Dec 16, 2019 08:48PM Di2012 wrote:
Meet other women who are similar in age and dealing with age-appropriate issues.
Posted on: Feb 7, 2009 03:29PM
I am an "older" woman with breast cancer (I was diagnosed at 65 and am now 66). I notice that most of the posts seem to be from people younger than I am (often by quite a bit...). I'd love to "talk" with others my age, exchange info about their diagnoses, effects on their lives, etc. I see that there is a forum for young women.
Someone suggested that maybe it's that older people aren't so computer-savvy or aren't used to being in online discussion groups. However, for those who are, it would be great.
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Dec 16, 2019 08:48PM Di2012 wrote:
Dec 16, 2019 08:53PM Di2012 wrote:
I know her hubby was very I'll and in the hospital in S.A.and and then in Houston it was hard for her to take care of him when he came home....that is the last I heard from her.
Dec 16, 2019 09:06PM - edited Dec 16, 2019 09:07PM by CindyNY
Puffin2014- you gave me a good laugh with that story! The husband of a friend of mine had to raise the bed for reflux, he put blocks under it. The first night she told me it was a good thing they had a foot board or she'd probably be on the floor, she slid down so far. Just reading your story brought her story back to me.
Her back is still bothering her to accommodate him not using a wedge pillow. I hope in time you'll get used to all the differences with your sleeping habits. Sorry I have no hints for better rest.
Dec 16, 2019 11:47PM ChiSandy wrote:
I was thinking about Sandra & Mike recently, after my cousin's valiant struggle with MDS after his own stem cell transplant that almost worked but then suddenly brought on "explosive" ALL.
I had a sleep study in 2012 before my first knee replacement when the peri-op doc declared I had a "crowded airway." It was at Northwestern, on the upper floors of an exclusive "club" hotel. It was the most luxurious hotel stay I've ever had: anything non-alc and non-caff I wanted for a nightcap; 46" flatscreen TV with satellite; and an amazing travertine marble bathroom with digital hair dryer, handheld & rainfall showerheads plus waist-level jets and steam shower. Bummer was that I couldn't check in before 8pm and had to check out at 7 am. No apnea--just "multiple small awakenings." (Well, of course--I turn over when my ear gets tired and one nostril or the other fills up). They recommended a night mouth guard, which cost more than a CPAP but was more convenient. Now that I got my teeth straightened it no longer fits, but I can't get a new one because I need to wear my retainer to sleep--which does bring my jaw forward a little while keeping my teeth from grinding
Dec 17, 2019 06:53AM carolehalston wrote:
It's cold and windy this morning. Temp in the 40's but feels like the 30's according to the very pregnant weather lady on channel 8. I got up late and put out the boxes and bags of items for donation that a Veterans organization will be picking up today.
Since it's Tuesday and not a day for golf, DH and I are going to the gym. We celebrated our 50th anniversary this past summer but didn't have a party or organize an event. We mainly marveled at the passage of time.
I didn't find the kind of blouse I was hoping to find yesterday during my shopping.
Dec 17, 2019 07:15AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Every great loss demands that we choose life again. We need to grieve in order to do this. The pain we have not grieved over will always stand between us and life. When we don't grieve, a part of us becomes caught in the past like Lot's wife who, because she looked back, was turned into a pillar of salt.
Grieving is not about forgetting. Grieving allows us to heal, to remember with love rather than pain. It is a sorting process. One by one you let go of the things that are gone and you mourn for them. One by one you take hold of the things that have become a part of who you are and build again. -Rachel Naomi Remen
Dec 17, 2019 07:26AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Sunny this a.m. as I hoped. We are definitely out of dog food and will have to go out. Would need to care for the feral cats as well. No one to clean the store ( supermarked that is closed now ) parking lot so I will once again take a snow shovel to dig out where they exit the fence and as well a spot for them to eat.
We will start out as late as possible so the solar rays have as much time as can happen to start the process of thawing any ice. The highways are likely very clear this morning but we have at least a mile in order to get to the highway and a bit more depending on which road we use to get on the highway.
I don't have any sleeping suggestions either Puffin, but just the other day ( I think it was an article in Web M.D. ) read how most people react to different sleeping positions and what they could expect re: apnea and snoring. If I recall, side sleepers were best at least for snoring. You might try resources like that to learn a bit more.
