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  • Kymn
    Kymn Member Posts: 887
    edited February 2011

    Hi girls, well that was a big waste of time, my test results hadnt come back yet but still I had sit and wait for an hour to meet my oncoligist and find that out Yell. On the up side he seemed nice enough and on the boo side I will be doing chemo even though he doesnt have all my results in I guess because of my age,41, and that there was some invasion in one node even though they didnt clasify it as node involvement that will be my path.

    So time to pack up the bus surgery is 10 am tomorrow for my second lumpectomy sure hope they get it all this time, good thing I have big boobs or there wouldnt be any left.I am having a drink yep rye and diet lol and then putting myself to bed early have to be at the hospital for 7 really dont know why they need my in my bed for 3 hours before the surgery. At least I dont have to get those needles in my nipple this time that was not pleasant. Anyhow feeling a bit sorry for myself but guess I will start looking at some pretty scarves and wigs. Thanks girls I know I can do this and I have all of you to get me through.

    Lots of love sorry Im not pulling up a bar stool tonight but I am sure dorothy will keep it warm for me Wink

  • Kymn
    Kymn Member Posts: 887
    edited February 2011

    PS Goldie I think you are beautiful and your new hair is really pretty

  • Beanius
    Beanius Member Posts: 1,494
    edited February 2011

    Yeah for big boobs Kymn, you will be fine!!! (and yes Goldie is a beauty).

    Dotty - where is Kath?? (no I'm happy datz in da past)

    I hope you don't mind that I put down in words how wonderful life is while your're in the world (to quote someone else)

    Love you all,

    titz up! ~

  • junie
    junie Member Posts: 784
    edited February 2011

    Hugggsssss, Kymn.....I''ll be there tomorrow with everyone and promise to keep the snorting under control until you get home!!!  One strange way I dealt with chemo was to somehow pretend that it was all happening to someone else--not me...hard to explain but it was like I removed my own self from the situation and "pretended" it was someone else going through it all.......

    I made a BIG decision today--think I am happy with it!!!.....ever since our state came out with specialized breast cancer license plates several years ago, we have paid the extra money each year (about $40 for one car; $70 when we had a second car.....)    and it was DH who was the support person for the extra costs........well........our state also recently enacted something really neat for veterans--bring in a copy of your DD 214 (military discharge form) and you can renew your license plate for between $3 to $4  !!!!!!!    Today was license renewal day and I told my wonderful, supportive DH to take a copy of his DD 214 and save us a little bit of $--I'll get a pink magnet ribbon for the car!!!   He was hesitant at first but I told him--we've supported breast cancer now for several years--let's support our military veterans for a while!!!!!   Don't know how many states honor vets in this way but may be worth checking your state out if you have a vet.....anyways........

    ........stay tuned manana....hopefully, I will have some funnies to post and will not be here bawling my head off!!!!   DH and dog are leaving in the morning to go meet newest grandson born while I was screwing off at the hospital in St Louis!!!   This new sweetie is in Kansas City, about a 4 hour drive.   I am just not up to making the trip.  DH has charged the camera and promises to take a million pictures!!!!   We have hired a babysitter to stay with me while he is gone--now, that is going to be quite an experience!    She knows that I am mobile, functional, rational, capable--I just freak out if I am by myself.................maybe I will bring her to the HTL!    Pretty sure that if I started trying to explain the HTL and Jocks and Pants and how Hunk sometimes pops over from Tunica to help out on busy days and the parties and OMG, the PICTURES, etc, etc, etc.....she would have me committed in a heartbeat!!!!    Will keep ya posted on this yet another bizarre event in my waaaay too bizarre little life!!!

    hugggssssssss to ALL.....cheers to dog beers and have decided that snorts are therapeutic!!

  • claire_in_seattle
    claire_in_seattle Member Posts: 2,793
    edited February 2011

    I went to the wine bar tonight....was beyond fun, and quite frankly needed.  Can't wait to ski.

    I thought "the snorts" were mainly an affliction of Main Squeeze who always seems to get them when around me.  But maybe my bubble is burst now.

    Then, I did the birthday month stuff.  Exchanged body creams at L'Occitane for bath potions, got my birthday stuff at Body Shop, some gold flecked YSL lip gloss, and took my vintage pin in to be converted into a pendant.  Picked up tea on the way back plus other goodies and used my $10 off coupon.  Happy birthday to me!

