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4 months PFC- my husband told me yesterday that my haircut looks intentional. I did get it trimmed really good a few weeks ago and it has grown quite a bit since then. I will keep getting it trimmed and shaped as it grows. I think it will make it easier to manage.
I was at the gym today with my daughter. I was a sweaty hot mess. She was laughing at my fro. As I sweat the curlier my hair gets. #crazyhairdontcare #progress
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Hi All!
I've posted a few times during my journey and thought it's time to post a hair update. My last chemo was in October. A photographer friend took these pictures of me during radiation in November.
This is a picture of me I took on March 6
I used a chemical process to straighten my hair before chemo, but now I'm going to try a natural and embrace my chemo curls. I've been using Design Essentials Natural Twist & Setting lotion to help maintain my curls. This product works well with ethnic/African American hair types. This weekend I stumbled across a product called Deva Curl (The Kit for All Curl Kind) that is designed for ALL curly hair types. I'm really loving this product and Sephora carries it.
Thanks to hotflashes from Tamoxifen, I'm ready to retire my wigs.
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onebadboob I think you look amazing. Ditch the wig. Robin Roberts has nothing on you! You have gorgeous cheekbones and an amazing face structure, and your short hair totally brings that out
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very pretty, ditch that wig
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one bad boob....BEAUTIFUL!
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Peachy you look adorable. And onebadboob beautiful both pics and what a million dollar smile
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you really do look beautiful, one bad boob. I concur with the others, ditch the hat!
as for me...I had another dream last night that my hair was long. I was at the salon, and I was telling the woman styling my hair what a good job she was doing with so little, and then I realized she had a lot of hair to work with!
so, realized that these dreams are telling me that I should ditch my hats. I think it is time. Going to go to work hatless today....will see how it is. If I manage to keep it off, I will take a pic!
Hugs to all
Octogirl
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Octogirl you can do it! I went wigless when my hair was super short, like a quarter of an inch. Nervous as hell. When I got to work, everybody was incredibly supportive, and I got the nicest comments. Sometimes people can be nice! And ditching the wig, man, so liberating!
Post how it goes! I'm in your pocket!
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Onebadboob, you are gorgeous!
Octogirl, you rock!!
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Peachy and OneBadBoob, you both look fantastic.
Octogirl, we are twins. I decided that today was the day to go hatless to work. My hair is still pretty thin in front, but I don't care. It feels great to let my head breathe! I've also been having hair dreams lately.
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Peachy: YOu look great!! You could totally go out like that.
Octo: I have those dreams where I have normal hair.
One: That looks great on you. I wouldn't think cancer at all seeing you out and about.
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WIOW... I did not intend for that to be so big..... LOL but here is me...... I finished chemo on Sept 6th. I have ditched the wig because i just couldn't stand it anymore. I HATE this hair but I am dealing. I absolutely do not recognize myself in the mirror. LOL This is me at work, on the weekends i throw on a ball cap and go! It seems like it took forever to get this long, but it really wasn't that long. I am ready for it to grow much more...
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Leigh, you are so pretty! It looks like you have gained control over your hair, which I'm not sure if I could do until it gets longer. I completely know the feeling of not recognizing yourself in the mirror. Maybe by the time we need to renew our driver's licenses we will have the hair in the pictures again?
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So cute, Leigh!
I am on the verge of ditching the wig. Not quite there.
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just wanted to chime in with my pic, i am feeling brave today so thought i would share. I am 7 weeks PFC and just finished rads
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Kimmer, you look so cute! You too Leigh and Vickie!
With encouragement from all you beautiful ladies I did it! Hatless at work today! Everyone was very nice about it. Here are pics. My hair is lighter in color than previously, and definitely more grey (I had almost no grey before)...but it is hair!! WooHoo
Today is 17 weeks PFC for those looking for a little encouragement. It has been slow, but it is coming back!
Hugs and thanks!
Octogirl
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one more....
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Kimmer, that's just how my hair looked at 7 weeks pfc. Congrats on finishing rads!
Octo, your hair is so nice and straight!!
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You are all (we) are all beautiful, brave courageous women. We have all been through an experience we never thought possible, but we did it! My grand- daughter is 10 and today she posted on her other grandma's FaceBook page that "girls can do anything they want to." She just finished the basketball season playing on a community team and did really well. She, at 10, is learning at her young age what we know - We are strong and we are winners! Yes, we want our hair back, but it's coming and we are owning who I we are!
Love to all.....
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hear, hear, my sunshine!
Peachy, so funny that you say it is nice and straight. Besides being darker and less grey, my hair before was somewhere in between wavy and curly, and I liked that. It will be a bit strange if it stays straight as it grows, but I am *not* complaining....
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We are all gorgeous and strong!
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Peachy it looks so cute! Yours is a better color than mine was. I had tons of white, but I'm probably older than you too (45). My hair grew in VERY SLOWLY. It's really picked up speed now and isn't so baby fine. I didn't think I'd ever get out of wigs!
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Ya'll look gorgeous either way. You're still here!
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looks great octo. Knew you could do it!
