Illinois ladies facing bc
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virginiab That's (mostly) good news. Yeah I had gerd/heartburn several years before my bc diagnosis. It got so bad that I lost my voice. At that point it had been 3 months and the doctor just wasn't listening to me about first Prilosuc, the Protonix not working. I fired him. The next doctor put me on Carafate solution. It was a PITA to schedule around meals but it worked with-in days! So my advice to you is if what ever they give you isn't working demand, threaten if you must that you need a different med.
BTW on chemo I ended up on Protonix, then eventually Nexium & Carafate. Started right after first chemo with the Prilosuc that didn't work.0 -
Character is the product of daily, hourly, actions, words, and thoughts: daily forgiveness, unselfishness, kindnesses, sympathies, charities, sacrifices, for the good of others. Struggles against temptation, submissiveness under trial. It is these like the blinding color in a picture, or the blending notes of music which constitute the person.
John MacDuff0 -
While copying down some good quotes I ran across this piece. I likely would have put it in before because it seems so familiar. So if so, please enjoy the re-run. Seemed no less true to me today.
Peace and love
Jackie0 -
Oh Lago, that cartoon (Your Plan vs the Universe's Plan for You is so great) I cannot copy and paste it but I need it. Can you send me a copy via my email? My husband who is tethered to monthly treatments for cutaneous lymphoma and who remains forever optimistic while he faces a disease that has no cure is always telling me when things look badly...."Life is not a straight path..."
When i look at the bottom half (the universe's plan) I see me in the boat below the water line at times! Loved it.
Rita, I actually like working again. We are not traveling these days. I come home tired on many days, but I love the English classroom and it does keep my mind off Paul.....which is a major relief for him I am sure! He is fact doing well and working. He is my superstar. I most miss my weekly visit with my grandchildren (fourth is due in February). I adore them and crave their company. This teaching stint will end at the end of December.
I was alarmed at first, and then saddened, and then resigned to the fact that my particular breast cancer (as signaled by Pagets of the nipple with perfect mammograms) had been changed from Stage II to Stage III as the cancer involved the skin! I was always a stage II but apparently the medical community changed staging criteria. Blackjack understood it all. The good things is that I have been okay for seven years now. It probably is a blessing that I did not know I was actually a stage III then as I was so freaked being a II! I know it is all relative, but imagine my surprise to learn that! Prognosis is the same. Gotta move on!
I am unable to get here often but I do come to read. Take care, all.
Susan (Zap)0 -
Lago, thanks for the "report from the trenches" about the GERD drugs. I missed a call from the nurse today about a treatment plan, so tomorrow I should find out what the doc has in mind....0 -
Susan, glad that you are enjoying the teaching and I'm sure the school is glad that they have a wonderful "sub" like you to fill in when needed. I am glad that Paul is holding his own and is so positive. I considered tutoring, which I think I would really like to do again but thought it wouldn't be fair to the students because we will be in FL two months this year. I am very content with no job during the summer but I get "antzy" during the Fall and the winter months. I would also like a part time job in a little shop but everyone requires weekends when hiring for retail. I guess I am just too picky so I'll just keep hanging around the house....pretending to clean and cook!
Virginia....good news, gal! Now you know what you are dealing with and can hit it head on!
Sending good vibes your way today, Jackie!
I unfortunately have a visit with my friendly dentist scheduled for this afternoon.....ont my favorite place to visit! :-)0 -
Rita, I know just what you're talking about. That's why I volunteer. I tutor English as a Second Language two mornings a week. It's the best thing I've ever done. It's better than traveling and so rewarding to help people learn English.0 -
Oh Timbuktu...you have the perfect job! I'm envious! Perhaps I should visit the schools and see if there are any volunteer positions open a few days a week. :-)0 -
The program is government funded through a community college. You are in a college town! I bet the school has a program.
I originally signed up because I wanted to give back. I wanted to enable poor immigrants to better their lives. Instead I wound up with a group of wives of postdocs from Northwestern! Just the luck of the draw. It is not what I wanted but it's soooo wonderful that I'm sticking with it. There are a few people who just want to get jobs. But the rest are the elite of their countries. Brilliant! I'm learning a lot more than they are.0 -
Timbuktu that sounds awesome0 -
It is but a choice each moment, each breath, to live our most powerful life.
Shannon Rios
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Especially for all the teachers:
The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled.
Plutarch0 -
Jackie, that is a good lead into what I'm asking, "a fire to be kindled."
So any suggestions, experience here? I have just started dating after packing up and leaving with my daughter in tow, over 9 years ago. I'm trying online dating because I won't date anyone from work and outside I seem to only have guyfriends I wouldn't date. This is hard enough to navigate without BC, LX, scars, asymmetry, and more intimate issues.0 -
Doxie all I can say is the right guy is interested in you, your spirit and mind not your boobs, scars etc. It's not like dating in your 20's dating "boys." Furthermore most of us would kill to look as good as you do and I mean survivors and non survivors.
Just be safe with the online stuff. I have a few friends that have met wonderful men, husbands through match.com. At the same time be sure to meet in public places initially. Do a google search on them too. I had one friend that met a guy on Jdate. To her he sounded wonderful. To me he sounded too good to be true. She googled his name. Found out that wasn't his real name and he was a scam artist.0 -
Don't expect perfection and things to go the way you want them to when it comes to people, business, your prospects, and your social life. When things don't' go according to your desires, when the weather of life is foul, be creative and consider what may be the higher reasons why this is happening. and why you must adjust.
