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  • Mena
    Mena Member Posts: 263
    edited November 2004
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    Brave? Surely you jest. Desperate is far more accurate.

    I'll be back soon with full reports on my Pocket Rocket and Hitachi Magic Wand.

    I did some preliminary experiments last night, but not nearly enough for full disclosure. Let's just say I giggled a lot.

    Give me a little more time lmao........
  • casinogirl
    casinogirl Member Posts: 475
    edited November 2004
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    Yes, I would imagine that compiling a full disclosure report from such an experiment could take QUITE a long time.
    I mean you want to give an accurate account and all. So, in the name of science, carry on... or grab on, jump on, or whatever!

    Take Care,
    Donna
  • connierc
    connierc Member Posts: 24
    edited December 2004
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    Hi Sweetie!

    Sorry I haven't been around -- blew up my computer and can't get into CHAT, though CAN get into the boards. Also, my COVE.COM email address is down -- the messages are there, I just cant' read them! aarrgghhh.

    I'm SO HAPPY you have your new toys to experiment with. So, I will tell about the KY HEATHING GEL. First off, HE didn't even know I was using it -- that doesn't bode well. I could feel the warmth of it, as I was using my hands on him. Second, I'm still not able to have any type of touching on my yet, for whtever reason -- yeast infection or something. We tried with the KY HEATHING GEL.

    oh well, another time, I guess.

    But, I wanted to send along to links that might be of interest. The "catalog" is RATHER shocking, but the items are good buys. Here are two that I hae tried in the past, and would recommend.

    http://www.adameve.com/product_id=8715/category_name=ss_whats%20new/catalog_name=adameve/product.htm

    and the one I like the best:

    http://www.adameve.com/catalog_name=adameve/category_name=slippery%20sensations/product_id=8524/product.htm

    Hope someone will find some pleasure out of these -- and also through looking at the catalog, itself. There are a number of of wonderful items, and friends of mine SWEAR by this particular toy ...:

    http://www.adameve.com/catalog_name=adameve/category_name=clear_erotic%20toys/product_id=5379/product.htm

    A NUMBER of my friednds (and my mother!) keep PLENTY of these in stock -- though the ones I've seen actually have a wire / cord attached, so they don't get ,um, lost .... LOL.

    If you are the shy type, as I see many are wait until everyone is either away from home or asleep to look through this catalog. It's QUITE graphic, and be forwarned -- if you are easily offended, this will do it!

    Happy hunting!

    hugs!
    Connie
  • connierc
    connierc Member Posts: 24
    edited December 2004
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    Hi Ladies,

    OK, I found a few more "eggs" that DO have cords -- the cordless one sort of freaked me out. If any of you in the past had used THE SPONGE as a birth control device, you may recall how INCREDIBLY difficult it could be to remove. Well, I think the CORDLESS EGG might had the same problems.

    SSSoooo...I investigated a little bit more from the "Adam & Eve" catalog online, and found these:

    http://www.adameve.com/catalog_name=AdamEve/category_name=17320/product_id=1526/product.htm

    THIS looks to be EXTREMELY fun! Here are some more items...

    http://www.adameve.com/catalog_name=AdamEve/category_name=17320/product_id=2752/product.htm

    This looks fun, as well. Sorry about the very crass descriptions -- guess that's just their style. Can be a bit of a turn off for folks who are shy about this, but with luck, I hope you can get past the tacky descriptions.

    And lastly....

    http://www.adameve.com/catalog_name=AdamEve/category_name=17320/product_id=1205/product.htm

    This looks like something the "guys" can have fun with, too ... hey, if it's a "car" they can "drive," we KNOW they will enjoy making you one happy woman!

    Again, with love ang hugs and happy hunting,
    Connie
  • Sierra
    Sierra Member Posts: 180
    edited December 2004
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    Goodness gracious.



    I just posted re intimacy

    yesterday popped in here

    guess when I have some time

    will check out the links



    Not as brave as all of you

    discussing this on line

    but someone HAS TO DO IT..

    right..



