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  • minustwo
    minustwo Member Posts: 13,356
    edited October 2014

    LisaMarie - Way to go.  i agree about the group.  Something different to do & it get's you out of the house.

  • lisamarie68
    lisamarie68 Member Posts: 971
    edited October 2014

    Morning... still hanging tough wooo hoo ... got the commitment .. I am supply person for the group .. so they gave me money and I gotta go get the coffee and supplies .. feeling great today .. 

    Bosom where oh where are you ... xoxo

    thanks everyone 

    xoxoxoxo

    LisaMarie 

  • minustwo
    minustwo Member Posts: 13,356
    edited October 2014

    LisaMarie - wonderful, amazing, I think you've got it.  Hang tough!!!  

    Bosum hasn't been posting on most of her usual threads but i did check and she is active on others that I don't follow.  Hope she'll check in soon.

  • JudiH
    JudiH Member Posts: 1,168
    edited October 2014

    LisaMarie, good for you.  I am so happy that things are turning around for you.  I told you, you can only go up.  Glad to hear you are feeling great!  To all the other ladies, have a great day!

  • lisamarie68
    lisamarie68 Member Posts: 971
    edited October 2014

    Thanks Judi and Minus , you both have been such inspiration for me .. you are my Rocks ..lol I love ya both bunches ...

    xoxoxo

    Bosom , I am thinking of you ...

    Lisamarie 

  • minustwo
    minustwo Member Posts: 13,356
    edited October 2014

    LisaMarie?  Are you counting the days?  I am and I'm so proud of you.

  • lisamarie68
    lisamarie68 Member Posts: 971
    edited October 2014

    Minus , no no counting .. lol I find that is gonna drive me nuts but if I think about it now .. 4 days ..lol xoxoxo

    Lisamarie

  • minustwo
    minustwo Member Posts: 13,356
    edited October 2014

    So just forge ahead and we'll let you know when the first month is over - LOL!!

  • april485
    april485 Member Posts: 1,983
    edited October 2014

    Great job Lisamarie! Before you know it, 4 days turns into 4 weeks and on and on...

    Bosum, thinking of you!

    Hi Judi and Minus!

  • minustwo
    minustwo Member Posts: 13,356
    edited October 2014

    Bosum - smoking or not, happy or not - you're always welcome here.  Each of us can relate in one way or another and whining & drama are part of life.  That's what friends are for!!!  Glad to hear the Wellbutrin is kicking in.  If you can modify the depression & anxiety, it's easier to get up in the morning.  We all had ways to convince ourselves it was OK to keep smoking - until we each reached our own individual "break point".  Your time will come.

    So sorry to hear that your surgery is "tabled" for now.  I don't know too much about the Brava system but I didn't think you could do Brava after previous breast surgery.  Have you already had MX of BMX?  Probably I just don't have a clue what it's all about.  Here's hoping you can find a new network doc that you like & trust.

  • JudiH
    JudiH Member Posts: 1,168
    edited October 2014

    Hi LisaMarie, April and MinusTwo!  Hope you ladies are having a great day!  Bosum, my heart is so full of sorrow for you and I honestly don't know how to reach out to you.  It's so scary reading where you are but I hope it only gets better for you.  I'm hoping the SE were from the drug and not chemo ... I can kinda relate to that because once I switched from generic to brand then I wouldn't tear your face off.  It's an awful feeling, isn't it.  Please, please, please, find support for yourself ... there must be support groups around you even it its the cancer support group.  No one should go around feeling like you do.  But it sounds like your a little happy.  Now we need to get you happy all the time!

  • minustwo
    minustwo Member Posts: 13,356
    edited October 2014

    Bosum - don't worry about bitter.  I certainly have had some of those days but they seem to be getting less as time goes on.  In the long run I just couldn't figure out who to blame.  But I knew it wasn't going to be me!!!  Now I have days like today when I did NOTHING except read magazines & books & nap.  I call it a 'mental health day'.  The only thing missing was the energy to make something chocolate.  Glad you have a dog.  Pets seem to get us out of bed at least.  Sending hugs.

  • minustwo
    minustwo Member Posts: 13,356
    edited October 2014

    LisaMarie - and your hugs for today!!!!

