Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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Just a drive by as well...Renee, prayers being sent your way. I'm sorry you are having to go through this...
((((HUGS))))
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Renee -- I just thought of something -- a girlfriend has TIAs (I think that's what she calls them). They're mini-strokes -- she loses the speech out of one side of her mouth and the feeling down one side of her body. They happen, she goes to the hospital, she goes home. They seem to be more of an "inconvenience" to her than a burden. She's also epileptic -- could your daughter be having mini-seizures?
Calypso -- They should give you and your Mom a break. What does Mom want? She shouldn't be pressured into anything she doesn't want to do. Maybe they should just ask her!
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Dear Calypso; I agree with Elizabeth. What does your Mom want? Is your Mom still competent to living on her own i.e. physically, intellectually & financially? Maybe group counseling would help. (((hugs)))
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ymb, oh oh! Cute people stories! Years ago, when I was a member of an HMO, they sent me to an optometrist for contact lenses. I thought I would get to put them in myself, as I was used to wearing them. The doctor was so cute that he swished out that little lens onto his finger and put it on my eye before I could protest. I was just sittin' there appreciating him.
I had a friend once who boiled water for a steamy facial and accidentally dropped the bowl in her lap. She said that the ER doctor was so cute that she was doubly embarrassed.
And last, but not least - the most fun I have ever had with a doctor. Hey hey, stop that. This is a PG rated thread, people. My neurosurgeon was reading my x-rays on that lighted exam room board and I was standing behind him. I was thinking, "You sure are smart and cute," and all of a sudden I got the feeling that I was standing too close to him, so I retreated. Wouldn't it be kind of sad to be a handsome doctor and have patients leaning closer to you all the time? We know that most doctors don't look (or act) like the actors playing them on TV.
P.S., Thank you ymb
Isabella, I miss the blue bloomers that I started Physical Education class in way back when. Now, you can get away with short shorts, bikini tops instead of sports bras, and all sorts of stuff. I need my panties two ways: comfy and clean. Victoria's Secret gets none of my expendable income. They got their Hanes on me, friendgirl.
navygirl, I didn't realize the panties were on the outside, either. Every female that saw her and didn't help should be ashamed. And the panties were due to be discarded? Oh, dear. Oh, dear. Let us extend our condolences for having a neighbor that you would go to such lengths to avoid.
Allalone, as Renee S says, you are NOT. Waiting for the results of these tests is why they give you Ativan and tell you that it's for nausea when it's really for anxiety. Good grief. I took that as an insult, not even telling me what the meds were for. WARNING: During any hospital stay, ask what they are injecting in you and why - and don't swallow anything until they tell you what it is for and why. Been there, swallowed that - bad idea.
And Aussie Sheila - Now that is the kind of problem that they should look for the cats and dogs that have been proven to "warn" you when an event is about to occur. I think that many cats and dogs are angels in disguise. They are loyal, loving, comforting, and when their spirit links with yours, some of them can tell when you are approaching distress.
2 A.M. ‘fits.' Have they ever approved a watch of, say, 5 days in the hospital to observer her?
Renee S - [[Hugs]] Sometimes a tech won't tell you because they don't know or they are not sure. Sometimes a doctor will tell you the wrong thing, so he or she would rather say too little than too much. The doctor's lawyers have been talking with them - if you hear what I'm sayin'. For the record, I'm with you, give me the data - now!
"I weighed myself after my mastectomy. My boob didn't weigh much until he got older."
(bad joke. baaaaad joke. thank you) (hey, hey - I love men, remember? it was a joke... baaaad joke.)
-sessna1
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Dear Renee S; When I say my prayers tonight, I'll be adding massive special prayers for you & your daughter. (((hugs)))
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Sessna, I don't get it. When I weighed myself after my double mast, I lost 6 pounds!
Rene, any word?????
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Renee, if the scans show nothing, they will probably do some tests re chemical/hormone imbalance and e.e.g's etc., we have been through all of them without result so far.
Sessna1, don't I wish our cat and dog had these abilities! Last year, before I was dxed with mets, my 19 (20 on Oct 1st) yr old cat would climb up on my bed and try to get as close to my face as possible, then he would reach out and place his paw on my cheek. I would be trying to keep my face away from his but he would snuggle closer until he could touch me again. After dx, I often wondered if he was sensing something was wrong with me then. He often climbs up on me when I am sitting on the lounge (sofa?) and sort of butts faces with me, which he doesn't do with DH or DD, but then again, I am the only one who feeds him. Having him for a third of my life, he should be able to read my bios by now.
