Stop Smoking Support Thread
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Carmen - congrats on your year. Thanks for coming back to share. It's so helpful to have people who really do understand.
Bosum - Not a bad idea - cigarette behind the ear. I understand the impulsiveness so you're right, if you can wait an hour you can probably wait one more hour. I left one cigarette in a crumpled pack in a drawer in the garage. Since I swore I would never buy anymore, I "knew" I had to save that one for a dreadful emergency, and I always managed to convince myself the worst was yet to come.
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Judi - We miss you. Hope everything's OK.
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Hi everyone, sorry for MIA but been a bit busy at work, and bone tired when I get home. For all you smokers, keep trying. I know it is the hardest thing you have to do but please do try. I know you will do it at your own pace but Carmen's post hit home for me tonight. I just returned from a 60th birthday party and 3 of us have been struck by cancer. Worst, we were all smokers, and one of them still smoking (not me). One not doing so well. I sat and thought "this could be me". I'm a little down tonight as I saw earlier this morning on the Canadian site that a sister who was dx in 2004 was redx in 2014. This cancer shit sucks. I'm up for a mammo on Oct. 10/14 and getting a little paranoid. Is there ever a period in our life that we are not going to worry about all of this. Sorry for the bit chin but sometimes it just gets to be too much. So, for all you keep going for your health's sake. You get it and hopefully, it's one less thing you have to worry about!
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Hi ladies , I am still here .. I just have been dealing with fighting for unemployment benefits and all that .. I am on day 3 of chantix , as you may know you smoke for first week so I have 4 more days od smoking then im done .. doc gave me 3 month supply so I am praying this time it works ...
Bosom yes my BF smokes and yes yes yes that is very hard ... but I gotta keep in mind that it's my health .. He keeps saying he needs to quit but does not attempt at all.. he smokes 2 packs a day as I only smoke 1.. he is much more hard core than I. But I cannot judge another smoker as I know all too well how hard it is to stop .
I do not know what the solution is other than do not fall victim to the first drag because then I am back on the road to smoking ... Other than that had a nice trip to NYC last night and the San Genero Festival it's and italian feast .. and did some walking by the water after at South Street Seaport ... Bosom we can do this together ...
Xoxoxo hope everyone is well..
Judi sorry to hear you are down... feel better .. love ya
Lisamarie
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Cheer up Judi! Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers for a good outcome from your tests in October.
LisaMarie, I KNOW you can do this again. You did it before and now this time, it will be forever. I know just how hard it is girlfriend.
Bosum, join LisaMarie in another attempt. I know you can do this too! If I can do it as they say...LOL. I fight this battle every single day. It is truly ONE DAY at a time! HUGS!
Congrats Carmen!
Ok, at work and gotta run!
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Judi - sorry to hear about your B-day party friends & your Canadian friend. We'll all keep you in our thoughts for your Mammo next month.
LisaMarie - OK girl. Sounds like you're determined this time.
April - good to hear from you.
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Bosom ... In with my medication there is information on how to get help with chantix.. It says need help paying for your chantix regardless of your insurance situation go to www.PHAHelps.com... Maybe that will help you . This medicine is a godsend for me . It really takes away the urge to smoke ... I don't know the situation with the insurance .
Thanks Minus and April .. I am really determined this time and hoping to fight the fight ...
Bosom keep in touch with me .. I am so bored now going crazy at home that we both could use the interaction..
Have a great day ladies xoxoxoxox
Day 4 of chantix for me
Lisamarie
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another good site that helps with all medication is www.needymeds.org it gives you links to different websites that offer help with different medications.
I think the more important issue is that your insurance company doesn't know you smoke. That is the one thing they can use against you to cancel your insurance.
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Bosom 2 more days then I am gonna be cig free.... so that makes the date 9/20/2014.... Hoping for the last and final time on this long well needed well deserved journey ... It's so hard but I am stacking up at the supermarket tomorrow ... pistachios, red sweedish fish, snap peas .. veggies ..lots of ranch and lots of water ... The first day or two even on the chantix is hard . I eat all day .. at least when I was working I could keep my mind occupied ... now however I am unemployed and very afraid ... boredom is a biggie for me ... Today I was on a fall cleaning spree ... trying to declutter the house and get some fresh air in ...
How are you doing ... sorry but my question mark key does not work ... I am here and I am willing to fight the fight with you ... Tomorrow I get to go spend with my beautiful pregnant daughter and granddaughter , I love those days .. just wished I had money so we could go eat lunch or something but budget is tight .. I was thinking about apple picking .. we do that every fall ... but then there are the $$$ signs .. I am just lucky to get to see them and hug them ... boy I am a total big mouth..lol
Hugs
xoxooxox
lisamarie
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Hello ladies .... keep sane during your struggle. It will work for you but take it one day at a time. It's hard but doable. So, today I make the BIG DECISION. I'm going to retire at the end of January, 2015 and I'm doing the BIGGIE of a lifetime. We're booked for South Africa - a trip of a lifetime. My friend's husband is a brewmaster with Heinken and is located in South Africa. So, dh and I are going with our friend, her daughter, and granddaughter to visit. They have been before but not us. Will be there for 18 days. Lots of planning and a visit to the travel physician to get all my shots. It took 2 days of planning with the Cancer pharmacy and med plus family doctor's office to ensure my cancer med is not affected by the shots I have to get. This is our Christmas and retirement gift for each other. I'm scared but looking forward to it. Bloody hell, dh had to take out insurance just in case something happens. But overall looking forwad to it!
