Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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Thanks Grace. Man, I hope I didn't sign anything without realizing it. They were shoving a lot of crap at me that morning and at 6:00 AM with no sleep the night before and fairly freaked about the surgery I was going into, I wasn't in the best of shape. I'm going to check on it. She's already been paid over $500 from my insurance company. I also never laid eyes on this person. . .you'd think if they're gonna stick you for $1700 they could at least say Hi
Harley - Hope that tooth can be fixed. That sucks.
jdash - I remember reading the story about the dead guy. What were they thinking? Bells Palsy. . .that sucks big.
Hanna - You always make me laugh, you should write for a living.
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Hanna and Sheila,
Thanks for thinking about me, with the discolored tooth! It is kind of brown, but still... WTH? I guess I'll be going to see a NEW dentist, because since I moved here, I haven't found one yet, and I am very scared of dentists....Felicia,
I hear you about the hair, girl. My hair came in WHITE on top and the sides, too. But, around back, it came in BLACK! I look like a freakin' skunk!! I'm trying different things to try to get the color back to my hair, so I will look normal again.Hugs to all...
I hope everyone has a less sucky day tomorrow! and Happy Mothers Day to all the Moms out there!
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All this freekin stuff sucks!
You're right about Texas, I married one fine Texan--Hook'em Horns! Found him in TN tho.
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Hey girls - Lots of suckiness going on. Harley, I have skunk hair, too. And now since I started chemo again, it's not really falling out, just looks dry and dead. Maybe it would be better if it came out again, so that it could grow back soft. What am I supposed to do with this dry Bozo the Clown hair???? It also sucks about your tooth. One of my front teeth is chipped and jagged, but I share your fear of dentists, so it will have to wait awhile.
This does not suck - today is my anniversary - 28 years. Since my dh didn't have any plans, I made us a reservation in Galveston. We are leaving tomorrow morning and returning Tuesday, in time for chemo. I JUST NEED AN OCEAN BREEZE!!!!!!
Happy Mother's Day to everyone,
Marsha
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marshabel, that sucks that you have to do chemo AGAIN--once is plenty.
Traci, I won;t be moving AWAY, just into a rental for a few months if the house sells. I will be eligible to retire in November, then we will probably move back to Georgia which is home.
Happy Mothers Day to the moms.
Hugs
Sue
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No bitch today. Mother's Day can be bittersweet, Im breaking the rules and sending hugs to all of you today.
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Okay I'm going to bitch today. Doesn't feel like mothers' day, car is dead, I took my sons' ex girlfriends cat to the vet yesterday 200. dollars later, there goes the grocerie money. But I had to she lied and said she had the kitten wormed, and was given it's shots well to get it on a plane I needed the info and found out the truth she didn't do a thing for the kitten, it was a feral kitten, and she felt sorry for it and took it home to her other two cats, my cats, kittens. And I was so upset because she's coming along but still gets nutty at times and attacks the other cats, me my son so I needed to know if she had feline aids, so they gave her her rabies shots regulare vaccines, dewormed and flea medication for all. Then when I got home I somehow turned on the parking lights while driving didn't notice and battery is dead. Great. So I thought I'd do laundry, everything has to be totally cleaned, vaccuumed, and I used Detrius Dirt for fleas best stuff, but it's everywhere and the bloody laundry tub is backed up so the basement is soaked. SHIT. Happy mothers' day.
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"Mother's Day can be bittersweet...", as Nicki says.
I wish a contented day for all women here. I wish a very good and Happy Mother's Day for all women here who have raised children! For women who still want to raise a child, I wish you a wonderful day too because just wanting to have a child makes you worthy of a Happy Mother's Day! I'm wishing for all of us a big bowl of whatever gives you a really good today ~
Hugs for you all, Hanna
(had to edit for Mother's 'Cay'?? Why didn't I see that? I'm useless!)
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Pearl, your stuff going on today sounds like you need to get out. Just leave your wet basement and the clothes and go out the door to your car which I hope you can get started in spite of the battery. If not, call whoever and get it going then YOU go out. Go get some of the best carryout you can find and take it to a park and park in a pretty place and treat yourself to a nice, quiet lunch with a good book or magazine.