When I was having chemo the first time around, like most here, my veins would dissolve every time I saw a needle. So they would call in a Dr to do the dirty deed and that Dr was Franco, a beautiful Italian with the most melting chocolate eyes I have ever seen. He would kneel down beside me and talk to me while looking into my eyes as if I was the only woman on earth. Once I was mesmerised, he could have stuck me with a knitting needle for all I cared. By the time the canula was inserted I was a pool of mush all over the chair. The medical profession needs more Drs with a bedside manner like that!
Sheila.
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Yee gods, I can't remember sh*t! Thought I posted here yesterday....lord. Just a quick hug. As usual, trying to catch up on stuff & my head is still in la-la land.
Sheila, LOL! Yes, the health care world could use more Dr. Franco's!!
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siggghhhh, Sheila, the WORLD needs more Franco's
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I want a Dr. Franco with the Melting Chocolate Eyes!
Mom (who has only had 3 months to adjust to being a widow after losing her soulmate of 61 years), does not yet know what she wants. She is capable of living on her own, but is lonely. She will decide in her own good time. Brother and Sister need to shut up and give her space! ....actually family counseling is a good idea. Thanks!
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Grief has its own time, Calypso. Your mom needs to be allowed to just be with it, recognizing that the depth of her sadness is a measure of how much her husband meant to her. We all like to assign negativity to feelings, so painful ones are automatically "bad." But that's just not true. She needs perhaps the comfort of her own peers, not needy grown children like your bro & sis who have their own grief & issues to sort out.
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I'm bitchy....so they say. I'm a 6 year survivor and apparently I have become bitchy. It seems I'm not willing to sit around and let people walk all over me anymore and as soon as I voice my opinion I'm called bitchy. It's funny how for years and years I have done everything for everyone else in my life then after cancer I started paying a little more attention to myself and then people feel like they have the right call me bitchy. I get up everyday and put a smile on my face even though I'm hurting from head to toe because of the chemo, menopause and Arimidex side effects. I feel like a freakin psychopath because I have such extreme emotions thanks to my wonderful treatments. Yet, I'm not normal. I have two best friends who don't understand me but they do tolerate me and they call me their "special" friend. It's nice to know I have a place I can go when I'm really being bitchy!
Karen
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Karen, add me to the 'I'm bitchy'....I always did stick up for myself, but now I'm a terror.
I don't care, I really don't, what people think of me !
I am like you, suffering like hell with Arimidex se's, I try and look as if I'm in the pink of health, when I feel so bad most of the day. I just stick some slap on my face, and grin, but woe betide anyone who tries to drive too close to me/ bump me in the supermarket aisle/ or generally say something I don't care for, and I pounce !!!!!! ggggrrrrrrrr !!!!!!! DH says he doesn't like to be out with me 'when I am in that mood', and tells me 'don't start' if we go out for a meal.
Last week we had a meal, a mixed grill, and the meat was like leather. The waitress asked 'is everything OK ?' Well, it wasn't, and I said so... and we got 50% knocked off the bill, and an earful from DH for 'making a fuss' As I was paying I objected strongly to being given tough meat, just wait 'til DH is paying....which isn't often, if he can wriggle out of it !!!, I will keep as quiet as a mouse if there's a problem, let him deal with it
Isabella.
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that is an interesting thing Isabella- why the heck do we pay for things that are not good or not what we asked for? Why are we considered bitchy if we decide its unacceptable? There should be no problem sending back to the kitchen or returning to stores and yet it is perceived as we (customer) is the problem not the service or porduct. Chalk up more for the dumbing down of our society, accepting the mediocre (sp?). No pride in ownership or workmanship.
Hey, where's Barbe? She'll take care of this.....
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You can be a psychopath here. You'll be among like-minded folks.
I am friggin' sick and tired of lying around on my ever-expanding butt all day. But the bone necrosis in my legs won't let me so much as walk down my front path without putting the knees, tibias and femurs at risk. I will NOT spend another week in the hospital again for what was essentially a broken leg! Once they've got you there, you're at their mercy. "Oh, lets run this completely unnecessary test, scan, xray on you!"
The pain in my half-skull is nearly constant and I have no real confidence it's going to be any better after my surgery. My neurosurgeon's excuse for it (besides the raw edges of bone exposed beneath my scalp) is that my brain is likely to have slumped due to the lack of support from my has-been skull. GRAND.
Bitch whine moan complain
I get this line all the time "You've got such a good ATTITUDE I'm sure you'll beat this thing." Attitude? You mean about my terminal diagnosis with cancer? But I (mostly) just smile and nod and change the subject. That makes people feel better. But I feel like a psycho-killer! (Qu'est-ce que c'est?)
Thank goodness I get my scooter in a week or two. Won't get me off my a$$ but it will get me outside. In the SUNSHINE!