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Oh Judi - how fabulous. Sounds like a dream. And how lucky to be going with someone who knows the area & the country. My son loved South Africa. I've started taking out the insurance on everything now. Lucky since I had to cancel both NYC & Alaska when my cancer came back. Maybe in 2013 I can go back & re-start my plans for 2013. Thinking about the Grand Canyon.
OK LisaMarie - you can do this. Hope the BF smokes a different kind so you're less tempted to borrow. Your visit w/your 'kiddos' sounds fun. When is your new grandbaby due?
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Wow Judi , I would be afraid to go because of the Ebola breakout .. I hope that you and hubby will be safe and enjoy that once in a lifetime trip...Minus so sorry that you missed your trips due to the big C...
One more day of smokes .. all I am feeling right now is a little sick to my stomach but that is a normal side effect of chantix... MY BF smokes basically the same ones so that does suck and make it a lot more harder for me ... I am going to get ready to spend the day with my girls .... My DGD is already 4 she goes to preschool now 3 days a week and loves it .. she is also in dance class on saturday for tap and ballet and she loves it ... My Grandson ... wooo hoo is due in November .... right now it sucks so much to be out of work and broke ...
Anyway Ladies I am gonna try to have a great day ... lots of Hugs to you all...
Bosom where are you .... April hoping all is well ...
Lisamarie
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JudiH--enjoy your trip to South Africa! How very exciting! What part will you be seeing?
Lisamaire--yes nausea is common. Have you tried eating some food with it?
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Bosum - can you continue w/the e-cig and just dial the nicotine down gradually? Just try not to run across the street!! I didn't go the e-cig route but I know others were successful w/that method. Maybe April?
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Good morning LisaMarie and Bosum! I'm cheering for you along with all the others. Don't let the demon think he (or she) is better then you ---- bloody hell, it can be squashed out but remember take it one day at a time!
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I stopped smoking cold turkey when I was about 30 ish. I don't have any great tips, I just wanted to comment on a CVS pharmacy commercial I just saw, that said they're going to stop celling cigarettes. I was amazed. That's a bold move. I remember thinking that it was probably a business or political reason, but still quite a step, and wondered if it would last.
I will tell one story that I think of often. Long after I quit smoking (5-10 years probably), a friend brought her little girl over to my house to play with my little girl. The friend took off the girl's winter coat and tossed it onto a chair. It passed by me and I nearly gagged at the smell of smoke in which it was permeated. I felt such a tug for the little girl. I thought of her closed up in a winter car riding to my home, with smoke swirling around her. I grew up in a couple of homes like that, where both adults smoked. No one knew any better; the "surgeon general" hadn't made his findings known yet. I also grew up when every restaurant and every office had smokers in every nook and cranny. My own daughter had asthma, and smoke was one of her biggest triggers. We couldn't sit anywhere near the smoking section of restaurants because it just floated over to us and she would cough uncontrollably. We had to get up and leave an outdoor café in France because smoking is still a lot more rampant in Europe. So, while we should definitely all get to do what we want to do, it shouldn't be so if that right infringes on others. I've really seen the world change, and I think it's going in the right direction overall. Hindsight is 20:20.
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wow, I sure am happy I found this thread,,,,, I to had quit for 3months and my last surgery was July 17th, I am still healing from my lift, but it took time off and have one last "tweak" in October,,, I also figured I had some time so I lit up!!!!! Bad move,,,, I felt soooo much better when I stopped, I to also say I am going to stop in the am when I lie in bed at night and then comes morning and I light up!!!! Duh,,,, how stupid,,,, I know I have to stop again cause my healing is taking longer and I need to stop by Monday the 22nd so I have clear lungs and good healing blood for my upcoming surgery,,,,,,, just hard,,, I know it is the right thing to do, so why can't i do it????? My DH works out of town, so when he is gone I smoke, when he is home on the weekends I don't even think about it, he would have a fit if he knew I was back to smoking. I feel guilty lying about it too,,,,,,,,,,
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Jeaniebeanie, The addiction is something like no other . My quit date is tomorrow ... I am taking chantix .. I too had 3 months free from cigs and felt like a champ .. now im back to coughing and feeling like total crud... I think we all go through the motions like I will stop in the morning , I will stop tomorrow ect , the deals are endless for me anyway. I also smoked through a couple surgeries and yes it was so much longer to heal... Glad you are here , there ares till a couple of us fighting this battle why don't you come join.. we can all support each other ..
The Ladies here that have time without smoking are the most encouraging , powerful, amazing .... women ever .. it's a great thread...