    Off to bed now.  Did all the above while on foot so counts as exercise too.  Then more steak when I got home so am even with that too.  Was a 2 for 1 sale, so cheap and delish.

    Life is good. - Claire

  • Stanzie
    Stanzie Member Posts: 1,611
    edited February 2011

     Here is what A-storm needed yesterday! Sorry sorry you had such a wet and dreary day not to mention probably chilly!

    Well, I tried the two screen thing. I have the two screens but one is connected to firefox which is useless with this site! Rats. The other one I can't figure out how to make into two screens as it doesn't have the taps at the top! Hmmm? Once again do not like electronics! For the 4th time in 5 months my gate is broken again! No clue why just stops working - costs min. 250.00 for them to come out and put in a fuse or fix the crazy thing!!!

     Oh Claire I love how you get so much done ! I'll be your house is nicely organized, I'll bet you actually get rid of stuff you don't use, have a clean refridgerator, actually do a spring and winter cleaning and have coffee filters between your fine china plates..... Can you tell I've been reading cleaning websites? I'm drowning in needing to clean, stuff to throw away and desperatly in need of organization. Now spell check isn't working - I see the words highlighted but clicked and only give me cut and paste options. Been up since 3:00am so I don't dare try and respell or you won't even know what I'm trying to say.... Today is going to be awfully loooooooong.

  • goldie0827
    goldie0827 Member Posts: 6,835
    edited February 2011

    Kymn, wishing you the BEST today. Pop in when you can to let us know how you are doing. We are all there with you, but I can't promise we will be quiet, but we'll try! We'll have a rye and diet ready and waiting for you. "Its not the size of the dog in the fight, its the size of the fight in the dog."
    You say you will be doing chemo, will you be getting a port put in for that? A little too late now, but too bad they couldn't do that during the lumpectomy (if you are getting one)

    Astorm, sounds like you had an awful time with all that rain and the postman, and you keys and your ATM card, etc. But I must say it made me laugh as I pictured you juggling everything, in the rain, with your windows going up and down. Sorry, couldn't help me self!

    HD, I have a Mastercard too, you think they will let us in? LMAO. Some of you gals are just so darn witty.

    Dorothy, thanks for having the boys load the trailer. We will be needing that, since we are staying over in Canada.

    Junie, you have to hire a babysitter? I hope he's one big good lookin dude! Sorry you don't get to go and see the new baby, but glad you know enough to stay home cuz you are not up to it. We can't have a relapse. Glad you are taking care of yourself. As for plates, we have those here in AZ. I have BC plate as well on my FJ.

    Kymn, Dot N Beans, thanks for the compliment. *blushing* It takes me a bit of time to do my hair, it is VERY curly and I have the frizz to go wizz it!!! But I"M NOT BALD!

    NM, I wish I could take that needle for ya. Glad you have the emla and your xanax.

    Well, as most of you know, it's town day. I think we are staying put (at home) until May. But I'm sure something will come up, that we will at least have to go to Phx for something! But I am glad to be home for a spell.

    Bad Babysitter Cocktail (For Junie)

    1 part Butterscotch Schnapps    1 part Dooleys

    Layer into a shot glass, schnapps first. Lovely and sweet, just like you !!!

  • goldie0827
    goldie0827 Member Posts: 6,835
    edited February 2011

    Stanzie, bumped into you while making my post.........oops excuse me! Just had to say what a cool umbrella! Sorry you had a bad nite, I hate those! And they do make for a long day!

    Friday, Days of the week, TGIF, Animation, Keefers

  • nativemainer
    nativemainer Member Posts: 7,919
    edited February 2011

    AStorm-loosing your ATM card is a BIG hassle, no matter how much (or little) money you have in the account. And to be so far away from the office just adds to the PIA factor. The least the mailman could have done was apologize, even if it wasn't sincere. Being invisible isn't much fun, is it?

    Dorthy-Don't forget to have the bus driver pick me up on the way to Canada! I don't have a passport, so I won't be able to get back into the States. But maybe the bc beast won't be able to find me in Canada? Oh, wait, I can sneak back into the States illegally and get everything for free and not have to work anymore! Yeah!

