TIME TO CIRCLE THE WAGONS GIRLS
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Hello Puppy its good to see you.........I think about you often and you make an excellent point.........you can be from the country and smart.......jeez I just hate stereotypes.........sorry I'm out of the loop about what happen with JanKay and the Hampton's but I can't believe that she is not welcomed there..........sorry but I'm the Queen I non-spellers......you can ask anyone here or at the Hampton's........Shokk
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I remember when this was a warm and welcoming place.
I remember when women didn't turn on each other like a bunch of cats in a sack.
I don't know what is up with all of you but I do know you are making fools of yourselves.
As the person who started this thread I will state, unequivocally, that this was always meant to be a place for support and friendship.
If you have a vendetta or agenda or are just plain mean- is it at all possible that you take your anger and your attitudes and to go to another sort of site, like a mean person's site or people with bugs up their butts site?
Dr. Marisa Weiss started breastcancer.org as a place of support and education and to help women with breast cancer. It has grown to what it is because of the women who contribute to it. I have always loved this site and I will not stoop to the levels that some are doing here to ruin the spirit of this place.
If I get one more email or pm about who did what to whom I am going to scream. I have heard ten different versions of the same story in one day.
There is one common denominator here and that denominator was front and present the last time bco had a major league meltdown that occurred last year.
All I can say to this instigator is GET HELP. Because you are hurting others and you are not fooling anyone.
Sisters are sick and hurting and backbiting and constant sniping is not how we help them.
Time to Circle the Wagons was a metaphor used because we needed to be in a circle to protect those of us who were too sick to face the beast. Our strength was their strength... our love got them through it.
I know I have not forgotten what this place is about. And I will continue to remind all who post here just what this thread is for. It is not for this petty crap.
I, and I am certain every lurker on this board, find this unseemly, juvenile behavior an affront on the wonderful site that was created for women with breast cancer and provided to us free of charge.
We are guests in Dr. Weiss's home here, and Melissa and Tami are wonderful hosts-
Let's all remember our manners and stop this nonsense.
NOW.
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((Shokk))
I Luv Ya Too!!!!!
Puppy
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Debbie if you have any questions about my site you can pm me directly and ask them.
I refuse to let this nonsense go any further here on BCO.
It is time we all grew up and started acting like adults instead of petulant spoiled children.
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NS, Could'nt have said It better My self!!!
Puppy
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Oh for sweet pete's sake--it just never ends. I quit.
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Just wonder if you would call the hamptons, a mean persons site as that seems to be where all the problems stem from. JMO
I know it is easy to find, a link to it, as it is posted all over bco, I am sure there is a bco rule about that.
Welcome back Puppy, ignore the rubbish going on mate
Peter
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Quoted from bco rules
You agree not to advertise or promote any goods or services in the Community Knowledge Exchange or Chat Rooms. "Junk mail", "spamming," "chain letters," "pyramid schemes" and similar activities are strictly prohibited.
Wonder if this is the bco rule I was thinking of
Peter
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"Rubbish" Be Gone!
How are You Brother Pete??
I understand You have had Some
Bad Storms, down under!!
Hope You are resting well and
feeling Better!
Love Ya, Brother
Puppy
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Wow...it floors me how little it takes to get everyone making angry, hurtful posts.
I really want to keep coming here to offer support and share friendships, but I just can not for the life of me understand what is going on!
Truly people...I need a score card or something....I can't figure out who likes who, who hates who...even who IS who for pete's sake.
I am sure there is some big conspiracy or plot I am missing, but from where I sit it looks like nothing more than a power struggle for queen of the hill....
I refuse to pick sides. I refuse to think the worst of ANYONE here. I chose to believe that, at the heart of things we are all still on the same side.
I had a friend that had a daughter. When the baby was about 2 ½ years old any time she was afraid or hurt she would grab all the toys in the room, make a pile out of them and yell MINE at the top of her voice, over and over. Sound familiar?
People here are not booty to win. They are not pawns to play with. NO ONE gains from divisive behavior....we all loose.
As always, if there is someone you don't like here IGNORE THEM and move on. This carping and name calling is beneath all of you. You are better than that. I know. I've seen it.
As always...one woman's opinion....
Deb C
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Sheri - I hope your play practice went well. If your newspaper has an online form, I would love a link to the article about the show.
SoCalLisa - glad to see you posting. You are always busy with interesting stuff.
WildJan - I have never played canasta. Everyone in Michigan plays Euchre. No one knows how to play here and I miss it...maybe I can find a game on line. I never thought of that.
Gracie - I don't know if I had said hello before...if not, well...Hello! Nice to meet you.
Hey Tina - good to hear from you.
Guz - Got any Pink Dragons? I think I could use one right about now.