Who decides to make a day a holiday anyway? You're a great Mom Pearl from all I've read you wrote. So Happy Mother's Day Pearl and do something nice for you. Anything! Just be good to you today honey. OK?
Hanna
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Thanks Hanna but the weather is bad so I can't sit outside but I will try get out. Hig Bugs
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Pearl - That Sucks! I think your son and he ex-gf should clean up that mess!!
Harley - Dentists suck! I hate going, too!! Hope it's o.k...
O.K., I have heard other people talk about their reactions to someone else complaining about a cold or allergies, etc. So I got that the other day from someone who said (when I asked her how she was) "Allergies are bad - they suck!" Now I should be very sympathetic to that because I also have sucky allergies, but my internal reaction was, "No, allergies are a nuisance, bc sucks - wanna trade?" I find that I have a lot of those internal reactions lately! Where's my prescription for Damitol?!
Had a better day yesterday and a nice visit with my college roommate and her new dh. Feeling sad for no reason sucks and I'm glad it's passed...for now!
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Cristine,
Thanks for the big THAT SUCKS!! I will call tomorrow, first thing in the morning, to get an appt. with a dentist who was recommended to me by a friend.I'll let everyone know what happens.
Take care, and try to have a less sucky day tomorrow!
Harley
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i used to be married to a shrink and he told me that dentists as a whole have the biggest problems with depression and suicide because NO one likes the DENTIST ! I ALWAYS hated going to the dentist would rather go to the dr and get a shot!
my hair came back all grey actually it just looked void of any color!!! i have to color it every 3- 4 weeks max but cant complain so happy to have hair!
off to see the doc tomorrow about my new crooked smile
kind of hoping its a slight case of bells palsy that comes from an infection and can go away within weeks ! anything but cancer related is good news to me!!!!! keep good thoughts for me
pearl i could definetly relate to the vet bill that definetly SUCKS
my puppy starts throwing up and it lasts for almost a whole day so i take him to the vet they tell me he needs to stay 2 nites on IV
minimum $500 -600 maximum of 1500 i was speechless
WTF ? i said what does someone do if there dog throws up and they cant afford 1,000 + so they guilt me into leaving him on IV all nite - i told them only 1 day the most so the next day i brought him home
$600 poorer and all they could say is his stomach was upset!!!!!!!!!
next time i will wait much longer before rushing him off for a little upset tummy THAT SUCKED ! that could have been a vacation!
hope everyone enjoyed their mothers day
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Oh, megs. I laughed til I cried. My husband was all, "what? What?" So I read it to him & he laughed. So sorry...really. I loved The Idiot Girl's Action Adventure Club. So quick to come up with 'opposite day'. The 20+ lbs that came on with BC will keep me out of 7's for the rest of my life.
It's been a few days, so lots to catch up on.
Lisa....the puppy, the puppy! Oh, there's nothing like a pug puppy. My older guy is lying there in his bed, all curled up. His arthritic legs bow out when he walks, he flings himself off the step into the family room. The younger (by about 3 years) is sitting on the floor by me screetching and crying. A friend showed me some pug mixes (crimes against nature) from petfinder.com as well as one older (says 7 yrs, but I think at least 10) black pug. Arrgh. Do not want more dogs!
Pearl. You need to catch a break, girl.
Pets and vets. It sucks. Traci - all I can say is, before you get the mover in, get rid of ALL the garbage. My friend found bags of trash carefully boxed and moved across the country.
Mother's Day...invited the sisters and mom over for an afternoon champagne and chocolate (and a bitch-n-moan session). Did a choc fondue. They went home. I am still drinking champagne.
Insurance. Bah. When mine was up for renewal in the fall, I freaked because it didn't look like anyone was in network. So off I call the cancer center...the woman in billing said that's her job, to keep the insurance company off my back and that she would not let them screw me over.
I have a pre-tax med account. I submit claims for last year - they were due before Apr 30. The online account (Aetna, of course), says there's money there. The claims aren't being processed. The company says my account doesn't exist. Somehow, I think, when I went on med leave at the end of the year, it got screwed up. TG, it got fixed...but it took 2 weeks of nail biting and calls.
New floors get sanded this week & then finished at the weekend. Husband is off on a business trip, so I get to spend the week keeping on top of dust, then sleeping in the trailer in the driveway. I have to stay home from work because the dogs can't be left by themselves unless we want them to destroy the trailer.