    Kymm-I'm so sorry your results weren't ready for you. It just doesn't seem fair that we have to wait and wait for stuff, and not even when we have an appointment we can't depend on getting info. Seems to be there ought to be a pill for that, there is one ofr everything else, after all.

    Junie-Maine has a Vet plate that veterans can get. I don't know if it costs any different from a typical plate, but I do see quite a few of them on the roads. I think a discount for vets is a great thing, and you should indeed take advantage of it.

    Claire-running errands on foot is a great way to get exercise-good for you! And Happy Birthday!

    Well, I got the blood draw thing done, didn't pass out this time, but had to remind the staff to look at the special attention notes section of my chart that tells them that I have a history of passing out during needle sticks and a huge fear of needles. I really hate it when the staff don't even look at the special notes section. Hello, that info is there for a REASON, guys. So now I can eat, as soon as my stomach settles down. Maybe I'll make myself some pancakes today.

    DOTD.  Hmm.  How about a

    Money Shot

    1/4 oz Banana Liqueur
    1 1/6 oz Irish Cream
    1/12 oz Limoncello

  • claire_in_seattle
    claire_in_seattle Member Posts: 2,793
    edited February 2011

    Thanks again for the birthday greetings.  I am continuing to celebrate, as the first one for the rest of my life that I wouldn't have had otherwise.

    On neatness.  I am very organized and structured, and set up.  However, I also have clutter which I tackle when the spirit moves.  This includes the fridge.  I am thinking of paying someone to spring clean the joint as I really don't have the stuff to do blinds.  Just thought of the person I might be able to borrow this stuff from though.

    I still need a wardrobe restructure, but that needs to wait until my hair grows out some more.  I want to get my weight down about 10 pounds too.  Not that I have gained more than about 3 pounds, but I need to be back where I was about 5 years ago.

    I was already on the "less stuff with more accessories" and high quality stuff that does something for me, but I need to pare down even more.  Sometimes you have to rotate stuff too, so not too much.  I find I wear out basics.

    I have to get ready for a client face-to-face meeting, and some other stuff that can't wait any longer.  My other client thanked me yesterday for sticking with everything so we pulled off the latest work fiasco.  That meant a lot.

    Anyway.....hours before I can join the par-tay!!!  Need to check snow levels in the mountains now.  Looking forward to skiing.  YIPPIE!!! - Claire

  • dara_diverse
    dara_diverse Member Posts: 5,004
    edited February 2011

    hi girls, I am just popping in to cry on ya'ss shoulders.  I made an emergency visit to my PS this morning due to a gaping hole in my breast. He was going to remove the implant, I cried so hard. I had to see another doc there as my doc was in surgery but the doc I saw decided to do a debridement and stitch it closed, then I see my doc monday and find out if the implant is savable.  I cried so hard at the ps office.  I just stopped home to grab something to eat and get a bra on then I am heading back to work. It is my own stupid fault as I tried to play doctor again and it backfired. I am so fn sick of the after effects of this shitty titty. 

    Thinking of Kymn, hoping everything went well for her. Thanks for hearing me, girls.

  • wahine
    wahine Member Posts: 7,590
    edited February 2011

    Big Hugs for Dorothy (((Dorothy))), and also for Gail from yesterday (((Gail))). Hope things will get better.

  • claire_in_seattle
    claire_in_seattle Member Posts: 2,793
    edited February 2011

    What a bummer Dorothy.  I can't even imagine.

    Things really will get better.  There is even a rumor out there that spring is coming.

  • hunkydory
    hunkydory Member Posts: 722
    edited February 2011

    Awwwww Dorothy, I'm sorry.  I hope this works out.  HD

  • Stanzie
    Stanzie Member Posts: 1,611
    edited February 2011

    Oh

    Dorothy, that is just awful! I'm so sorry! Again the horrible waiting time...Hope you can try and not think about everything too much over the weekend and get good answers on Monday.

  • Stanzie
    Stanzie Member Posts: 1,611
    edited February 2011

    OH BTW - my gate started working ALL by itself... Well the photographer said he ran into my ghost so sounds like hopefully he likes me and is being helpful! Wheeee!

  • nativemainer
    nativemainer Member Posts: 7,919
    edited February 2011

    Dorthy--I'm so sorry to hear about the emergency trip to the PS, and the ongoing shi$$y titty problems.  You must be very frustrated and upset,  I would be.  I hope the implant is salvagable.  I'll be praying for you. 