Sandra is on Face Book. Under her name and so you might try there if you would like to keep up. I don't think she posts here much anymore, if at all. She has gone through so very much with her Dh Mike and I think they are still ok. She is really a stalwart person and also stoic. Determined to pull them both through any challenge.
Dec 17, 2019 08:05AM petite1 wrote:
Good morning, Ladies. Overcast, gloomy day. I can not get the house to dry out. My best friend had an abnormal mammogram. I am praying for her and hope for the best.
Dec 17, 2019 03:08PM IllinoisLady wrote:
Sending comfort and hope for your friend's mammogram. It could be some of those pesky abnormalities that show up ( like mine used too many yrs. ago ) just from dense breasts or odd cysts. Here's hoping.
I needed another biopsy about 3 yrs. ago and it turned out just to be a fatty cyst -- all came out pretty much in the biopsy needle.
Dec 18, 2019 12:58AM ChiSandy wrote:
Petite, fingers crossed that your friend's mammo anomaly turns out to be nothing.
Was pretty chilly today. My housekeeper had to leave suddenly when Hines V.A. called to say her DH had fallen getting out of the car when he drove himself to his dialysis session. (Because he needed an iron infusion Monday, he was supposed to have called an Uber and she would pick him up after work. He was too proud not to drive),
I am now in size 12 jeans (started out in 18/20) and size M tees & sweaters!
When I awoke today I wasn't sure I'd be able to do the WDCB Holiday Hoot because I was still coughing spasmodically. Managed to reach my doctor in mid-aft., and she told me it was ok to take a 20 mg. prednisone I have on hand, and that it should kick in by airtime; plus an extra MucinexDM, which I did. Got to the studio, was able to do the preliminary pre-show "living room" set (to entertain the other performers, staff, volunteers & donors--it's public radio) just fine. In fact I was surprised how well my voice felt & sounded. Then I made the mistake of having a cup of half-caff between the 2-1/2 bottles of water I drank. Ooopsie--that, and the fact that it was bone-dry inside the studio, caused a nasty throat tickle during the second verse of the first song, leading to lots of coughing. Since the song was my "It Sucks Being Sick at Christmas," it was sort of apropos--in fact, the DJ loved it. (Half the performers were in various phases of colds, and two duo acts had to cancel). Fortunately, I was able to salvage my voice for the other two songs (my singing partner took lead and I was able to close-mic my harmonies) and I was back to normal (thanks to a Ricola, more water, and Singer's Saving Grace throat spray) for the group finale. (The show will be archived for the next two weeks at www.wdcb.org).
Has anyone kept track of other ladies who used to post here but moved on once they were done with active treatment? Just curious.
Dec 18, 2019 06:10AM pingpong1953 wrote:
Congratulations on your weight loss success! I can't seem to get there, mentally. I don't know what my problem is. I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes a few years ago (I have a family history and was routinely screened, and one of those screenings showed an elevated a1c, hence the diagnosis.) I just had a bunch of blood work done because I was concerned about the Femara messing with my cholesterol. Everything, and I mean everything, was fantastic. I'm 66 years old and about 60 pounds overweight and I get absolutely no exercise and I don't deserve these good numbers! Although, to be honest, a sky-high cholesterol reading probably wouldn't have lit a fire under me and gotten me to the gym, but I think about people who are so careful about diet and go to the gym 4 times a week and I wonder how I got so lucky.
I know what I need to do to drop the weight, but I can't seem to get my brain on board. Frustrating.
And speaking of weather, our winter started on October 31 and we've had well over a foot of snow so far. It's 13 below F right now, although nice and sunny. Last winter was really cold and snowy, and it looks like this year will be the same. This is northern Ontario and I know it's supposed to be cold, but this is a little colder than typical for this time of the year!
Dec 18, 2019 07:57AM - edited Dec 18, 2019 07:58AM by IllinoisLady
Sandy that is marvelous that you got Holiday Hoot so well. Hope your housekeeper's Dh will be just fine. Men are so stubborn sometimes though I do know what it feels like to not want to seem to be something of a sissy. It's often hard to give up our 'strengths' and own up to being 'weaker' now. Here's hoping.