Lisa
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Hugs Lisa, wish I could make it all better. All I have is a shoulder to offer when you need it, hugs for the crappy days and good thoughts for sunny days.
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Atitude! I'll show you atitude!
I'm in sales and when one of my customers calls to say something is wrong, I THANK them for letting me know. I let them know that I am as upset as they are. I tell them that if they didn't let me know, then I wouldn't be able to fix it.
But hey, I've been in sales for over 30 years.
We HAVE to let businesses know if something is not right. Otherwise, they'll go on their merry little ways dishing out crap!
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Calypso -- When my Dad died my Mom decided to not make any big decisions for a year. Maybe that might be best for your Mom too, and a way to get your siblings to back off.
Lisa -- Vroom, vroom -- I'd thrilled that you're getting your scooter!! I can just see you vrooming on it until the battery arrives! Maybe you can "accidentally" mow down the idiots, yeah, you're still getting used to the controls, that's the ticket!
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This ding -a- ling, showed up at my door tonight. She wanted to express her believe, that I had cancer, because of sinning in my adolescence. And with a positive attitude, and by altering my sinning tendencies, would cure cancer. I being diplomatic, let her spout gibberish, on and on and on!! Ultimate, she told me that if I pitched out all meds, ceased sinning & was always such a positive person, I would be cured. I told her. Ya, your right, I'm Mary F-N sunshine!!! And slammed the door in her face. I guess this means she won't be baking me cookies anymore.
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Angel - oh good grief in the morning - maybe she should publish this crap in a medical journal because they don't know that's all you have to do to heal yourself.
Calypso - families act in the most peculiar manner when people die - usually badly. Kak is right - this has very little to do with your Mom and much more to do with your siblings' issues.
Isabella - your story reminded me of a co-worker who was 7 or 8 months pregnant with her first child - she was 41. I told her one day that she looked terrific - she said it was 40 pounds of makeup she had put on - in actuality she was so tired so could fall face down on the floor!
Lisa - sending lots of hugs and pray for relief from idiots - yes, run them down.
To all the idiots out there - if you don't know what to say - either say nothing or "I'm sorry" or "my thoughts and prayers are with you." Then close mouth!
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Angel -- wow -- unbelievable. Gee, I thought I got cancer by riding my BF's motorcycle in a skirt and no undies! Maybe my sinning adolescence was for the BC and mets from the ride.
Renee -- any news yet about your daughter?
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I'm so tired I can't see straight...and I'm at job #1 until 4 and then have to go directly to job #2 where I have to stay until my work is done.
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When Johanna (wheelchair) and I (scooter) are out together we have a scoring system. 5 pts for the feet/ankles, 10 pts for the knees, 15 if you knock them over. One day I was sitting and the hospital administrator (picture on wall) was walking backwards conducting a tour of some sort. He was gonna walk right into me.... so I put both hands up and squeezed his buns.... 50 pts.
My hospital funny story.
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Just a quickie, Hello!!! Renee((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))!!!! And Prayers!!!
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Angel, unbelievable, just outrageous
Konakat: really? about the motorcycle I mean? That is wonderful. DH bought a motorcyle again, he sold the original years ago when I got pregnant with DS. Boy I'd love to do that, problem is, I think I'm past the age when that would be considered at all attractive.
Renee: thinking of you and DD
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barbe1958, were you teasing me? (On Sept 22, 8:21 a.m.)
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Kmmd -- yeah. As my BF would say, not bad for an old broad. And, you're never too old!
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Jane- I thought you were going to give up 2nd job and take some time for yourself?