    I'm having my own crying spell, second one for the day.  The first was during the blood draw.  This afternoon I started clearing out the clutter in the spare bedroom.  I've been putting that little task off because that's where I've tossed all my bc stuff--the prosthesis, the drain management gowns and pouches, stuff like that--and could stand to clean it up and get rid of it.  I've got this irrational feeling that the beast will come back if I throw that stuff away.  I know it's irrational, but it's such a strong feeling.  I even called the counselor I was seeing a while back because it was bothering me so much.  I can't believe that it took hearing from her that it's ok to keep the stuff, that it's not abnormal to feel like I do. So I packed all the stuff in a box and put it up on the shelf in the closet of the spare room, crying the entire time.  Its not a very big box to hold the stuff that looms so big in my mind, but there it is.  At least now I can clean up the spare room and make it tidy and ready for company again.  

    Jocks, Pants, bring me a great big pitcher full of something, anything.  I need a drink, and a shot from the fukitol fountain, and a couple of towels to sop up the tears.  I am getting so tired of getting emotionally ambushed.  

  • Beanius
    Beanius Member Posts: 1,494
    edited February 2011

    Dorthy - I'm so so sorry bout a sh**tty t**tty incident...man, that's is so awful and I sure hope it gets resolved quickly...pleeze keep us posted!

    NM - So sorry to hear of your crying too! I just threw away some of those freezer thingys they give you, little round cool-paks that have been in my freezer accumulated during surgeries...but I'm scared about stuff like that too. I have all these books and pamphlets and surgical pads and tubes of aloe vera gel...I just don't know how we ever shake the sh**ttyy tw**tters??? Cr*p n Sh**t! I'm crying with you!!!

    Now it's getting near happy hour and maybe we can all get dwink and fowgetaboutitall...hugs to you all!!

  • Stanzie
    Stanzie Member Posts: 1,611
    edited February 2011

    NM - I have kept all my stuff too. I feel the same way.

  • Kymn
    Kymn Member Posts: 887
    edited February 2011

    Hi ladies, I'm home all went well, I think,guess i will find out when I see my surgeon in a week to see if they got it all this time. Definetly better than last surgery as no nodes were removed this time except there is quite a dent in my boobie this time Cry. LOL I heard all you girls just before i wnet nightie night its a good thing you didnt have trouble coming across the border seeing as I went in an hour earlier. nice job sneaking some rye in my iv when the docs werent looking you gals are goooood. Well I am feeling a tad groggy so I am off to veg for awhile just wanted to let you all know Im home safe and sound , have a safe trip back to the states did ya all notice we dont all say eh all the time lol.

    Dorothy so sorry about your implant issue,, will they put another one in? what did you mean you were playing doctor?

    Lots of love to you all

    Kymn

  • dara_diverse
    dara_diverse Member Posts: 5,004
    edited February 2011

    Hi girls, thanks all for the kind words and do stop in the chapel and say a prayer for each of us here. We have all been through hell and back. So I came home from work very miserable and was being mean to DH so I packed it up and moved to my girl cave.  DH was getting on me too much over today and going back to work then complaining about the dogs.  So, I will back it up a bit re: today's events.....I have had this one area on the side of my breast that was not healing property and had a thick black scab on it. I decided to put neosporin on it and a bandage and last night when I pulled of the bandage, the scab came off with it, leaving a bullet size hole. When I told DH I could see the implant, he said that I was stupid and coming up with more ailments. So I went to work this morning and did not tell him that I was calling the doc.  When I called, the nurse told me to get there right away. So I drove to Philly in a panic. I am not a city driver and hate it. Then the doc saw the hole, he said "the implant is going to have to come out" . He thought that my body was rejecting the implant. I started to cry, really hard thinking about going through loosing a breast for the third time. After I calmed down, we talked further and I told him about the neosporin and he said that was a big mistake since it made the scab soft enough to come off depsite being so deep. So he then said he will do the debridement. It was gross but I did not feel a thing. He sewed me up, called MY ps who said for me to come in at 7:45, before office hours on monday.  I really love this group of doctors. I am back in the compression bra around the clock, glad I did not burn them!  Please pray that I don't have to go through that again, it is too much. I am finally back in the swing at work and getting loans to process. I need to make some money as last year was really hard on me. I think I told you already.