On Monday I had someone who hadn't see me in more than a year make a nasty comment on my hair. She saw me and said pretty nastily oh my god your hair and then make a face at me. I just wanted to punch her. But instead i held my grey pixie buzz head up high and said I had cancer and my hair was growing in again. Plus I knew she knew I had cancer because someone I know told her. What a bitch. She made me feel so bad. Why are people mean like that? I know with my 30 lb weight loss I don't look like the same old me who had blonde hair, but really? She couldn't even say a kind word. I felt so self conscious with my grey hair at 45 and my clothes that are now baggy on me. I was going to dye my hair with semi permanent color but decided to wait until after I see my mo for my 3 month pfc at the end of this month. Cripes I am only 13 weeks today and am happy to just have hair. Next week I have to go to a conference where I will see my peers who have not seen me since before dx and treatment. I am feeling really self conscious about them seeing me with grey pixie buzz hair, and after my encounter with this meanie person this week I am stressing about next week.
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Shopgal, what an incredibly unkind thing to say! I'm so sorry that she did that, and it's especially cruel in light of the fact that she knew why you have the short hair and, presumably, the weight loss. Of course you know that sort of reaction is rare; still, that sort of thing can really stop us cold and make us doubt ourselves. Of course you'll look more pulled together as time goes on! 3 months PFC is still so early. For what it's worth, I'd imagine work colleagues at a conference will be an awful lot more adult than that nasty acquaintance of yours!
Octo, Kimmer, Vicki, Leigh, and One Bad Boob: wonderful pictures!
I've finally realized I need to get some professional advice about coloring my short growth. It's so weird: more or less dark brown with bits of gray, the way it was before chemo, except in front of my ears, where it's solid gray. I've never colored before, was planning on just graying naturally, with DH's blessing. But now, since I'm unwilling to go out in public with two Bride of Frankenstein streaks, I have to do something about it.
Started biotin...let's hope it does something for my poor nails.
I will say, I'm still taking enormous pleasure in shampooing and conditioning my hair. It's so nice to lather and rinse, lather and rinse, just like before!
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shopgal...sorry you had such a butt head encounter. Most people are great. I have gotten several compliments on my super short gray pixie. Sending you cyber hugs!
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shopgal, how incredibly awful! It amazes me how some people can be so miserable and mean. We've been through hell in the past year and we aren't.
mysunshine, words to live by!
catlady, I love you!! I'm 50, so older than you. I now have more gray hair than my grandmother had at 60. Looking forward to being friends with Ms. Clairol again soon.
octogirl, we have almost the same exact color, though mine is starting an annoying wave at the top of my forehead and back of my head. I'm used to having relatively straight hair. The top is fairly straight, and sticking straight up on top in the back. Happy to have a wig to cover the crazy hair!
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Shopgal, I am so sorry that the B-Lady (this is my hubby's favorite nickname for people like that) was so mean to you....I am hoping that she just felt awkward and blurted out the wrong thing, but still, it is no excuse. How awful! Sending lots of hugs!!
I know exactly how you feel about the conference: I am going to one in two weeks, and while a few of the folks who will be there have seen me in the hats, they haven't seen me hatless or scarf-less. To add to my anxiety about it, I am giving two presentations. Ackkk!! I am not normally nervous about public speaking (I probably do more than my share of conference presentations) but I am starting to get really nervous about standing up in front of 100 or so people with such short hair! Fortunately, one of best friends in my profession is co-presenting with me, and she has been wonderfully supportive, and she does hate public speaking...so we can support each other and get through the presentation...My advice is to hold your beautiful head high and ignore anyone who acts like a jerk. I will try to take my own advice as well. It is hard, I know.
I remember when MO and I were first discussing chemo: I told him I had a big scuba vacation to Cozumel planned in May, and asked if I'd be well enough by then to travel and dive...he told me he saw no reason why I could not keep my plans (Yay, Mexico here I come, in less than two months!) and then he said, 'and by then, you should even have your hair back, to help you enjoy your vacation'. At the time (back in early September) I thought, 'really? It can't possibly take that long. He must be exaggerating how long it takes..' Well, he was right, of course. It is a very slow process. I feel so much better now that I can finally see it for myself. I hope none of us ever have to go through this again!
xoxox to all
Octogirl
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Shopgal, - you're right, too bad you didnt punch her!
I LOVE all the hair pics that you are posting! I am very jealous! My hair is sooooo thin and hardly growing on top. I will try a castor oil mixture that I read about to see if that helps. My onc said some people never get their hair fully, ugh
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thanks ladies. You are making me feel better. I am amazed by how his woman could make that comment and make me feel that bad. Sometimes I forget how fragile our feelings are after being hurt so bad physically during treatment. I became very prospective of myself and self conscious. I was just talking to my ro yesterday about how my self image has changed and that its hard to readjust to the image in the mirror. I feel different and look different but I'm he same person. I know a lot of us feel that way too. I do find with little hair I am more conscious of my facial expressions now that I don't have hair to hide behind. When I was bald I didn't give a rats ass how I looked and let it all fly. I figured no one was going to mess with a bald chick. I guess I gotta channel that chick again for my pixie buzz.
Octo I am so proud of you for going hatless.
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