Congrats to you PingPong. Always happy when the good numbers come. We are who we are and sometimes there isn't a lot of accounting since we are a product of genes through our family tree.
I had my tests as well explained a couple days ago andd was amazed. I was 'nervous' about my A1C as well which seemed at issue 6 months ago but some dietary changes seems to be keeping it at bay. It is actually though right at a level where any increase could be not at all good for me. I have lost about 16#'s since I broke my arm Aug. 25th. and while I don't recommend doing wt. loss that way it did seemed to have 'shocked' my system into not doing automatic wt. increase when I do give in to bad behavior. That said, though, I do know that I still need some work on deep belly fat which is more the culprit for Type 2 and A1C changes. Bring on the vegetables, and that is on-going for now. Still developing how to eat things that I skipped a lot so we will see.
I still haven't heard from Anne and remain concerned about she and her family. Hoping so much that all is well. I may go through again in back pages to see who has not posted much or recently and send a short p.m. If anyone else does this, I hope you will let us know any results.
Hope you all have a really good day. Getting ready to get out and do my in town chores of feeding the feral cats and stopping by the Manor to check on those I know who are there.
Dec 18, 2019 11:10AM carolehalston wrote:
Wow, Sandy, I so admire you! I gave away my size 12's and am struggling not to outgrow my size 14's. I will probably go back to WW in January even though I hate the idea. Would you please summarize your eating plan, if it's not too complicated. I know you avoid white carbs like bread and potatoes. And I believe you cut way back on wine and booze. One of my pleasures in life is having a cocktail in the late afternoon before dinner.
It's a gorgeous day here today after such an ugly day yesterday. Sun is shining brightly and it has warmed up to about 50 degrees. DH bundled up and went to play golf this morning. I did the preliminary work in making a cheese spread to take to a party tomorrow night. Tomorrow I'll put the ingredients together. A woman in our golf group and her dh host this dinner party every year for our women's group and her dh's men's group, all spouses included. It's a very nice gathering and I always enjoy it. One woman who loves baking always brings a fabulous dessert that is like something a chef would make.
I did more Christmas shopping yesterday, mostly for great nieces and great nephews who can use the gifts, most of which are nice clothes. They aren't children who live in affluent homes and have every possible material possession. In some odd way, I think my interest in Christmas shopping has something to do with missing my mother. I feel sad when I come to Plus Size departments where I used to shop for her.
Dec 18, 2019 06:09PM ChiSandy wrote:
Carole, my diet is low-carb, sort of like a less carby version of South Beach. No sugar (table, maple, honey, agave, molasses, sorghum). No refined starches--the only bread I can eat is occasional 100% whole wheat with extra fiber (2-4 gm net carb/slice)--the only grains I can have are the (very) occasional brown rice, quinoa, buckwheat (kasha), wild rice, and ancient grains like farro or freekeh. Technically, whole wheat pasta is in there too among the "treat carbs," but I like shirataki noodles (0 net carbs) well enough that I don't want whole wheat (can never get it to al dente--goes from crunchy to mush). No white, purple or gold potatoes but I can have occasional sweet potatoes and legumes (though hummus counts as a protein, not a carb). The only permissible fruits are berries, melon (other than watermelon) and citrus. All these carbs are supposed to be ideally 3 servings a week, but at most 1 per day. So if I have my low-carb toast for breakfast (unless it's keto bread or English muffins) I can't have strawberries for dessert at dinner. I'm supposed to eat unlimited amts. of "green leafies," and limited (1-2 c. per meal) of other veggies. (Unlike on Atkins or keto, I can have carrots and even peas). I can have regular whole milk as a "carb," but up to 1 c. of the ultra-filtered version (instead of Fairlife, I get Organic Valley). I can have reasonable amounts of all cheeses except those studded with fruits or flavored with sweet wine. Olives & nuts are unlimited. Fats of all kinds are not restricted, but I am to use common-sense portion control with them. I can have unlimited unsweetened almond milk (and unsweetened "coconut beverage"). For sweeteners, I'm supposed to stick to stevia, monkfruit (erythritol) and xylitol--but I can have sugar-free Jello or pudding, which have Splenda. No diet soda, but unlimited unsweetened flavored seltzers. The diet limits me to one 6-oz. glass of dry wine or one shot of non-sweet spirits per day, though I'm following my MO's guideline upper limit of 3 per week. I can have up to 1/4 oz./day of dark chocolate (>70% cocoa solids if not sugar-free, >55% if stevia-sweetened). I can have the occasional Quest low-carb cauliflower-crust pizza, or I can gnaw off the toppings from the real thing. My lunch & dinner plates are supposed to be 2/3 vegetables.