    Astorm, sorry you had such a rough day yesterday, I hope today is better.  I confess to also laffing at your saga but the pics you posted were too funny.  And don't worry about the leather seats, I have left windows open before and initially, the seats look messed up when they get wet even after they are dried but the discoloration does go away. Bummer about your ATM card. Credit Unions are great except in times like this. I hope you got good and drunk and are over your bad day.

    Blondie, as always, loved your pictures and comments. And I don't have a Visa either but have Amex.

    And NM, I loved your comment and pic about sneaking in the US for the freebies on us!  It is sad but true. I am glad you called your therapist about your anxiety over your bc "things" and am glad they are packed. I am with you on that thought process though.  I would have the same stinky thinky going on upstairs.

    Girls, remember that time wounds all heals. Drink up and enjoy fried-dey. okay, time to drink, pop some fukitols and drink more. I am going to click submit cuz this is getting long but still have more to say (surprise). I will be bock. I still need to talk to Beans beans and also Junie (is she being good for her sitter haha)... maybe some of you are in the lounge.  And I am missing my Wahine, it is Paula Luna Hauna time, or something like that. And where is Kymn, she needs to report to the Canadian lounge, I say we all have a rye and diet toast to her for getting through today.  Ok, sending, for real this time (I crack myself up). Peace and love girls :-)

  • claire_in_seattle
    claire_in_seattle Member Posts: 2,793
    edited February 2011

    I am off in a few minutes to have dinner with a neighbor who appears to have found TRUE LOVE in her retirement.  I can't keep up with her.  I can tell by her smile that things are going swimmingly.

    In the spirit of the month, I am taking a warm chocolate bread and butter pudding to offset the virtue of the salad she promised.

    Wish I could share some with everyone.  Just so yummy, and yes, I added quite a bit of brandy to it.

    I may pass out from the yummy scent before I get there (up two floors).  Will need to tread carefully.

  • Stanzie
    Stanzie Member Posts: 1,611
    edited February 2011

    Oh Dorothy - You know I would have done the same thing. I wish they would give more specific instructions. A friend of mine's Mom had an ingrown toenail and apparently it was really bad. Her doctor told her to use Neosporin on it and it continued to get worse and worse. Finally she told her daughter who then said when it happened to her her doctor said never to use that! That it needed to dry out. So even doctors make mistakes with things like Neosporin so don't feel bad. It sounds like they should be able to fix it. But I think I'd ask more why the big scab in the first place and what were you supposed to do. Of course you panicked when you saw the implant - who wouldn't - have very scary! And you husbands responce was just awful and mean. With everything you have been though and how scared you were that is just horrible. I'm so sorry. What is it sometimes with these men?

  • junie
    junie Member Posts: 784
    edited February 2011

    well, bah humbug!   Am missing DH (and even the dog) like crazy--but, I've only called him 4 times!!!!   The "babysitter" is asleep on the sofa so guess I'm free to hit the lounge by myself!   Jocks--dog beers and lots of them, please.   Gonna make my rounds--looks like lots of hugs are needed and I sure need some, too!!!

    Hang in there girls--for most of us spring is right around the corner and that always cheers me up!!

    big hugggssssss to all!!!

  • dara_diverse
    dara_diverse Member Posts: 5,004
    edited February 2011

    Is anyone here, hello? Did I drive you all away cuz I talk too much? Gosh, I nearly deleted my post cuz it was way wordy, unorganized and golly, written like a third grader. I am sad now as I am still at odds with DH. He made me cry again. I am hiding in my cave and it is spooky out here, the wind is kicking up to 45 mph. I think the percocet I took is making me mean and emotional. I cried more times today then I have through this whole mess. I am drinking too and DH is mad about that. Perc's n jack is not all it's cracked up to be. I am also overly tired but refuse to give in.

    Kymn, glad it was easier this time for ya. Sorry about the dent. I think Pants' brother has a body shop and can fix it if needed. I hope you sleep well, the first night is always difficult. I am glad you were able to stop in. 

    Junie, did I hear that you sprayed your baby sitter with silly string?  Why not bring her in to meet us, as long as she drinks, she would be welcomed. I hope you are not missing DH too much and wish you could have made the trip.  I hope you are able to get up and running soon, meet the new baby and then the casino, yee hawww!