    P.S. You gals sound like you are younger

    are you.. any people in here in their 50's



    Ive been into some of the stores

    and we have a few here.. but really

    .. duh.. sometimes.. cant even figure

    out how these things work..

    How's that???



    anyway must go

    am coming back in here to read

    later when time permits



    Hormones gone.. changes a lot

    off HRT.. and lubrication

    shrinkage.. but

    as someone said

    if you dont use..

    it gets worse..



    so..



    Sierra )



    Heck.. then they talk about

    people in the nursing

    homes carrying on

    Do you believe this?



    PS IN CLOSING

    I am er-pr- My onc.. gave me

    premarin creme to use.. SPARINGLY

    WERE HIS ORDERS..

    Yesterday, my new GP says

    no.. we dont do that..

    so.. anyway.. not active

    right now .. but just for info

    He says they dont take any chances



    I find it burned me once

    when I used







    anyway must be outta here

    getting teeth done

    HOW ROMANTIC IS THAT??



    Have a good day all

    this topic is fun..

    to be sure..



    Sierra



    it..
  • Mena
    Mena Member Posts: 263
    edited December 2004
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    Sierra, so glad to see you here. We are all ages (I'm 43 and will be 44 in February) and all stages from shy to outright brazen. All stages of bc, too, from O to mets. I'm fully menopausal due to tx, so I know all about that, too. That's why I started this thread!

    For some real fun and valuable info, start from the beginning of the thread and read through.

    I've still got some hands-on work to complete and reporting back here to get to, lest Glad comes in and yells at me again lol........

    This thread just ain't the same without Connie. Welcome back, girl! You really spice things up. I've never seen some of this stuff! Perhaps I do need a blindfold lmao........

    Someone in chat recommended it to me also. So, there's got to be something to it.(Funny, and I thought she was going to tell me to shut up lol. It wouldn't have been the first time.)

    God Bless.
  • richmondnan
    richmondnan Member Posts: 23
    edited December 2004
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    Mena,
    The weekend is coming--maybe some good free time for product demos?
    We always find weekend time is better for mojo
    HUGs! to all
    Nan
  • Mena
    Mena Member Posts: 263
    edited December 2004
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    Hi Nan -- Let's see -- Remember, I've got two kids. My husband works Friday night and doesn't come home until 11:45 pm Saturday night. Well, uh, AND DUH. Wait a minute! I don't even need him lol! I don't need him at all hahahahah. How freaking empowering is that thought. I have my new toys!

    As for the kids, I'll just pump up the volume. That's not even strange around here.

    Ok, so if you don't hear from me by Monday, don't come a knockin' lol.......

    Glad will though; she'll come bustin' right in lol... Glad and Connie lmao. Connie will want to make sure I haven't handcuffed myself, while blindfolded, to the makeshift four-poster bed I'll have had to erect (yes I just had to say that) because I don't own a real one lol.

    OK, Nan, now I'm starting to get psyched. All of you out there with new toys (or even toys you haven't used in a while); get them out and join me for a weekend of Mojo Get-Go.

    We'll all talk next week to see how it went. If you are fortunate enough to have access to your partner you may want to include them. Then again, you may be sick of them right now and want to get away from them (speak for myself). Hey, that happens. Let's be real.

    Even if you go it alone, you can get out the candles and the chocolate and even the wine, or whatever your particular poison is. (Cripes, I feel like I'm writing a bad Cosmo column lol.) I want to invite our single sisters, too! I'm going it alone this weekend. And I did so for many, many years. But I never had toys!

    Ok, it's 11 pm Thursday night. The weekend officially begins in one hour for moi. I've got some prepping to do lmao...I've got to get started here. Shave the legs, paint the toenails, pluck the eyebrows...Yeah, I'm hard to impress lol...

    Have fun.

    God is Love and Love Never Fails.
  • scorpiox55
    scorpiox55 Member Posts: 10
    edited December 2004
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    AND, make sure the batteries are fresh.....lol

  • Mena
    Mena Member Posts: 263
    edited December 2004
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    Fresh? Why, I've had to wash their mouths out with soap several times already and it's just past midnight!