Peraps it is to gain forbearance, patience, inner strength, flesibility, or the ability to withoudl criticism while serviing as a lovinf model.
Michael Goddart0 -
Today I picked the quote before I came here to read....WOW, is all I can say. I would second much of what Lago has mentioned. I have a BIL who lost his wife about three and a half yrs. ago. I don't know which website he sent his bio too...........but I know that in the end, the five or six ( at least that is what he owns up to ) gals that "were the one" have turned out upon criteria turning up late in the game to not be the one at all. Pretty much scam artists.
I do think you can meet people this way as these places ( though generating some un-savory people ) also generate genuine people who really hope for someone to be a wonderful addition to their life. As Lago mentioned though........I would leave nothing to chance and would investigate as much as possible.
Sadly, when people are older, it is apparently much harder to "date" and find someone. I had hoped my BIL would volunteer for some of our local organizations ( a couple of my friends have in fact, found the love of their life that way ) and slowly let the word get out that he is alone and does not wish to be.
I hope it works out for Doxie.
Peace and love
Jackie0 -
doxie, I met my honey on match.com and we have had several wonderful years! When I began looking again, I was busy with my business and didn't have time to go out and search the area or partake in activities that I really enjoyed. I just wanted somebody to go out and have a dinner with.....and good adult conversation. It evolved into much, much more. I also dated some other guys first from match.com. Although we didn't click as soul mates, we did have enough in common that we have remained friends. Good luck to you. Good men are out there! :-)0 -
Hi Everyone -- I don't post very much anymore, but do try to keep up with everyone by reading this thread.. three years ago tonight I was in the hospital, just having had a BMX, and so completely freaked out and frightened by what the future would hold. I so appreciate all of the friendship and support that I received from so many warm and gracious women on this thread!0 -
Congrats on your 3 years NED LisaMomOfFour!0 -
LisaMomOfFour,
How wonderful to get through that 3 year mark. Avery year past the surgery is a sigh of relief.
Lago, thank you for your sweet comments. Yes, Jackie, the quote was perfect, as often happens when someone has posted earlier. I think you must have a bit of ESP when choosing these.
ritajean, so glad to hear you've met success, too. Someone else from the Illinois thread has also. I'll let her self identify if she chooses to. I'm on eHarmony. Not sure if Match is better. Already in two months there've been half a dozen guys who have contacted me booted off the site for violating terms (not with me). They sounded fishy or too good to be true. So at least there is some monitoring. Age is an issue, but more for whether or not one is retired, ready to retire, or planning to continue to work for some time. At under 60, I need to work a good many more years. Some guys are already retired and want to fully enjoy retirement. My first date, a sweet man, was retired and older. My second today is still working, so maybe a better match for lifestyle. Wish me luck and safety.
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Any of you ladies on facebook want to vote for our Strides team!
Team Illinois Ladies photos from 2013 and 2012 have been posted. Feel free to vote: Jut hit the "vote" tab. Any of the photos named "Lauren" are the photos I posted. Granted most of them have photos of me but that's because my husband and friends took most of the photos. Some of the photos might have been Joan's from 2012 https://www.facebook.com/Strides?sk=app_3081012159214810 -
Faith is the courage to live as though every thing that happens is for our highest good and learning.
Dan Millman0 -
Good luck doxie! The right man is out there....just looking for you, too!
Congrats LisaMomof 4.................YEA!!!!! I'm so happy for you! may you have many more cancerversaries!!!!! :-) We love good news on this thread!0 -
The reason why people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past as better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be.
Marcel Pagnol0 -
Carefully observe the natural laws in operation in the world around you, and live by them. From following then, you will learn the morality of modesty, moderation, compassion, and consideration ( not just only society's rules and regulations ) the wisdom of seeing things as they are ( not of merely collecting facts about them ) and the happiness of being in harmony with the way ( which has nothing to do with the self righteous "spiritual " obsessions and fanaticism ). And you will live lightly , spontaneously, and effortlessly.
Benjamin Hoff.0 -
Another couple of great quotes, Jackie! Thanks for your inspiration. Did you get snow in the southern part of the state? We got between 1 and 2 inches. The roads were clear this morning but I'm really not ready (even if it is that time of year) for the cold and wintry conditions. Guess I'm just a wimp the older that I get.0 -
No snow here but it could have I think. The leaves were "crunchy" this a.m. and I went down the deck stairs slowly because they had such a frosty look here and there. I know we need to think about railings for the stairs....even though they have a long step to them making them not at all steep.......still for a 74 and 68 yr. old, it never hurts to give yourself some added security. Also, in winter it is tricky.
Peace and love
Jackie0 -
Thinking like a winner means not always having to defeat someone else. It means being able to grow from a situation in which you fail to reach your goal. It involves not demanding perfection from yourself in every single thing you do, but instead thinking of yourself as perfect and thus capable of growing. It means reminding yourself that perfection doesn't mean staying the same; it means being able to allow yourself to grow.
Thinking as a winner means not coming down on yourself; it means refusing to allow self-repudiating thoughts into your head. It involves pushing out the inclinations to evaluate yourself in comparison with others, and giving yourself permission to be the unique person you are.
Wayne Dyer0 -
Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.
Thich Nhat Hanh0 -
We are all artists, all healers -- all of us can speak to spirit and listen to spirit animals, angels spirit guides and ancestors.
Michael Samuels0