On the plus side, I can watch anything I damn well want to on TV.
Oh, and my husband thinks that my night sweats are due to the heavy duvet. Hormones, I say, hormones. TG I have about 10 nightgowns because I soak at least one a night. And I'm not even close to menopause.
No more sucky days.
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Happy Mother's Day to all the moms, moms-to-be, and aspiring moms!
Snowy, I'm gonna look up that petition2care (at least, I THINK you were talking to me) site and get back to you! Oh, and as much as the idea of BC toilet paper IS offputting, how FUN would it be to TP someone's house in pink instead of winter white?! A certain doctor comes to mind...
Otter; "entertainment industry?' Is that a crack about my thong? Pardon the pun ;-)
There are days, more often than I care to admit, that I look around half expecting someone to yell, "Smile! You're on Candid Camera!" Someday, I'll tell you how I ended up serenading the homeless in an abandoned Milanese airport terminal.
To the rest of the girls dealing with moving and travelling and fighting insurance companies, I offer a giant 'That Sucks! Next round's on me!"0 -
Oh, y'all have so much sucky stuff. It all sucks!
I wasn't going to complain about this, but it's the only thing that is really bugging me today. And it happened weeks ago. I was visiting with a "friend" who I had not seen since before my BC dx in January. She had heard about my dx from someone else but had not called me or anything. During this visit, she was acting sort of aloof--polite, but not really very supportive like I thought she might be.
And then, all of a sudden, she confesses that she has been on HRT for about 10 years and when she heard about my dx, she tore off her HRT patch and threw it away. And, OMG, the hot flashes and dry skin and other SE's she has been having from her abrupt introduction to menopause have been JUST TERRIBLE! She doesn't think she is going to be able to stand it. She can't sleep, and she is gaining weight, and her sex life has gone down the toilet, and she explodes at the slightest provocation. She thinks this HRT withdrawal is more than she can handle.
All the while, I am sitting there thinking about my left breast which is in a jar of formalin in a path lab. And, the fact that for the rest of my life I must protect my left arm from needle sticks and tight sleeves and watch bands and bug bites and heavy suitcases, so that it doesn't swell up like some grotesque sausage-balloon. Oh, and the fact that I had just found out I would need to have chemo ... which would cause me to lose my hair and probably my eyelashes and eyebrows; and my fingernails and toenails would turn funky and maybe fall off. And, I would need to take drugs to combat the nausea and vomiting and indigestion and diarrhea and skin rashes and fluid retention and bone marrow suppression from the chemo drugs. And then there's the neuropathy and hand/foot syndrome they can't do all that much about. After all that is done, I will have to take an AI for at least 5 years, which will dry up every last picogram of estradiol my body is trying to make. All of that might keep my cancer away.
So, I am just sitting there thinking of all those things, and listening to my friend complain about her hot flashes and dry skin. And I'm thinking, hon, you have NO idea.
Know what I mean?
otter
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I most DEFINITELY know what you mean Otter - and also that you mean she isn't really your friend at all. Her loss!
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Oh, Otter...I can totally relate! I almost bit my tongue off last Friday not saying something about the allergies remark (and I have them too!). I am just waiting for somebody at work to complain about something really stupid so I can say "Yeah, but you don't have BREAST CANCER, do you?!"
'Cause I know it's coming...Well, you always have us...
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All that crap SUCKS ladies....
I am so glad we have this thread to complain.
Here is my bitch:
Tomorrow I have to sit down in the damn chemo chair and let them pump me full of poison again.
I do a 3 week on, 1 week off schedule for chemo. Last week was my week off. In fact, I had a few extra days because I am switching my infusion day to Monday so I feel better on the weekends. I feel SO good right now....almost back to normal. My skin is healed up, my nose has stopped bleeding, my digestion is great and I slept so good the last couple of nights.....and now I willingly have to go sit down and get chemo and get all those side effects back. I know it sounds stupid, but it is really hard.
I am also really sick of well meaning people asking how long I have to do chemo. I feel like saying, Well, since I have triple negative breast cancer mets, and chemo is my only tool to keep it a bay, I will be on chemo until it quits working and the cancer kills me. How would THAT be for a rude conversation stopper? I just can not get people to understand mets and what it means.