  • lisamarie68
    lisamarie68 Member Posts: 971
    edited October 2014

    Bosom, I am so sad for you now . I wished I knew of some things that can help you. with this being breast cancer awareness month there has to be a way . I see that a lot of the proceeds from these events go towards mammograms and treatment for breast cancer patients . where are you . maybe we can research and see where we can get you some help. Hugs to you .. and if you follow on here I am the biggest one for complaining and having troubles in my life . If I was not able to come here and vent i'd think I would have gone nuts .. we are all here for a reason and if you cant go to a councelor then you can always come here .. we don't have all the answers but we are here to listen and to talk with you .. we may be far apart but we are one together ... You can always PM me... I am on a mission now to help you get the care you so much deserve .. Big Hugs .. and don't worry about the smokes ... I know it's hard .. HUgs Hugs Hugs and more Hugs .....xoxoxox

    Hello to all my friends here .. I am still not smoking ... getting by one day at a time ... I know Just for today I will not smoke ... I am so grateful I can come here and get the support I need ... love to all of you 

    xoxoxoxoxo

    Lisamarie 

  • lisamarie68
    lisamarie68 Member Posts: 971
    edited October 2014

    Bosom, That is what I have .. Ny had a program for breast cancer pt with no insurance . I got a special medicaid . I have implants ... The thing that is keeping me going is the meetings and these boards ... Other than that I just got accepted for food assistance thank god.. and still waiting on unemployment ... and im active searching for work ... I am sending positive vibes and big hugs to you ... It's just One day at a time ... sometimes a minute at a time and a deep breath ... but I just keep plugging alone ... I always want you to know I am here for you ... xoxoxoxoxo

    Lisamarie

  • JudiH
    JudiH Member Posts: 1,168
    edited October 2014

    Bosum and LisaMarie ... both you two have been given the short end of the stick, I'd say.  First, all of the crap in your life, then bc, then job shit, and then all the crap in your life.  Man, sometimes you just can't catch a break.  But I'm a firm believer then things can only go up from here.  Tomorrow is a big day for me - "mammogram" - four years out and my heart is pounding.  Man, does this shit ever go away.  To both of you ladies, I wish you nothing but health, happiness, and a brighter future!

  • minustwo
    minustwo Member Posts: 13,356
    edited October 2014

    Judi - good luck tomorrow.  So scary to never know what's up next year.  I have an Echo & and PET/CT next week.  Hoping for 'all clear' so I can move forward for awhile.

  • Beckers
    Beckers Member Posts: 979
    edited October 2014

    I need you to talk me off the ledge. My mom died today.....I think I am going to smoke....

  • minustwo
    minustwo Member Posts: 13,356
    edited October 2014

    Oh Beckers - I'm so sorry to hear about your Mother.  What a heartbreaking time this will be in addition to the smoke issues.  Are you by yourself out in CA?  Or are there other family to support you?  I can't remember if your Dad is still alive?  Hope I'm not too late to say - JUST FOR TODAY.  Mix yourself a good strong drink & skip the smokes in favor of sleep.  If nothing else works, follow April's lead and get an e-smoke without nicotine just to get you through.  You are in my thoughts and prayers as you move through this difficult time.  We are here whatever you need.

  • Beckers
    Beckers Member Posts: 979
    edited October 2014

    thank you.... Strong drink, yes (or 3). I haven't smoked. I will try e-cig. This is a big test. My heart is broken :-(

  • minustwo
    minustwo Member Posts: 13,356
    edited October 2014

    Beckers:  There are just no words good enough when we lose our Mothers.  I do hope you have family there that is helping with all the arrangements, although I expect the biggest portion will fall to you.  Yes, it is a big test but you can do it.  Not smoking is "small potatoes" with everything else that you're facing.  Hang in there.

  • minustwo
    minustwo Member Posts: 13,356
    edited October 2014

    Beckers - We're probably the only one's awake on this thread and it's going on 11pm here so I'm about to check out.  The east coast ladies will be here tomorrow.  Still only 9pm your time so several hours to go before oblivion.  (((hugs)))

  • minustwo
    minustwo Member Posts: 13,356
    edited October 2014

    Beckers:  Here's a poem that I like titled "Their Journey Has Just Begun" - especially the last two lines.

    Don't think of them as gone away, their journey has just
    begun.

    Life holds so many facets, this earth is only one.