Vickie - hope you are feeling better. You have had more than your share of the creeping crud lately. I am passing you a big bottle of vitamin C and a box of tissues. Feel better....
Marissa - cool photos. I have always wanted to go to Salem. What a fun place to spend Halloween!
Laura- Wow...you have your plate full my dear. Make sure to take some time for YOU! Adding Natalie to my prayer list...she is far too young....
Puppy - I hope things are good with you. It has been a while.
Hey Shokk....I think I may steal away to your closet for a while...tell the hedgehog to move its prickly little butt over and make some room.
Gina - let all the PMs sit and get some rest. How are you feeling? Hang in there.
Jeannie - wow...miss seeing your smiling face. This too shall pass. Come back soon.
That's it, that's all...my brain is fried. I am stressing big time over a bone scan on Tuesday. I came here tonight to unload a little and maybe feel some sister love....maybe try and forget about it for a few minutes....I guess at least I did that....Going to bed.....
Deb C
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Good to see you Deb! There are still some of us hanging around who want to keep the circle going. It's up to us to rise above and not let it get to us. If there is anyone who is new, please don't be afraid to join us. Let's focus on why we come here. We are not a bunch of people on Survivor, trying to make alliances. We have something in common, bc.
My friends at school think I'm crazy to spend so much time with people I have met on the computer. They tell me they can be my support group. While I really appreciate their offer, they just don't have the same perspective about things that I find from the people here. Cancer changes our outlook, whether we like it or not. I have depended on my online support group so much the past couple of years, the circle the past year. We have laughed and cried together.
Last year Deb sent out some circle girl pins. I still have it on my purse. It has been a reminder of the special people I have met here. Thank you for all the support you have given me. I want to be able to do that for others, too.
I should be asleep right now, but can't seem to get you all out of my head. I pray for peace.
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hey Sheri - Sending you a good night hug! Good to see a friendly face
CY - I signed off and then remembered I didn't give you a shout-out and a hug...silly me! You are in my thoughts and prayers. Post when you can....
Hugs
Deb C
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Gentle hugs to all from A to Z
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Sheri, I am new but I don't think the other gals think I have had bc or something. I came right in the middle of some kind of blow up and don't know what is even going on. You welcomed new ladies so I guess that's me and you just don't know how grateful I am. I am as scared as anyone of my cancer coming back and worry all the time and can't seem to think of other things. Some gal made fun of me because she thinks I'm country maybe I am but isn't everybody welcome here anymore? Peter you didn't talk to me tonight. Is there not a wagon train circle anymore? Thank You.
Mary Pet
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Going to be a quick post again tonight(for Me) and morning for you guys over there. Tomorrow is a public holiday in Melbourne, bet you cannot guess why!!
Jankay received your message, and so saddened how you have been treated. I looked up on the net what the Characteristics of a Nurse would be and it read "Nurses need to have a great deal of compassion for their fellow human beings", could not imagine a nurse saying that about you or anyone mate. Keep on smiling!
Jasmine great photo to help give a peaceful setting for the many who were looking for some sweet dreams, glad you enjoyed the movie.
Vickie hope your day is grand, and healthier days are on the way, checked up on the coyotes and went into hiding, pretty scary animals.
Pam thanks for being a good friend, you must have the sweetest sounding voice as your printed words are always so kind to others.
Puppy the storms were pretty bad, one teenage boy was killed when a tree fell across the tent he was camping in, and several houses were struck by lightning, we were very lucky where I live and suffered no damage.
Marisa, glad to see you posting, thanks for the wonderful pic of your mum and yourself, and the great photo your parents cat. Sorry your friend cannot bring her pet to live down under, know it must be hard on her.
Hi Odalys, sheri, lisa, shokk, and others that I have missed I keep you all my thoughts and prayers. If I forgot to mention you by name, I will make sure I do next time.
Almost forgot sending the best of Aussie vibes to Marisa and Vickie for positive news of the new positions you are both seeking
Take care and have a great Monday
Peter
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Good morning circle....well I see we had an interesting evening as I was sleeping.
PUPPY...I have missed you! Sorry I haven't called...too sick to talk...heehee...ask Pam, she called me and found out. I will call soon. Nate sends his love. How are you and whats happening with you lately?
Deb...so glad you popped in...trying hard to bring things back to "normal" here although truly are any of us "normal" anymore...or do we even want to be? You are FINE! The bone scan will be ok...right there with you in my long underwear, snowpants, boots, parka, hat, scarf and gloves...holding your hand
Laura...its good to see you and I am sending prayers for Natalie...oh how sad...too young. Puts things into perspective a bit. Sadly.
Peter...hoping for a healthier day myself thank you. The coughing has become productive now which is a good sign. I hate this time change but must get ready to go to work.