Dec 18, 2019 09:16PM Wren44 wrote:
We've tried the cauliflower pizza crust and it's pretty good. Not top of the line, but better than cheap pizza with cardboard crust. We can get frozen veggie pizza with cauliflower crust. 1/2 pizza had 310 calories. I'm sure the salad had more calories with the dressing added.
Dec 19, 2019 06:55AM carolehalston wrote:
Thanks, Sandy. Your eating plan is similar to South Beach. You must be getting close to maintenance.
My view out the window this morning included expanses of white frost. Temperatures were in the 20's here on the north shore but the sun is out and there will be some warming during the day. I will still be wearing my exercise shorts to the gym and will undoubtedly get wet with perspiration as I do cardio exercise. People always look at me when I'm leaving and say, You had a good workout. I'm one of those people who perspire a lot. My father was, too.
DH is off to the dr. to get stitches out of his nose following a MOSE surgery a few days ago.
Dec 19, 2019 07:39AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Hope is wanting something so eagerly that—in spite of all the evidence that you're not going to get it—you go right on wanting it. And the remarkable thing about it is that this very act of hoping produces a kind of strength of its own. -Norman Vincent Peale
Dec 19, 2019 07:43AM IllinoisLady wrote:
We are looking at sun out of our windows and temps. will get up to low 40's. There will be melting going on today and for a few of the next days as well. Though some of our snow is packed with a fine layer of ice, I'm thinking only shady places will have any left by the time we start to get cooler temps. again. I'm glad as I've been nervous to a small extent driving on the ice with my arm though for the most part the restrictions of use have been light.
Hoping you all have a really pretty day as well.
Dec 19, 2019 12:59PM ChiSandy wrote:
Wow, Carole--though it was only 20F here we didn't get rime frost at all. (Too dry, I think). Already 38F, and will get warmer all the way into Christmas Eve (sneak peek at springtime this weekend, merciful for those poor souls at Soldier Field watching a futile and meaningless Bears game). High of 39 on Christmas Day, with flurries & sprinkles predicted for evening (we by the n. lakefront will likely get the latter). We haven't had any snow stick this past week--what little did accumulate on grass evaporated the same day. So no melting, falling ice, nor any of that water-over-ice driving condition that's so scary.
Dec 19, 2019 02:40PM Wren44 wrote:
We have an "atmospheric river" (formerly known locally as a pineapple express) headed our way. It's supposed to bring lots of rain and snow in the mountains. There's a flood warning on all rivers, so I'm a little worried about going through southern WA on our way to Oregon. So far, they're not predicting snow between Portland and Hood River, although we will definitely have chains in the car. I've only had a few white Christmas in my lifetime and this year I'll settle for rain. DD is making an overnight round trip to DS for Christmas, and she's not experienced driving in the snow. DH grew up in Anchorage, so he's pretty good at it.
Dec 19, 2019 05:05PM - edited Dec 19, 2019 05:21PM by ChiSandy
In all the 7 years I lived in Seattle, we had worrisome snowfall only twice: our first January there, it snowed 2 feet on my birthday (back then, totally freakish for the "wet side of the mountains"). We lived on the second floor of a "California-style" (i.e., "motel architecture") building with front doors that opened on to an outdoor balcony walkway, and it took brute force (and eventually UW Housing maintenance crews with snow shovels) to get our door open. I actually bought lace-on crampons for my hiking boots so I could navigate icy sidewalks without falling. Then in our last year, we got a 6" snowfall that caused one car to skid into the rear of our little Datsun on an offramp from I-5's express lanes. We never fixed the dent in the trunk, even though we kept that car for four more years (putting it on the moving van to Chicago)! Always a headscratcher how Seattleites could drive with aplomb on thick compact snow & ice in the Cascade ski areas, yet panic, fishtail and crash into each other every time we got more than half an inch in the city & suburbs.