    Just think of them as resting from the sorrows and the
    tears,

    in a place of warmth and comfort, where there are no days
    and years.

    Think of how they must be wishing that we could know, today,

    how nothing but our sadness can really pass away.

    And think of them as living in the hearts of those they
    touched

    for nothing loved is ever lost and they were loved so much.

  • JudiH
    JudiH Member Posts: 1,168
    edited October 2014

    Rebecca, I'm so sorry on the loss of your mom.  Life gives us many bad cards to deal with and this is one of them.  To lose a parent so hard .... I know.  I lost both my parents (my dad in February) and there is not a day goes by that I don't think of one of them or both of them.  I relive my life and have sad and happy thoughts.  You will get through this but you need to greave before you can let go.  Think of MinusTwo's poem in the post above this .... it is so touching and beautiful!  Think of what your mom went through before you pick up that smoke .... I'm sure she wouldn't want you to do that.  Times will be bad before they get better but remember, your mother will always be with you even though you lost your best friend.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time!

  • lisamarie68
    lisamarie68 Member Posts: 971
    edited October 2014

    Beckers, I am so sorry for your Loss . please don't smoke hug on that e cig . You have come so far . I am here for you always thinking of you. I don't know what to say . I am at a loss for words . My heart breaks for you . Hang In there big Hugs from Ny. 

    Minus the poem is so beautiful.

    Just for today I will not smoke ..

    xoxoxoxo

    Lisamarie

  • lisamarie68
    lisamarie68 Member Posts: 971
    edited October 2014

    Oops , I forgot to say to Judi .. Wishing you well positive thoughts on your Mammo.... and positive thoughts to Minus as well on your tests ... I will pray for good outcomes for you both .. xoxoxoxo Love 

    Lisamarie

  • lisamarie68
    lisamarie68 Member Posts: 971
    edited October 2014

    Bosom , I am so sorry ... I am learning that as well Let Go and let God , the spirituality is very hard for me ... I am trying .. Yes you can use the program for any addicition, food , drink , wieght , smoking ... endless ... I also say that a lot God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change , the courage to change the things I can , and the wisdom to know the difference... I too have my days when I feel like ending my life is the perfect solution. But I would hurt so many, my mom , my daughters and sons and my grandchildren .. I live to see them grow and change  ... life is hell sometimes .. I do believe there is a better peaceful place full of serentity and love and no struggle when we pass .. just my thoughts .. remember I love you all very much ... xoxoxoxo

    Lisamarie 

    P.S all this food stamp stuff and not having $$$ is making me humble 

  • minustwo
    minustwo Member Posts: 13,356
    edited October 2014

    Beckers - thinking of you today as you continue on.  I hope you got some sleep, as somehow that does help.  Check in when you can.

  • april485
    april485 Member Posts: 1,983
    edited October 2014

    Oh no Beckers! I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your Mom. Huge hugs and wishing your family peace at this sad time. Hoping you stay strong on the smokes chica. ((((Rebecca)))

    Judi, hoping for an uneventful mammogram.

    Lisamarie, ending one's life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Never forget that. While things may seem dark and bleak right now, something wonderful may be waiting in the wings that will make you say "Now why did I think I did not want to be here?" I pray that the light begins to shine for you.

    Same for you bosum. Both you and Lisamarie should go to your local Dept of Labor and ask about the WIA program. You both likely qualify and they have funds for school (short term training) and for job development and help with resumes, interview skills etc. Google One Stop Employment Center in your local area and call them! Ask about the WIA (workforce investment act) programs and let them help you. That is what I do for a living so I know what I am talking about!

    The job market is getting a wee bit better so prepare for it with some brand new skills paid for with federal funds. You will both get a job...you just need to stay positive! HUGS! xoxo

  • april485
    april485 Member Posts: 1,983
    edited October 2014

    Minus, just re read your post and saw that you have an echo/Pet coming up too. Know that I will be praying very hard for you to come through that with flying colors! Also, that poem was comforting for me too as my Dad is not doing very well and they will likely be moving him on to hospice care soon. I am so sad...but he is 89 and he misses my Mom so much so I know he is ready to go. His tests showed a tumor on his bladder that they think may be malignant. Not uncommon at his age to have some cancer they told me. I just hate the word at this point! Hugs to you too! xo

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