ANYWAY...that's my bitch. It feels good just to write it down.....
I hope everyone has a non-sucky day tomorrow.
Deb C
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DebC: You are so right. Not having an end date for chemo sucks big time. Im glad you were able to let it all out. Thats what is so great about this thread.
Snow: Why is it that all of a sudden the veternarian seems to cost more that the doctors? Hope that flea stuff works and fast.
Hanna: Im glad you understood what I was trying to say. So young women with breast cancer. An unexpected interruption in life that changed everything. I feel for the women we lost this past year, and feel for the women who want to have children. For those of us who have lost our mothers. For those who are now caregivers for their mothers. Sending a big sucks your way and hoping today is a better one.
drcrsc: Glad the unexpected sadness is gone. At least for a day.
Harley: Somehow I missed your post about the dental problem. Hate going to dentist - sucks big time.
Jdash: Another expensive vet visit! Yep, I believe keep them hoem as much as you can.
Otter: How callous people can be sometimes.
Nicki
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Well, here I sit... and I STILL haven't called the dentist yet! After all I've been through, with chemo and all, you would think that the dentist wouldn't frighten me so!
jdash- I also heard that dentists suffered from depression and had the highest suicide rate! Nobody likes the dentist!
pearl- that sucks about your pet and the vet... hope the flea treatment works! Fleas SUCK! My neighbors' dogs have fleas, and I am always worried that I'll bring them back to my furry kitties! Oh, I just realized that I got the same chemo drug you did...docetaxol, because that is Taxotere! I am a big idiot!! I'll let you know what the dentist says!
Nicki-thanks!! My tooth as turned brown, maybe from the chemo, even though it was six months ago?! WTH?
Well, I can't seem to shut up today! Better go call the dentist!
Hope everyone have a less-sucky day!
Harley
Traci - moving SUCKS!
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It all sucks, for sure. Hugs to you Deb. Know we're there with you at the infusion center in spirit...
I just got back from the ENT doc. (two hours it took to see this guy! If I would have gotten there two hours late, they'd have pitched a fit). He says I have nasal polyps and a deviated septum. Then he puffed up my nostrils with some horrific tasting stuff that worked - and I could breathe again out of my nose! No idea when my smell sense will come back, but it is a start. he perscribed an oral steroid and a refferal to an allergist. Oh, joy yet ANOTHER doc to add to the list! But at least I have a plan...
The weather is crappy here today - cold and grey - not May-like at all. Supposed to be sunny and warm on Wednesday - h2b's birthday (wonder if his idiot ex will call again to wish him a happy one?) - so I'm trying to hang on, but I'm fiending for some sunshine...
Hope the sun is shining wherever you are today and you don't run into anyone who needs to be slapped!
Edited to add: Hey Harley - Call that dentist!!
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ok, ok, ok!! I'll call, but tomorrow, since I tried today, and was told by the receptionist at the dentist that was recommended by my friend at the coffee shop, that there is a wait list for new patients... I am NUMBER 8 on the list!! WTH?
So, the search continues... I'll definitely go, in the next week or so. I will do some research tomorrow. Today I had to stay at home all morning, waiting for the buy guy to come by and inspect for termites(here in the south they are a continuous problem!), and then I went shopping with my MIL.
I promise, guys, I'll call tomorrow... I'm going to research and get a list of dentists, and then tomorrow, I'll call them ONE by ONE, til I find one that will see me, that I feel good about. The first one, the receptionist just started giving me crap... I didn't feel any sympathy from her, when I mentioned the bc, and the chemo... She just said "well, make sure you call and get your records from your old dentist."... Oh, and "do you need to take anti biotics before any dental work?... .because...." she went on and on, but I wasn't listening to her. I just waited for her to stop talking and then I said "Yea... I know all that...." DUH... Does she think I've NEVER been to a dentist in my whole LIFE!??!Anyway, sorry for venting... this sucks!
Harley
Edited to say... I stayed home this morning, to wait for the BUG GUY!
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Stuff sucks. I wrote a bunch more, but I erased it because "it sucks" wraps it up and ties it up nicely with a bow on top.