    Stanzie, thanks for making me feel better. I am glad that I am not the only one who has made an error in using the neosporin. I can take off my dunce cap now!

    Beans, thanks for your support. I am sorry to hear that you were crying today, gosh, between all of us, we are close to crying a new river. And funny, I had just put away my gauze, ice bags, surgical tape, surgical bras and of course the neosporin

    "Neosprorin, for every cut, every time, everywhere" ..they should add "WARNING, not for use by drunken woman with scabby titty's", hello? And yes, I have full inventory of ailment solutions, it is called a bar.

    I hope to find you fine ladies at the lounge or are you all being snobs again?

     

  • wahine
    wahine Member Posts: 7,590
    edited February 2011

    One snob here checking in....j/k. BUT I am joining you in crying....WTH is wrong with us all....seems like crying jags have hit almost all of us. Will post more once my tears dry up. Meanwhile, just want to say hello to all, and we will all rise above the trials and tribultions we are going through right now. But when?????

     Cry

  • dara_diverse
    dara_diverse Member Posts: 5,004
    edited February 2011

    Well Junie, it took me so long to create all those pics that I missed your post. Sorry you are missing DH and puppy. Here, you can borrow one of mine for the night. pick one, any one. I see Jocks, get Junie a pitcher or two will ya? A big hug coming your way. Love to all, I am not leaving yet though, giving you all warning...

    :

  • dara_diverse
    dara_diverse Member Posts: 5,004
    edited February 2011

    aww, Kathy you too?? Tenders, bring more tissues. Let's drown these tears in boo's, lots n lots of it! And damn, the case of Kleenex was hard to find on the net and it will not post. Should I drink or cry?? Cry or drink? Or both? Oh no, me izza goin' beanistic again, wear's da bEaNs???

  • Unknown
    edited February 2011

    Hey loungettes,

    Haven't been here in awhile but just sitting in front of this screen, listening to the rain come down.  Having a glass o'vino too.  And wanted to say hello.

    Sorry wahine and dorothyk for the tears, but know you must shed them in order to cleanse yourselves of the BC bullsh*t we have to deal with.  Dorothy your DH just doesn't get it, does he?  I'm sorry he doesn't have any compassion for you.  I wonder why he thinks blaming you for trying to take care of yourself is going to be good for anyone.  Dudes are so brilliant, aren't they?  jeez

    The crying spells definitely sneak up on us.  I finished my final rad boost last Friday, and the techs printed out a pretty graduation certificate and escorted me out to the hallway where there is a bell to ring when you're done.  I rang that bell like I was trying to rip it off the wall!  Everyone clapped, even the few folks in the waiting room, and all 5 of my techs gave me big hugs.  I walked out feeling so happy that I was done.  Five steps out the door and I choked.  Cried all the way to the car and then some.  It was a good thing I was cryin' over, but still.

    Well cheers to my girlz here.  I'll be enjoying the SoCal rain by my fireplace with a book, and checking in here too!

  • AStorm
    AStorm Member Posts: 1,393
    edited February 2011

    Stanzie - thanks for the umbrella.

    Lori - thanks for the... umm... 6-pack!

    NM - Glad you survived the poke. I have a problem with dentists. One time a new dentist gave me an injection in the palate and he had really big hands and for some reason I started to panic and choke and passed out while the assistant was trying to pull me out of the chair and yelling "BREATH!!!"   I changed dentists. Good idea to put all that stuff in a box. I hope some of those tears were for joy. If not, scroll up and see the 6-pack Lori brought us. I'll share.

    Dorthy - yikes you poor thing! I had some trials and tribulations with my implants too I but thankfully I have good skin... most likely because I didn't have rads. I sure hope everything turns out as I'm sure you've paid your dues already. Hope you have something fun planned for the weekend to take your mind off it all.

    Well shoot, if I knew you were all cryin I would have stopped by sooner. Didn't want to cry at the lounge but it was kind of a downer day for me. I don't even have a good reason. Went for a walk with DH and he started talking about the neighbor and that maybe she wasn't aggressive enough with her treatment and I heard myself telling him how lucky I feel and how easy my treatment was. I have a habit of making light of my experience so that my family doesn't worry, but I do have bad days when I reflect on the sacrifice I made or think about all the risks I still have to live with, and mostly that I can't admit how I feel unless I'm in the lounge gettin a widdle dwunk.