Best of luck
xoxoxoxoo
lisamarie
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lisamarie, thank you, I am going to follow this thread, and good luck tomorrow, my date is Monday,,, I have the Chantix but I am afraid to take it with all of its SE, I Will go cold turkey
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Jeaniebeanie , everyone is different . I heard all the horror stories about chantix as well. The only SE I am having is when I smoke now I feel a little sick to my stomach and the cigs taste horriable ... I dream a bit but not bad at all... Once the med gets into your system its amazing how you do not want to smoke .. For me I can not go cold turkey , if you can that is most powerful ... again xoxoxo
lisamarie
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lisamarie, I am not sure about cold turkey, but I did it before so I am hoping to do it again,,,, No,,, I MUST stop smoking so my surgeon can finish this up and I can heal and move on,,,,,,,, how's that???? Convincing,,,,,,lol,,,,
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Bosom... Big Hugs ... I hear ya ... but I pray and care for you ... I know . I am totally looosing my mind being unemployed still no benefits .. Thank god for the social worker I see at 1 pm today with any luck I can keep some sanity ...
Jeanie Beanie ... as you wish ..lol ... I pray for us all...
I never did get up to 2 packs a fay .. I guess grateful for that .. my BF however is a 2 a day pack smoker .. I think once again living with a smoker ... Makes ya nuts and makes it 10 x harder.. i tried once again to explain to him ,,, that its hard when he smokes .. also asked him to please stop smoking in the bathroom...... ugh .... i smoke and i go outside .. in cold rain hot ,.. he is totally friggin lazy ...
lisamarie
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lmao@busomblues
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I also smoke outside and hubby doesn't smoke,so I think that's y I don't smoke when he is home, I am a 1 pack a day.
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Yup, I am the one who used the e-cig and the one that worked for me (and the ONLY one I used cause it tasted like a marlboro) was www.greensmoke.com I used the red label flavor and man, it is strong. Throat hit just like a marlboro! Anyway, only use them once in a great while now with the no nicotine if I am jonesing. It has been almost 18 months for me and I swear I could not have done it without the patch and the e-cig. I am thrilled to not smoke (at least for today cause one never knows)
Wishing you all the best of luck and lisamarie, I know today is last day with evil cigs. Go GET EM girlfriend. Think of the MONEY you will save alone, let alone the health benefits.
Love to all! xoxoxo
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Thanks so much April ... But I have failed for today ... the BF has been fighting with me all night and so far all day . I finally am trying to find the strength to let go of this relationship at all cost .. I can no longer tolerate being called an asshole , a mental patient, a drunk, a C--T .. he said he whished he could beat the shit of me this am ...If I smoke I am an asshole if I dont smoke I am an asshole , If I drink I am an alcoholic,and asshole , If I dont drink I am an asshole .. there is no inbetween .. he will continue to call me these things until finally I think I am crazy . I am seeing a councelor once a week but I dont think that helps much .. she just listens mostly... I need friggin advice ... goals ...
Sorry to vent ladies ... I want so much to stay in NY and be here for the birth of my grandson but I dont seee it possible with how expensive it is to live here .. I dont have a job . lucky I have a car .. I would not survive here on unemployment if I get it and or a minimum wage job .. so I was thinking about packing up my little car and moving to NC .. but there I have to deal with my x husband and his evil ways ... Just LOST today ....hoping for a better outcome
xoxoxox
Lisamarie
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Bossomblues , I know I need to leave . I have 40 dollars and a half a tank of gas .. that is most my fear ..xoxo
Lisamarie
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Bosum, I am so glad to have you here this weekend .. You dont know it but you are so supportive of me right now . I should have stayed in vegas ya know but I had to come back for my bankruptcy court date and that is Monday . I have 2 kids In NC but they are not getting back to me . I guess that we as parents are there for them but then when you need them they are mia ... oh shoot life huh.. I guess if I gotta stay in a shelter until I can get out of NY then that is my last resort.. thanks for being here it means so much .. I am so alone right now and scared ...
xoxoxoxox
Lisamarie
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LisaMarie - A shelter isn't a bad idea short term. Weren't you considering living w/your Mom at one time when the BF was out of control? Don't close off that option. Can you stay with one of your kids for a transition week? Thinking of you and sending hugs.
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I got a large lump on the side of my head now , I slept in the car last night and I will again today . I am vomiting really bad from smoking and the chantix ... my nerves are shot . I am scared and very alone .... I feel like I need to go back to meetings again as well. the alcohol is not making my life any better and I know at least there is a lot of support there .. many ladies to help nad maybe even possibly find a safe place and employment .
Sometimes I find it so hard to just let go ... and the fear of starting all over again really scares me . But then I think I know I will be better off . I need to work on me before I can even think of loving another or getting into any type of relationship . I think that is where I went wrong here . I rushed into something I had no idea I would become a prisoner and so unhappy . I tried to pack my things today and he would not allow me to do so . I guess my best bet for that will be tomorrow when he goes to work .
I love him but how can I continue to love someone who hurts me so much mentally and now becoming physical . he needs a lot of work himself .. He said the doctors I see are mental patients themselves . the AA meetings are nothing but mental patients and I am a mental patient . and he unfourtunatly is perfect . who can compete with perfection . I know the whole world is not wrong .. wow I am just a rambling fool .. I will stop now ladies
xoxoxoxo
Lisamarie
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