(ps - I just visited the dreamer thread and they're all taking a magic carpet ride tonight...wow, that will be an awesome ride.)
I kinda picture this group as a bunch of Annie Oakley's ready to hold up a stagecoach on our ponies. This I could do right about now with gusto.
Harley? How do you manage to have an actual good, go shopping, go to lunch type relationship with your MIL? You're lucky in that respect. Now surely you can find a dentist. You know all those cards that come in the mail advertising those dentists who guarantee you will feel no pain and they are there to serve us dental cowards? Look thru your junk mail and you will find one I bet you ten bucks. Then if they hurt you, sue them for 10 million like that lawyer who is sueing that Chinese drycleaner because his pants weren't ready in 24 hours like the ad promised. That guy is making it his life's mission to sue this Chinese drycleaner for millions! Now there's a lawyer gone right off the deep end.
I need one of Shirley's chocolate cakes. Where are you Shirley? You're supposed to be back now! Maybe she got sidetracked at the Outlets.
OK fellow sucklets....talk to ya later.
hanna
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Hanna,
You are too funny! I have had my moments with my MIL. At first, we didn't get along very well. My dh & I were married for about 20 years, and then his Dad got kidney cancer. Things were kind of tough, but after he died, my dh decided that he wanted to move to NC, when he retired... Well, she wanted to be near her dear son, so she packed up and moved down to SC... and I was here alone, since my dh was in the Navy, stationed in DC.
I helped her to get situated, and took her to Georgetown for cataract surgery. Then, in March, I was dx'd with bc.... Well, she called me and told me " I never knew you very well. But, since I've moved down here, and gotten to know you, I think you are very sweet. I love you."
So we have gotten closer since my bc dx...
I'll look for a dentist tomorrow... I promise!!
Everyone, everything SUCKS! Where is SHIRLEY, we need a cake!Harley
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DebC: Im thinking about you today while your getting your chemo. I know Im hours ahead of you so figuring your probably there right now - and that sucks big time.
Harley: It still amazes me all the things chemo does to us. Shame on that receptionist. Hope you find a sucky dentist soon.
Hanna: I cant help it. You made me smile today.
Felicia: Im sorry, but it sounds like you were in a torture chamber today. Glad that you could smell - such a simple thing. Right? Did you lose your sense of taste with it? A big that sucks for you.
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Hi Nicki,
Yes, that first dentist office really got me started on the wrong foot... maybe that is why I decided to wait and start again tomorrow. She asked me if I had insurance, and after I said NO, she had a definite attitude. Yes, I wanted to say, my husband is now RETIRED military, and the retiree's dental plan sucked so bad that we didn't get the dental... but she made me feel like a criminal!
Dentists suck!
Hope everyone has a less sucky day tomorrow!
Harley
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Hi Nicki,
Yes, that first dentist office really got me started on the wrong foot... maybe that is why I decided to wait and start again tomorrow. She asked me if I had insurance, and after I said NO, she had a definite attitude. Yes, I wanted to say, my husband is now RETIRED military, and the retiree's dental plan sucked so bad that we didn't get the dental... but she made me feel like a criminal!
Dentists suck!
Hope everyone has a less sucky day tomorrow!
Harley
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This D*MN site, every time I post a message, I post it twice!!
IT SUCKS!
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Hey, Nicki, hope you survived another Monday. Doesn't it suck how they just keep coming back?!?
Hanna, hand me one of those Annie Oakley hats, please...
Harley, I say we round up all the idiotic and insensitive doctor/dental assistants and throw rocks at them. What is it with the attitude? You'd think the money we have to pay is coming out of their pockets...
Today at the ENT, I left the "SS#" line blank. The receptionist told me if I refused to give my SS#, I'd have to sign a waiver saying that in the event my insurance refuses to pay (umm, I was standing there with a referal and clearance in hand), I would be financially resonsible for the entire visit cost, not just the co-pay (isn't that ALWAYS the case?!? why do they need my social security number for that?!?). Receptionist - who was otherwise very nice - got snippy when I asked for the waiver because I wasn't giving up the number. She actually HUFFED. WTF?!?
All that was BEFORE the air/nasty-tasting stuff in my nose and the scope up the nostrils (what a most uncomfortable experience). And to think I PAID for that torture...
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