MaryPet...there is still a wagon circle...you are in it. What is it that you need from us. You have to tell us if you expect help. Just talk like we are sitting across a campfire from one another. Tell your story and your woes. We do listen. We understandt the fear...we all have it.
Beautiful picture Jasmine...wish I were there. Wish I were anywhere but here where we are getting hard frosts and winter appears to be on its way.
shokk...later alligator.
Starting coffee, hot chocolate and breakfast in the lodge. I expect everyone to show up and join in as a family should.
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ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW I LEARNED IN KINDERGARTEN
(a guide for Global Leadership)
All I really need to know about how to live and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten. Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate school mountain, but there in the sand pile at school.
These are the things I learned:- Share everything.
- Play fair.
- Don't hit people.
- Put things back where you found them.
- Clean up your own mess.
- Don't take things that aren't yours.
- Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody.
- Wash your hands before you eat.
- Flush.
- Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
- Live a balanced life - learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.
- Take a nap every afternoon.
- When you go out in the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands and stick together.
- Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
- Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup - they all die. So do we.
- And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first word you learned - the biggest word of all - LOOK.
Everything you need to know is in there somewhere. The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation. Ecology and politics and equality and sane living.
Take any one of those items and extrapolate it into sophisticated adult terms and apply it to your family life or your work or government or your world and it holds true and clear and firm. Think what a better world it would be if we all - the whole world - had cookies and milk at about 3 o'clock in the afternoon and then lay down with our blankies for a nap. Or if all governments had as a basic policy to always put things back where they found them and to clean up their own mess.
And it is still true, no matter how old you are, when you go out in the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.
[Source: "ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW I LEARNED IN KINDERGARTEN" by Robert Fulghum. See his web site at http://www.robertfulghum.com/ ]0 -
Should we all hold hands and stick together...no matter where we are...here...The Hamptons...out in the real world.
Love
Vickie
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Good morning! I'm waiting for my morning coffee, enjoying the earlier sunrise. Sleep patterns take a couple of days to get back into shape. I was up late last night, but am paying the price this morning.
Hope you all have a wonderful day!
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Good words for thought, Vickie, and nice picture Jasmine.
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Good morning Vickie and Sheri and the rest of the campers.
Peter -- I'm so sad to hear about that boy. How horrible for the family. I'm glad you survived okay. Any word on the CPAP machine yet?
Vickie -- hugs and hope you hear about the job today.
Sheri -- up and at 'em sleepy head.
I haven't had coffee yet either. LOL! We are so addicted!0 -
Jankay here
I can live with out the Hamptons if the circle at bco remains. It is a loving and friendly place whom has helped me more than anyone knows. Please friends let us concentrate on healing the circle , that is what i need - i dont need thie Hamptons. This has been a horribhle weekend but hopefully t hings will improve soon.
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Good morning dear sisters and brother.
I've been reading to try to keep up with you all but haven't posted much lately. Just don't know what to say after so many of the things I have read.
I've been coming to the circle for about a year now. I have recieved much support and have tried to give support also when I can.
Now each time I come I am filled with sadness.
I don't understand what it is all about either. The undercurrent of nastiness is amazing to me.
I won't take sides either. In fact wouldn't know how because I am too dense to figure out who is angry with who.
What I do know is that noone here has ever directly hurt me and I have tried very hard to never hurt anyone.
That being said I have to tell you I don't have the energy to sort through the BS and just pay attention to the good. I have ended up in tears more then once reading here. I am at a point in my life where I should be feeling stronger and instead I feel more fragile. The deterioration of the circle just compounds that.
To those of you coming here and trying to rebuild a loving place bless you. I don't have the energy. I will be around the boards, mostly at trip neg and stage 3. Also will watch my PM's. I don't think I will be on this thread, at least for now.
So now I am in tears again.
Gentile hugs to all,
Sue
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SUE
GENTLE HUGS TO YOU
WE WILL CHECK ON YOU AND PUT U IN THE CENTER OF THE CIRCLR
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Sue, you are such a sweet person. I am so glad to have met you and hope we can continue supporting each other. How is your son? I have wonderful memories of our afternoon hanging out at the condo. It was so much fun!
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New Vickie you said tell you gals what I needed from you and I need what all of you need. But after most everyone either ignoring me or slurring me, and yes I know a slur I chose to ignore it, I think you gals are right and I don't belong here. I'm not sure where I do but this makes me more nervous than I already am. I went through the surgerys, the chemo and the radiation just like the rest of you and you turned your back on me. Peter that I thought was nice talked about the mean site. Step back and take a good long look at this thread and yourselves. This used to be a nice place because I read it all the time but things are different and you gals know what? I used to want to be a part of this so bad but I don't anymore. So say what you will about me just because you don't know me. But I will not bother this bunch of people again. When I say it I mean it. You lost another new gal yesterday, too. Good Bye.
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Good morning!
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