  • River
    River Member Posts: 1
    edited December 2004
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    Greetings all,

    I simply have to ask this one question ... what exactly is a "mojo"? Last time I checked, it was a type of candy that was known to stick to dental work. Hmmmm ... anyone know how the word evolved to what is being enthusiastically discussed here? I look forward to hearing a few astute and amusing responses.

    TGIF and behave!
    River
  • pitanga
    pitanga Member Posts: 18
    edited December 2004
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    Blues lyrics --I can think of songs by Lightnin'Hopkins and Robert Johnson-- often refer to getting the "mojo workin'", where it refers to a kind of magical or spiritual power, or life-force. I've also heard it used colloquially in the sense of sexual vitality.

  • pitanga
    pitanga Member Posts: 18
    edited December 2004
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    I did a search and it turned up an interesting page that talks about the African American uses of the term "mojo"

    www.luckymojo.com/mojo.html
  • Sierra
    Sierra Member Posts: 180
    edited December 2004
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    Gals:

    dont you recall that song
    "I've got my Mojo working"
    was it James Brown who sang that
    I recall dancing to it in San Fran a
    great deal..

    PS.. never knew that is what
    MoJo meant..
    hmmm

    Sierra
  • scorpiox55
    scorpiox55 Member Posts: 10
    edited December 2004
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    There is a new commercial on tv by Helzberg diamonds and they refer to the gift box as a "mojo box"!!!!! LOL!!!!! Hubby laughed and said "That's where your mojo is!" OMG!!

  • hooptiedoo
    hooptiedoo Member Posts: 10
    edited December 2004
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    Sierra,

    I am 52, so yes, there are other people here in their 50s. My libido was just fine until bc treatment, which is why I'm searching so desperately for satisfaction. I just went to the onc for my six-month checkup and then to my regular doctor. I finally worked up the courage to discuss this with him (with my husband sitting there, by the way) and he immediately consulted with the oncologist. As a result, I am now using one gram of Premarin intravaginally three days in a row, followed by a week off. My doctor said I had to make the final decision about this, as it is a quality of life issue, but added that if his wife were in the same boat and asked him for advice, he'd say "Go for it!" He said the amount of estrogen is very tiny, and I'm hoping that this jump-starts me back to my old self. I noticed amazing results after the first dose! Now I'm working up the courage to bring out the Pink Dot Vibe!!! I've had it for two weeks now and it's right on top of my dresser, but I haven't used it yet.

    Hooptie
  • Mena
    Mena Member Posts: 263
    edited December 2004
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    Hi Pitanga -- Thank you for posting that site on the origins of the word, "mojo". Very interesting!

    Notice how many times sex is associated with the word...

    As far as Jim Morrison, don't let anybody fool you. He knew exactly what he was singing about, anagram or not.

    Actually, when I began the thread, I was not being erudite or evasive with the word. In fact, I was being rather infantile, referring to mojo as Austin Powers would lol......

    Either way, it's clear what the meaning is here. And now I actually have an authentic mojo (bag o' goodies) for my hurtin' mojo lol. Although to carry this bag around with me could be embarassing (for my kids, of course lol).
  • richmondnan
    richmondnan Member Posts: 23
    edited December 2004
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    Hey Mena,
    Ok, we'll do a post-weekend poll!
    Just to clarify I've got an 11 year old at home too--but he is, at least, right now pretty good about staying clueless. He's had the "talk" and we discuss this issue fairly openly w/ him (not mom and day having s*x, of course ,), but I don't think he really spends time connecting it w/ us. Of course, it does kind of restrict noise levels (and did I say that the pocket rocket is the quietest version...LOL!)

    Also forgot to share that we had a very fun trip to Victoria's Secret when we were in Miami. My husband picked out some things for me. I think just the shopping itself was great for mojo; not to mention the items we purchased. One more suggestion....
    Hoping for a mojo filled weekend for all
    Nan
  • Sphynx
    Sphynx Member Posts: 17
    edited December 2004
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    When something really good happens to me, I usually say "I have the mojo" and it gets a laugh. I don't think I can use that saying anymore without blushing. Hmmm, I wonder what exactly were people laughing about?