Our grad student apt. complex was a block from the Ship Canal, and even during the majority of "wet Christmases" we liked to stand on our balcony and watch the brightly-lit boats parade by, blasting holiday music, piloted by folks who had no doubt partaken of quite a bit of liquid Christmas cheer. It was great fun, no matter how drizzly.
Dec 20, 2019 06:53AM petite1 wrote:
Good morning, ladies. My follow up went well. I have started Arimidex. Happy Holidays to all.
Dec 20, 2019 07:53AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened,vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved. -HelenKeller
Dec 20, 2019 12:00PM IllinoisLady wrote:
Sun is out and the next few days will be warmer -- enough to rid us of most if not all our snow save maybe for a very small amt. in crevices. That will sure make it nice out there, but will ( melting snow ) create the possibility of dirty cars with some of it left-over road chemicals of a couple different kind along with some dirt. Planning a quiet week-end although there is plenty I can work on inside as usual. Maybe Sunday I will go through the car wash and touch up the inside of my car.
Going to the store later on today -- likely Aldi's for fresh veggies and fruit. Also I get my bottled water there. I like Nestle's Pure Life, but their cartons are so big that we have trouble getting them in the house. My broken arm came from trying to move dolly with the case of water on it -- so maybe I have developed an aversion to lg. cases of heavy items. Easier to get the smaller ones for now.
Here's to doing well on Arimidex, petite and glad your follow-up was good.
Hope you all have a great week-end and lots of sun.
Dec 20, 2019 01:09PM Chevyboy wrote:
Hi gals! Just reading how you all are managing the snow and ice! I have some of those rubber, stretchy wire things that fit over my shoes when I go out doors on the ice! They remind me of tire-chains, Hah! But I also throw down an old towel, right outside the door, when the ice is there.... Seems to be easier to step on, rather than the rubber frozen mat!
Just be careful! My leg just plain hurts in this cold weather! The one that I fell on and broke, and which I got a rod and a few screws to hold it in my femur.... It doesn't bother me usually, but lately I take either a couple Aleve, or extra strength Tylenol, and sit on a little warming bag that I made. I make a bag, by folding a wash-cloth in half, then fill with rice, and maybe dried Lavender, and sew the end up! Then put it in the Microwave for 2 minutes, and put it wherever it hurts.
It's either shin-splints.... or the back of my upper leg, like what runners get? What is that? HAMSTRING!! Geez, I had to look it up! I have elasticized wraps for that, but they work down my leg, while walking....
Anyway, it HAS to be the weather causing all this trouble. Oh, wah-wah!....
Got my annual Mammogram yesterday.... Doesn't it always scare you, waiting to hear? She called back, and everything looks GOOD!!! And it's been over 10 years for me!!! I had the gals at the center laughing.... One of the questions is "Are you pregnant"? I looked at my Husband, and said "they want to know if I am pregnant!"..... He looked at me and asked, "WELL, ARE YOU?:…. And the gals all laughed! I said, "Well, at 82, that would REALLY be a Christmas Miracle!".... I SHOULD have told, him, I thought you were using protection!"
Jackie, take care of your arm! I know it is getting better, but it's also easier to hurt again now! You still have to baby it!
Dec 20, 2019 01:14PM MinusTwo wrote:
Chevy - love the dialog with the mammo techs. LOL. Glad to know you're not pregnant.
Dec 20, 2019 01:24PM IllinoisLady wrote:
Dec 21, 2019 06:06AM Chevyboy wrote:
Minus..... You can just tell when you can see and hear other people kidding and laughing at their job... that today is a good day! But I remember being terrified when I was called back after that ONE mammogram.... "looked suspicious"... Then listening to the tech while getting the biopsy....and then getting dressed after the biopsy... I just put my head on the wall and cried.
Sometimes you just KNOW.... And then, you go through so much, getting to the point where I am now!! I just thank GOD for today, and pray for a million more tomorrows.
Love you gals! And take good care...
Dec 21, 2019 06:20AM carolehalston wrote:
Thanks for making me smile, Chevy! So relieved you're not pregnant!
Dec 21, 2019 07:36AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Happiness consists not of having, but of being, not of possessing, but of enjoying. It is the warm glow of a heart at peace with itself.
Norman Vincent Peale