleepless nights. I know you know all about sister stuff and can empathize. I made the 2-hour drive to visit my parents on Friday after work. I’m awake at this hour because I got home from my parents’ house at 2:30am because my b!tch of a sister who lives 20 minutes from me (the one who said my chemo was hazardous to her) showed up at the ER where I had taken my dad because he was more incoherent and weaker than usual after taking Benadryl for what he thought was an allergic reaction to eating chocolate with almonds. He had back surgery a couple weeks ago and is on all kinds of drugs …none of which I had access to knowing because the b!tch has power of attorney and is working very diligently to cut me out of the loop. Dad has cognitive issues and has let her manipulate him. When the amazing nurse who had been taking care of us for over 2 hours handed me the discharge report, the b!tch yanked it out of my hands as I was trying to read it and said “no! you are not his medical power of attorney!.”
I can’t stand to even be in the same room with my sister anymore. Thankfully the nurse who saw this happen, brought another copy, walked past my sister and handed it straight to me again. I had been very straightforward with staff that I was his daughter and that I would do my best, but that I couldn’t answer all of their questions and that I couldn’t give them any authorization for treatment because my sister who had medical power of attorney was cutting me out of any access to his medical information. Every staff member was so nice to me, especially when during his intake paperwork it became known that I wasn’t listed as one of the emergency contacts in his medical records and both of my parents said in unison that was a mistake that needed to be corrected.0 -
I am glad i checked this thread. I was at a women's retreat that was started 37 years ago to connect sober women of AA and Al-Anon women. I am of the 2nd group. And a portion of that group is another tool in my toolkit. From them this site and mayo clinic I keep walking forward. Minus one of my sisters.
Sisters. That sounds like my brother from 2016 and the end of my mom's life. I am happy to see the nurses get it. Fear and anger from sisters. I remember your sister and the story of your chemo. I love that your parents wanted you on the contact sheet. There is nothing we can do to see eye to eye with them. Crazy. As long as you have parents, keep with them. They are yours too.
My older sister was jealous of certain things I could do that she could not. Finishing my cancer treatment then my MDS treatment is not something she did with her own starting 2 years after me. She has not recovered from her intestine problems, and she answers none of the text messages i send. She only "likes" my messages. I told my younger sister she may just be waiting to get back to us when she is recovered. I have often said i know little about her treatments through either issue. She went to a different hospital for her intestine issue, and I wondered today if she has notified COH or continued the treatments, she was on for her ovarian cancer. She was still doing infusions at COH. After chemo treatment.
She follows "Chris Bets Cancer" and his facebook posts and books. I am reading this guy's materials as it helps me understand my sister. He insists that eating right, and a number of other tools will stop cancer in your body. You will heal your body if you to these things. He did it?
A day at a time remove processed food, and other modified items. Check. Exercise- Check. Water-Check. Skip conventional medical treatment and use his path to achieve healing your own body, not so much.
I love that you quilt!! Wishing you some good times in April.
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@katg I had to laugh at the “skip conventional medical treatment” part. If all those healthy living things prevented or cured cancer, I (probably like many of us) know a few people who should still be here. To each his own I suppose.
I love having a group of people to quilt retreat with every year. I also have a group of friends from our high school days in Norway. We meet every 5 years in a different city because it’s too expensive for everyone to fly back to Stavanger. Eight of us did meet in Stavanger last June 21st for a mini reunion on the summer solstice. It was my first time being back there since 1976 and Midsommar is my favorite holiday so it was a triple special day. There’s nothing like 24 hours of daylight on a summer evening with old friends in the place your heart feels is your true “home”. I was shocked that I could still understand so much of the language after …how can it be?…50 years! I was only 14 when we came back to The States. It was a hard transition back to our way of life here. Memories…I’m trying to ignore my sisters’ hostilities and enjoy time with my parents. I keep track of every time the sisters deny me access to information or try to make it difficult to see my parents. What they don’t know is that those actions can be grounds for some legal consequences when the time comes. I plan to challenge my sister’s history as the financial power of attorney and demand full disclosure of her management of their finances when it comes time. Revenge best served cold they say.
Hope you are doing well. I’ve started a new quilt by our Australian friend and I hope to show it to her in her hometown in 2027-ish. New bucket list item. “Quilting in Australia with friends.”
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