  • Sierra
    Sierra Member Posts: 180
    edited December 2004
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    Hi Gals..

    darn I lost a post again..

    Hooptie ok.. so there are more fiftiers..

    hehhe



    Here is the bookstore I want to go to

    It is supposed to be lots of fun



    take a peek.



    http://www.womensbookstore.com/links-art-book.html



    they have special days for gay people

    and .. oh .. different things you know



    have no time now.

    but good books too



    Oh Goodness me.

    Look at the one that

    is called Come As You ARe

    it says they even have washrooms

    and sort of coaching available.



    it is all too much!!



    LOL..



    Sierra
  • connierc
    connierc Member Posts: 24
    edited December 2004
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    Ptanga,

    Thank you! I have always thought of the term "mojo" as a magikal term, and usually associated with Louisana "voodoo/ hoodoo."

    Course, I also knew what "mojo" meant on THIS thread, just because it made sense. As an herbalist, I have a gris-gris, which, indeed, no one touches, and I practice my 'mojo" using either hand-grown and picked herbs or spices, or purchased through speciality stores.

    I also use my mojo through oils that I either make or buy, and them combine for certain purposes, such as annointing candles, cleansing rituals, house blessings, etc.

    Same with incense, made with a combination of herbs and oils, which are also used for cleansing the house of bad vibrations (hee hee), blessing a new home / living space / car. I even keep a gris-gris bag under the seat of my car and under my bed.

    Indeed, though, it HAS turned into a sexual conitation, 'mojo" meaning some form of sexual behaviour.

    Your link was quite informative. Thank you.

    Blessed be,
    Connie
  • connierc
    connierc Member Posts: 24
    edited December 2004
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    Mena,

    uuumm, another caution with the toys -- if you have cats, keep them OUT of the room! Mine have ALWAYS been attrated to either the sound of the toy, or the scents happening .. either way, having a cat jump on you while you are having a fun time can be QUITE the distraction

    This, of course, is good advice for EVERYONE!

    (you'd think they'd figure out how to make some of these that don't make so much NOISE! LOL)

    have fun!
    Connie
  • connierc
    connierc Member Posts: 24
    edited December 2004
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    Sierra,

    Having your teeth done is great! Can't wait until I can get mine worked on again! Onc. said NO until some time after rads, at least for me, so I still have to wait.

    And, clean teeth are sexy teeth -- so, it IS romantic!

    RE Ages: I'm almost 41. There are quite a few of us on the boards who range between 20 - 75! Many in their 50's, and have NOT explored these possibilities -- but, now you have a really GOOD excuse to try! lol

    Good luck with all! And I DO hope the sites I send don't make you cringe! They are TRULY not meant for anyone under the age of 18 to be seeing -- REALLY -- so make sure no children can get into them! They'd think mom had flipped her lid -- or finally gotten really groovy!

    HUGS!
    Connie
  • Mena
    Mena Member Posts: 263
    edited December 2004
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    Lol Connie:

    (1) No cats, dogs, ferrets, or fish. Just a teddy bear hamster named Peanut. He can't jump, but he does a mean moonwalk.

    (2) So, right in your possession you have this gris-gris that will cleanse houses of bad vibrations? And tell me why you don't bring this to Dragon's? It's a no-brainer lol.... Maybe you should slip her a Pocket Rocket lol.

    Not a night for mojo. My husband got in after midnight, and we've got some talking to do first.
  • Glad
    Glad Member Posts: 17
    edited December 2004
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    Dang, Mena girl, I have to tell you with all those toys and goodies you now have in your house, you are being remarkably PATIENT about using them...I think I would have jumped on them at least 20 times by now!! LOLOL

    And girlfriend, I do not YELL at you, lol, I would prefer to say "lovingly encourage". tee hee hee hee

    Soooooooooooo whennnnnnnnnnn areeeeeeeeee youuuuuuuuuuu goingggggggggggggg toooooooooooooo?????

    I can't wait. The anticipation is killing me here.