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Aussie Sheila. Awww. The kitty loves you. I think he's trying to communicate, not just showing that you're the person who feeds him.How cool to have something lovely to look at while they stick you for chemo. Your description of the doctor is yummy.People - have you ever seen violet eyes? I mean in person, not Elizabeth Taylor. When I was a student in college, back in the stone age, I worked in the Health Science Department. I typed my head off. There was an Italian professor with violet eyes. When he kneeled down next to me to explain what he wanted typed, my socks melted.Hey - he was a doctor, just not a medical doctor.Kllong - Sister, if Mary Poppins had've showed those children her character when she was PMSing, even Bert would have scurried back up that chimney stack. You are normal, and your mind has realized that you have the right to your true emotions - not to hurt others feelings - but to say, "This is how I feel right now." You've been stuck, poked, radiated, chemo'd, and you've really taken a lot of stuff with a stiff upper lip. Don't let ‘em put a milk mustache on you and tell you to smile, just lovingly explain to them that cancer treatment is a big rollercoaster, without a safety bar.Isabella4, good for you! You told the truth and got some remedy for the less than acceptable food.EWB, ooh! Ooh! May I take that one after barbe1958? You are too nice because you were raised with people of genteel manners, civility, decorum, and polite social etiquette. Now, you encounter more people who were raised by wolves. Feral people will take advantage of you if they sense you are soft and tender to the their fangs. Visualize yourself as Shari Lewis' pal Lamb Chop on a busy New York street. "Baaaaa." "Hey, what are you lookin' at fuzz ball? Move outta the way." We generally stopped taking pride in our work about one and a half generations ago. Remember the teaching program to "give" children self esteem? Come on! You have to earn that. Stuff like not having one baseball team "win," because they are all winners. That'll get you a confused young person...Hugs and prayers sent for and to Renee and DDLisaSDCA, Do they give you this one, "You look fine." That just makes you wanna spit on a snail when you are controlling your pain with mental stamina and you really woul like to scream.Right on barbe1958. We gotta speak up when things aren't right. Be known for being tactful, not for being "very nice." [I know that some of you out there are feeling me on that one. You know what I'm saying.]ymb, where did that ding-a-ling come from? She couldn't show you that in the Bible, because it's not there. What in the world? Everyone sinned in their adolescence. I think she may be off her own meds, certainly off of her wisdom, logic, and education. Now, there's and example of incorrectly directed religious beliefs, which has nothing to do with real faith.P.S. Even for Toll House cookies, I wouldn't listen to her spout that stuff.Calypso - yeah! What the posters said. Mom needs time; your brother and sister need patience and kindness.Jane_M, first you are DH's moving lady, and now you are working two jobs and increasing your stress? Here, sing along with me herehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Erh6h48kihQEarly in the morning
I put breakfast
at your table
And make sure that your coffee
Has its sugar and cream
Your eggs are over easy
Your toast done lightly
All that's missing is your morning kiss
That used to greet me
Now you say the juice is sour
It used to be so sweet
And I can't help but to wonder
If you're talking 'bout me
We don't talk the way we used to talk
It's hurtin' so deep
I've got my pride, I will not cry
But it's makin' me weak
I'm not your superwoman
I'm not the kind of girl that you can let down
And think that everything's okay
Boy, I am only human
This girl needs more than occasional
Hugs as a token of love from you to me, ooh, baby
I fought my way through the rush hour
Trying to make it home just for you
I want to make sure that your dinner
Will be waiting for you
But when you get there you just tell me
You're not hungry at all
You said you'd rather read the paper
And you don't want to talk
You like to think that I'm just crazy
When I say that you changed
I'm convinced I know the problem
You don't love me the same
You're just going through the motions
And you're not being fair
I've got my pride, I will not cry
Still I can't help but care
I'm not your superwoman (Oh, no, no)
I'm not the kind of girl that you can let down
And think that everything's okay
Boy, I am only human (I'm only human)
This girl needs more than occasional
Hugs as a token of love from you to me
I'm not your superwoman (Hoo, hoo, hoo, ooh, ooh, hoo)
I'm not the kind of girl that you can let down (Hey)
And think that everything's okay (Don't let me down, don't you let me down)
Boy, I am only human (I'm only human, yeah)
This girl needs more than occasional
Hugs as a token (Ooh, ooh) of love from you to me
Oh, baby, look into the corners of your mind
I'll always be there for you through good and bad times
But I can't be that superwoman that you want me to be
I'll give my everlasting love if you'll return love to me
I'm not your superwoman (Oh, no, oh, no)
I'm not the kind of girl that you can let down
And think that everything's okay
Boy, I am only human (I'm only human)
This girl needs more than occasional
Hugs as a token of love from you to me (Oh, no)
If you feel it in your heart
And you understand me
Stop right where you are
Everybody sing along with me
Hoo, hoo, hoo, ooh, ooh, hoo
Hoo, hoo, hoo, ooh, ooh, hoo
I'm the kind of girl that can treat you so sweet
But you got to realize that you got to be sweeter to me, oh, ho, ho
Hoo, hoo, hoo, ooh, ooh, hoo
Hoo, hoo, hoo, ooh, ooh, hoo
I need love
I need just your love
I'm not your superwoman (Oh, no)
I'm not the kind of girl that you can let down (You can let down)
And think that everything's okay
Boy, I am only human (I'm only human)
This girl needs more than occasional (Hey, hey, hey, hey)
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That song would go over like a fart in church with my husband. He just had gastric banding yesterday, so at least I won't be cooking big meals for a while. I haven't always been a dream to live with, either. I just wish I wasn't so tired.....and that my leg wasn't swollen....and that my joints hurt....and that I'm hungry all the time and can't lose any weight....
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