    BTW, I was telling my hubby about this thread, and he suggested all my toys could use a "tune up". He asked me to leave them out (we have no kids OR cats) and he replaced all the batteries and cleaned and polished everything. Wish I could have had a video camera set up while he was working. I have not had a chance to check his handiwork, (there Mena, now you can "yell" at me) and with friends coming to stay the weekend, looks like it will be a few days before that's going to happen. SO Mena, give me a little relief through verbiage, eh?

    xoxoxox
    Glad
  • Sierra
    Sierra Member Posts: 180
    edited December 2004
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    Connie:

    Yes indeed.. I recall the onc and teeth
    he was v. strict no floss no rubber tips
    etc.. till finished.. and no work for sure
    for a while..

    so.. have to have mine cleaned johnny on spot
    every 3 .. months.. hmm.. johnny on spot.
    now theres an idea.. LOL..
    oh.. but yes teeth are important.. and sometimes
    the men.. they dont take care of them either..
    most men I know of DO NOT.. so expensive..

    and as for burning something in the new apt./residence
    I believe that is sage.. and I always wanted to do that
    but thought people might think a fire was going on here
    it makes a lot of smoke.. but is supposed to be good

    I go to anything leaning towards this fairs.. re
    aromatherapy,, phsycics, what have you .. massage
    love this type of thing.. scents are so vital
    they wake us up.. but boy they are pricey.
    love geranium..

    how about satin sheets.. did any of you ever
    have these..

    Before I lived in San Fran.. I could not wait to See
    Frederics of Hollywood.. finally got to see it
    and ... oh.. the store then was not that great..
    Any of you here.. who live in that area.. know the
    North Beach has a lot of these type of stores etc.
    or used to..

    75 did you say?? wow.. well some ladies at that age
    and older.. are very attractive... and they stay on their own too.. many widowed..

    as for the toys.. well, I did take a peek
    YIKES..

    Sierra



    I heard on my radio some of these clubs
    are now giving massages right on the beach
    wow.. wouldnt that be nice.. in my dreams..


    Mena.. are you okay??

  • Mena
    Mena Member Posts: 263
    edited December 2004
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    Glad DOES NOT yell at me.

  • Glad
    Glad Member Posts: 17
    edited December 2004
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    My cute little hubby pointed out this article to me. He is of the opinion that there are other factors at work here besides the heart-health risk. He thinks there may be factions out there that think it partially "wrong" for women to have "increased desire", and it ticks him off. I just love this man!

    http://www.cnn.com/2004/HEALTH/conditions/12/03/sexual.disfunction.ap/index.html

    Anyhow, for what it's worth, I do not need this patch yet, but would support the use of it for anyone who feels the need!!

    Glad (Mena hon it was awesome to see you in Chat today! I can tell you I made my hubby even more giggly than he already was!!)
  • poonplk
    poonplk Member Posts: 1
    edited December 2004
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    Connie,Mena and Glad,

    I can totally relate to the mojo thing. I have been in medical menopause for 3 years and hubby is great. He just wants me to experience pleasure. Sadly,I to fake it often just to make him happy.I can't stand the look of disappointment on his face when it doesn't happen for me.

    Tried lots of toys and lubricants and even movies to see if they put me in the mood...Nada...It's so depressing..I am only 35..I am in my prime.....

    Poon
  • Mena
    Mena Member Posts: 263
    edited December 2004
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    Oh Poony Tune -- You made it here! Things will improve. You'll see. Go back to the very beginning and read. Try what you want. I'm doing things I've never done -- as long as it doesn't creep me out or gross me out.

    There are so many replies in these pages that really help. Certainly Incognito has some unabashed sound advice. I really wish I could shake her hand. Well...no...maybe not...lol. I'm joking, of course.

    I just have to get into that habit regularly so I can access the mood. It's just not there. Believe me, I never, ever wanted to be one of those women who just "tolerated" sex. Until September, I had a (male) teenager's sexual appetite and a lifetime physical peak going on. I can't take this laying down lol.

    Poon, can you really fake an orgasm? I can't. I can't really replicate it at all. He would know. Isn't it better to just let them wonder? Or must we stroke their egos, too?

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